The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Nick and Amy with The Ultimate Intimacy App
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Nick and Amy are the creators and owners of the Ultimate Intimacy App and brand. They dive into all the tough topics regarding sexual and emotional intimacy, and discuss the things that most couples deal with regularly in marriage, that are seldom talked about on other podcasts. They are raw, unscripted, personal, and Nick will most likely say things he will regret ;) They have been married over 22 years and have 4 kids, 3 dogs, and share their own life experiences and trials that have helped them transform their own relationship. They are on a mission to help couples not just survive in marriage, but thrive in marriage.Their podcast is focused on helping you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship both in and out of the bedroom. Also, for a great resource to help transform your relationship, check out the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com

  1. 3d ago

    513. If You Struggle With These Things, Your Marriage Needs This - With Austin

    What if you could take one trip together and come home feeling closer, more connected, more passionate, and more in love than you have in years? When couples write to us asking for help, almost every message comes back to the same two things: “We need to communicate better” and “We need more intimacy and connection in our relationship.” So we decided to create an experience completely centered around BOTH.  In this episode, Nick and Amy sit down with marriage and intimacy therapist Austin Ellis, LMFT, to give you an inside look at what couples will experience on the 2027 Ultimate Intimacy & Adventure Cruise and why this is definitely NOT your typical couples getaway. Imagine six nights away from the kids, work, schedules, laundry, dishes, and everything else competing for your attention. You’re cruising to Mexico, going on adventures, having date nights, relaxing together, AND spending intentional time in over 10 hours of instruction with Austin, learning how to create the marriage you actually want to come home to, and then leaving with the tools to be able to do so. We’re talking about the conversations most couples avoid. Communication. Sex. Desire differences. Rejection. Emotional connection. Feeling wanted. Feeling understood. And how to bring the FUN and PASSION back into your marriage. And instead of listening to a podcast and thinking, “We really need to work on that someday,” you’ll actually have the time, tools, and guidance to work on it TOGETHER. Because vacations eventually end. But what if you came home with something that didn’t? Better communication. Deeper intimacy. More understanding. More connection. More passion. And an entirely new vision for your marriage. Space will be limited for this amazing experience.  So if you’ve been thinking, “We need something like this,” don’t wait until you see everyone else heading to Mexico without you.  Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  2. 6d ago

    512. Why The Devil Does Everything He Can To Get You In The Bedroom Before You're Married, And Then Keep You Out Of The Bedroom Once You're Married

    Have you ever stopped to think about how strange this is that before marriage, most couples can't keep their hands off each other. The attraction is intense. The passion is exciting. The desire to be physically intimate can feel almost impossible to resist. They dream about their wedding night, look forward to being together, and can't wait to experience sexual intimacy with the person they love. But then something happens. They get married and the intimacy stops. The very thing they once couldn't wait to experience together suddenly becomes something they struggle to make time for. The passion that once seemed effortless starts to fade. One spouse wants sex more often than the other. Rejection becomes common. Resentment builds. And what was once a source of excitement and anticipation can become one of the biggest sources of frustration in the marriage. Isn't it interesting that the world seems to encourage sex before marriage, yet once couples are married, everything seems to work against them having it? At Ultimate Intimacy, we believe there is a spiritual battle happening in marriages, and sexual intimacy is one of the places where that battle can be especially destructive. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about why this happens, and more importantly, what couples can do about it to experience the intimacy they desire.  Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  3. Oct 9

    511. I've Told You What I Need... So Why Does Nothing Change? Part 2 - With Austin

    We’re back with Part 2, and we’re going even deeper! What happens when you’ve clearly told your spouse what you need, they KNOW you’re hurting, and yet... nothing seems to change? In this episode, Nick and Amy continue their conversation with marriage therapist Austin Ellis, LMFT, about breaking the frustrating cycle of repeating yourself, feeling ignored, getting defensive and eventually giving up. We talk about what REAL change looks like, why good intentions aren’t always enough, how to actually follow through for your spouse, and what to do when resentment and rejection have already started building. If you’re tired of having the same conversation over and over again, Part 2 is one you don’t want to miss! Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  4. Oct 6

    510. How Much Of Libido Is Mental? Better Sex Starts Here...

    She’s thinking about the kids, schedules, work, groceries, appointments, laundry, what needs to happen tomorrow, the conversation she forgot to have, the thing she needs to order, and the 37 other tabs still open in her brain. Then her husband reaches over hoping for intimacy... and she feels like she has absolutely nothing left to give. Sound familiar? In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast with Nick and Amy, we’re talking about something that could be quietly destroying sexual desire in marriage: mental exhaustion. For many women, sexual desire doesn’t simply appear out of nowhere. Stress, exhaustion, hormones, sleep, body image, relationship connection, and the mental load she carries can all affect her ability to shift from “I need to take care of everything” into “I actually want to be intimate with my husband.” And husbands, this episode is NOT about blaming you or telling you that you need to do 47 chores before your wife will want sex. It’s about understanding what may actually be happening in her brain and body... and what BOTH spouses can do about it. Because the answer isn’t to wait until life is easy, the house is clean, the kids are perfect, and everything on the to do list is finished before you have sex. That day may never come. The goal is to understand what is getting in the way of desire and learn how to work together so BOTH spouses feel loved, wanted, connected, and important. 🔥 Listen now to the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast with Nick and Amy, then keep the conversation going with your spouse using the Ultimate Intimacy App. Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  5. Oct 2

