New Kinship

David Frank and TJ Espinoza
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Welcome to New Kinship, where we are exploring and renewing ideas of belonging, desire, and being a neighbor in the Kingdom of Jesus. Together we are pursuing the communion and shalom of the church and the world. Pull up a chair and join the conversation! newkinship.substack.com

  1. 3d ago

    #88 - “When Your Kid Comes Out to You” 101, with Laurie Krieg

    Laurie Krieg joins David, TJ, and Tyler for a practical conversation about how parents can respond when their child comes out as gay or trans. Drawing from her own story and work with parents navigating these moments, Laurie explores the fear and shame that can shape these moments and offers instead a posture of curiosity, listening, emotional steadiness, and continued conversation. We’re grateful for the way Laurie brings a lot of warmth and hard-won wisdom to the conversation. Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” (and X, Y) as shorthand quite a bit. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠ ★ About Our Guest Laurie Krieg is the Director of Parenting & Discipleship at The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. Laurie has a master’s degree in evangelism and leadership from Wheaton Graduate School. She and her husband, Matt, co-host the Hole in My Heart Podcast, co-authored An Impossible Marriage (IVP 2020), and Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World (IVP 2026). Laurie and Matt live in West Michigan with their three kids. — ★ Timestamps (00:00) #88 - “When Your Kid Comes Out to You” 101, with Laurie Krieg (02:45) Laurie’s story: Faith and sexuality in conservative evangelical America (06:45) We’re seeing shifts in how (religious) parents and kids approach same-sex attraction (09:44) POV: When your kid comes out to you... (12:39) Our cultural moment: Sexuality, gender, and school education (15:51) Resources for panicking parents (23:48) What if your child HAS been pursuing same-sex relationships? (30:14) What about coming out re: pronouns and gender identities? (37:28) When your child’s life looks different than you thought... (50:20) How to contact the CenterforFaith.com — ★ Send feedback, questions, comments, support || Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship — ★ Credits || Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson (on Spotify) | Podcast Manager: Elena F. | Graphic Designer: Aogu Fujihashi ★ Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

    #88 - “When Your Kid Comes Out to You” 101, with Laurie Krieg

  2. Sep 21

    Kinship Lab #07 - Exploring Covenant and Side B Community Boundaries (Part 2)

    This is Part 2 from our conversation in August, so if you haven’t listened to that yet, you may want to start there. We finish our conversation about whether Side B should function more as a discernment toolkit or a confessional movement. We also explore how boundaries relate to creation and freedom (Genesis, Galatians 5), the risks of reductionism or wrongly drawn lines, and areas needing ongoing discernment. Timestamps:00:00 Kinship Lab #7 (Part 2)11:25 Truth Claims and Fruit15:57 Boundaries and Holy World-building28:58 Ambiguity and Discernment Zones45:48 Leadership Lines and Farewell Are boundaries inevitable? Can they enable “holy world-building”? Let us know your thoughts! This podcast exists from the generous support from our listeners. If you would like to join the New Kin WhatsApp group to connect with us more and help keep all of our content available for free, then please sign up to support with any size regular gift through Substack—ever dollar is really helpful in helping us continue to build this work. Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

    Kinship Lab #07 - Exploring Covenant and Side B Community Boundaries (Part 2)

  3. Sep 9

    #87 - Discerning the Priesthood as a Vietnamese Catholic: Francis’s Story

    Francis is a Vietnamese-American Catholic experiencing same-sex attraction and an extremely thoughtful friend! He joined us to share about his experiences with: family conversations and coming out, discerning the priesthood, pursuing celibacy, finding support through Eden Invitation, and the creative possibilities of celibacy and rootedness. We appreciated this conversation and hope it speaks to you as well! Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” (and X, Y) as shorthand quite a bit. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠ — ★ Timestamps (00:00) #87 - Discerning the Priesthood as a Vietnamese Catholic: Francis’s Story (00:16) The son of two Catholic, Vietnamese immigrants (03:37) Same-sex attraction and words in Vietnamese Catholic communities (16:34) Coming out to parents to be a “safe space” in college (23:28) My mom wanted to support me despite her theological beliefs (33:44) Processing celibacy, stability, and intimacy in relationship (40:55) Discerning seminary and a call to priesthood: Was sexuality a factor? (58:21) The gifts of same-sex attraction — ★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, support || Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship — ★ Credits || Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson | Podcast Manager: Elena F. ★ Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

