The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

Dr Jordin Wiggins ND
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The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

  1. 5 Ways to Increase Desire (and Sex Drive) When You Have None

    5d ago

    5 Ways to Increase Desire (and Sex Drive) When You Have None

    2 spots remain for private coaching. Apply HERE I had a call with a private coaching client the other day, and she had no libido. We've been here before. We worked together for years, and she was back at a point with no desire. One thing I had to impress upon her: you do not need to want sex to start wanting sex. That's the part no one is talking to us high-achieving women about, and it keeps us stuck, and it keeps us having less sex. Your desire isn't broken, it's buried. When we are running businesses, managing homes, single parenting, managing everyone else's emotions, our nervous system doesn't have the bandwidth for pleasure. Our pleasure centers are turned off. This isn't a willpower problem. This is a biological reality. I'm sharing 5 ways to increase desire when you have none, the exact things I share with my private clients. Remove the brake before you add the accelerator. Reclaim alone time. Use a 15-minute timer. Feed your brain what it recognizes as desire. Skin-on-skin contact without the expectation of sex. We cannot access desire in a relationship where we do not feel safe, and this is the part that most sex education, intimacy coaching, and therapy skip entirely. Desire is not a light switch. It's a temperature, and we can turn up the heat. Connect with Dr. Jordin: 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.

    18 min
  2. Childhood Sexual Abuse and your Low Libido with Gwen Levey (TRIGGER WARNING)

    Jun 18

    Childhood Sexual Abuse and your Low Libido with Gwen Levey (TRIGGER WARNING)

    TRIGGER WARNING Most women who come to me with low libido, disconnection from their bodies, and no desire for intimacy are carrying something they have never said out loud. Childhood sexual assault. Adult assault. A relationship that slowly stripped them of themselves. A body that checked out because it knew something was wrong before their mind would let them admit it. Gwen Levey is a viral Nashville rocker, survivor, and co-founder of the Rise Above Justice Movement. She told her story publicly for the first time at a press conference at the Tennessee State Capitol, and she brings that same honesty here. We talk about minimizing. The way you tell yourself it did not count because it was not what you were taught assault looks like. The way your body disconnects during intimacy and sends you somewhere else entirely. The way healing does not happen in a straight line, and the way brainspotting and therapy can literally repair the part of the brain that trauma damaged. We also get into the Epstein files, child marriage, Roe v. Wade, a justice system that protects perpetrators, and what it means to try to report abuse and be told it is not enough. This is the conversation I wish more people were having. Join the Rise Above Justice Movement   Instagram Connect with Gwen Barefoot and Pregnant (Listen Here) https://www.gwenleveyandthebreakdown.com/   Connect with Dr. Jordin: 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.   00:36 Rise Above Justice Movement 01:27 Sharing Abuse Survivor Stories 03:55 Healing and Friendship Breakups 06:26 Trauma and Body Signals 09:32 Trauma Intimacy Impacts 15:30 Epstein Files  18:44 From Abuse to Systems 20:22 Women in Politics and Rights 21:54 Healthcare and Leave Gaps 22:56 Abortion Ban Reality 24:41 Pro Life Or Cruelty 26:13 Accountability And Denial 27:43 Roe Overturned Fallout 33:18 Colonization And Racism 36:06 Matriarchy And Feminism 38:08 Erased Women In History

    44 min
  3. The 3 Conditions Women Need Before Desire Comes Back Online

    Jun 11

    The 3 Conditions Women Need Before Desire Comes Back Online

    What actually has to exist before initiation means anything, and why most of what we have been taught about desire skips the most important step entirely. The three conditions of safety in a pleasure-centered relationship: physiological safety, clean and continuous consent, and autonomy over your own pleasure. What happens in your nervous system when those conditions are missing? Why do women go numb mid-encounter? Why can a woman orgasm on her own but not with her partner? Why have so many women been faking it for years while their partner genuinely believes everything is great? Why do heterosexual men say they want more sex and then refuse to do a single thing that would actually make their partner want to have sex with them, like stepping up at home, figuring out how to get her off, or making it about her pleasure for once? And why your turn-on is yours before it belongs to anyone else, and always has been. If you are healing from trauma, leaving a coercive relationship, or trying to find your way back to desire, the conditions we talk about here are exactly what we build together. Connect with Dr. Jordin: 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.

