GETSOME

Michelle Fischler
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GETSOME is a podcast about the sexual stories we carry, hosted by sex therapist Michelle Fischler. Sex can bring up a lot. Desire. Pressure. Pleasure. Shame. And questions you're not sure you can ask out loud. Each episode is an honest conversation about what we want, what we’ve been taught, and what happens when our bodies don’t follow the script. There’s room for humour, discomfort, and things that don’t have a tidy answer. Underneath it all is an unshaming approach: less judgement, more curiosity. Before reaching for another technique or trying to fix yourself, what is there to understand? Michelle Fischler is a Registered Social Worker, Registered Psychotherapist and ASTO-certified sex therapist, and author of Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer.

  1. 3d ago

    Does Your Dick Need Rehab?

    You went to the doctor. The bloodwork was fine, the scans were fine, and you were told to live with it. So you assumed the problem must be you. But what if the pain, the softer erections, the coming sooner than you want were never in your head? What if the part of your body nobody named has muscles, nerves, and actual treatment options? Dr. Susie Gronski is a pelvic health physical therapist and AASECT-certified sexuality counsellor and educator who built her practice around the gap nobody else was filling. Men have pelvic floors. Those muscles get tight, tense, and crabby, and they can be rehabbed. She also has a phrase she gives every client before they get on the table: bodies do body things. About Dr. Susie GronskiWith over a decade of expertise in men's pelvic and sexual health, Dr. Susie Gronski is a Licensed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Pelvic Health Therapist, AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor and Educator, and founder of a multidisciplinary pelvic health clinic in Asheville, North Carolina. Through her clinic and Patreon, she helps men navigate taboo pelvic and sexual health concerns and works to make pelvic therapy more accessible. Find Dr. Susie GronskiWebsite: https://drsusieg.com/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/drsusiegInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.susiegTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drsusieg BooksPelvic Pain: The Ultimate C**k Block, Dr. Susie Gronskihttps://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-book-for-men Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer, Michelle Fischlerhttps://getsome.ca/coming-soon-book Mentioned in this episodeManhood: The Bare Reality, Laura Dodsworthhttps://www.lauradodsworth.com/manhood MakeLoveNotPorn, founded by Cindy Gallophttps://makelovenotporn.tv Erika Lusthttps://erikalust.com Featured ResourcesLive Demo: Male Pelvic Floor Examhttps://www.patreon.com/drsusieg/posts/live-demo-male-159871249 Live Demo: Female Pelvic Floor Examhttps://www.patreon.com/drsusieg/posts/live-demo-female-148634739 Get in touchGot a story you want to tell on GETSOME? Email michelle@getsome.ca Follow @getsome_podcast on Instagram Produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    Does Your Dick Need Rehab?

  2. Sep 11

    Why Men Choose Porn Over Partnered Sex with Lisa Etherson

    You promised yourself you'd stop. You didn't. And then you took that as proof of something about you. But what if the porn and masturbation weren’t the whole story? What if they were the strategy quietly keeping something much scarier in place? A man reaching for porn instead of his partner may have found a version of sex that feels safer from shame. Lisa Etherson, UK-based psychosexual therapist and the originator of Shame Containment Theory, offers another lens: performance anxiety can involve fear of shame, and the behaviour we call “compulsive” or “addictive” can serve as a shame containment strategy. About Lisa Lisa Etherson is a psychosexual therapist, researcher, trainer and co-founder of The Shame Training Company. Connect with Lisa TEDx talk: If you want to change your life, change your relationship with shameLinkedInProduced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME. Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    Why Men Choose Porn Over Partnered Sex with Lisa Etherson

  3. Sep 4

    Why Sexual Shame Needs a Witness with David Bedrick

    Shame doesn’t care how much it’s ruining your sex life. It just wants an audience. But instead of hitting up the concession stand, what if you sat in the front row and got curious? You might be surprised at what you learn (and how your body responds afterwards). David Bedrick is the founder of The Unshaming Way and the author of five books. Instead of asking how to move past the shame, he asks what the shame is trying to say. Because you’re not a problem: you’re a person with a story whose symptoms carry lots of intelligence. Content note: this episode briefly mentions childhood harm and sexual trauma. Topics covered 00:00 Masculinity, erections, and cultural pressure02:30 What shame is and why symptoms carry intelligence04:28 How survival and cultural messages shape identity07:58 Why fixing and technique can deepen shame10:23 Listening to what erection difficulty and softness are saying12:30 What an unshaming witness does differently16:00 Gender, sexuality, and shame carried through silence20:54 What to notice when shame appears during sex21:50 Consent, “not yet,” and believing your body23:24 Why you cannot technique your way out of shame25:01 Healing as believing your own experience26:36 David’s current trauma work, courses, and SubstackFind David Bedrick WebsiteCoursesBooksSubstackProduced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME. Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    Why Sexual Shame Needs a Witness with David Bedrick