    509. I've Told You What I Need... So Why Does Nothing Change? Therapist Interview Part 1

    Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How many times do I have to say this before something actually changes?” You’ve explained what you need. You’ve tried being nice about it. You’ve brought it up during a calm conversation. You’ve probably brought it up during a not so calm conversation too.  You’ve told them you need more affection. More help. More communication. More initiation. More appreciation. More quality time. More intimacy. More effort. They say they hear you. Maybe they even promise to do better. And then... a week later, you’re right back where you started. So what do you do when your spouse KNOWS what you need, or you think they know what you need, but nothing seems to change? In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy sit down with marriage therapist Austin Ellis, LMFT, to talk about one of the most frustrating patterns in marriage: feeling like you’ve communicated your needs clearly, but your spouse still isn’t responding. We’re digging into why spouses can hear the exact same conversation completely differently, why repeating yourself and asking them if that is what they mean can help clarify things, and what couples can do when one spouse feels ignored while the other feels constantly criticized. We also talk about the difference between hearing your spouse and truly understanding them, why some requests never seem to “stick,” and how to communicate your needs in a way that actually creates connection instead of another argument. And yes... we’re talking about intimacy too. Because when a husband or wife repeatedly says, “I need to feel wanted,” “I need more affection,” “I need you to initiate,” or “I need emotional connection first,” and nothing changes, resentment and rejection can start piling up FAST. If you’ve ever thought: “I’ve already told you this 100 times!” “Why do I have to keep asking?” “Why does it feel like what I need doesn’t matter?” Or even... “My spouse keeps telling me what they need, but I honestly don’t know what they want me to DO differently!” This episode is for BOTH of you. Because sometimes the problem isn’t that your spouse doesn’t care. Sometimes the problem is that the two of you are speaking, listening, interpreting and responding in completely different ways. And THAT is something you can change. Join Nick, Amy and Austin for a fun, honest and incredibly relatable conversation about how to finally get out of the “I’ve told you a million times!” cycle and start creating real change in your marriage. Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  6. Sep 29

    508. All Of The Negative Things That Can Happen From "Not Talking About It" In Marriage

    We’ve talked a lot on the podcast and in our newsletters about what to do when your spouse doesn’t want to talk. But what we haven’t really done is explore all the ways “not talking about it” can negatively impact a marriage—and trust us, there are a lot. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive deep into the ripple effects that happen when one spouse shuts down communication. From emotional distance and resentment to sexual disconnect and lost trust, we break down each consequence and explain why ignoring issues doesn’t make them go away. If you’re in a marriage where difficult conversations feel impossible, or you find yourself avoiding talking to your spouse and having good communication, this episode is a must-listen. You’ll walk away understanding why it matters so much to engage, and how even small steps toward communication can begin to heal your relationship. Tune in and learn: How not talking creates emotional walls between you and your spouseWhy unresolved conflict can harm intimacy and trustHow avoidance can affect your physical connection and daily interactionsPractical ways to encourage safe, honest conversationsDon’t miss this episode if you want to stop letting silence undermine your marriage and start building the intimacy and connection you both deserve. 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE. 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  7. Sep 25

    507. Part 2 - A Listeners Email - When A Good Husband Is Fulfilling ALL Of His Wives Needs, But Still Gets No Effort From Her

    In this part 2 episode we continue our discussions about a listeners email with therapist Austin about what happens when one spouse is giving everything they have to the marriage but still feels unwanted, unimportant, and completely alone? If you haven't listened to episode 505 yet, listen to that one first.  Join the cruise registration VIP list HERE 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

  8. Sep 22

    506. 8 Reasons To Initiate Even If You Are NOT In The Mood: does the lower drive spouse have responsibility for creating passion?

    Who usually initiates sexual intimacy in your marriage? If the answer is almost always the same spouse, this episode could be a game changer for your relationship. Initiating sex is about so much more than sex. It communicates desire, attraction, love, and reassurance. It tells your spouse, “I still choose you. I still want you.” When only one spouse initiates, they may begin to feel unwanted, rejected, or like intimacy only happens because they ask for it. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss why both husbands and wives need to take turns initiating, even when one spouse naturally has a higher desire. They share how initiation can strengthen confidence, create anticipation, reduce feelings of rejection, and bring more passion into your marriage. They also talk about: • Why being pursued matters to both husbands and wives • How always being the one who initiates can become frustrating • How taking more initiative can completely change your marriage Your spouse does not only want you to agree to intimacy. They want to feel wanted by you. If you want more connection, confidence, excitement, and passion in your marriage, it may be time to stop waiting for your spouse to make the first move. Listen to this episode and discover why initiating sexual intimacy could be one of the simplest and most powerful ways to transform your marriage. 🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it! 💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE to explore our amazing products! Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more. Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at amy@ultimateintimacy.com We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage. Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

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Nick and Amy are the creators and owners of the Ultimate Intimacy App and brand. They dive into all the tough topics regarding sexual and emotional intimacy, and discuss the things that most couples deal with regularly in marriage, that are seldom talked about on other podcasts. They are raw, unscripted, personal, and Nick will most likely say things he will regret ;) They have been married over 22 years and have 4 kids, 3 dogs, and share their own life experiences and trials that have helped them transform their own relationship. They are on a mission to help couples not just survive in marriage, but thrive in marriage.Their podcast is focused on helping you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship both in and out of the bedroom. Also, for a great resource to help transform your relationship, check out the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com

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  • Creator
    Nick and Amy with The Ultimate Intimacy App
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    516
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast
  • Show Website
    The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

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