The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

Dr Jordin Wiggins ND
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The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

  1. Low Libido or Bad Sex? The Truth for High-Achievers

    5D AGO

    Low Libido or Bad Sex? The Truth for High-Achievers

    You are lying there, maybe alone, maybe next to someone, and still feeling miles apart. You go to that same place of dissociation during sex. The spark, that erotic aliveness, is nowhere to be found. You have done everything right, checked all the boxes, excelled in so many areas, and now you are asking, what is wrong with me? Am I broken? Low libido, low desire, difficulty getting aroused or staying aroused, pain with sex, trouble orgasming. These are the reasons women come to me. But for superwomen, low libido is rarely a true arousal problem. Most high-achieving women do not have a broken accelerator. They have a brake pedal on the floor. Stress. Perfectionistic tendencies. Performance pressure. Mental load. Resentment. Relational power dynamics. Your body is not broken. The conditions are wrong. Your super traits are survival mechanisms, and they are costing you your desire. I break down the dual-control model in terms that actually make sense to high achievers. I talk about male-centered sex, pleasure education, knowing what you like, giving real-time guidance, and when mismatched libidos are not a communication problem but a power dynamic problem. If this is you, explore audio erotica this week and notice what lands in your body. Ask yourself, do I truly love the sex we are having? And if you want a clear, personalized next step, book a Pleasure Path Assessment HERE. One hour. Tangible tips. No more guessing. You are not broken. Want to go deeper? Join me over on Substack for The Pleasure Path, HERE. If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]   CHAPTERS 00:00 The Loneliness of the High Achiever 02:15 Superwoman Trait 04:45 Understanding the Dual Control Model 07:10 Why Great Sex is a Priority for High Achievers 09:30 Pleasure Research and Learning What You Like 11:50 Communication vs Power Dynamics in Relationships 13:45 3 Steps to Take This Week for Better Sex

    14 min
  2. How to Transform Your Wardrobe and Rebuild Body Confidence with Chellie Carlson

    FEB 26

    How to Transform Your Wardrobe and Rebuild Body Confidence with Chellie Carlson

    Chellie Carlson is a transformational wardrobe stylist, and this conversation goes way deeper than clothes. After leaving an abusive relationship, I had zero body confidence. Zero idea what to wear. I did not know what clothes I liked. I did not know what was acceptable. I went from enjoying getting dressed and going to work every day to standing in my closet feeling lost. Chellie works with women who feel frozen and overwhelmed. Full closets. Nothing feels aligned. So they keep wearing the Lululemons. The comfy cozy jogger sets. Hiding their bodies. Not feeling self-expressed. Not showing up confidently. She says it clearly. The fewer pieces you have, the better your style will be. You do not need twenty-five bottoms. You need four that fit you right now. Fit matters more than size. The size does not matter. The fit matters. Stop shopping daily. Stop trying to fill the holes. Go inward. Edit your wardrobe. Wear what you own. We talk about outfit repeating with no shame. Removing the non-current season from your closet. Building a small capsule that actually works. Bringing it in at the waist. Building the hourglass. Stop hiding in large fabric. Stop waiting to lose five pounds before you let yourself feel good. And underneath all of it is this. Getting dressed affects your mood and productivity. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. It is messaging to your body that you are safe. When you feel aligned, your aura changes. The way you walk into a room changes. The way people treat you changes. This is not about buying more clothes. It is about self-worth. It is about alignment. It is about women stopping the hiding and owning their bodies exactly as they are. Connect with Challie HERE   For deeper clarity, you can also book a Super Trait Audit HERE. This is a private clarity session where we map how your super traits are eroding intimacy, identify shutdown patterns, and outline what would actually need to shift to move from high achiever to receiver. The Super Trait Audit is a one-hour diagnostic session designed to identify what is driving sexual shutdown, nervous system overload, and relational power imbalances. Grab a Super Trait Audit HERE If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

