Sober.Coffee Podcast

Mike R and Glenn H

Join Mike & Glenn in the Sober.Coffee Shop as they share experience, strength and hope with those on the sober path of recovery.

  1. Sep 23

    Here Are the Steps We Took - Featuring Big Bill

    Here Are the Steps We Took Sober.Coffee Podcast Summary Big Bill returns to the Sober.Coffee shop for Part 2 with Mike and Glenn, serving as living proof that the program of Alcoholics Anonymous works. Early on, when fear of dying collided with the misery of living, Mike and Glenn needed to see that proof in someone else before they could believe it was possible for themselves. After swapping stories about past day-drinking chaos and creative rationalizations, Bill breaks down his exact blueprint for guiding another person through the Twelve Steps. The Blueprint for Working with Others Bill shares the sequential method he uses when taking a sponsee through the program: Share the Story: Bill begins by sharing his own story to build trust and identification.Read the Big Book: Sponsees are asked to read the first 164 pages of the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book. Bill notes it can feel overwhelming at first, but urges newcomers to read it anyway.Step-by-Step Study: Together, they read through the Big Book and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12), going through the steps in order.Weekly Cadence at the Sponsee's Pace: They meet once a week, intentionally working at the speed of the sponsee.The 3-Step Pause: Bill will guide anyone through the first three steps. At Step 3, he pauses and asks: "Do you want to keep going with me?" It is up to the sponsee to decide if Bill is the right person to take them the rest of the way, honoring the principle of attraction rather than promotion.The Sponsoring Paradox: The miracle of sponsorship is that the sponsor often grows more than the sponsee.Amends: The Cadence of Steps 8 & 9 Bill emphasizes the importance of following the cadence of the steps without skipping ahead: Step 8 (The Willingness): Step 8 simply asks us to compile the list—specifically of people harmed, not merely those who were irritated or angered. Bill breaks the list into three categories: Now, Maybe, and Never.Step 9 (The Action): Amends take time and should be executed when the timing is right, with care never to cause additional harm. Bill tackles the hardest amends first. If direct amends are impossible, Bill suggests writing a letter, reviewing it with a sponsor, and letting it go.The Motive: Amends are selfless and humbling, not selfish. The goal is to make the amend regardless of how the other person responds, because unsettled amends leave us blocked from God.Finding What Works When asked what to tell someone who insists AA doesn't work, Bill's answer is simple: AA is not the only path—if it doesn't work for you, find what does, because your life is worth it. If you ever need to return, the doors of AA remain open. Bill leaves listeners with a guiding truth: "I was a hopeless alcoholic. I took a few simple actions. I had a vital spiritual experience. I have not had a drink since. If you want what I have, I will show you what I did."

    Here Are the Steps We Took - Featuring Big Bill
  2. Sep 16

    The Magic; a powerful coffee with Big Bill

    The Magic Sober.coffee Podcast Summary Mike and Glenn welcome a very special guest to the Sober.Coffee shop: Big Bill, a foundational pillar in both of their sobriety journeys whose cornerstone is radical honesty. With 13 years of continuous sobriety, Bill sits down to share his long road to recovery, the wisdom gained along the way, and why true transformation requires real connection. The Long Road to Surrender From 26 to 53: Bill first walked into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous at age 26, but spent decades trying to do things his own way and chasing the illusion of "normal drinking". It wasn't until age 53 that he finally stayed.No Defense: Multiple stints in rehab proved that without a spiritual defense, he was powerless over the first drink. Through it all, the words of the early old-timers stuck with him: "We will always take you back".Shedding the Past: Growing up in an alcoholic home as the third son, Bill shouldered the burden of being the family peacemaker. AA enabled him to drop those ancient resentments and realize he had a great life growing up.Where the Magic Happens: Sponsorship & The Steps Get a Sponsor Before Leaving: Over 13 years, Bill has worked with one primary sponsor. His core message to newcomers: "Don't leave here without a sponsor".Walking the Path: Real change started when Bill took a full year to thoroughly work the Twelve Steps. A deeply rooted relationship with his sponsor paved the way for a freeing Fifth Step that finally lifted the weight of his secrets. As Bill notes: secrets will kill you until they are shared with God and another human being.The Wisdom of the Rooms: Moving from zero accountability to total accountability was tough, but desperation drove Bill to listen. His practical takeaway on behavior: quit doing things you have to apologize for, and you won’t have to apologize.Steps 6 & 7 and Finding Sanity Step 6 is about letting go of our old life; Step 7 is about grabbing hold of the new one.Bill discovered that fixing the outside required healing from the inside out. Surrendering to a Higher Power was an absolute must to restore sanity and clear away the internal blocks.Bill leaves listeners with a vital takeaway: life is a boomerang. If you want to be forgiven, you have to learn how to forgive; if you want to be loved, you have to learn how to love. Throw the boomerang.

