The UnMothered Podcast

Phylis Mantelli
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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

  1. 3D AGO

    How To Become Confident In Your Own Life | Episode 130

    As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine? Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes for the first time) and not looking for outside affirmation.  This is sometimes hard when you haven’t been shown self-esteem or confidence in yourself.  I think we can agree that God is the only one who can help you feel your best as He walks with you to show you what true “self-confidence” looks like, but let's explore how we can get there on our own. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    19 min

  2. FEB 2

    The Generational Dysfunction of A Parent | Episode 129

    One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son.  Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything! My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    24 min

  3. JAN 27

    Are You Hiding Your Emotions From God? | Episode 128

    Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness?  This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you.  You might be surprised by some answers. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    18 min

  4. JAN 19

    Learning to Forgive an Abusive Mother After Years of Pain and Trauma | Episode 127

    I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story!  Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with her story! Today, Phylis is an author and speaker, and she recounts her story of surviving her mother’s abusive behavior as a child and later, as an adult, breaking through the pain of that abuse and trauma to become a daughter who forgave her mom and recognized that God loved them both. She talks about the “body, mind, and spirit” connection in spiritual and mental health, and details the 16-year journey that led her to not only forgive her mother but also love her. 🔗 CONNECT WITH COUNTER CULTURE MOM https://linktr.ee/CounterCultureMom My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    29 min

  5. JAN 12

    What Is Your Role As A Step Mother? | Episode 126

    What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    24 min

  6. JAN 5

    New Year, New Resolve | Episode 125

    How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needle My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    24 min

  7. 12/29/2025

    Most Downloaded Episodes | Can You Save The Relationship With Your Mom? | Episode 104

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Can you have a relationship with your toxic mother?  The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    23 min

  8. 12/22/2025

    Most Downloaded Episodes | But It’s Your Family: When Should You Stop That Excuse? | Episode 75

    My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it today! https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered-no-more Part of breaking generational dysfunction is to stop allowing the excuse of, “But it’s your family.”  When do we stick by family because it’s family, and when do we have to decide on something better? Over the years I’ve come to a realization that loving families show up and it’s a safe place, not a place that makes you more miserable when you are around them. Knowing that unless THEY (your mom or family member) want to repent and change AND show that difference over time, you are not required to “hang in there”. That serves no purpose and you will never change the dynamic of your future life or family. Stand strong in this journey of breaking generational dysfunction.  Remember you have a community here. If you haven’t joined “The Unmothered Community” our private group on Facebook is growing each day, and I have a lot of new plans for these amazing, strong women in the future. Just answer 3 questions and you are welcome to join us!  Family is not just the people who gave birth to you, but people who show up and love well!  Check out the book I mention: "But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath" by Dr. Sherrie Campbell: https://bit.ly/3X387yj (this is a affiliate link) The movie mentioned is “Hillbilly Elegy” which is the true story of VP Candidate JD Vance. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

    23 min
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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

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  • Creator
    Phylis Mantelli
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    148
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Phylis Mantelli
  • Show Website
    The UnMothered Podcast

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