Midlife Dating Podcast

Paul Nelson
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Dating in midlife isn’t easy. After his 21-year marriage ended, Paul Nelson found himself back in the dating world. Over the next decade, he went on over 180 first dates, had countless phone calls, and engaged in thousands of online conversations. What he discovered along the way wasn’t just how to date again, but how much personal growth it takes to become the kind of partner you truly want to attract. On the Midlife Dating Podcast, Paul is your guide to the nuances of dating learned on the street level. It’s the little things that add up. The mistakes you make aren’t setbacks—they’re growth opportunities. They allow you to adjust and course correct. Only then can you find someone who’s also done the work. Episodes blend practical advice, book and movie reviews, and real-life stories with hard-earned insights. Paul’s goal is simple: to help Gen Xers and Baby Boomers date smarter, laugh more, have fun, and conserve our most valuable commodity—time. If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and create some great memories moving forward, the Midlife Dating Podcast is for you.

  1. FEB 12

    EP 30 - Momentum vs. Trust - A Woman’s Perspective vs A Man’s Street Lessons (Part 1 of 2)

    In this episode, I’m joined again by dating coach Laurie Gerber (Love at Any Age) to unpack one of the biggest midlife dating challenges: how fast is too fast… and how slow is too slow?  Midlife dating mixed with dating apps can create a pacing problem: momentum matters, but trust matters too… and misreading either one can derail the whole thing. Laurie and I compare our two approaches—hers from a woman’s trust-and-safety lens, mine from a man’s momentum-and-street-reps lens—and we lay the groundwork for a practical, balanced way to date smarter. In this episode, you’ll learn: The core “Momentum vs Trust” tension (pressure alarm vs lost match)Thoughts on meeting people organically with more strategyNeedy or prepared?Laurie’s proven funnel: Text (1–2 weeks) → Video chat → Coffee dateWhat’s the magic balance point for keeping momentum while building trust?About Laurie Gerber Laurie Gerber is the founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc. and the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She hosts the podcast Love at Any Age, and for over 20 years, she’s coached thousands of people in life and love, previously as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group®. Her work has been featured on the Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, Match, Zoosk, JDate, AARP, and her own Blog. Check out her TEDx talk on the power of truth-telling called “The Secret-Free Diet” Listen to Love at Any Age on YouTube, Spotify, or Podbean, and grab her free webinar “3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments” at https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar Connect with Laurie: Website: https://lauriegerber.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ About The Midlife Dating Podcast / 50 Dates at 50 Paul Nelson is the host of the Midlife Dating Podcast and creator of the 50 Dates at 50 website. Helping Gen X and Baby Boomer singles learn to date smart, enjoy the process, and move from right swipe to real-life meetups with frameworks like the 3-1-1 Rule and Right Swipe Discipline. Watch the video version of this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gj4f8-9WvboLearn more and grab resources at 50 Dates at 50 – https://50datesat50.com/Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com

    28 min

  2. JAN 15

    EP 29 - I Scored 104/100 on a Dating Quiz… and Still Needed Help

    Highlights for this episode: In this episode, I bring on dating coach Laurie Gerber to coach me in real time—so you can hear exactly how a pro would tune up your dating life, too.  Laurie and I talk about my 104/100 score on her “Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?” quiz, my 7 deal-makers, and why I’ve been attracting the wrong attachment styles for years. We discuss approaches to vetting on dating apps—my faster-paced, phone-call filter versus her methodical, text-and-video-chat approach.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Laurie’s 3 stages of dating over 50 and obstacles that often keep people stuck in “not quite ready” mode. Why you may be attracting the same attachment styles that help to explain why you keep attracting the same kind of partner—and what to do about it. Discussion of Deal Makers/Breakers to keep them positive and inspiring rather than secretly negative and judgmental. A practical framework (Head–Heart–Hoo-ha) for assessing compatibility in midlife dating. Laurie and Paul debate how quickly you should get to the phone call. Why moving too fast to the phone can cost you potential matches—and why Laurie prefers video chats.About Laurie Gerber Laurie Gerber is the founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc. and the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She hosts the podcast Love at Any Age, and for over 20 years, she’s coached thousands of people in life and love, previously as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group®. Her work has been featured on the Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, Match, Zoosk, JDate, AARP, and her own Blog. Check out her TEDx talk on the power of truth-telling called “The Secret-Free Diet” Listen to Love at Any Age on YouTube, Spotify, or Podbean, and grab her free webinar “3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments” at https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar Connect with Laurie: Website: https://lauriegerber.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ About The Midlife Dating Podcast / 50 Dates at 50 Paul Nelson is the host of the Midlife Dating Podcast and creator of the 50 Dates at 50 website. Helping Gen X and Baby Boomer singles learn to date smart, enjoy the process, and move from right swipe to real-life meetups with frameworks like the 3-1-1 Rule and Right Swipe Discipline. Watch the video version of this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/IMf4y3FGlUwLearn more and grab resources at 50 Dates at 50 – https://50datesat50.com/Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com

