The UnMothered Podcast

Phylis Mantelli
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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

  1. Sep 28

    When Spiritual Abuse Manipulates a Woman | Episode 142

    When Spiritual Abuse becomes the norm in the church, we are missing the boat on what church is about.  The documentary on Micah Miller has really sparked some good conversations about when we become blind mice in the eyes of a church gathering. The bible should be our final say, not what one pastor is telling you. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  2. Sep 14

    When Your Mother Wound Becomes Your Motherhood | Episode 141

    What happens when a woman enters motherhood without the support, guidance, or safety net of a mother of her own? Motherhood can bring joy, but it can also bring us into some of the darkest and most vulnerable places of our lives. When we are struggling without a strong support system, those difficult places can become even harder to navigate. And sometimes, all it takes is one unhealthy person or circumstance entering our lives to deepen those struggles and leave us feeling like everything is falling apart. In this episode, we explore the importance of surrounding struggling mothers with compassion, support, accountability, and practical help—especially women who may not have a mother or maternal figure nearby to lean on. What happens when a woman is trying to navigate motherhood while carrying the wounds of her own upbringing? The death of Hayden Panettiere struck a chord with me, particularly as I reflected on the public conversations surrounding her complicated relationship with her mother and her own experience of motherhood. Her story raises difficult questions about how unresolved pain and generational dysfunction can influence the choices we make and the patterns we carry forward. Generational dysfunction rarely begins with one person. It is often a series of wounds, experiences, relationships, and circumstances passed from one generation to the next. But the cycle doesn't have to continue. Let's explore how being unmothered can affect motherhood, why generational patterns can be so difficult to break, and—most importantly—how we can become the village that another woman may desperately need. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  3. Aug 31

    How Healthy Cooking Fits Into Real Life a Conversation with Kelly Miller | Episode 140

    We are back with part 2 of our conversation with Kelly! Kelly Miller is an author, health coach, marketing strategist, and lifelong believer that everything you want in life starts with your fork. She’s the creator of Healthy Cooking 101 and The Eat, Dream, Do Guide, built from years of personal testing and teaching women how to make real food and healthy cooking fit into real life. After navigating breast cancer in her 40s, Kelly’s belief that food is foundational became more than a philosophy. It became part of her toolkit for navigating life’s hardest seasons, reinforcing the importance of how we feed ourselves, make room for ourselves, and keep going after what matters. Now, she’s bringing those worlds together through Our Rooted Kitchen, a new monthly mini-cookbook subscription and community for busy women, solopreneurs, and business owners who are ready to put themselves back on the to-do list and feed themselves well. It’s designed to help women put the Food First mindset into action, building the energy and capacity to feel good in their bodies while creating lives they’re excited to wake up to. Her philosophy is simple: Eat first. Then dream. Then go do the dang thing. Simple, practical, and backed by science. Connect with Kelly Website: HealthCoachKel.com Instagram: @HealthCoachKel Facebook: @HealthCoachKel YouTube: @HealthCoachKel LinkedIn: Kelly Miller Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  4. Aug 24

    Growing Up Without a Mom or Mother Figure with Kelly Miller | Episode 139

    Today we are talking with Kelly Miller! We are marking this a two-part episode, so stay tuned for part two coming next Monday. Kelly is an author, health coach, marketing strategist, and lifelong believer that everything you want in life starts with your fork. She’s the creator of Healthy Cooking 101 and The Eat, Dream, Do Guide, built from years of personal testing and teaching women how to make real food and healthy cooking fit into real life. After navigating breast cancer in her 40s, Kelly’s belief that food is foundational became more than a philosophy. It became part of her toolkit for navigating life’s hardest seasons, reinforcing the importance of how we feed ourselves, make room for ourselves, and keep going after what matters. Now, she’s bringing those worlds together through Our Rooted Kitchen, a new monthly mini-cookbook subscription and community for busy women, solopreneurs, and business owners who are ready to put themselves back on the to-do list and feed themselves well. It’s designed to help women put the Food First mindset into action, building the energy and capacity to feel good in their bodies while creating lives they’re excited to wake up to. Her philosophy is simple: Eat first. Then dream. Then go do the dang thing. Simple, practical, and backed by science. Connect with Kelly Website: HealthCoachKel.com Instagram: @HealthCoachKel Facebook: @HealthCoachKel YouTube: @HealthCoachKel LinkedIn: Kelly Miller Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  5. Aug 17

