AwakenYou in Your Marriage

Christine Bongiovanni
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Together we break down relationship barriers by Awakening Your True You because this process isn’t about changing your partner. It’s about discovering who you are so you can Awaken You in Your Marriage!

  1. 4D AGO

    If Communication Feels Hard, Start Here

    Send us a text If you’ve found yourself thinking, “We really need to communicate better,” but you also feel a quiet tightening inside when you say that… this one is for you. Most couples don’t stop talking because they don’t care. They stop because talking started to feel costly. Costly emotionally — it leads to reactions that stir more feelings. Costly energetically — you walk away drained, with nothing resolved. Costly relationally — it feels like every attempt pushes you further apart. So avoidance slowly becomes protection. And over time, that protection turns into distance. This week’s podcast episode is an invitation to start again — not by pushing harder or having a big talk — but by making communication simpler and safer. 🎧 New episode: If Communication Feels Hard, Start Here In this episode, I talk about: Why communication so often breaks down in marriageWhy “we need to talk” can feel overwhelming instead of helpfulHow communication can begin with something much smaller than a conversationAnd how one honest sentence can start rebuilding connectionI also share a gentle, practical way to begin — even if communication has felt hard for a long time. As a companion to the episode, I created a free guide called The Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication. It’s designed for couples who want to reconnect but don’t know where to start without making things worse. Inside, you’ll find: A simple one-sentence communication practiceReal examples you can actually useGentle agreements that help conversations stay emotionally safeNo workbook. No big sit-down conversation required. Just a place to begin. 👉 Listen to the episode here 👉 Download the free guide here As you step into this new year, I want you to know this: You don’t need to become a great communicator overnight. You just need a few more honest moments than you had last year. One sentence can change the tone of an evening. A few sentences can change the tone of a season. And over time, those moments can change the feel of your marriage. If this episode resonates, I’d love fo CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    27 min
  2. Becoming the Future You in Your Marriage: A New Year Vision Practice

    12/30/2025

    Becoming the Future You in Your Marriage: A New Year Vision Practice

    Send us a text As the new year approaches, many couples hope their marriage will feel different—but without intention, January often looks a lot like December. In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine invites you to slow down and reflect on who you are becoming and how that inner evolution shapes the way your marriage feels over time. Through a guided visualization, simple habit-setting, and practical tools, you’ll learn how to approach the new year with clarity, compassion, and direction. This episode is designed to be one you return to—especially as you begin forming new habits in January and beyond. In this episode, you’ll explore: A guided visualization to connect with your future selfHow small daily habits create meaningful change in marriageUsing visual reminders to stay focused on your intentionsThe role of accountability in ongoing growth🎧 Listen, reflect, and take one small step toward the marriage you’re creating. If this episode resonates, consider sharing it with a friend you’d love to grow alongside—and when you’re ready for support, book a Courageous Love Conversation. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    18 min
  3. Looking Back at 10+ Years of Marriage Work: What Actually Changes When You Don’t Give Up

    12/23/2025

    Looking Back at 10+ Years of Marriage Work: What Actually Changes When You Don’t Give Up

    Send us a text Can a marriage really change after years of struggle and effort? In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine reflects on more than a decade of inner and relational work and shares what truly shifts when couples stay committed to the long work of healing. This is an honest, hope-filled conversation for anyone who’s been doing the work and wondering if it’s worth it. Christine explores the seasons most couples move through—from early attempts to fix things, to the lonely middle where growth can feel one-sided, to the quiet transformation that happens over time when inner work reshapes the relationship from the inside out. If you’re feeling discouraged, tired, or uncertain about your marriage, this episode offers perspective, encouragement, and a gentle invitation to keep going. Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Can your marriage really change? 00:35 – Reflecting on over a decade of marriage work 07:05 – The early years: when therapy helped us talk, but not heal 11:12 – The turning point: when inner work became non-negotiable 13:57 – The lonely middle: doing the work before your spouse is ready 15:59 – The long view: why inner work still matters 17:53 – When both partners begin the work 21:59 – A gentle invitation to stay with the work 💛 Next Step: If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like support in taking your next step, Christine invites you to book a Courageous Love Conversation. You’ll find the link in the show notes. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    25 min
  4. Looking Back to Move Forward: A Year-End Reflection for a Better Marriage

    12/16/2025

    Looking Back to Move Forward: A Year-End Reflection for a Better Marriage

    Send us a text As the year comes to a close, this episode invites you to pause and reflect on how your marriage has actually felt—not to judge it, but to learn from it. Christine shares a personal story, practical reflection tools, and simple next steps to help you move into the new year with clarity, intention, and hope for deeper connection. Timestamps: 00:00 Reflecting on Your Marriage as the Year Ends01:06 Welcome to AwakenYou in Your Marriage03:01 A Long-Awaited Vacation and Choosing Connection06:55 A Simple Year-End Marriage Reflection Exercise09:37 Understanding Patterns in Your Marriage10:45 Recognizing Seasons of Marriage12:20 Self-Examination and Personal Growth13:11 Practical Steps to Improve Your Marriage14:36 Guided Reflection and Planning for the Year Ahead18:37 Final Thoughts and Next Steps🎧 If this episode resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this conversation. 💛 Ready to explore what the next season of your marriage could look like? Book a Courageous Love Conversation. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    22 min
  5. Bringing Fun Back Into Your Marriage (Without It Feeling Weird)

    12/09/2025

    Bringing Fun Back Into Your Marriage (Without It Feeling Weird)