  4. 05/22/2024

    The Professional With a Kinky Side

    LITTLE MISS BEE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE. By day, she’s a high-powered working professional proudly shattering glass ceilings and climbing the corporate ladder. But off the clock, she’s a kink-positive, active member of the rope bondage community.  In the final episode of the 3rd season of the GETSOME Podcast, we discuss personal authority, self-acceptance, and keeping it kinky. Our guest, Little Miss Bee, manages to keep her professional and personal worlds completely separate without losing touch with either side of herself. Ultimately, her openness and experiences give us the space to reflect on our own desires and boundaries, helping us find a path towards our own sexual, personal, and professional empowerment. Show Notes: [00:00:30] Little Miss Bee describes her very clear sense of direction and openness to various sexual and non-sexual experiences. [00:01:00] The dichotomy of Little Miss Bee's life: a professional by day, exploring her deepest desires by night. [00:03:00] Discusses the importance of consent and boundaries within the kink community, emphasizing her role as both a top and a bottom. [00:05:00] Little Miss Bee's passion for rope bondage, known as Shibari, and her journey from being tied to becoming a rigger. [00:10:00] Talks about seeking connections that go beyond physical interactions, aiming for a deeper, more meaningful connections. [00:15:00] Little Miss Bee reflects on her sexual evolution from a "desirous, sex-positive teenager" to  moving slower, taking in the sensuality of it all. [00:20:00] The challenges of maintaining non-monogamy, dealing with societal expectations, and the joys of living authentically. [00:25:00] The allure and etiquette of sex parties, describing them as spaces where consent and hedonistic desires meet. [00:30:00] A perplexing moment when Little Miss Bee confronted prejudice  while revealing her open relationship status. Disclaimer Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    The Professional With a Kinky Side

  5. 05/08/2024

    The Perks of Being a Bi Guy

    Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality. You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???” Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is.  In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity.  If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Michelle@GETSOME.ca Show Notes [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out. [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals. [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality. [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse. [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life. [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey. [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality. [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment. [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships. [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man. [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches. Guest: West Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios Listener Note: This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening. Engage with Us: Follow us for more content and updates on Instagram: @getsome_podcast Disclaimer Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    The Perks of Being a Bi Guy

  6. 04/24/2024

    Sex After Having Kids

    As a sex worker, Shannon Ariel, founder of Pink Banana Sparkles, always had a strong relationship with sex & her body. …but after her first child, she felt something shift. With a changing body and changing needs, Shannon had to rebuild her relationship with herself, her sex life, and her career. For many, motherhood takes a toll on their sex lives. Their priorities, bodies, and relationships are drastically different than they were before they had their kids, and getting back to a place of confidence, pleasure, and fulfillment can often be an uphill battle. For Shannon, a retired sex worker turned fashion designer, and mom whose identity is linked to her sexuality, this shift was a jarring one that required her to look at her life from a wider lens. What started as a journey to rediscover her sexuality postpartum turned into Shannon learning to put herself first, having the best sex of her life, and bravely sharing her story so that other women know they’re not alone. Where to find Shannon? https://www.pinkbananasparkles.com/ Instagram and Facebook: @pinkbananasparkles Disclaimer Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    Sex After Having Kids

