Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson
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On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight) Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)

  1. 22h ago

    294. The Nickname, The Private Stuff, and The Ending ft. Skyline

    Skyline is back, this time for his send-off from the public pod. He talks about finding out what FMH actually was, going back to listen after their first few dates to scope out the competition, and why hearing your own date recapped on air feels like eavesdropping on a job interview. Ali tells him how close he came to being called Ink Master, he explains the very adult reason the pseudonym stays, and they get into why nobody has ever had to veto anything: the line between private and shareable has never once needed a conversation. They go back over the two years, including his read on why coming into it from opposite ends is exactly why they landed on the same pace. Ali tells the story of asking someone to be exclusive two years before him and getting a no, and why that made the same question terrifying the second time around. Skyline closes with his honest take on her ending the public show, and the advice he has been holding onto himself. Updates: one episode left. Eep! Roark and Erica come back next week for the finale. Emmy makes a brief appearance and declines to say hi. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  2. Sep 28

    293. The Friends I Made Along the Way ft. Ilana Dunn & Talia Koren

    For one of the last episodes of Finding Mr. Height, Ali sits down with the two friends she made in a podcasting world she assumed would be cutthroat: Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People and Talia Koren of Dating Intentionally, recorded separately, back to back. Ilana was the first podcasting friend Ali ever made, five and a half years ago, and she came prepared with a list of every episode they have done on each other's shows. They get into how much has changed for both of them since, why an ending is not really an ending, and she closes with the thing she says nobody says out loud about dating. Talia started as a listener and booked a coaching session with Ali the same week she met her husband. Halfway through she turns the interview around: what Ali would do differently if she started over, whether there is another podcast in her, and what she will actually miss. Before the guests, Ali corrects the count (three episodes left, not two), teases next Monday's episode with Skyline, and reports back on the farewell submissions that closed Friday. Where to find Ilana: Seeing Other People podcast, on Instagram @seeingotherpeople and @ilanadunn, on TikTok @ilanadunn. Where to find Talia: Dating Intentionally podcast, on Instagram @dating.intentionally. Timestamps: Ilana joins us at around minute 5. Talia joins us at around minute 24. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  3. Sep 21

    292. If She's Not Too Much, Why Am I? ft. Serena Kerrigan

    Serena Kerrigan went on 50 blind first dates on Instagram Live, and she is still making the same argument she made then: most of us decide who a person is before we have met them. She and Ali get into the mirror work behind her new book, out this week, why “being chill” is not an attachment problem but a sign you are with the wrong person, and what they each used to reject people over. Serena would not date younger men, or men who do not drink. Her boyfriend is both. Serena is the last expert guest of the public podcast, which makes this a full circle for Ali. She started chronicling her own dating life around the same time Serena started hers, and what stuck was watching someone younger refuse to apologize for who she was, and thinking, if she does not feel like she is too much, why do I? Ali is in San Diego at her mom’s house for a longtime family friend’s wedding, and says ending the pod finally started to feel right this week. Two public episodes left. Submissions for the farewell episode with Roark and Erica close the morning of Friday, September 25. This week’s Media Mention, the last one, is “Dating Apps Are Dying” in TIME. Ali uses it to dig into the rejection mindset: the longer you swipe, the more rejecting you get, and that is not a character flaw. Where to find Serena: On Instagram @serenakerrigan, on TikTok @serenakerrigan. Her book Let’s F*cking Date is out now. Timestamps: Serena joins us at around minute 15. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  4. Sep 14

    291. Six Years of the Pod, Reread by a Psychologist (Pt 1) ft. Dr. Katie Rickel

    Dr. Katie Rickel is a clinical psychologist and a longtime FMH listener, and over six years of listening she kept collecting moments. Not clinical notes, just things Ali had said on the pod that a psychologist recognized. Eventually she brought Ali the list, and this episode is that list! It is not a diagnosis nor a therapy session, just a psychologist taking real examples from years of Ali talking about her life and explaining the mechanism underneath them. Katie walks through her CEO and executive assistant metaphor for the ADHD brain, and the two of them use it to re-read the vacation anklets, the texting scripts Ali kept in her Notes app years before the podcast existed, "it didn't occur to me," the bee in her bonnet, the stylist she hasn’t hired, and the Wednesday before a Friday flight when the whole to-do list landed on her chest at once. Katie has a few hypotheses, and leaves Ali with a tip she calls planned procrastination. They ran out of time (it’s six years, after all!), so this is part one. Ali also shares an update on her ADHD diagnosis, news Patreon heard first, and talks about where this conversation sits in the wind-down of the public pod. A proposal she knows is coming, a foot injury keeping her off the court, and a fashion week that has her back in product rooms all come up along the way. Timestamps: Katie joins us right at the top of the episode. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  5. Sep 7

