LOVERS by Shan

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LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/

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  1. 1d ago

    I Stayed Through 80% of His Sentence, Then Left ft. Keeonna Harris

    Dr. Keeonna Harris was 14 when she got pregnant, and before her son turned one, his father, Jason Espinoza, was starting a 22-year prison sentence. For the next two decades she drove up and down California so her kids would know their dad, the story at the center of her memoir Mainline Mama. Jason came home after 20 years and now works inside prisons as a counselor with the Amity Foundation. Jeremiah Chin (now Keeonna's husband and a law professor at the University of Washington) came into her life as her marriage to Jason was ending, and the two men met in person for the first time at Zion's baseball game.  That game is the spine of this conversation, told from all three seats on the couch. Jason admits he showed up with no tools for anything but a fight. Keeonna walks away from one she once would have won and realizes her absence lands harder than her anger. Jeremiah decides he'd rather be the bridge between them than the wall.  This one is for anyone co-parenting across an old love. It's also for anyone whose family looks nothing like what they imagined, and who is still deciding what it can become. Get 50% off with code “Boody” and unlock deeper pleasure with a roadmap designed just for you. It takes less than 5 minutes, and it comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee. Head to https://beducate.me/lovers to get started. Follow Keeonna Harris Instagram: http://instagram.com/keeonnachin  X: http://twitter.com/keeonnaharris  Get Mainline Mama: https://bookshop.org/p/books/mainline-mama-a-memoir-keeonna-harris/887456c5216b2c53  Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram Get free Lovers Letters from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. Oct 21

    Abstinence is the Only Correct Path to Sex says Tony Gaskins

    Tony Gaskins got his start because a friend told him he was the biggest player she'd ever known. Today he tells millions of women to wait until marriage, and he's upfront that the message comes straight out of a life he wouldn't repeat. What actually protects people when it comes to sex: rules or education? Tony makes the case that most people are never taught how to vet a partner, so waiting is the safest bet. Shan makes the case for freedom with information, because fear-based sex ed has never worked, and once you're informed you get to choose your own way instead of being handed the way.  You'll hear what risk-informed consent means and the one thing they both land on underneath the disagreement: most of us never got a real conversation about sex and that is dangerous. Grab my free guide, A Guide to the Sexual Journey As We Grow, for an age-by-age look at common sexual behaviors from birth to 18 (and a story from the LOVERS community that stuck with me): https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/normal-sexual-development-from-0-18 Big s/o to Ramla B for the community notes on bible verses. Follow Tony Gaskins Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonygaskins/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyGaskins  Website: https://tonygaskins.comThe Destiny App: https://thedestinyapp.com  Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram  Get free Lovers Letters from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter  Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community  Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Oct 14

    This Situationship Taught Me About What I Want in Bed ft. Sabrina Zohar

    Sabrina Zohar has built a career helping people see the patterns they learned before they could name them, and in this conversation she turns that lens on her own twenties. At 24, she met a 36-year-old man three blocks from her apartment who opened her up sexually in ways nobody had before. It was also where she learned what self-abandonment looks like: saying yes to things (including his one condition for a relationship) because she liked him. She tells Shan about the trench coat in the rain story, and the night her mom said "this isn't you." Then she gets to the first date with her partner Ryan, when she told him she'd rather never hear from him again than be kept casual. Thanks to Article for sponsoring this podcast! Article is offering our listeners $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more. To claim, visit ARTICLE.COM/LOVERS and the discount will be automatically applied at checkout. Follow Sabrina Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/  TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar  YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSKQduzS78E6-I9tx0jqjpw  The Sabrina Zohar Show → https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/  Why Am I Like This? → https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2335639/sabrina-zohar  Website → https://sabrinazohar.com  Want more LOVERS? Receive Lovers Letters → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter  Join the LOVERS Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community  Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. Oct 7

    You Abandoned Me, Stop Calling it a Breakup ft. Shaun Ross

    Shaun Ross was the first professional male model with albinism, and in this conversation he tells Shan about the breakup he refuses to call a breakup, because he was never in the room for it. Two hours into an 11-hour flight home from Europe, he watched his partner leave on the home camera, and he later learned that plenty of people had known how his partner felt (everyone except him). Shan explains why the person who leaves has often finished grieving long before the other person finds out. Follow Shaun Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/shaunross/ TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@shaunross YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwiHoKUsczyGJYmUOAV8Hw Want more Lover? Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Oct 2

