Advice That Hurts & Helps (formerly E-rotic by Eden Mitelman)

Eden Mitelman
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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

  1. May 26

    ADVICE I'LL GIVE MY DAUGHTER BEFORE SHE STARTS DATING

    What will I teach my daughter before she starts dating?In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, I share the brutally honest relationship advice I wish more women heard younger, the kind that might sound controversial, harsh, or unpopular… but could save years of heartbreak, confusion, self-abandonment, and toxic relationships.This isn’t “fairytale” dating advice.This is real life.These are the lessons I hope my daughter grows up understanding before she ever lets someone close to her heart.And honestly? A lot of adults still need to hear them too.If this episode resonates, there may be a Part 2.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥Watch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/eMmGlSitgnk🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    14 min

  2. May 18

    WHY "HIGH VALUE" CULTURE IS MAKING DATING WORSE

    Somewhere along the way, modern dating stopped being about connection and started becoming a marketplace. Everybody is “high value.”Everybody thinks they deserve better.Everybody is ranking humans like stocks.And somehow… nobody is happy.In this episode, we’re talking about how the internet’s obsession with “high value men” and “high value women” is destroying dating, inflating egos, confusing standards with entitlement, and keeping people disconnected from reality.This isn’t about “settling.”It’s about self-awareness.Compatibility.Reciprocity.And dating people who actually align with you instead of chasing status, validation, or fantasy.Because dating on your level isn’t an insult.It’s usually where real relationships begin.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    7 min

  3. May 8

    HOW TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND LESS ANNOYING

    Most men think women become “annoying,” emotional, controlling, or nagging out of nowhere.But a lot of the behaviours men complain about are actually responses to inconsistency, broken trust, poor communication, and emotional imbalance in the relationship.Because the truth is:A lot of women don’t actually want to control everything.They just stopped feeling like they could rely on you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/LAVrT9Q2CKg🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    10 min

  4. Apr 18

    YOU'RE NOT CHILL, YOU'RE JUST AFRAID OF LOSING THEM

    You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs. self-abandonment and why acting “low maintenance” is actually what’s keeping you stuck in shallow, unsatisfying connections.Because here’s the truth:You don’t lose people by being “too much.”You lose yourself by trying to be just enough.If you’ve ever:- Held back your feelings so you don’t scare someone off- Acted unbothered when you actually cared- Felt disconnected in a relationship but didn’t know whyThis is for you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    9 min

  5. Mar 19

    LISTEN TO THIS IF YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS STILL HURT

    If you’ve been hurt in past relationships… this is the episode you need to hear.Most people think they’re healing… But they’re actually keeping their wounds open.Waiting for closure.Waiting for an apology.Waiting for someone to finally say:"You were right. I was wrong."But here’s the truth no one wants to admit:No one is coming to save you.And the longer you wait… The longer you stay stuck in the same patterns, the same pain, and the same relationships.In this episode, we break down:- Why you can’t move on (even when you try)- The illusion of “closure”- How your past is silently controlling your dating life- And what it actually takes to heal and move forward-This one might hurt… but it will help.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 WATCH to the podcast:https://youtu.be/UkBCj94ItdE🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    10 min

  6. Mar 12

    WHY DOING "TOO MUCH" TURNS THEM OFF (AND KILLS ATTRACTION)

    You showed up. You cared. You supported them. You tried to be the best partner possible… and somehow they still pulled away.In this episode, I’m responding to a listener submission from someone who feels like they always do everything right in relationships — thoughtful, supportive, emotionally available — yet their partners eventually lose interest and run.So what’s actually happening?We’re breaking down why doing more for someone doesn’t necessarily create more attraction, how over-investing early can quietly shift relationship dynamics, and why being the “perfect partner” can sometimes backfire.If you’ve ever heard “you’re amazing but…” or felt like you were the one carrying the relationship emotionally, this conversation will probably hit home.In this episode, we talk about:• Why over-giving can reduce attraction• The hidden problem with trying to prove you’re a great partner• Why some people love being chosen but struggle to choose back• How to stop over-investing in the wrong peopleIf this pattern keeps repeating in your dating life, this episode might explain why.💬 WORK WITH ME(coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    12 min

  7. Mar 4

    YOU'RE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP (HERE'S WHY)

    Wanting a relationship and being ready for one are two completely different things.A lot of people say they want love, commitment, and a serious partner — but their lifestyle, habits, and behaviour make a healthy relationship almost impossible.In this video, we talk about the real reasons someone may not actually be ready for a relationship yet.Healthy relationships require more than attraction. They require emotional discipline, accountability, and the ability to build something with another person.If you want a serious relationship but keep repeating the same patterns, the work usually starts internally.If you're serious about becoming relationship-ready and building something real, I work privately with clients inside my mentorship.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    7 min

  8. Feb 26

    SHE DIDN'T RANDOMLY LOSE INTEREST. YOU DID THIS...

    She didn’t just “lose interest.” Attraction doesn’t disappear randomly. It shifts when the dynamic shifts. In this episode, I break down the real reasons women pull back after being interested — and it’s rarely about looks, money, or another guy. If women seem interested at first and then suddenly distance themselves, it’s not bad luck. It’s behavioural patterns you may not be aware of. And the good news? Patterns can be corrected. If you’re serious about understanding attraction and building a healthy long-term relationship, I work privately with clients inside my 3-month mentorship. Apply here: https://www.edenmitelman.com/mentorship 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New episodes weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

    11 min
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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

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