    The Magic; a powerful coffee with Big Bill
  3. Sep 9

    Don't be Brad

    SOBER. COFFEE PODCAST | EPISODE SHOW NOTES EPISODE OVERVIEWIn this episode, Mike and Glenn dive into the concept of navigating life's unpredictable "storms" and the profound clarity that sobriety brings to daily life. They share personal reflections on the true rewards of recovery—like simple moments spent with family—which they agree are more rewarding than any million-dollar check. The core of today's conversation revolves around a recent viral social media post from their page about a well-known celebrity named Brad, who publicly decided to step off the sober path after seven years to try moderate drinking. Mike and Glenn break down their vastly different initial reactions to the news, exposing how the recovery brain operates differently for everyone and why you should never let a celebrity's path dictate your own program.KEY TAKEAWAYS & DISCUSSION POINTSNavigating the Storms: Glenn reflects on a metaphor about captaining a ship, noting that anyone can do it when the ship is docked, but the real test comes when the waves roll in. Sobriety allows them to handle life's daily grinds and unexpected waves with clarity. The "Don't Be Brad" Meme: The hosts discuss a viral meme they posted with the tagline: "The most dangerous drink is the one that you can convince yourself you can handle now." * Two Different Reactions to a Relapse:    - Mike's View: Felt deep disappointment and sorrow for Brad, viewing it as throwing away a hard-earned gift of clarity.    - Glenn's View: Admitted his "selfish" brain immediately wondered if Brad had figured out a secret way to drink moderately, proving that even after 11 years, the addiction brain can still play tricks. The Illusion of Moderate Drinking: Both hosts agree that for true alcoholics, "playing the tape" to remember the bad times is essential to counter the brain's tendency to only remember the good times. As Glenn notes, "Once you're a pickle, you can't turn back into a cucumber." * Their Final Advice:     - Work your own program, stick to your sponsor, and utilize your tools.     - Don't let an outside influence or a public figure's choices impact your commitment to recovery. MEMORABLE QUOTES "Agnybody can captain a ship when it's docked... the minute you go out and the minute those waves start to roll, that separates the real folks from the wannabes." – Glenn "I don't need a celebrity to tell me that people drink normally out there... I know how it ends for me. That's the problem." – Mike "Be Glenn. Don't be Brad. Be Mike." – Mike --- RESOURCES & SUPPORT If you or someone you know needs immediate help on the road to recovery, please reach out to the resources below:* Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) Hotline: 808-391-686* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 802-773-8255 (or dial 988)* Email the Show: podcast@sober.coffee* Official Website: http://sober.coffee Connect with us on Social Media:* Instagram: @sober.coffeepodcast* Twitter/X: @sobercoffeepod

