Save My Marriage Podcast

Aston and Adam Simmonds

We’re not here just to “fix” marriages. We’re here to help high-achieving couples remember who they really are, individually and together. To shed the roles, the resentment, the silent suffering and rise into a relationship that’s deeply connected, passionately alive, and built on truth, trust, and team. We’ve lived the disconnect. We’ve hit rock bottom. We’ve sat on the edge of “too late.” But we also know what’s possible when two people choose to rise, together. This isn’t therapy. This is transformation. This is the new paradigm of marriage. This is the Save My Marriage Podcast. Hosted by Aston & Adam Simmonds, relationship coaches and founders of Save My Marriage School, this show delivers weekly real-talk episodes packed with stories, strategies, and step-by-step frameworks to help you: Rebuild trustRekindle connectionCommunicate without conflictOvercome resentmentAnd recreate a marriage you both love being inNew episodes every Tuesday . Submit your question: https://www.savemymarriageschool.com/podcast Learn more: https://www.savemymarriageschool.com Start listening now and discover what’s possible when you Recreate Your Relationship.

  1. 6d ago

    "It's Just Her Hormones" Is Wrecking Your Marriage

    Menopause doesn't ruin marriages — silence does. In this episode, Adam and Aston Simmonds unpack why divorce rates and women's suicide rates both peak during menopause, and how emotional acceptance, compassion, and nervous system awareness can turn this transition into the making of your relationship instead of the end of it. In this episode: Why menopause removes your capacity to keep tolerating things that were already broken — not the cause of them The two very different experiences happening simultaneously for her and for him, and why neither is talking about it Why "it's just hormones" is the most damaging thing a husband can say — and what to say instead How feminine and masculine energy dynamics shift during menopause, and why surrender (not force) is the real strength How to move from criticism and blame back into compassion and curiosity as a couple READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  2. Sep 21

    Why The More You Do, The Less Your Partner Does

    If you're carrying the mental load — planning, organizing, remembering everything — while your partner seems to do less and less, this episode names exactly why. Adam and Aston break down the over functioning under functioning dynamic and show you how to rebuild real partnership instead of silent resentment. In this episode: How the over functioning under functioning trap forms, and why it's perspective, not fact Why these patterns trace back to childhood roles and the beliefs that keep them alive The exercise Aston uses to reveal how much you're carrying that was never yours How control disguised as helping makes your partner feel like an employee READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  3. Sep 14

    How To Repair After A Fight Even When The Apology Never Comes

    Tired of always being the first to say sorry after a fight? Adam and Aston explain why this pattern develops and share five steps to repair your relationship without waiting for your partner's apology. In this episode: - Why arguments turn into lasting resentment when you never repair - How childhood experiences shape the way you apologize or shut down - Five steps to acknowledge hurt, take responsibility and reconnect - How to validate your partner without agreeing or keeping score 00:00 Repairing after a fight 10:36 Why apologizing feels so hard 20:28 What repair really means 25:36 Five steps to repair and reconnect 28:39 Going first without keeping score READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  4. Sep 7

    The Perimenopause Marriage Crisis Nobody Warns Couples About

    Perimenopause doesn't just change her body. It exposes everything your marriage has been tolerating for decades. If the rage, distance, and disconnection feel suddenly unsurvivable, this episode is for you. In this episode: - Why perimenopause doesn't create marriage problems. It reveals what was already there, and why hyper-independent women are hit hardest - How to shift from blame and labeling ("she's just hormonal") to curiosity and compassion. Why that shift changes everything - The move from complaints to positive requests: practical language that keeps your partner leaning in instead of shutting down - How the five-minute coffee check-in can rebuild daily connection fast and why doing nothing is the most dangerous choice you can make READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  5. Aug 31

    Should I Get a Divorce?

    Most couples asking "Should I get a divorce?" are actually asking the wrong question and that one shift in perspective can change everything. If your marriage feels hollow, disconnected, or like you're living as roommates, this episode is for you. In this episode: - Why "should I get a divorce?" is usually the wrong question and what to ask instead - How emotional disconnection builds silently over years through thousands of small moments, not one big event - Why therapy and counselling often leave couples more defeated and what actually creates change - Co-created patterns keeping you stuck, and how taking responsibility for your part breaks the cycle READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  6. Aug 17

    The Who Goes First Trap That's Keeping Your Marriage Stuck

    Most couples hit a wall, both waiting for the other to move first. This episode names the gridlock, explains why it keeps high-achieving couples stuck for years, and shows you exactly how to break it. In this episode: Why waiting for your partner to change first keeps you both stuck The chicken-and-egg problem between emotional and physical intimacy What “going first” looks like without sacrificing your standards Why loving someone the way you want to be loved can miss the mark, and how the “princess passenger” technique changes that READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

  7. Aug 10

    Why Your Wife Keeps Saying She Doesn't Trust You

    Your wife says she doesn't trust you but you've never cheated, you work hard, and you show up for your family. This episode breaks down why men and women define trust differently, and what it actually takes to rebuild emotional safety in marriage. In this episode: Why saying “I’ve never cheated” doesn’t actually address what she’s worried about when she says she can’t trust youHow promising too much and following through too little slowly breaks trust — and how to change thatHow being emotionally present, keeping your word, and taking responsibility help a woman feel safe and trust youWhy independent women can have a hard time accepting support, and how learning to rely on each other can make the relationship stronger READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

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We’re not here just to “fix” marriages. We’re here to help high-achieving couples remember who they really are, individually and together. To shed the roles, the resentment, the silent suffering and rise into a relationship that’s deeply connected, passionately alive, and built on truth, trust, and team. We’ve lived the disconnect. We’ve hit rock bottom. We’ve sat on the edge of “too late.” But we also know what’s possible when two people choose to rise, together. This isn’t therapy. This is transformation. This is the new paradigm of marriage. This is the Save My Marriage Podcast. Hosted by Aston & Adam Simmonds, relationship coaches and founders of Save My Marriage School, this show delivers weekly real-talk episodes packed with stories, strategies, and step-by-step frameworks to help you: Rebuild trustRekindle connectionCommunicate without conflictOvercome resentmentAnd recreate a marriage you both love being inNew episodes every Tuesday . Submit your question: https://www.savemymarriageschool.com/podcast Learn more: https://www.savemymarriageschool.com Start listening now and discover what’s possible when you Recreate Your Relationship.

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