    21 min
  4. Why High-Achieving Women Feel Lonely in Their Relationships

    Jun 4

    Why High-Achieving Women Feel Lonely in Their Relationships

    Something is missing. You can't quite put your finger on it. You have so much to be grateful for, and yet you feel lonely, undesired, and like you're going through the motions. The sex is a checkbox sex. The texts are efficient, not flirtatious. Nobody's planning dates anymore. And the same fights keep happening on repeat, no matter how hard you try. I'm breaking down one of the biggest reasons high-achieving women feel unfulfilled in their relationships: uncommunicated desires. Not because you're not trying, but because most of us don't actually know what we want, and the ones who do have no idea how to ask for it in a way that creates connection instead of more distance. I talk about the difference between desires and goals, why superwomen go blank when asked what they want, why what works in the boardroom destroys the bedroom, and I share the applesauce story from my own weekend that perfectly illustrates how this plays out in real life. If you're sick of the expectations, the disappointments, the resentment, and sweeping things under the rug until the next time someone trips over it, this one is for you.   Connect with Dr. Jordin: 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.

    18 min
  5. What to do When Success Feels Like Survival (This Can't Be Normal)

    May 21

    What to do When Success Feels Like Survival (This Can't Be Normal)

    If you have checked every box, the career, the family, the systems, the health protocols, and you are still waking up exhausted, still carrying the mental load, still the one tracking everything for everyone, this episode is going to name something you have been living but couldn't find the words for. Chanie Wilschanski is a leadership consultant, author, and the woman behind This Can't Be Normal: What to Do When Success Starts to Feel Like Survival. She joins me to talk about the invisible weight high-achieving women carry, the mental load that never turns off, the over-functioning that quietly extracts our vitality, and why all the right solutions keep running out of road. We get into why women with high-achieving personalities and super traits end up as the shock absorbers for every relationship and system in their lives. Why burnout in high-performing women isn't about doing too much, it's about never being restored. What it costs us to keep carrying the mental load: first our time, then our invisible labor, then our health, and finally our aliveness itself. How to stop over-functioning without blowing up your relationships or your business. And the rhythms of return, the pre-decided, mood-proof practices that actually restore you from the inside out. If you are a high-achieving woman who is over-functioning, carrying the mental load, and wondering why success still feels like survival, this one will meet you exactly where you are. Find Chanie Wilschanski and her book This Can't Be Normal at https://schoolsofexcellence.com/ Connect with Dr. Jordin: 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.

    34 min
  6. Low Libido, Emotional Labor, and Why You're Quiet Quitting Your Marriage

    May 14

    Low Libido, Emotional Labor, and Why You're Quiet Quitting Your Marriage

    Three clients in two weeks. Same conversation each time.  And each time they heard it, it took their breath away. You are overcompensating for a problem that you didn't create. And not only that, it's gonna cost you your sleep, your health, your pleasure. There's an awakening happening right now, and our bodies are not letting us fake it anymore. Not in career, not in the bedroom, not in relationships, not in friendships. And if you are a high-achieving woman who cannot figure out why your pleasure has gone offline, this one is for you. Your low libido is not a defect. Your pelvic pain is not a defect. The recoil, the ick, the quiet dread you feel when you climb into bed at night because you don't want him to want to have intimacy with you, none of this is a malfunction. It's data. Female arousal is context dependent, full stop, and the pleasure centers in your brain go offline when you are dysregulated and managing too much, and you don't feel safe. That is not a character flaw. It is biology. We also get into quiet quitting in relationships, what it actually looks like, why women have been doing it for generations, and why letting go of the rope might be the first real step toward healing. And the question that cuts through all of it: whom are you healing for? 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW.   CHAPTERS 0:00 You are overcompensating for problems you didn't create 2:15 The superwoman pattern and the trap of not being enough 5:10 Centering male desire vs centering your own pleasure 8:25 Why your low libido is actually data, not a defect 11:40 How domesticity and power dynamics impact desire 14:50 Quiet quitting in relationships and letting go of the rope 17:35 What happens when you stop overfunctioning 19:45 Distinguishing your work from their responsibility 20:05 How to reclaim your pleasure-centered life

