Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay
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Join Mona Kay as she focuses on increasing understanding of the strengths, differences, and challenges in mixed neurotype relationships. Whether you're autistic, neurotypical or allistic, this podcast is for you! Knowing how your neurology may impact your communication style, emotional and social needs, processing speeds, sensory needs and sexual and physical intimacy desires is critical, especially in your romantic relationships. Listen in and learn about other's lived experiences, lessons learned, and strategies for understanding how neurological differences can impact your relationship.

  1. 2D AGO

    How Does Your Religious Faith Impact Your NeuroDiverse Relationship?-Stephanie and Dan Holmes

    The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries was released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————- This is another fantastic presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. During this episode you will learn from Rev. Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Rev. Dan Holmes who are not only ordained ministers but a happily married neurodiverse couple of 30 years! Stephanie & Dan coach couples  primarily who are faith-based  and will share how the role of faith can help build connection and intimacy in the neurodiverse couple or how the rules, roles and rigidity of religion can bring disconnection in the neurodiverse relationship. Stephanie and Dan Holmes write from lived experience as a NeuroDiverse Christian Couple (NDCC) as well as professional experience working with NDCCs. Their first book, written with their adult children, Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey focuses on their parenting journey of neurodivergent children and discovering their own neurodiversity in marriage.   Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes received her bachelor's degree in psychology from Campbell University, her Master's in counseling from Liberty University, and her doctorate in education from Abilene Christian University. She is an ordained minister, author, autism researcher, speaker, and certified autism specialist. When her daughter Sydney was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, her world and focus changed from a thriving marriage and family therapy practice to a world of Individualized Education Programs, 504 educational plans, and understanding how to help students and individuals with challenges and needs in the classroom and the church setting. She is the owner and founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family, LLC, and she and Dan are co-founders of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage, LLC, and the podcast NeuroDiverse Christian Couples. Dan Holmes is a seasoned leader with a rich background in systems architecture, design, and consulting. He received his bachelor's degree in management information systems from The University of Charlotte and his Masters in computer science through The Georgia Institute of Technology. He is also a professional coach who guides Neurodivergent men, helping them harness their unique potential in personal and professional spheres. These dual roles allow him to integrate innovative thinking with empathy, fostering a culture of understanding and driving holistic growth. Dan is an ordained minister, Master Life Coach, and has served in church ministry through band ministry, small group leadership and board leadership. He received his own identification on the spectrum in 2019.   Their book, Uniquely Us is based on published research from Dan's later-in-life adult autism diagnosis and focuses on faith, marriage and autism. It then examines how neurodiversity and faith create a complex relationship dynamic for NeuroDiverse Christian Couples. If you want to continue to learn about NDCCs, join Stephanie & Dan on their podcast, NeuroDiverse Christian Couples at:  www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com.

    31 min

  2. FEB 10

    Secrets of Happy Neurodiverse Couples -Eva A. Mendes

    The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————- This episode is another wonderful presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. During this session you will discover the unique strengths, strategies, and insights that successful neurodiverse couples use to navigate their relationships. Eva A. Mendes explores practical tools and must-know tips that real couples have shared to help their relationships grow and endure. More specifically you will learn:✨ Proven techniques to enhance connection and communication✨ Creative solutions for managing sensory and emotional differences✨ A roadmap to build your own relationship toolkit In addition, you will learn actionable exercises and discussion prompts to apply these best-kept secrets in your own relationship while also being inspired by real stories and empowered to create lasting love! Eva A. Mendes is a world-renowned therapist, author, and couples counselor specializing in autism, ADHD, and neurodiverse relationships. With a focus on autistic adults, individuals with ADHD, gifted individuals, and LGBTQ clients, she helps diverse clients navigate the complexities of neurodiversity. Eva trained extensively at AANE and has authored several influential books, including Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger’s Syndrome, Gender, Sexuality, and Autism and her most recent book Conversations on Love and Autism. Her Heart of Autism blog on Psychology Today offers practical advice for neurodiverse individuals and couples. Learn more at www.eva-mendes.com or contact her at eva@eva-mendes.com. —————————————————————————- To learn more about the resources and services Mona offers you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com If you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

    38 min

  3. FEB 3

    Cherishing Each Other:  ND Minded Couples Therapy that Nurtures Relational Living-Caron Starobin