    44 min
  3. How Power Dynamics Shut Down Women's Desire and Vitality

    FEB 19

    How Power Dynamics Shut Down Women's Desire and Vitality

    Pleasure was never just about sex. It has always been about power. What is happening inside women's bodies, inside heterosexual relationships, and inside healthcare systems is not separate from what is happening culturally and globally. These dynamics mirror each other. The same power structures that silence women medically also shut down desire, libido, vitality, and connection in relationships. This conversation begins with a moment of violated personal space and opens into the deeper architecture beneath women's exhaustion and disconnection. When autonomy is restricted, and obedience is rewarded over truth and pleasure, pleasure cannot survive. Safety is not a feeling. It is a condition. Without it, the most sensitive systems shut down first. Women were never broken. The environment became unsafe. From medical gaslighting and delayed diagnoses to hormone fear-mongering and unequal care, women's bodies have been treated as exaggerated or secondary. These same patterns show up in relationships where emotional labor is expected, tolerance is praised, and desire is pathologized. When love becomes compliance, the nervous system learns that self-erasure is the price of belonging. Super traits like empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and resilience are not personality quirks. They are survival traits formed inside systems that rely on women overfunctioning. Over time, they cost women their health, joy, and sexual sovereignty. Pleasure requires choice. Choice requires autonomy. Autonomy only exists when power is shared or consciously given. Desire does not disappear randomly. The body speaks first. Libido loss, burnout, and numbness are not failures. They are information. For deeper clarity, you can also book a Super Trait Audit HERE. This is a private clarity session where we map how your super traits are eroding intimacy, identify shutdown patterns, and outline what would actually need to shift to move from high achiever to receiver. The Super Trait Audit is a one-hour diagnostic session designed to identify what is driving sexual shutdown, nervous system overload, and relational power imbalances. Grab a Super Trait Audit HERE:  If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]   CHAPTERS 00:00 When Men Invade Your Space 00:35 Misogyny at Home 01:04 Pleasure Is Political 04:04 Women's Health, Burnout & Medical Gaslighting 08:54 Libido Loss as a Warning Signal 12:11 Autonomy, Consent & Coercive Control 13:49 Reproductive Control  15:15 How Safety Shapes Desire 19:16 : "Good Girls" in Medicine, Marriage & Parenting 22:19 Coercive Relationships 26:02 Compliance vs Connection 27:25  The Bedroom Mirrors the World

    28 min
  4. Why Being Good at Relationships Leads to Emotional Burnout

    FEB 12

    Why Being Good at Relationships Leads to Emotional Burnout

    Many high-functioning women are successful in their careers and still struggle with intimacy, desire, and connection in their relationships. They feel distant, numb, over-responsible, and exhausted despite doing everything right. When you have super traits, responsibility, empathy, loyalty, and competence, you often become the over-functioner in relationships. You manage emotions. You do the invisible labor. You regulate connection. You perform intimacy instead of receiving it. Being good at sex or being good at relationships is not the same thing as being met. I explain why effort has never restored desire, why common sex therapy and relationship advice do not work for women with super traits, and how emotional labor and power dynamics quietly shut down libido, arousal, and presence even when hormones and labs look normal. These patterns show up as low desire, sexless marriages, feeling like roommates, replaying conversations, and struggling to stay present during sex. If you want to identify your super traits and understand how they are impacting your sex life, health, and relationships, take the Super Trait Quiz in the show notes. For deeper clarity, you can also book a Super Trait Audit HERE. This is a private clarity session where we map how your super traits are eroding intimacy, identify shutdown patterns, and outline what would actually need to shift to move from high achiever to receiver. The Super Trait Audit is a one-hour diagnostic session designed to identify what is driving sexual shutdown, nervous system overload, and relational power imbalances. Grab a Super Trait Audit HERE:  If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

    24 min
  5. The Labs I Run When Desire, Arousal, and Libido Shut Down

    FEB 5

    The Labs I Run When Desire, Arousal, and Libido Shut Down

    Most women are not fully enjoying the sex they are having. Low desire, arousal issues, pain with sex, numbness, difficulty reaching orgasm, and mismatched libidos are common, yet women are taught to blame themselves for them. We are told it is a hormone failure, a personality flaw, a lack of effort, or something we should accept as we age. We try harder. And when effort fails, shame fills the gap. More often than not, women are tracking the wrong data. Desire does not respond to productivity or effort. It responds to safety, capacity, and the body's internal environment. When the body does not feel safe or resourced, it will always prioritize survival over reproduction. When someone feels numb, disconnected, dry, distracted during sex, or that sex no longer feels good, there is no single lab that explains it. Sexual shutdown shows up as a pattern involving hormones, cortisol rhythm, thyroid function, nutrient status, inflammation, sleep, and nervous system load. Normal labs do not mean optimal. This pattern is most evident in women with super traits. High responsibility, high empathy, and emotional over-functioning quietly create chronic hypervigilance. Over time, pleasure shuts down. Nothing is wrong with you. Your body adapted to a life that did not allow you to be a receiver. Low libido is not a failure. Loss of pleasure is information. When you learn to read the data correctly, your body stops being the enemy and becomes your guide. If intimacy keeps breaking down and you are being told everything looks normal, stop guessing. Low desire is not a failure. It is a pattern. The Super Trait Audit is a one-hour diagnostic session designed to identify what is driving sexual shutdown, nervous system overload, and relational power imbalances. Grab a Super Trait Audit HERE:  If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz . -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

    23 min
  6. What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You're a High-Achiever