    290. The Announcement

    After more than five years and almost 300 episodes, Ali is ending the public podcast. In this solo episode she says it out loud for the first time, and then sits with the harder part: why now, and why she still is not sure it is the right call. The show will end sometime this fall. Ali does not have an exact date, and she will not say whether this is a true ending or a long pause. She talks about the year her consulting work quietly took over, what she saw when she finally added up her hours, and the two months she spent knowing the answer and refusing to choose it. She kept waiting to feel relief when she pictured it, and it never came. Patreon, her socials and the full archive are all staying put. Ali is also building a real farewell episode and she wants listeners in it, so if there is an episode you keep coming back to, or you remember exactly what your life looked like when you found the show, she wants to hear it. Send it through findingmrheight.com/podcast, an Instagram DM, or a voice memo to podcast@findingmrheight.com. This week's Media Mention is four podcast recommendations instead of an article: Normal Gossip, Good Hang with Amy Poehler, A Bit Fruity, and We're Here to Help. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  6. Aug 31

    289. What I Only Say on Patreon

    Ali is away this week, so this episode goes behind the Patreon paywall. It pulls together four of her favorite Updates segments from the last few months: designing an engagement ring and then getting immediately steamrolled by the wedding algorithm, admitting how much she hates being seen trying hard at something, a heavy week of grief that turned into a lesson about trusting her own resilience, and a therapy session about catastrophizing that lands somewhere she did not expect. Every segment in this episode comes from a past Patreon episode, and here is exactly where to find each one in full. The ring and the wedding algorithm: the April 30 (Episode #224) and June 26 (Episode #231) episodes. Being afraid to be seen trying hard: the August 13 (Episode #238) episode. Grief, and learning to trust her own resilience: the July 9 (Episode #233) episode. The therapy session about catastrophizing: the August 6 episode. All of them are available in full and ad-free at patreon.com/findingmrheight, along with a new bonus episode every week. This week's Media Mentions are a Yahoo Life piece on how the fear of being "cringe" quietly talks people out of trying at all, and a Greater Good report on research finding that we read the very same vulnerable moment as courage in other people and as inadequacy in ourselves. Content warning: this episode includes a segment on a death in the family and grief, with a mention of Ali's father, from 29:00 to 42:00. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali's personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week's partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  7. Aug 24

    288. Hot Topics #24: The Half Full Glass on the Counter

    Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode answering listener questions. She opens with a question about her own path toward getting evaluated for ADHD: what finally pushed her to pursue a neuropsych evaluation after years of circling the idea, what the five hour eval was actually like, and why she is at peace with the possibility that no diagnosis comes out of it. Her feedback session is still to come. From there, your questions: a boyfriend who keeps making small comments about a girls trip to Portugal, how to tell a date you don't drink without it turning into a whole conversation, a best friend who disappears into every relationship and resurfaces when it ends, and a partner's family who were perfectly polite and never asked a single question in three days. And by the way: Ali has been documenting the whole ADHD evaluation process week by week over on Patreon, including a live episode breaking down the neuropsych eval itself. For the full deep dive, join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight In Updates, Ali is running on almost no sleep after the bedroom air conditioner died two nights before a family beach trip, and she recaps a very elder millennial Summer Stage night in Central Park that ended with about fifty people in Scooby-Doo onesies onstage with Simple Plan. Plus a thank you to everyone who sent Charleston recommendations. This week's Media Mention is an NPR piece, "ADHD looks different in women and poses unique health risks," a five minute listen on why girls get missed, the masking-then-collapse pattern, and the link between estrogen and ADHD symptoms: https://www.npr.org/2026/07/26/nx-s1-5821101/adhd-women-health-diagnosis-missed-treatment Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards:  Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Losers Part 1 & 2: Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  8. Aug 17

    287. What Everyone Can Learn From Kink ft. Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant

    Ali sits down with Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant, a sex and relationship coach and former NYC dominatrix, for a conversation that might surprise you in its relevancy - even if you don’t consider yourself kinky. Amanda reframes kink as something far broader than it sounds, as the two get into naming what you actually want, how to communicate that desire, and the aftercare that keeps both people feeling safe. And throughout, a theme any couple can use: consent and negotiation are a relationship thing, not just a kink thing. This week's Media Mention is a Ynet News piece, "The kink world lets us connect with deep emotions creating a richer sexual experience," on how consensual kink, approached with communication and trust, can deepen emotional connection between partners. In Updates, Ali catches listeners up: she's finally brought on help with her content after doing it all solo, and she's gearing up for a beach week with Skyline's family. Where to find Amanda: Website: https://www.amandadames.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thekinkconsultant/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_kinkconsultantYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thekinkconsultantPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920 Grab Amanda's resources discussed in this episode: Guide for couples with mismatched desire to have more open and honest conversations in a safe framework: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1BDSM Menu for couples who are curious to explore each other's kinks: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist Timestamps: Amanda joins us at around minute 13. Ask questions, make a Storytime submission, or give feedback here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhpodqs If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as exclusive episodes every week, ad-free listening, monthly lives, and more…join FMH on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . Thanks to this week’s partners: Bilt Rewards: Take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/fmh Losers Part 1 & 2: Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight) Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)

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