Modern Husbands Podcast

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Winning ideas from experts to manage money and the home as a team. #Money #Relationships #PersonalGrowth #Family This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal or financial advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. Podcast guests do not represent Modern Husbands, and the views expressed in this podcast may not be those of the host or the management.

  1. 1D AGO

    The Mental Load: A Conversation with Dr. Julie Wayne and Paige Connell

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. Today’s episode is the second of a three part series: Empowering Men to Partner or Lead at Home: The Mental Load Today’s guests are Dr. Julie Wayne and Paige Connell. Dr. Julie Wayne is professor at Wake Forest University. She is a leading scholar on work-family integration and gender equity. Her research uncovers the structural and psychological barriers to balanced partnerships—and how men can take intentional steps to reduce the mental load on their partners. Paige Connell is a mental load strategist who equips families with clear tools to divide responsibilities fairly and prevent burnout. Her work, which she shares with hundreds of thousands of her followers on social media, translates the “invisible” into systems couples can use to feel more connected, supported, and balanced. The mental load isn’t just about who does the chores—it’s about who thinks about them. Today we will talk about making invisible labor visible. Enjoy the show. Show Notes Questions for Paige Connell 00:00 Introduction 01:31 Can you briefly define mental load, cognitive labor, and the consequences of imbalance? 04:42 Your research has uncovered key psychological barriers to sharing the mental load, can you walk us through them? 10:53 Can you share an example where a couple went from burnout to balance? 24:15: How can men step in and shoulder more at home? 32:04 What do your findings suggest are effective ways to invite men into this space meaningfully? 39:23 What tools or frameworks have been most effective for dividing the “invisible work”? 45:50 What are a few simple tricks couples can use to better work together? 49:24 Can you explain the difference between emotional labor and mental labor, and share which is more taxing and why? Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    54 min

  2. FEB 10

    When She Earns More: A Conversation with Dr. Gary Barker, Ed Coambs, and Melissa Hogenboom

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. Today’s podcast is the first of a three part series: Empowering Men to Partner or Lead at Home: When She Earns More. Today’s guests are Dr. Gary Barker, Ed Coambs, and Melissa Hogenboom. Dr. Barker is the President and CEO of Equimundo. He is an internationally recognized expert on engaging men and boys in gender equality work. Ed Coambs is a licensed marriage and family therapist, financial planner, and founder of Healthy Love and Money. He helps couples uncover the emotional roots of money stress, especially in relationships where earning dynamics are unequal. Melissa Hogenboom is a BBC journalist and author of the book Breadwinners: The Next Chapter of the Fight for Equality, which examines the social and relational impact of female breadwinning. Our conversation will focus on overcoming the unique challenges and dynamics in female breadwinning relationships. Enjoy the show. Questions 00:00 Introduction 01:25 You've worked with families across 40+ countries. What are some universal patterns you see when women become the primary earners? 06:09 In researching your book Breadwinners, what surprised you most about how female earners experience their relationships? 09:00 What are the emotional undercurrents behind money tension when she earns more? 16:22 What advice would you give couples trying to “rewrite the script” when roles flip? 21:15 How can couples begin uncovering and addressing money shame or resentment? 29:26 What cultural shifts do you think are needed—and possible? 32:01 Are the algorithms of social media adding to the belief that it’s “men vs. women” facing today’s challenges? 36:33 What types of men generally embrace relationships that include a female breadwinner, and what can we learn from them? 39:27 What does financial intimacy really look like in these relationships? 41:58 How can female breadwinners make their partners feel valued and loved for who they are? Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    45 min

  3. JAN 27

    Blended & Blessed: Navigating Estate Planning for Modern Families

    A conversation with Emily Bouchard, coauthor of Estate Planning for the Blended Family Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.  For today’s podcast we welcome Emily Bouchard. Emily is a Leadership and Legacy Consultant at a US Bank own firm who specializes in supporting blended families. She also co-authored Estate Planning for the Blended Family and Beginners Guide to Purposeful Prenups. Today’s discussion centers around estate planning and considerations in blended families. Enjoy the show. 00:00 Introduction 01:05 Can you explain what a blended family is and the different forms of blended families? 02:33 Where does your passion to support blended families come from? 06:00 Why is estate planning particularly important for blended families? 8:46 What are some of the most common financial challenges that blended families face when it comes to estate planning? 13:38 Can you discuss any specific tax considerations that blended families should be aware of when setting up their estate plans? 16:45 How should blended families approach the issue of guardianship to ensure that there are no conflicts among family members? 19:13 Could you explain the benefits of using trusts in estate planning for blended families? 22:53 Could you share any real-life examples that highlight unique solutions or common pitfalls in estate planning for blended families? 24:20: About Emily’s book 26:32 What is the single most important piece of advice you would give to couples in a blended family to ensure their estate planning is successful? Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    29 min