    Don't be Brad
  4. Sep 2

    Sobriety - Another Non-AA Path, coffee with Dean N

    Title: Sobriety - Another Non-AA Path   Episode Overview After a quick shoutout to a new listener in Bangladesh, Mike and Glenn dive into a candid conversation about the diverse paths to recovery. While AA works miraculously for many, this episode highlights that it isn't the only way to get sober.  They sit down with Dean Newcomb, a certified CCR recovery coach celebrating 18 years of sobriety, to discuss his unique, non-AA journey. Facing rural isolation and an unwelcoming initial meeting, Dean built his own customized program rooted in a direct, personal relationship with his higher power—bypassing the "middleman" of rigid religious expectations.    Key Highlights & Takeaways Religion vs. Spirituality: The discussion breaks down the vital distinction between man-made religious rules (the "purple robe people") and cultivating a genuine relationship with a creator. Dean shares how finding God in nature, rather than a church basement, became the cornerstone of his early recovery. The Shift from Pain to Fulfillment: Early sobriety is often driven by the immediate need to avoid pain and consequences. However, as Glenn, Mike, and Dean all note, long-term recovery is sustained by a desire for more out of life. Sobriety isn't just about stopping the bad; it's about actively filling the void with family, education, and genuine experiences. Advice for the Newcomer: Dean outlines three actionable steps for anyone currently struggling: 1.      Get Honest: Completely admit to yourself that you have lost control.  2.      Connect Higher: Begin building a relationship with your higher power. 3.      Speak Up: Ask for help. Even if you can't get to a meeting, find just one person willing to listen to your story.   Guest Information Dean is a certified CCR recovery coach and life coach specializing in helping people who need flexible recovery programs that fit into demanding lives. Listeners can connect with him and read his story on LinkedIn.  or at his website:

    Sobriety - Another Non-AA Path, coffee with Dean N
  5. Aug 26

    It is Better to be Better - coffee with Author David Deane Haskell

    Episode Overview David Deane Haskell, author of Wounded Angels, joins hosts Mike and Glenn at the Sober.Coffee shop (zooming in from Tokyo) for a deep discussion on sobriety, trauma, and moving beyond mere abstinence to achieve genuine emotional healing. Key Discussion Points Beyond Abstinence to Inner Child Work: Putting down alcohol is the vital first step, but it is rarely the end of the journey. David shares how codependency and unresolved inner child wounds—rather than just the addiction itself—led him to seek deeper healing and ultimately write Wounded Angels for those asking, "Is this all there is?"Trauma Has No Standard Formula: The guys discuss how background doesn't dictate addiction. While some endure chaotic childhoods without developing alcoholism, others—like Glenn, who rated his childhood a 9 out of 10—still succumb to the disease. Understanding personal trauma is about getting well.The "Why" vs. The Solution: When actively trying to get sober, obsessing over "why" can become a distraction. Glenn shared how years of overanalyzing kept him stuck until he accepted his alcoholism, embraced the 12 Steps, and prioritized a spiritual experience. However, once stable, examining root causes helps navigate life's ongoing challenges.Working the Tools Through Life's Storms: Recovery doesn’t stop life from throwing curveballs. Mike, Glenn, and David emphasize that regular inventories, processing trauma, and relying on spiritual grounding allow you to remain steady—and even thrive—amid the storms.Honesty in Medical Care: A critical point of agreement was rigorous honesty with healthcare professionals. The group highlights the dangers of mixing alcohol with medications, misdiagnoses stemming from hidden substance abuse, and the absolute necessity of medical supervision when adjusting prescriptions for depression or anxiety.Core Takeaways & Closing Advice Total Sobriety Comes First: Nothing else works until the substance abuse stops.Holistic Balance: Long-term recovery requires daily attention to emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health.Message to the Sober Curious: If you are in pain, don't give up on yourself. Keep seeking answers, do the deeper work, and remember: it's better to be better.David Deane Haskell's book, Wounded Angels, is available on Amazon.

    It is Better to be Better - coffee with Author David Deane Haskell
  6. Aug 19

    Sing a Song

    Music has a profound ability to soothe the soul, soothe cravings, and anchor emotional sobriety. In this episode of Sober.Coffee, Mike and Glenn explore the soundtrack of their recovery journeys, breaking down 10 meaningful tracks that provided hope, perspective, and healing when moving from rock bottom to a renewed life. Episode Playlist & Takeaways Song 1: Chicago – "I've Been Searching So Long" (Mike) Reflects the exhaustion of searching for peace in the wrong places and finally finding the answer in sobriety.Song 2: U2 – "40" (Glenn) The show’s official anthem. A reminder of being pulled out of the pit to sing a new song of hope and freedom.Song 3: Bad Company – "Ready for Love" (Mike) A rock anthem turned spiritual milestone—discovering how to love oneself, love others unconditionally, and love God.Song 4: The Cure – "Pictures of You" (Glenn) A tool for emotional sobriety. Making peace with old memories and photos from active addiction while cherishing the present clarity.Song 5: Elevation Worship – "The Blessing" (Mike) A spiritual, grounding track focused on stepping into a peaceful life and being a living blessing to those around you.Song 6: Matt Redman – "Better Is One Day" (Glenn) Centering the mind on spiritual connection: one day of clear, sober connection to a Higher Power outweighs thousands spent numb.Song 7 & 8: Jack's Mannequin – "Swim" (Glenn) Perspective in hard times. No matter how deep or rough the waters get in recovery, the assignment is simple: just keep swimming.Song 9: Heart – "Love Alive" (Mike) A sonic reminder to keep love as the driving engine behind daily actions and recovery work.Song 10: Blue October – "Better Man" (Glenn) A stark, powerful look at the journey from hell to redemption—showing what it truly means to live every day as a better man.Music bridges the gap between isolation and recovery. When words fail, melody and honest lyrics provide the stress relief, connection, and spiritual clarity needed to stay anchored one day at a time.