    1h 2m

  3. 01/05/2025

    EP 28 - Common Sense Dating Guidelies 1-5 for Gen X & Baby Boomers

    Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews the first five or over 30 Common Sense Dating Guidelines for the Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. The guidelines coalesce around the limited dating options these generations had in their youth compared to what is available today. Combining our life experiences with new dating tools, such as online dating, allows us to avoid the same embarrassing slip-ups we made in our youth.  Guidelines in this Episode: Thou Shalt Not Fish Off The Company PierThou Shalt Not Fish At Thy House of WorshipThou Shalt Not Flirt With A Friend’s PartnerThou Shalt Not Date A Friend’s ExThou Shalt Not Date A Friend’s SiblingEpisode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

    29 min

  4. 12/23/2024

    EP 27 - Holiday Movie Picks for Single Gen X and Baby Boomers Part 2 of 2

    Highlights for this episode: Part 2 of Paul’s Holiday Dating-Themed Movie reviews for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. Love at the Christmas Table A destined couple’s trip through time starts at age 4 in the 80s, and at age 4, they meet each year at an annual Christmas gathering. https://youtu.be/4jkprYTRaRU?si=mHIfyHZTgZ5_F2wt Lifetime Channel 2012 Spirited Entertainment – Good Story, Musical, Quality Production Value, For fun to get your mind off how dating can be difficult during the holidays Spirited — Official Trailer | Apple TV+ https://youtu.be/tnAJntI3NNs?si=Dkz4L13LVE4zovSr Spirited — “Bringin' Back Christmas” Lyric Video | Apple TV+ https://youtu.be/_lOU_HN5bY4?si=Q2WRd8AHCUNP3jao From Apple TV+  2022 Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

    8 min

  5. 12/09/2024

    EP 26 - Holiday Movie Picks for Single Gen X and Baby Boomers Part 1 of 2

    Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews holiday dating-themed movies for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. There are a total of four picks. Two picks in this Part 1 Episode and two more in Part 2. Paul points out the common theme in these movies that is missing in online dating and why we should apply them all year. The Holidate –  After Christmas, a pair of frustrated singles cross paths in the gift return line and agree to be each other’s platonic plus one on holidays throughout the year to relieve the pressure from being single from friends and family.Netflix 2020 Official Trailer: https://youtu.be/hxaaAoI57fk?si=sMuo_3b89ogeDJFYImportant Note: This is not a family-friendly movie. It is best not to have children around when you watch this one or be prepared to explain some awkward situations. The 12 Dates of Christmas – Woman gets 12 chances to get a blind date right in this Christmas version of Groundhog DayABC Family 2011 (Not to be confused with the HBO Max series)Official Trailer: https://youtu.be/JAyOZru4PTYKate and Miles Meet as Strangers: https://youtu.be/AfNBr0w74uE?si=6KUMq921dubOpBhW  Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

    9 min

  6. 08/04/2024

    EP 25 - Quick Update

    Quick Update: After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back. There will be new content starting late August of 2024.

    2 min

  7. 06/13/2023

    EP 24 - Dating Essentials Review

    Highlights for this Episode: The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation. From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen. 1965 US Navy Instructional Film. Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Understanding the Relationship Pyramid, where you learn to identify the correct type of person to date. And the significance of being a good ender and effectively ending relationships if they are the wrong type. Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need by Dr. Robert Glover   Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Essentials-Men-Only-Guide/dp/B09C3FQ948/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1611579163&sr=8-2

    31 min

  8. 05/06/2023

    EP 23 - The 3-1-1 Rule Refresher

    Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term is: The Maybe Date In the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you. Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired. With its poignant messages about the importance of cherishing every moment and what can happen when you get a do-over chance to approach dating situations with confidence. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates at a dance or party. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Episode Links: About Time Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIFdWk83no Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

    29 min
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Dating in midlife isn’t easy. After his 21-year marriage ended, Paul Nelson found himself back in the dating world. Over the next decade, he went on over 180 first dates, had countless phone calls, and engaged in thousands of online conversations. What he discovered along the way wasn’t just how to date again, but how much personal growth it takes to become the kind of partner you truly want to attract. On the Midlife Dating Podcast, Paul is your guide to the nuances of dating learned on the street level. It’s the little things that add up. The mistakes you make aren’t setbacks—they’re growth opportunities. They allow you to adjust and course correct. Only then can you find someone who’s also done the work. Episodes blend practical advice, book and movie reviews, and real-life stories with hard-earned insights. Paul’s goal is simple: to help Gen Xers and Baby Boomers date smarter, laugh more, have fun, and conserve our most valuable commodity—time. If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and create some great memories moving forward, the Midlife Dating Podcast is for you.

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  • Creator
    Paul Nelson
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Midlife Dating Podcast
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