  4. JAN 13

    No More Mediocre: A Conversation with Laura Danger

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. For today’s episode we welcome Laura Danger, a licensed educator, facilitator, and domestic-equity advocate who has collaborated with the Fair Play team and is known on social media as @ThatDarnChat. Her book, No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships and Demand More, combines candid interviews, personal stories, and research to expose how unpaid domestic labor — and dynamics like “weaponized incompetence” — shape inequity in relationships.  In today’s conversation we explore the complexities of emotional labor in relationships, the importance of communication, and strategies for creating equitable home systems. Laura also shares insights from her book, emphasizing the need for curiosity and intentionality in relationships, and offers actionable advice for couples seeking to enhance their connection and reduce resentment. Enjoy the show. Show Questions 00:00 Introduction 01:53 Let’s start with sharing with the audience a little bit about you and your family.  03:36 In the book, you describe the moment you and Jack realized you were stuck in a loop: you carried the mental load, and he felt unsure how to jump in. What helped you both break that pattern? 06:31 You write about the “Nag Paradox” and how women become narrators of their partner’s tasks. What is the first step for couples stuck in that dynamic? 09:50 Can you define emotional labor and explain why it is so difficult to shoulder? 12:30 You say conflict isn’t something to avoid, but an opportunity for connection and clarity. How can couples begin treating conflict as collaboration? 15:28 You talk about good faith a lot. How can couples distinguish “won’t do” from “doesn’t know how yet?” 20:04 What is weaponized incompetence and can you provide gender stereotypical examples of men and women doing it? 29:55 You and Jack implemented meetings, shared task reviews, and even safe words for stressful conversations. What changes were most transformative? 33:17 Many couples think they need “more help,” when what they actually need is systems. What does a functional, equitable home system look like in practice? 37:12 Where do you see the most immediate wins for couples who want to reduce resentment and increase connection? 41:08 What would you say to a man who genuinely wants to “do more” but feels overwhelmed or afraid of getting it wrong? 44:08 If every listener could adopt one habit this week to make their relationship less mediocre and more connected, what would it be? 45:00 Where can listeners purchase your book and learn more about you? Purchase the book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/737921/no-more-mediocre-by-laura-dang Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    46 min

  5. 12/30/2025

    Willpower at Home: Strengthening Self-Control as a Couple. A Conversation with Dr. Kentaro Fujita

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Dr. Kentaro Fujita, a Professor of Psychology and Director of the Decision Sciences Collaborative at The Ohio State University.  He received his Bachelors in Psychology at Harvard College, and his Masters and PhD in Psychology at New York University.  He is an expert in motivation, goals, behavior change, and decision-making.  Much of his award-winning research explores self-control: that is, who, when, and why do some succeed and others fail at resisting immediate temptations that undermine more distant goals? We’ll explore how self-control shapes the way couples handle money, divide household responsibilities, and support each other through everyday challenges. Dr. Fujita will share research-backed strategies to strengthen willpower, reduce temptations, and stay focused on the big picture—both individually and as a team. Enjoy the show. Show Notes Introduction 00:00 Introduction 03:06 You’ve studied self-control extensively. How do you define it, and why is it such an important factor in our daily lives, particularly for couples managing money and household responsibilities? 6:40 The Marshmallow Study 13:05 Many of us think of willpower as simply “trying harder.” From a scientific perspective, what actually fuels or drains our self-control? 17:06 Can we discuss self control hacks with important context? 27:31 The concept of ego depletion suggests self-control is a limited resource. How does this play out in dual-career couples who feel constantly stretched thin by work and home obligations? 31:48 What does your environment look like when you talk about money with your spouse? 35:02 Where can our listeners learn more about you? 35:44: If you could give dual-career couples one or two evidence-based practices to consistently improve their self-control—both individually and as a team—what would they be? Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    38 min

  6. 12/16/2025

    Financial Caregiving For Your Parents: A Conversation with Beth Pinsker, CFP®.