    Sing a Song
  7. Aug 12

    AA Works - 100% of the Time

    Episode Title: "AA Works 100% of the Time" Hosts: Mike & Glenn The Data Dilemma: Does AA Actually Work? Hosts Mike and Glenn open the episode by tackling a common question: What percentage of people who go to Alcoholics Anonymous actually get sober? They agree that because AA is an anonymous program lacking a formal structure for surveys or data collection, any statistic cited out there is essentially made up. There is no comprehensive, quantitative data set—only snippets. However, the hosts argue that while the program's overall statistics are impossible to track, the success rate for an individual who completely commits is absolute: When you surrender to the program, get a sponsor, take directives to heart, and stay active, AA works 100% of the time. The "Secret Sauce" and Page 58 The hosts ground their argument in Page 58 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, which famously states: “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.”When people follow the program and still relapse, Glenn suggests there is a "disconnect"—much like an ignored warning light in a car. Ignoring a low tire pressure light eventually leads to a blowout and a crash; in recovery, dishonesty is that warning light. Those who fail are usually those who cannot or will not completely give themselves to the program. Exceptions: The Big Book notes exceptions for those with severe mental health issues. However, the hosts point out that diagnoses made while actively drinking can be skewed, and many ills are solved simply through abstinence and a competent recovery program. Host Spotlight: Personal Journeys Glenn’s Story (The 10% Phase): Initially, Glenn tried doing AA his way, which resulted in a 10% success rate. He was a "yo-yo," letting his ego and judgment keep him from truly connecting. When he finally surrendered—listening to others' pain and finding similarities instead of differences—the program began to work.Mike’s Story (The Deep End): Mike found success by completely surrendering his own will from day one. He "drank the Kool-Aid," jumped into the deep end, and embraced rigorous honesty, selfless behavior, and service. By letting others count on him, he achieved 100% sobriety.Perception vs. Reality Celebrity Relapses: The hosts note that when a celebrity endorses AA and later relapses or dies, the world views it as an "AA failure." In reality, it is an individual failure resulting from taking one's will back or stopping being honest.The Gym Membership Analogy: Saying AA doesn't work without doing the work is like buying a gym membership, never working out, and blaming the gym for you not getting fit.Dealing with "Bad Apples": There may be people with bad intentions in the rooms, but meeting attendance shouldn't be based on how you feel about others. The focus must remain on personal recovery and service.Glenn’s Three Pillars of Proof Glenn summarizes his belief in AA's foolproof nature with three points: Total Surrender: If you surrender 100%, it works 100%.Living Proof: He sees it work 100% of the time for the hundreds of successful, active people he "does life" with.The Promise: He adheres strictly to the Big Book's promise that those who thoroughly follow the path rarely fail.Closing Thoughts & Disclaimer The hosts acknowledge that AA is not the only path—other solutions include alternative recovery programs, counseling, and church. For the "sober curious," they recommend giving AA a try for 90 days or a year. Special Medical Note: The medication Antabuse is briefly mentioned in this episode. Listeners are strongly advised to seek professional medical advice before taking any medications.Conclusion: People may claim AA doesn't work, but for Mike, Glenn, and the hundreds of active, accountable, and service-minded people around them, it is working 100% of the time.

    AA Works - 100% of the Time
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