  7. 04/10/2024

    Micropenis, Macro Sex Drive

    At a young age, Chris was diagnosed with a medical micropenis. For years, he struggled with sex and dating until he discovered two kinks that fueled a macro sex drive – Small Penis Humiliation and Cuckolding. Talking about shame, sexuality, and penis size is particularly challenging for cis men due to toxic masculinity. But Chris’ story isn’t exclusively for people with penises (or people with micropenises, for that matter). Chris’ journey to self-acceptance and sexual pleasure is an incredible lesson in making the most with what you’re given, and learning to love yourself exactly as you are. Show Notes Introduction: [00:00:00] Chris shares his struggle with feeling inadequate due to his micropenis diagnosis. Early Diagnosis: [00:00:43] Chris was diagnosed with a micropenis at a young age, which led to feelings of shame and inadequacy. He recalls being informed about his condition by a doctor at the age of five, with his parents' reaction being discomfort and avoidance. Emotional Impact: [00:08:30] Chris expresses feeling pathetic and inferior due to societal expectations and experiences in high school. Coping Mechanisms: [00:10:24] Despite initial struggles, Chris found solace in embracing his kinks, particularly small penis humiliation and cuckolding. He discusses the arousal derived from these fantasies and his approach to exploring them safely. Dating and Relationships: [00:17:54] Chris opens up about his challenges with dating and rejection due to his condition. He shares his experiences with being honest about his condition and the responses he has received from potential partners. Self-Acceptance: [00:27:05] Over time, Chris has worked on building his self-confidence and accepting himself for who he is. He encourages listeners to embrace their bodies and pursue happiness despite societal pressures. Closing Thoughts: [00:30:44] Chris offers words of encouragement to those facing similar challenges, urging them not to give up on finding love and acceptance. Disclaimer Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

    Micropenis, Macro Sex Drive

  8. 03/27/2024

    Seniors Seeking Friends With Benefits

    Finding a friend with benefits can be hard at any age. But today’s guest, Cynthia, faced the daunting task of finding a sexual partner at the age of 78 and following the loss of her husband. She knew that she wanted a friend with benefits, and she even had her eye on someone specific. But the ultimate hurdle? Asking him. In this fascinating and refreshingly open conversation we discuss: 1. What it looks like to be sexually active in your later years of life 2. The stigma of being a senior citizen who craves casual sex. 3. The nuances of sex with aging bodies 4. Maintaining relationships with your “couple friends” after the loss of your long-term partner 5. How to continue experiencing sexual satisfaction in your 70’s and beyond. Show Notes: Show notes: Guest Introduction: [00:01:28] Michelle introduces Cynthia, a 78-year-old widow, as the guest for this episode. Cynthia shares her journey of grieving the loss of her husband and the subsequent feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship. Exploring Desire and Loneliness: [00:02:26] Cynthia discusses her newfound desires for companionship and sexual connection after her husband's passing. She reflects on the emotional and physical changes she experienced and how they led her to consider exploring a friends with benefits relationship. Challenges and Fears: [00:03:39] Cynthia opens up about her fears surrounding trust, communication, and the societal expectations associated with relationships and aging. Michelle and Cynthia discuss the complexities of initiating conversations about sexual desires and boundaries with potential partners. Navigating Boundaries and Expectations: [00:06:00] The conversation delves into the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining autonomy, and challenging societal norms in relationships. Cynthia shares her concerns about potential changes in dynamics and expectations if her relationship with her friend were to become sexual. Exploring Options and Self-Reflection: [00:08:51] Michelle offers insights into alternative ways of meeting potential partners, such as matchmaking services and shared activities. Cynthia reflects on the conversation and expresses gratitude for the insights. Conclusion: [00:10:21] Michelle thanks Cynthia for sharing her story and insights with listeners. She encourages listeners to reach out with their own stories and experiences related to desire, intimacy, and sexual exploration after loss. Closing Credits: [00:11:39] Michelle provides information on how listeners can connect with the podcast, access online learning modules, and stay updated on future episodes. Acknowledgment of the production team Katie and Kattie from Vocal Fry Studios Disclaimer Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca. Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.

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GETSOME is a podcast about the sexual stories we carry, hosted by sex therapist Michelle Fischler. Sex can bring up a lot. Desire. Pressure. Pleasure. Shame. And questions you're not sure you can ask out loud. Each episode is an honest conversation about what we want, what we’ve been taught, and what happens when our bodies don’t follow the script. There’s room for humour, discomfort, and things that don’t have a tidy answer. Underneath it all is an unshaming approach: less judgement, more curiosity. Before reaching for another technique or trying to fix yourself, what is there to understand? Michelle Fischler is a Registered Social Worker, Registered Psychotherapist and ASTO-certified sex therapist, and author of Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer.

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  • Creator
    Michelle Fischler
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    50
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 - All rights reserved.
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    GETSOME