Advice That Hurts & Helps

Eden Mitelman
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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

  1. 4d ago

    STOP LETTING YOUR PARTNER'S MOOD CONTROL YOURS

    Your partner comes home in a bad mood. They're quiet, distant, or just not themselves. And suddenly, you're anxious, overthinking, and trying everything to make them happy again. Sound familiar? In this episode, we're unpacking why our partner's emotional state can have so much power over our own, especially when people-pleasing, anxious attachment, or a fear of rejection is involved. We're talking about the difference between caring and emotional enmeshment, why you don't have to fix every bad mood, and how to give your partner space without withdrawing affection or tolerating disrespect. I'll also share practical things you can actually say and do when your partner seems upset. Because loving someone doesn't mean abandoning your own emotional stability every time they're having a bad day. It hurts. It helps. You grow. TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWatch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/Ft4ajLXZZmI🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  2. Oct 23

    HOW TO INITIATE SEX WITHOUT FEELING AWKWARD (AND MAKE YOUR PARTNER FEEL WANTED)

    Not sure how to initiate sex without feeling awkward, nervous, or like you're forcing it? You're not alone.Whether you're in a long-term relationship, struggle with making the first move, or feel like your partner is always the one initiating, it's time to talk about why initiating intimacy matters.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to initiate sex naturally, how to make your partner feel desired, and how to overcome the fear of rejection.Because here's the thing: your partner wants to feel wanted, too.We'll get into:- Why initiating sex can feel so intimidating- How to make the first move without overthinking it- Ways to show your partner you want them- How to handle rejection without taking it personally- The importance of communication and mutual desireRemember, initiating sex isn't about pressure or obligation. It's about creating a relationship where both people feel comfortable expressing what they want.** WORK WITH ME **Need personalized advice about your relationship, dating life, or intimacy?💬 Private Text Coaching:https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💕 Dating Profile Audit:https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/dating-profile-audit📞 1:1 Clarity Call (60 Minutes): Personalized advice to help you gain clarity and figure out your next steps:https://www.edenmitelman.com/clarity-call❤️ 3-Month Private Mentorship: Ongoing, personalized support to help you navigate relationships, dating, and personal growth:https://www.edenmitelman.com/mentorship🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman #datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  3. Oct 16

    HOW TO STOP LOSING YOUR MIND WHEN YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK

    You can really f*****g like someone. You can hope they text you. You can want a relationship to work. And you can still be okay if it doesn't.THAT is what mastering detachment actually looks like.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to want someone without needing them, how to stop obsessing over every little interaction, and how to stay grounded in yourself when you're emotionally invested in another person.Because detachment isn't about pretending you don't care, playing hard to get, or becoming emotionally unavailable. It's about learning to want an outcome without making your happiness dependent on getting it.IN THIS EPISODE:- Why detachment isn't the same as indifference- How to stop overanalyzing texts, mixed signals, and things you don't have answers to yet- Why not every little action needs to mean something- How to build a life that doesn't revolve around one person- Why you need to stop auditioning for someone's affection and start evaluating them too- How to let people show you who they are instead of constantly chasing or compensating- How to feel anxious without automatically acting on it- The real meaning behind "black cat energy" and "don't be a simp"TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  4. Oct 9

    Stop Wasting Time Dating: Make Your Intentions CLEAR

    Dating shouldn't be a guessing game. So why are so many people afraid to say what they actually want?Whether you're looking for something casual, a serious relationship, or you're still figuring it out... Making your intentions clear is one of the most important things you can do in dating.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to date with intention without coming across as desperate, forcing a connection, or playing games.We're getting into:- Why being honest about what you want isn't desperate- How mixed signals create unnecessary confusion- The difference between communicating your intentions and forcing a commitment- Why you need to pay attention to actions, not just words- How to recognize when someone isn't looking for the same thing- Why walking away from the wrong connection is better than trying to convince someone to choose youThe bottom line? You shouldn't have to manipulate someone into wanting the same things as you. Be clear about your intentions, give people the opportunity to show you theirs, and decide whether you're actually compatible.It hurts. It helps. You grow.Subscribe for honest conversations about dating, relationships, self-awareness, and becoming a better version of yourself.#DatingAdvice #DatingWithIntention #RelationshipAdvice #MixedSignals #ModernDating💌 TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman #datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  5. Sep 24

    ARE YOU FALLING OUT OF LOVE OR SELF-SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

    TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coachingDo you actually have a relationship problem — or have you convinced yourself that you do?Sometimes when a relationship is healthy, stable, and no longer giving you constant emotional highs and lows, your brain starts looking for something to worry about.Do I still love them?Am I settling?What if there’s someone better?Why don’t I feel as excited as I used to?What if this means we’re not meant to be together?And the more you analyze the relationship, the more uncertain you become.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we’re talking about relationship self-sabotage: why you can start searching for problems when nothing is obviously wrong, how anxiety and overthinking can make normal relationship changes feel like warning signs, and how to tell the difference between a genuine issue and a pattern of constantly questioning what you have.We’ll get into why healthy love can sometimes feel “boring,” the danger of chasing certainty, comparing your relationship to an imaginary alternative, and what to do when your own thoughts are becoming the biggest source of conflict in your relationship.Because sometimes the question isn’t “Is this the wrong relationship?”It’s “Why am I trying so hard to prove that it is?”💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Watch this episode on Youtube:https://youtu.be/FNjAzwoyEj0🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  6. Sep 12

    THE RED FLAGS YOU DON'T NOTICE UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE

    The worst red flags usually aren’t the obvious ones. They’re the ones that whisper.The little comments you brush off.The subtle inconsistencies.The way you start changing your behaviour to avoid a reaction.The things that feel slightly off... But not bad enough to leave over.Until months or years later, you realize they were telling you exactly what was coming.In this episode, I’m breaking down the red flags that are easy to overlook in the beginning but can eventually become the reason your relationship makes you miserable.Because sometimes the biggest warning signs don’t scream at you.They whisper first.TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  7. Aug 13

    CAN YOU PREDICT SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY? THE SIGNS BEFORE SLEEPING WITH THEM

    Can you actually know if you’re sexually compatible with someone **before** you have sex with them? I think you can get a pretty damn good idea.Sexual compatibility isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It shows up in the chemistry, the tension, how comfortable you are talking about sex, how someone communicates their wants, whether they respect boundaries, and whether you actually feel safe enough to be honest about what you like.Because sometimes the attraction is 🔥… and the compatibility is nowhere to be found.In this episode, we’re getting into the signs that can tell you A LOT before you ever sleep together, and why “we’ll just have to see” isn’t always true.* Sorry about the audio in the second half of this episode. My mic decided to tap out....💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/KoEj9AISJv4🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

  8. Jun 24

    Things Men Complain About That I Actually Agree With

    Women are not always the victims in dating. In this episode, I'm talking about several dating complaints from men that I actually understand, and in some cases, completely agree with. From coffee dates and financial screening to entitlement, validation addiction, opposite-sex friendships, and the misuse of therapy language, we're having the kind of conversation that tends to make people uncomfortable. Not because men are always right.Not because women are always wrong. But because accountability shouldn't only apply to the people we're dating. If we want healthier relationships, we need to be willing to examine our own behaviours too. 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change. Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point. It hurts. It helps. You grow.

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  • Creator
    Eden Mitelman
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    110
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Eden Mitelman
  • Show Website
    Advice That Hurts & Helps

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