  4. Aug 24

    Kinship Lab #06 - Exploring Covenant and Side B Community Boundaries (Part 1)

    In follow-up to some thoughtful considerations from our friend Odessa in response to our first Kinship Lab discussion on the Future of the Side B project, we continue the conversation around a potential covenant that could bind this nascent movement together. Our particular focus is on the dynamics and risks of harm (with and without) defined boundaries. This is Part 1, so stay tuned for part 2 in September! (We are taking September off from recording.) One thing we neglected to discuss a little more was a biblical explanation for covenants and how they work in Scripture and for people today. It’s super valuable to understand the way that God builds covenant as he brings us into deeper relationship with him. Anyone have a favorite resource on this? Hop over to Substack to join the conversation! ---- This podcast exists from the generous support from our listeners. If you would like to join the New Kin WhatsApp group to connect with us more and help keep all of our content available for free, then please sign up to support with any size regular gift through Substack—ever dollar is really helpful in helping us continue to build this work. Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

    Kinship Lab #06 - Exploring Covenant and Side B Community Boundaries (Part 1)

  5. Aug 19

    #86 - Hannah’s Story of Side B Across 3 Countries and Seasons of Life

    Our friend Hannah is a Brazilian-Canadian Side B Christian. She stopped by to share some reflections on how faith, family, and culture have shaped her understanding of sexuality. Also included: coming out in Latin American and North American church contexts, the value of therapy and Side B community, and the intentional friendships and practices that have sustained Hannah as she seeks a rooted, faithful life. We’re grateful for her wisdom, thoughtfulness, and curiosity. Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” (and X, Y) as shorthand quite a bit. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠ — ★ Timestamps 00:00 #86 - Hannah’s Story of Side B Across 3 Countries and Seasons of Life 01:57 Hannah’s background, across the globe 04:36 Identifying queerness in culture(s) of non-curiosity 17:03 How close friendships are/aren’t different for women 21:44 Coming out in a politicized climate, and therapy 27:45 Hannah’s recs on helpful resources 41:39 What does community look like in your future (maybe)? 47:16 Walking with new friends in side A 53:47 Talking queer topics with women in the church 59:41 Brazilian vs. North American progress on faith/sexuality convos 01:02:09 And again: Therapy! — ★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, and support || Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship — ★ Credits || Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. ★ Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

  6. Jul 29

    #85 - Shela Chan: Reflections on Social Science and Christian Ethics

    Shela Chan joins us to discuss her journey to faith and the research that now shapes her work at the intersection of queer theology, ethics, and social science. Drawing on her own story and doctoral research, Shela examines how theology and empirical insights can inform Christian understandings of human flourishing, belonging, and trauma while challenging the ways churches can unintentionally marginalize LGBTQ people. Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” as shorthand quite a bit. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠ ★ About Our Guest: Shela Chan is a Ph.D. student of Theological and Social Ethics at Fordham University in New York. Her background includes mission work in Afro-Eurasia, and she holds a Master of Divinity degree from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. Her academic research focuses on holistic human development and flourishing at the intersection of sexuality and attachment theory. You can find her on Instagram @shechannnnn. — ★ Timestamps (00:00) #85 - Shela Chan: Reflections on Social Science and Christian Ethics (02:17) Shela’s story: From queer liberation to finding yourself in Jesus (18:18) Post-conversion: Queer experience, spiritual growth (41:57) How we interpret the Bible determines where we end up (47:00) Can Adam and Eve be archetypes for us today? (58:15) The archetype of the eunuch and the “ideal male” — ★ Links and References * The Romance of Innocent Sexuality, Geoffrey Rees (2011) * About Tim Keller’s gay brother: https://ap.org.au/2024/10/01/timothy-kellers-brother/ — ★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, and support! Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship | Patreon: @newkinship — ★ Credits Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Producer: Elena F. ★ Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

  7. Jul 27

    Kinship Lab #05 - Seven Myths about Celibacy (and Celibacy Vows)