    The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————- This episode is another fantastic session from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. Caron Starobin, LCSW identifies how neurodivergence shows up in intimate relationships, what this means for couples in relationships where neurodivergence is in the mix, and the tools and concepts from Relational Life Therapy that constructively and compassionately nurtures relational living with a neurodiversity affirming mindset. Caron is a licensed clinical social worker and has been practicing for over 24 years. She owns Starobin Counseling, a group practice based in the D.C. Metropolitan area.  Prior to her social work career, Caron was a professional modern dancer and choreographer based in Minneapolis for 10 years and loved engaging in community through the performing arts.  Her therapeutic lens is deeply informed by family systems thinking, Relational Life Therapy, and years of training with experts in the fields of neurodevelopment and autism.  Caron’s work is also informed by her experience providing individual, group, couples, and family therapy for autistic people and their family members dating back to 2001.  Caron and her team at Starobin Counseling recognize that understanding differently wired brains benefits all of us.   Caron is certified in Relational Life Therapy and is a trainer at the Relational Life Institute.  She presents nationally on intimacy in neurodiverse couples and family relationships as well as on neurodiversity affirming therapy in general. You can learn more about Caron and the services her and her team offer here. —————————————————————————- If you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

    44 min

  4. JAN 27

    At the Starting Line: Beginning to Explore Neurodiversity in Relationships-Amanda Platner

    The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————- During this episode you will hear another presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. Dr. Amanda Platner shares the steps one can take if they suspect they or their significant other may be neurodivergent, including topics such as when and why someone might seek psychological testing, and how to begin to explore and understand neurodiversity. Dr. Platner also discuss the changes in the field regarding the awareness of neurodiverse relationships and how individuals, both neurodivergent and neurotypical, can take a neuroaffirming approach to undeerstanding one another.  Bio: Dr. Amanda Platner is a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with neurodivergent individuals and their loved ones across the lifespan. Dr. Platner completed postdoctoral fellowships through Emory University and Harvard University and she currently works at the Emory Autism Center where she is the Director of Psychological Intervention Services and the Psychology Training Program. She directs the myLIFE social engagement program for autistic adults, conducts individual, group, and couples counseling, and does both diagnostic and neuropsychological testing for individuals across the lifespan. Dr. Platner's favorite part of her work is getting to learn with and from all of the clients she interacts with.  You can contact Dr. Platner at the link below: https://med.emory.edu/departments/psychiatry/autism/index.html —————————————————————————— If you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

    26 min

  5. JAN 20

    Dynamics in Neurodiverse Relationships-Greg Fuqua

    The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————— During this episode you will hear another presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. Greg Fuqua reviews the most common and important dynamic patterns he sees in ND relationships. He also reviews ways of empowering healthier patterns of growth and understanding in ND couples. More specifically GRE addresses the following topics: ADHDer’s and Autistics;  The magnetism of ND polarities; Emotional Dynamics; Enmeshment vs Ownership; Co-regulation vs Self-regulation; Pursuer/avoidant; Communication Dynamics; Nuanced vs Literal; Emotional Content/Context vs Factual and Logistical Content. Greg Fuqua is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist (LMHC) in the state of Iowa and runs Divergent Counseling, Coaching and Consulting LLC that supports neurodiverse couples, neurodivergent issues, therapists and others nationwide/worldwide through counseling, trainings, consultations and coaching. He is a certified Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS); a level 2 trained Neurodiverse Couples Therapist and identifies as autistic himself. Greg has appeared as a special guest and 2-time season co-host of the “Neurodiverse Love” Podcast and he is the Co-host of the “Neurodivergent Connections” YouTube channel with Mona Kay and Scott Simpson. Greg specializes in working with Autistics, ADHDers and neurotypes of all kinds, including Neurodiverse (ND) Couples, ND families, transgender and LGBTQ clients and DID, OSDD or plurality/multiplicity in clients. Greg is a trauma informed therapist and an Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner. You can learn more about Greg at: https://www.gregfuqua.com —————————————————————————— If you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