    JAN 29

    What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You're a High-Achiever

    Women with super traits know how to get shit done. They are hardworking, loyal, independent, and high-achieving. Some want better sex and a deeper connection and cannot figure out why it feels so hard. Others say they don't care about sex anymore, but what they're really saying is I don't feel met. I don't feel safe enough to erotically open. Desire didn't disappear. Effort replaced it. Survival crowds out sensation. Performance crowds out receptivity. Women with super traits are good at everything else. Careers. Parenting. Emotional intelligence. What they are not great at is sex, intimacy, and vulnerability. Being good at giving, pleasing, and performing is one-sided. If the effort worked, they would already feel deeply connected. Sex is not a drive. It's a reward system. When pleasure centers are off and receiving muscles are off, even when someone is trying to give, the body cannot receive. Presence is not a mindset. It is a nervous system state. When sex becomes something you manage, desire shuts down automatically. If you feel called out in a good way, attend the live workshop on February 5th, where we cover the three most common ways women with super traits erode intimacy and the three shifts required to restore desire. JOIN THE MASTERCLASS HERE For those ready for personalized clarity, you can also apply to work with me privately HERE. We map your super traits, erotic shutdown style, and relationship dynamics so you stop guessing and start changing the patterns that repeat in and out of the bedroom. APPLY HERE If you do not know your super traits yet, take the Super Trait Quiz to understand exactly how this is showing up for you. Why Smart & Successful Women Lose Themselves In Relationships (And why over-functioning and fixing desire never works), on February 5th at 12 PM Eastern and 9 AM Pacific. Register for the free masterclass. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]   CHAPTERS 00:45  Desire and Relationships 01:25 Presence in Intimacy 01:45 The Struggles of High Achievers in Sexual Intimacy 02:32 Effort vs. Connection 03:38 Pleasure-Centered Sex 05:46 Common Misconceptions Around Sex 06:45 Presence in Sexual Intimacy 09:18 The Shift from Performance to Pleasure-Centered Sex 11:13 Presence in Intimacy and Pleasure 15:00 High Achievers in Receiving Intimacy 27:46 The 3 Shifts to Improve Intimacy and Connection

    31 min
  7. Why Loss of Desire Has Nothing to Do With Libido

    JAN 22

    Why Loss of Desire Has Nothing to Do With Libido

    You do not lose desire. For women with super traits, desire does not disappear. It goes offline when you override yourself one too many times, and your body adapts because it knows it is not safe. We are taught that desire fades slowly. That it is stress, hormones, perimenopause, being busy, or having too much on your plate. In my clinical and coaching work, I see the opposite. Desire shuts down at very specific moments, but you are trained not to see them. If you are the fixer, the anchor, the emotional glue, the one people rely on when things fall apart, those are not flaws. Those are super traits. The same qualities that make you capable, reliable, and successful. In relationships, these traits often place you in inequitable dynamics where you are the over-functioner. Over time, your body learns that wanting more creates more work, not more connection. This is not a libido problem. It is not a hormone problem. It is a self-override problem. Desire shuts down when connection requires self-erasure. The body downregulates to conserve energy and stay safe. If you do not know your super traits yet, take the Super Trait Quiz to understand exactly how this is showing up for you. This work is being taught live and for FREE in a MASTERCLASS, Why Smart & Successful Women Lose Themselves In Relationships (And why over-functioning and fixing desire never works), on February 5th at 12 PM Eastern and 9 AM Pacific. Register for the free masterclass. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

    29 min
  8. Women With Super Traits Over Explain, People Please, and Lose Desire

    JAN 15

    Women With Super Traits Over Explain, People Please, and Lose Desire

    Over the Christmas break, I had several private clients reach out, and what I noticed was that the transformations had not been completed. The holidays brought up ruptures, disappointments, and old patterns at a time when most women were already running on fumes. The holidays come with extra expectations and very little capacity. Many women even get sick once their bodies finally feel safe enough to stop. That is not a coincidence. We hold an image of the holidays as cozy and connected. In reality, they often unearth everything we have been holding together all year. I found myself repeating the same thing to my clients. Stop over-explaining. Stop people pleasing. Get grounded before you act. If you are here, chances are you feel disconnected in your relationship. Some of you were disappointed by the holidays. Some of you went through separations. Some of you navigated the season alone. The common thread is being a woman with super traits who struggles to feel met, supported, and able to receive. This is a familiar loop. Still explaining. Still repairing. Still choosing words carefully. Still believing that if you say it the right way, it will finally land. That does not mean you are doing anything wrong. It means you have super traits. Women with super traits were never taught discernment. We were taught to fix, soften, reassure, and carry emotional labor. Not every accusation deserves a response. Not every misunderstanding needs a conversation. When we lose connection to ourselves, we start efforting in ways that do not work. Over time, desire shuts down. Health is affected. Intimacy becomes hollow. The traits that brought success elsewhere begin working against us in relationships. There is a LIVE Masterclass on February 5 that goes deeper into why women with super traits overfunction in relationships and what actually restores clarity, desire, and connection. Sign up for FREE HERE, and let's make this the year we stop overgiving and start recieving. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE] 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Take the free Super Trait Quiz to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]   00:02:16 Understanding Super Traits and Relationship Dynamics 00:03:47 The Exhaustion of Over-Communicating 00:04:51 The Impact of Super Traits on Health and Desire 00:06:51 Navigating Emotional Labor and Intimacy 00:09:22 The Importance of Discernment in Relationships 00:12:02 Overexplaining in Relationships 00:16:37 Communication Problems

    22 min
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The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

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