    So We're Just Gonna Pretend Like... | Responding to Your Comments Live Via G

    I'm answering your comments on Via G's episode. Via G is a New Orleans creator (yes, the baby bangs) who spent her twenties moving from one 18-month relationship to the next, and the last one looked perfect on paper: he cooked, he could match her financially, and he carried the fatherly energy of a man who already knew how everything should be done. Her body figured it out before she did. Her cycle unraveled over the year they were together, and not long after she ended it (20 minutes and six seconds, start to finish) her hormone test came back with perfect scores. Via walks Shan through the slow disappearing act in between (the gray sweatpants, the running commentary on how she cut onions, a moment of coercion she didn't have language for until a friend named it), and then the year of saying yes to herself that followed: cutting her own bangs on camera, walking into pool parties alone to make girlfriends, and buying the Bronco she'd been talked out of. Shan offers a frame for why "daddy knows best" can feel like love when you grew up without one. This one is for anyone who has shrunk to fit someone and is ready to be loud again. Follow Via G Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifeasvia/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_mylifeasvia_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MyLifeAsVia X: https://x.com/mylifeasvia All links: https://link.me/mylifeasvia Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram Get free Lovers Letters from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. Oct 2 · Lemonada Premium Only

    So We're Just Gonna Pretend Like... | Responding to Your Comments Live Via G

    I'm answering your comments on Via G's episode. Via G is a New Orleans creator (yes, the baby bangs) who spent her twenties moving from one 18-month relationship to the next, and the last one looked perfect on paper: he cooked, he could match her financially, and he carried the fatherly energy of a man who already knew how everything should be done. Her body figured it out before she did. Her cycle unraveled over the year they were together, and not long after she ended it (20 minutes and six seconds, start to finish) her hormone test came back with perfect scores. Via walks Shan through the slow disappearing act in between (the gray sweatpants, the running commentary on how she cut onions, a moment of coercion she didn't have language for until a friend named it), and then the year of saying yes to herself that followed: cutting her own bangs on camera, walking into pool parties alone to make girlfriends, and buying the Bronco she'd been talked out of. Shan offers a frame for why "daddy knows best" can feel like love when you grew up without one. This one is for anyone who has shrunk to fit someone and is ready to be loud again. Follow Via G Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifeasvia/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_mylifeasvia_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MyLifeAsVia X: https://x.com/mylifeasvia All links: https://link.me/mylifeasvia Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram Get free Lovers Letters from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes

  7. Sep 30

    He Felt Like the Dad I Never Had. That Was the Problem ft. Via G

    Via G is a New Orleans creator (yes, the baby bangs) who spent her twenties moving from one 18-month relationship to the next, and the last one looked perfect on paper: he cooked, he could match her financially, and he carried the fatherly energy of a man who already knew how everything should be done. Her body figured it out before she did. Her cycle unraveled over the year they were together, and not long after she ended it (20 minutes and six seconds, start to finish) her hormone test came back with perfect scores. Via walks Shan through the slow disappearing act in between (the gray sweatpants, the running commentary on how she cut onions, a moment of coercion she didn't have language for until a friend named it), and then the year of saying yes to herself that followed: cutting her own bangs on camera, walking into pool parties alone to make girlfriends, and buying the Bronco she'd been talked out of. Shan offers a frame for why "daddy knows best" can feel like love when you grew up without one. This one is for anyone who has shrunk to fit someone and is ready to be loud again. _______  Showing some love to the sponsor of this episode Hollyood Ending. It is the book everyone will be talking about this fall. Buy Hollywood, Ending now wherever books are sold. Big shoutout to the sponsor of this episode Beducated. Unlock deeper pleasure with a roadmap designed for you — all it takes is 5 minutes. Go to https://beduc.at/bg2640-boody to learn more!  Ready to reach your goals? Visit forhers.com/shan to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. Follow Via G Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifeasvia/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_mylifeasvia_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MyLifeAsVia X: https://x.com/mylifeasvia All links: https://link.me/mylifeasvia Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram Get free Lovers Letters from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. Sep 25

    If It Don't Apply, Let It Fly | Responding to Your Comments Live: Kendrick Sampson

    I'm answering your comments on Kendrick Sampson choosing freedom over romance, and you did not agree. When Kendrick Sampson (the actor you know from Insecure and How to Get Away with Murder, and the activist behind BLD PWR) sat down with me and said he cares about freedom more than romance, I had a feeling some of you would feel seen and some of you would feel personally called out, and the comments landed right down the middle. [One side heard someone finally say out loud that romantic love is only one kind of love worth building a life around, while the other side heard something that felt like permission to never fully choose anyone. CONFIRM against actual comments.] In this first episode of If It Don't Apply, Let It Fly, I'm reading the comments that split you and responding to them honestly, [including the ones that shifted how I think about the conversation and the ones I'm holding my ground on. CONFIRM against what Shan actually says]. If you walked away from Kendrick's episode feeling defensive, inspired, or stuck somewhere uncomfortable in between, this is for you, because the disagreement is where the real conversation was happening. Follow Kendrick Sampson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrick38 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kendrick BLD PWR: https://bldpwr.com Want more LOVERS? Follow Shan on Instagram → http://instagram.com/shanboodram Get a free weekly Love Letter from Shan → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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LOVERS by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach. Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/

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