    54 min

  6. JAN 13

    NEUROTYPE Versus DISORDER: Shifting the Paradigm-Jodi Carlton

    If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers for individuals or couples you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com. The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they’ve had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other’s differences. In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection. To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here. —————————————————————————— This episode is another presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. During this episode Jodi Carlton will challenge the traditional paradigm of neurodiversity as a “mental illness” or “disorder” and reframe it as an essential aspect of human identity and neurotype diversity. Drawing on emerging research and decades of personal and professional experience with neurodiversity, Jodi will explore how pathologizing neurodivergence perpetuates stigma and ableism whereas embracing neurodiversity as a neurotype fosters acceptance, inclusion, and connection. Through the information shared you will gain insight into the shift away from deficit-based models and toward approaches that celebrate neurodiversity. The information Jodi shares will inspire a fresh perspective, equipping you with tools to foster change. Jodi Carlton, MEd is a neurodiverse relationship expert with over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples worldwide navigate the complexities of neurodiverse relationships. Drawing on her personal experience with ADHD and her deep connections with neurodivergent partners, family, and friends, Jodi is a passionate advocate for transforming societal perceptions of neurodiversity. She is the creator of an innovative model for improving communication in neurodiverse relationships and is the founder of a private association for thought leaders in the field of neurodiversity. Jodi is currently writing her first book, which delves into the evolving paradigm shift surrounding neurodiversity. Through private and group coaching, online quizzes, courses, videos, articles, and her podcast, “YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship,”, Jodi empowers professionals, individuals, couples, and families to understand and embrace neurodiversity in their own lives. Visit her online at JodiCarlton.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/jodicarlton LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton —————————————————————————— If you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

    37 min

  7. JAN 6

    Sensory and Sex-Ashley Grubbs

    This episode is a session from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference where Dr. Ashley Grubbs describes common sensory issues that come up in sex and the difficulty this can create in relationships for both people. Whether it is not tolerating moisture, struggling to enjoy kissing, or feeling overwhelmed with heat, sensory differences are a major impact on sexuality and can derail intimacy quickly. After a brief overview, Dr. Grubbs provides solutions for these different problems so that sex can feel accessible again. Dr. Ashley Grubbs is an Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in neurodiversity and sex therapy. She works to ensure couples with different neurotypes have the tools needed to improve their intimacy and connection in a way that works for them. She received her Bachelor’s degree from Texas State University, Master’s degree at University of North Texas at Dallas, and PhD in Clinical Sexology. Her dissertation, Blending the Brains will be published as a practical tool for couples. If you want to learn more about Dr. Grubbs or the services she provides you can check out her website below: www.blueharbortherapy.com —————————————————————————— If you are interested in buying lifetime access to all the video sessions from the 2023 or 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here. If you would like to learn more about the other resources Mona offers, including support groups, coaching and the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com

    35 min

  8. 12/30/2025

    Navigating Dating as a Neurodivergent Person-Lida Far

    If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers including support groups, coaching and the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook you can check out her website below: https://www.neurodiverselove.com/ During this session from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference, Lida Far provides an insightful exploration of the unique challenges and opportunities that neurodivergent individuals encounter in the dating world. Discover how to communicate your needs effectively, manage anxiety, and build confidence as you step into the dating scene. Whether you’re new to dating or looking to enhance your approach, this episode offers some valuable insights and support tailored specifically for the neurodivergent community. Lida’s specialty lies in empowering young adults/adults who feel stuck in their personal and relational growth, as well as working with couples and entrepreneurs. She is dedicated to guiding individuals and couples through challenges in their relationships and life transitions, while also providing support and empowerment to high-achieving individuals seeking personal and professional fulfillment. Additionally, she specialize in sex therapy, offering a safe and non-judgmental space to address intimacy and sexual health concerns within relationships. She is also committed to neurodiversity-affirming care, ensuring that all clients receive understanding and tailored support regardless of their neurodiverse experiences. You can learn more about Lida’s work at her website below: https://crystalcounselingandcoaching.com/

    19 min
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Join Mona Kay as she focuses on increasing understanding of the strengths, differences, and challenges in mixed neurotype relationships. Whether you're autistic, neurotypical or allistic, this podcast is for you! Knowing how your neurology may impact your communication style, emotional and social needs, processing speeds, sensory needs and sexual and physical intimacy desires is critical, especially in your romantic relationships. Listen in and learn about other's lived experiences, lessons learned, and strategies for understanding how neurological differences can impact your relationship.

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    Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    255
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