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Beth Pinsker, CFP®, financial columnist for Marketwatch and author of My Mother’s Money. Beth shares the critical steps couples should take to prepare for financial caregiving—whether it’s naming a guardian for your kids, planning for your parents’ future, or managing the complex realities of blended families. She also unpacks how to balance caregiving responsibilities with work, retirement goals, and staying connected as a couple. Enjoy the show. Show Notes 00:00 Introduction 04:28 Your book My Mother’s Money is rooted in personal experience. What prompted you to write it, and why is financial caregiving an issue couples need to think about before it becomes a crisis? 07:16 Whether it’s for your kids, your parents, or yourself, what are the key legal and financial documents and considerations couples need to have in place? 13:35 What unique challenges do blended families face with caregiving and inheritance planning, and how can couples protect both their relationships and finances in those situations? 17:10 Caregiving for a spouse’s parent can be especially challenging—sometimes even requiring an in-law to move in. What can couples do to support each other and set healthy boundaries? 21:32 Caregiving can be expensive. How should couples budget and plan for the potential costs, and what resources (including Medicaid) are available to help? 27:54 With the upcoming Medicaid cuts from the Big Beautiful Bill, how might caregiving for parents become more difficult, and what steps can families take now to prepare? 39:18 Where can you go to purchase your book? 39:38 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you want to share with our listeners today? To purchase the book: bethpinkser.com  Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    43 min

  7. 12/02/2025

    Having It All: A Conversation with Dr. Corinne Low

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com. For today’s episode we welcome Dr. Corinne Low, an Associate Professor of Business Economics and Public Policy at the Wharton School. Dr. Low has spoken to top academic institutions such as Harvard University, Stanford University, and Oxford, as well as to organizations like the New York Federal Reserve, Brookings, and the US Department of Labor. Her research focuses on the economics of gender and discrimination. Her first book, Having It All, is a bestseller, and the focus of today’s conversation. We discuss the evolving definition of success, emphasizing the need to balance career ambitions with personal fulfillment and lifestyle needs. They challenge the traditional notion of success as merely career maximization, advocating for a more holistic approach that includes financial stability and time management. Enjoy the show. Questions 00:00 Introduction 02:45 Your book argues that women’s unhappiness isn’t a result of “trying too little” but of operating within systems that were never designed for them to succeed. What do you see as the biggest structural change that would make dual-career households more sustainable today? 04:27 You write that we should “think like economists” when making life decisions. How can couples apply that mindset at home—when deciding how to divide money, chores, and childcare? 07:23 You describe relationships and careers as “deals” that exchange time, effort, and money for certain payoffs. How can couples assess whether they’re both getting a good deal at home and at work? 17:10 In your research, you’ve found that even when women are the primary breadwinners, they still do more cooking and cleaning. What does the data tell us about why this happens—and what needs to shift culturally for men to truly share the load? 21:43 You’ve written that women’s time constraints are fundamentally different from men’s. How can couples design systems—financial or domestic—that make time equity as real a goal as income equity? 28:48 You challenge the old idea of “having it all.” If we were to redefine success for couples today, what should replace that phrase? 30:41 You’ve said this book is both a guide and a call to action. What do you hope men, in particular, will take away from Having It All about their role in building more equal partnerships? 32:51 What is one simple and actionable step you want listeners to take away from today’s conversation?  https://www.corinnelow.com/: Time Tracking Sheet Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    37 min

  8. 11/18/2025

    What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: A Conversation with Rhoda Mills Sommer, LCSW

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team. I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com. For today’s podcast we welcome Rhoda Mills Sommer, who has been helping couples for nearly 45 years, and is the host of the podcast, What Healthy Couples Know that You Don't. Today’s conversation explores the root causes behind money struggles, how to improve problem-solving and communication, and practical strategies for navigating hard conversations—especially around major topics like college expenses and shifting money values. Couples will walk away with tools to foster courage, connection, and clarity in their financial journey together. Enjoy the show. Show Notes 00:00 Introduction 01:35 What do you believe is underneath the struggles that couples have over money? 03:15 What does it mean to share power? 08:50 What is one big thing that interferes with couples problem solving over money? 11:25 What can help relationships improve their problem solving abilities? 13:38 What is one quality that husbands & wives can both embrace to help financial success move forward? 17:55 What can couples do to find their courage to have conversations about money? 20:20 What can improve hard conversations? 22:29 Your thoughts about spending money for kids on college? 32:55 Would you address money values changing over time? 34:32 What should couples watch out for that can easily derail money conversations? 36:31: Actionable advice for your life Rhoda Mills Sommer LCSW Blog & Website: therapyideas.net Twitter & Instagram: @rhodaoncouples Podcast: What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't Subscribe or follow Modern Husbands on social media! Newsletter Facebook YouTube LinkedIn Instagram Twitter TikTok Substack

    39 min
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Winning ideas from experts to manage money and the home as a team. #Money #Relationships #PersonalGrowth #Family This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal or financial advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. Podcast guests do not represent Modern Husbands, and the views expressed in this podcast may not be those of the host or the management.

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    Modern Husbands
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    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
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