Advice That Hurts & Helps (formerly E-rotic by Eden Mitelman)

Eden Mitelman
  • 4.9 (11)
  • Self-Improvement
  • Updated Weekly

Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

  1. Sep 24

    ARE YOU FALLING OUT OF LOVE OR SELF-SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

    TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coachingDo you actually have a relationship problem — or have you convinced yourself that you do?Sometimes when a relationship is healthy, stable, and no longer giving you constant emotional highs and lows, your brain starts looking for something to worry about.Do I still love them?Am I settling?What if there’s someone better?Why don’t I feel as excited as I used to?What if this means we’re not meant to be together?And the more you analyze the relationship, the more uncertain you become.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we’re talking about relationship self-sabotage: why you can start searching for problems when nothing is obviously wrong, how anxiety and overthinking can make normal relationship changes feel like warning signs, and how to tell the difference between a genuine issue and a pattern of constantly questioning what you have.We’ll get into why healthy love can sometimes feel “boring,” the danger of chasing certainty, comparing your relationship to an imaginary alternative, and what to do when your own thoughts are becoming the biggest source of conflict in your relationship.Because sometimes the question isn’t “Is this the wrong relationship?”It’s “Why am I trying so hard to prove that it is?”💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Watch this episode on Youtube:https://youtu.be/FNjAzwoyEj0🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  2. Sep 12

    THE RED FLAGS YOU DON'T NOTICE UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE

    The worst red flags usually aren’t the obvious ones. They’re the ones that whisper.The little comments you brush off.The subtle inconsistencies.The way you start changing your behaviour to avoid a reaction.The things that feel slightly off... But not bad enough to leave over.Until months or years later, you realize they were telling you exactly what was coming.In this episode, I’m breaking down the red flags that are easy to overlook in the beginning but can eventually become the reason your relationship makes you miserable.Because sometimes the biggest warning signs don’t scream at you.They whisper first.TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  3. Aug 13

    CAN YOU PREDICT SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY? THE SIGNS BEFORE SLEEPING WITH THEM

    Can you actually know if you’re sexually compatible with someone **before** you have sex with them? I think you can get a pretty damn good idea.Sexual compatibility isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It shows up in the chemistry, the tension, how comfortable you are talking about sex, how someone communicates their wants, whether they respect boundaries, and whether you actually feel safe enough to be honest about what you like.Because sometimes the attraction is 🔥… and the compatibility is nowhere to be found.In this episode, we’re getting into the signs that can tell you A LOT before you ever sleep together, and why “we’ll just have to see” isn’t always true.* Sorry about the audio in the second half of this episode. My mic decided to tap out....💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/KoEj9AISJv4🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  4. Jun 24

    Things Men Complain About That I Actually Agree With

    Women are not always the victims in dating. In this episode, I'm talking about several dating complaints from men that I actually understand, and in some cases, completely agree with. From coffee dates and financial screening to entitlement, validation addiction, opposite-sex friendships, and the misuse of therapy language, we're having the kind of conversation that tends to make people uncomfortable. Not because men are always right.Not because women are always wrong. But because accountability shouldn't only apply to the people we're dating. If we want healthier relationships, we need to be willing to examine our own behaviours too. 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  5. May 26

    ADVICE I'LL GIVE MY DAUGHTER BEFORE SHE STARTS DATING

    What will I teach my daughter before she starts dating?In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, I share the brutally honest relationship advice I wish more women heard younger, the kind that might sound controversial, harsh, or unpopular… but could save years of heartbreak, confusion, self-abandonment, and toxic relationships.This isn’t “fairytale” dating advice.This is real life.These are the lessons I hope my daughter grows up understanding before she ever lets someone close to her heart.And honestly? A lot of adults still need to hear them too.If this episode resonates, there may be a Part 2.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥Watch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/eMmGlSitgnk🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  6. May 18

    WHY "HIGH VALUE" CULTURE IS MAKING DATING WORSE

    Somewhere along the way, modern dating stopped being about connection and started becoming a marketplace. Everybody is “high value.”Everybody thinks they deserve better.Everybody is ranking humans like stocks.And somehow… nobody is happy.In this episode, we’re talking about how the internet’s obsession with “high value men” and “high value women” is destroying dating, inflating egos, confusing standards with entitlement, and keeping people disconnected from reality.This isn’t about “settling.”It’s about self-awareness.Compatibility.Reciprocity.And dating people who actually align with you instead of chasing status, validation, or fantasy.Because dating on your level isn’t an insult.It’s usually where real relationships begin.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  7. May 8

    HOW TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND LESS ANNOYING

    Most men think women become “annoying,” emotional, controlling, or nagging out of nowhere.But a lot of the behaviours men complain about are actually responses to inconsistency, broken trust, poor communication, and emotional imbalance in the relationship.Because the truth is:A lot of women don’t actually want to control everything.They just stopped feeling like they could rely on you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/LAVrT9Q2CKg🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  8. Apr 18

    YOU'RE NOT CHILL, YOU'RE JUST AFRAID OF LOSING THEM

    You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs. self-abandonment and why acting “low maintenance” is actually what’s keeping you stuck in shallow, unsatisfying connections.Because here’s the truth:You don’t lose people by being “too much.”You lose yourself by trying to be just enough.If you’ve ever:- Held back your feelings so you don’t scare someone off- Acted unbothered when you actually cared- Felt disconnected in a relationship but didn’t know whyThis is for you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

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