    As Side B Christians, we’ve done a lot of discernment around the ethics, practice, and vocation of celibacy (celibacy = practicing sexual chastity as an unmarried person), including discernment around lifelong vows of celibacy. In our own journeys, we’ve uncovered myths we’ve believed and encountered myths in our Christian communities. We argue that celibacy and mixed-orientation-marriages are included in Side B, we reject the idea that celibacy necessarily means loneliness in the kingdom of God, we challenge the view that celibacy is merely sexual repression, we explain how vows can add goods (clarity, focus, support), we critique assumptions that marriage is actually superior, we demystify superstitions regarding celibacy and sanctification, and we contend that celibacy is a public vocation worthy of communal celebration. We’d love to hear what you think after you give a listen! Key Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 19:4-5 “eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” 1 Corinthians 7:9 “it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:32–34 “an unmarried person is concerned about the Lord’s affairs” Matthew 12:48-50 Who are my kin but “those who do the will of my Father?” Hebrews 4:15 “tempted in every way common to man yet without sin” Matthew 6:28 “lilies of the field” Time Stamps: 00:00 Welcome to Kinship Lab 5 00:30 Why Celibacy Came Up 02:23 Myth 1: Celibacy as a Mandate 05:12 Marriage Paths and Barriers 07:03 Language Celibate vs Single 09:54 Myth 2: Celibacy is Loneliness 12:51 Single Mindedness and Freedom 17:03 Myth 3: Celibacy is Repression 21:07 Desire Struggle and 1 Corinthians 7 24:53 Marriage Is Not the Only Tool 25:59 Marriage Isn’t a Fix 26:24 Sexual Baggage in Marriage 27:10 Myth 4: Celibacy Vows Don’t Add Anything Good 33:24 Vows as Covenant Deepening 36:50 Myth 5: Marriage Is Actually Better Than Celibacy 40:48 Myth 6: Celibacy Vows Are a Level-Up 48:40 Myth 7: Celibacy Shouldn’t Be Celebrated Like Marriage 58:12 Kingdom Public Witness Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

    Kinship Lab #05 - Seven Myths about Celibacy (and Celibacy Vows)

  8. Jul 8

    #84 - Finding Space in the Anglican Church: Jon-Michael Shelley on Side B, Vocation, and Leadership

    Jon-Michael Shelley, a youth pastor in Atlanta, joins David and TJ to share about his journey as a Side B Christian from a Southern Baptist upbringing into the Anglican tradition. He discussed how liturgy, community, and pastoral care shaped his healing and vocation, and how he has come to understand sexuality as an integrated part of faithful discipleship and ministry. Jon-Michael also reflected on calling, celibacy, church leadership, and why he believes Side B Christians have meaningful gifts to offer the church. Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” (and X, Y) as shorthand quite a bit. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠ ★ About Our Guest Jon-Michael Shelley is a youth pastor and preacher in the Anglican Church of North America. He’s mentored and discipled young people in church and parachurch ministries for ten years. He has a passion for fostering rich conversations about the deep truths of Christian life among young people and inviting them into relationship with the God who made them. He can be reached via email: jonmichael@immanuelatl.org or on Instagram: @jonmichaelshelley — ★ Timestamps (00:00) #84 - Finding Space in the Anglican Church: Jon-Michael Shelley on Side B, Vocation, and Leadership (01:28) Jon-Michael’s story (10:07) How I ended up Anglican (15:27) Sexuality growing up: Going under the radar (24:09) Youth pastoring and parent perception in liberal secular environments (28:38) Why are you Side B? (40:28) Unique gifts in ministry as a gay man (44:55) How did you change your take on getting married? (50:13) Ordination in the ACNA? (58:50) Hopes for the Anglican church on faith/sexuality topics — ★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, and support || Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship — ★ Credits || Creators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. ★ Get full access to New Kinship at newkinship.substack.com/subscribe

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Welcome to New Kinship, where we are exploring and renewing ideas of belonging, desire, and being a neighbor in the Kingdom of Jesus. Together we are pursuing the communion and shalom of the church and the world. Pull up a chair and join the conversation! newkinship.substack.com

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  • Creator
    David Frank and TJ Espinoza
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    111
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © New Kinship
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