    Send us a text I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how many couples quietly stop having fun together—not because they don’t care, but because life gets heavy and serious and… well, slowly you start feeling more like you’re running a household than living inside a relationship. You’re managing schedules. Paying bills. Getting through the week. And one day you look up and realize… the lightness is gone. You can’t remember the last time you laughed together. Or were silly on purpose. Or even felt playful inside your own body. And if I’m honest, I know this feeling well. Jeff and I lived there for a season—two reserved people doing life side by side, with that quiet spark buried somewhere under responsibility and exhaustion. So this week on the podcast, I’m talking about something that feels tender and hopeful: How to bring fun back into your marriage— even if it’s been years, even if it feels awkward, even if your spouse is more stoic than spontaneous. We explore why fun disappears, why it feels vulnerable to bring it back, and the tiniest little ways to reintroduce lightness without it feeling forced or fake. (And yes… I share what my own awkward journey into playfulness has looked like.) If your marriage has felt serious for far too long… or if you’ve been craving just a little more joy… this one’s for you. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    35 min
  6. Ugly Fighting in Marriage — What’s Really Going On Beneath the Surface

    12/02/2025

    Ugly Fighting in Marriage — What’s Really Going On Beneath the Surface

    Send us a text There are moments in marriage when something small hits a tender place inside of us, and suddenly our reaction feels much bigger than the moment itself. If you’ve ever surprised yourself during an argument or wondered why you “snap,” this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. In this conversation, I break down the deeper emotional and physiological forces behind ugly fighting — and why these moments don’t mean your marriage is failing. They’re signals pointing to a wound that needs tending. We explore: Why your nervous system can hijack your reactionsHow old childhood stories and emotional injuries show up in marriageThe role of shame in escalating conflictWhat your big reactions might actually be trying to sayThe healing power of slowing down and repairingGentle, doable steps to help you shift the patternIf you want to start responding differently — with awareness, compassion, and emotional safety — this episode will give you insight and tools you can use right away. Timestamps: 00:00 The Moment That Snaps 01:25 Understanding Ugly Fights 02:00 Welcome 02:59 Common Issues 04:06 Normalizing Conflict 05:29 Nervous System Hijack 09:12 Old Stories Activated 11:00 The Shame Loop 12:12 Emotional Needs Beneath Reactions 14:53 The Power of Repair 17:39 Practical Steps 24:30 Reflection 25:20 Courageous Love Conversation 25:41 Closing If this episode speaks to you and you’re longing for more clarity or direction in your marriage, I’d love to invite you to a Courageous Love Conversation — a one-hour session where we gently explore what’s happening beneath the surface and uncover your next steps forward. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    27 min
  7. Why It Can’t Just Be You: The Power of Shared Responsibility in Marriage

    11/25/2025

    Why It Can’t Just Be You: The Power of Shared Responsibility in Marriage

    Send us a text If it feels like you’re the only one doing the emotional work in your marriage—planning the date nights, initiating the hard conversations, circling back after conflict—you are not alone. In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m unpacking the quiet weight that builds when one partner carries all the relational responsibility. I share a real-life coaching story, offer a playful mindset shift to break the stalemate, and walk you through tools that invite both spouses into the work of connection. Timestamps: 00:00 – Are You Carrying the Emotional Weight?00:56 – Welcome to AwakenYou Podcast02:02 – The Burden of Emotional Labor in Marriage03:44 – A Real-Life Example: The Silent Stalemate05:24 – Creating New Habits Together07:10 – The Importance of Shared Responsibility07:44 – Overcoming the Silent Stalemate13:32 – Practical Tools for Shared Investment15:19 – Encouragement and Final Thoughts18:27 – Invitation to Connect and Closing RemarksReady to stop carrying the weight alone? Let’s talk. Book a Courageous Love Conversation and let’s explore what shared connection could look like in your marriage. CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

    20 min
  8. Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage

    11/18/2025

    Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage

    Send us a text Have you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter? You’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing it right. When couples begin opening up about what doesn’t feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like things are getting worse, but really… they’re just getting real. That’s what I explore in this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage: “Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage.” We’ll talk about: Why awareness often feels painful at firstWhat’s really happening under the surface when old patterns are being challengedHow to tell if you’re actually making progress (even when it feels like you’re not)Why discomfort is the most reliable sign that transformation is underwayMarriage growth isn’t supposed to feel easy. It’s supposed to feel true. And truth — when faced with courage and compassion — is what makes intimacy possible again. If you’re in that messy middle right now, take a deep breath. You’re not breaking down; you’re breaking open. 🎧 Listen to Episode 240: Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better 00:00 – Introduction: The Unexpected Challenges of Self-Improvement 00:51 – Why Marriage Coaching Feels Tough Initially 02:49 – Understanding the Quiet Discontent in Marriages 04:13 – Illuminating Hidden Issues in Your Relationship 05:40 – Navigating Emotional Turbulence in Marriage Coaching 06:40 – Real-Life Example: Overcoming Conflict Avoidance 09:29 – The Importance of Emotional Awareness 12:13 – Rewiring Your Nervous System for Better Communication 16:09 – Signs of Progress in Your Marriage Journey 19:02 – Encouragement to Continue the Hard Work 21:05 – Conclusion: Embracing Discomfort for Deeper Connection And if this episode stirs something in you — that quiet knowing that it’s time to do the deeper work — I’d love to help you begin. Bo CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/ Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here. Instagram ...

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Together we break down relationship barriers by Awakening Your True You because this process isn’t about changing your partner. It’s about discovering who you are so you can Awaken You in Your Marriage!

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  • Creator
    Christine Bongiovanni
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    249
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    © 2026 AwakenYou in Your Marriage
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