    A Conversation Around Forgiveness and Healing with Amy Smyth Miller | Episode 138

    Let’s dive into a great conversation around forgiveness and healing with Amy Smyth Miller. Amy is a nationally recognized educator with a bachelor’s degree in special education and a master’s in counseling. She recently retired after a 30-year career in public education and lives in northern Washington State with her husband, “Captain Crusty,” her adult son with special needs, and her rescue dachshund, Oscar. Her essays and poetry have appeared in The Muleskinner Journal, Women on Writing, Persimmon Tree, The Healing and CPTSD Chronicles, As It Ought to Be Digital Magazine, and Whatcom Writes Anthology: Legacies. Her forthcoming memoir, HOME: A Memoir of Family Forgiveness, and Healing from Complex PTSD will be released on September 15th, 2026 and is available for presale wherever books are sold. You can visit her via the web: Website: www.amysmythmiller.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amysmythmiller Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amy_smyth_miller/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amy_smyth_miller Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  6. Aug 10

    Why UnMothered Women Pick the Wrong Men | Episode 137

    You deserve to have a happy, stable relationship with someone who honors your worth. But, do you have a fractured idea of what you deserve from a relationship because you witnessed your mom in her relationships?  Picking the wrong partner has a lot to do with how you witnessed your single mom (or dad) relate in their own dating life. The topic is an important subject if you are a single woman currently in the dating pool of life!  Let’s find out how to change the bad habits or advice you may have learned from your toxic mom.  My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  7. Aug 3

    When a Mom Loses a Child | Episode 136

    How does a mom talk about the child she had lost? This can be a touchy subject, but it is near to my heart since I've lost a child. I wanted to share with you how I navigated it with my girls. What happens when you haven’t talked about it and now your adult children have questions? Or have they written their own story around it? Only a mom who has lost a child knows this ache and can understand, but we can address it with empathy and compassion and honesty if we are ready. My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

  8. Jul 27

    Most Downloaded Episodes | An Emotionally Immature Mom vs. A Narcissistic Mom; What Is The Difference? | Episode 72

    We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back next Monday. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ Over the past few years, I’ve been studying the different types of toxic moms. Imagine my surprise when I started studying about toxic parenting and realized my mom was emotionally immature AND narcissistic!  I never knew what to expect from my mom from one day to the next. It was exhausting trying to figure it all out. It made so much sense, but also it hurt to see that her characteristics were so manipulative.  As I look through each of these problems, I have a story to match each of them. I bet you do too. I pray you find a way to keep working through this and start making change worthy behaviors where you don’t get bogged down with your mom’s immature, toxic behavior.  Know that immature parents have been raised by immature parents. This has to stop with you! You must be the chainbreaker in your family! God has given you this assignment, do it well and show the family you raise that those kinds of behaviors will NOT happen in your home. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/ Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/ Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunity Like to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts 💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast! *Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.

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When life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me.” This podcast is a place for mentoring and encouragement as we navigate the complexities of toxic parent relationships. Join me as I share my journey and invite God-filled guests to discuss emotional healing, overcoming childhood trauma, and personal growth. Together, we'll explore new thoughts and patterns to transform our lives. Hear stories from women who have walked similar paths and gain wisdom and support on your journey. Let’s find our way to becoming who we are meant to be, no matter where we started. Tune in for stories of empowerment, mental health support, and lots of love as we heal and grow together.

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  • Creator
    Phylis Mantelli
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    164
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Phylis Mantelli
  • Show Website
    The UnMothered Podcast

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