    20 min
  7. Why People Are Choosing AI Over Human Relationships with Andrew Phipps

    May 7

    Why People Are Choosing AI Over Human Relationships with Andrew Phipps

    We were taught how to avoid pregnancy and how to avoid STDs. That was it. Nobody taught us about pleasure, desire, or what intimacy is actually supposed to feel like. Nobody taught us what coercion looks like inside a long-term relationship, or that consent is something ongoing and not something you say once and forfeit forever. Nobody told us that the clitoris is literally a pleasure organ, the only organ in the human body that exists purely for pleasure, and that we are allowed to treat it that way. Andrew Phipps is the host of The Intimacy Inquiry podcast and a PhD candidate researching the ethics of AI relationships. He spent years in corporate real estate before deciding he wanted to make something his teenage kids could actually learn from. What started as a podcast about intimacy became a deep excavation of power, pleasure, and everything society has deliberately left out of the conversation. We talk about AI companions and whether a relationship with an AI is necessarily worse than a painful or coercive human one. We talk about the freeze response, and why so many women go to their trauma place and let whatever happens happen rather than risk making a situation worse by saying no. We talk about the one percent conviction rate for sexual assault and what that means for who actually holds power What shifts, in relationships, in bodies, in entire lives, when pleasure stops being the last thing on the list and becomes the point? If you have ever endured instead of wanted, performed instead of felt, or given more than you ever received, this episode is going to land. Connect with Andrew: The Intimacy Inquiry Podcast   Connect with JORDIN Subscribe to The Pleasure Path on Substack for deeper frameworks, case studies, and diagnostic tools that accompany this work. And if you want to map out exactly where you are and where things are going wrong, book a Pleasure Path Assessment. If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE. If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Want to go deeper? Join me over on Substack for The Pleasure Path, HERE. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]   CHAPTER 3:15 Andrew Phipps and the Intimacy Inquiry 6:40 The Ethics of AI Relationships 10:25 AI vs Human Connection Risks 14:50 Sex Work and Societal Perspectives 18:35 Why Pleasure is Vital for Health 22:10 Modern Sex Education for Teens 26:45 Women's Rights and Bodily Autonomy 31:15 Understanding Consent vs Coercion 35:40 The Reality of Power Dynamics 40:20 Ongoing Consent in Relationships 42:55 Redefining Sex and Pleasure

    45 min
  8. Why You Have No Sex Drive (It's Not What Your Doctor Told You)

    Apr 30

    Why You Have No Sex Drive (It's Not What Your Doctor Told You)

    You have been told it is low libido. Maybe HSDD. Maybe perimenopause or a hormone problem. But what if your body is working perfectly? What if it is doing exactly what it is designed to do, and the system is the one that is failing you? This is a reintroduction to The Pleasure Principles and to the work. Over the last decade of helping hundreds of women reconnect to their relationships and heal their sexuality, the same pattern kept showing up. The high achievers, the over-givers, the people pleasers, they would do the work. They would regulate their nervous system, balance their hormones, and eat clean. And then something would happen, and it would all go to hell. Because no one was asking the right questions. Questions like: Do you like the sex you are having? Do you orgasm? What happens in your relationship when you say no? Because if saying no costs you something, that is not a desire disorder. That is coercion. And of course, your body is shutting down. That is exactly what a healthy body does. The desire is not lost. It is in there. Your body is refusing to participate in something that is costing you, something that is pressure, something that gives very little in return. This podcast is expanding. We are not just naming the symptom anymore. We are naming the system. And we are building pleasure-centered lives and relationships inside a world that keeps trying to extract from us. Want to go even deeper and hang out with the community. Head to the Pleasure Path on Substack for the seven-day pleasure challenge and deeper resources. JOIN HERE   Connect with JORDIN Subscribe to The Pleasure Path on Substack for deeper frameworks, case studies, and diagnostic tools that accompany this work. And if you want to map out exactly where you are and where things are going wrong, book a Pleasure Path Assessment. If you want to understand your patterns first, take the Super Trait Quiz. -Ontario Residents can book a clinical appointment HERE.   If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching. 1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins Want to go deeper? Join me over on Substack for The Pleasure Path, HERE. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

    25 min
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The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

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