Aging ain't for Sissies

Marcy Backhus

Aging isn't easy. My name is Marcy Backhus and I am your host! Make sure your complete well-being is handled with a community and information that can make it easier and FUN. Aging needs humor, which you can find in the "Aging ain't for Sissies" Podcast, along with informational guests that give us the information we need. 

  1. 5D AGO

    You Don’t Need It All Figured Out Anymore

    What if getting older made life simpler, not smaller? That’s the thread we follow as we move from Chicago’s weather whiplash to the quiet freedoms that come with age: flexible plans, honest rest, and the courage to let the map change without calling it failure. We talk candidly about health—finding a cancer lump in a dream, doing workouts through chemo, managing a rare connective tissue disorder—and how reframing the body from enemy to expert messenger shifts everything. It’s not sugarcoating; it’s choosing a lens that helps you heal and live. We also open the door on home and money decisions that don’t fit the old script. A tiny high-rise condo we bought in 2001 as an investment is now the heartbeat of our days. Property taxes surprise us more than California ever did. A job ends, another one appears, and an unexpected “dream job” takes root at the cathedral. That pattern shows up again and again: most things work out, just not on our timeline. The proof is in the moves we didn’t plan—Texas, Denmark, Oregon, back to California, then Chicago—and the friendships and routines that bloomed in each place. Underneath it all is a softer stance toward time. Rest is no longer a reward you earn with exhaustion; it’s a need you honor before life hollows you out. Worry gets called by its true name: a thief of the present for a future that hasn’t happened. And resilience? It grows quietly, in the daily showing up, in the nap you actually take, in the way you tell your younger self, you’re doing better than you think. If you’re craving clarity, warmth, and a few hard-won laughs about aging, health, and home, you’re in the right place. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a quick review—what’s one belief about aging you’re ready to rewrite?

    19 min
  2. DEC 12

    We Get Older, Things Get Tricky, And We Find Smarter Ways To Cope

    The small things got louder: the grunt when we stand, the menu we can’t read, the shoulder that protests a perfectly innocent night of sleep. I wanted to untangle those moments with honesty and humor, then offer tools that actually help. We start with the floor—why getting up turns into a negotiation with nearby furniture—and land on the big culprit: muscle loss. From there, I share a simple plan that works in real life: eat protein first, vegetables next, carbs last, and add two or three short strength sessions a week to rebuild power in your legs and core. Water aerobics stays in the mix, but weights do the heavy lifting for independence. We also tackle the low-light struggle of menus and medicine labels. Your phone is your ally: the flashlight and magnifier are game changers, and accessibility settings can make text readable without squinting. I talk monovision contacts, the curious crime of “sleeping wrong,” and the pain relief routines that actually move the needle—think consistent topical anti-inflammatories and smarter sleep setup, not miracle cures. Then we wade into tech turbulence: surprise updates, broken printers, and how to keep your sanity with free classes, YouTube, and a willingness to learn the system instead of fighting it. Underneath it all sits energy management. One appointment can be the day, and that’s not laziness—it’s intelligent pacing. I walk through the mental load of getting out the door in a dense city and how a few strategies lower the stress: pre-planning routes, bathroom strategy, and giving your brain one task at a time. Along the way, I share travel plans, a health update, and a teaser for my new show, Unbottled, where sobriety wisdom meets everyday life skills. Come for the laughs, stay for the practical playbook. If this helps, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a quick review—what’s the one aging challenge you want us to tackle next?

    25 min
  3. DEC 5

    Fifty‑Four Tiny Ways To Reset Your Year

    The snow is piling up, the sun ducks between skyscrapers, and we’re choosing warmth the easy way: small sparks that actually stick. Instead of white‑knuckle resolutions, we map out 54 tiny, feel‑good changes that make 2026 brighter without draining your energy or your wallet. From the emotional comfort of a beloved movie to the joy of a shower playlist you actually sing along to, we explore simple rituals that lift the day and keep your momentum moving. We get practical about low‑effort wins: homemade salad dressings that make weeknight greens taste like a restaurant, handwritten thank you notes that reset the room, and quick compliments that change a stranger’s face and your own mood. We talk about city elevator kindness, why dogs are instant serotonin, and how rescuing a tired houseplant can be a quiet act of hope. There’s room for spontaneity too—saying yes to a last‑minute lecture, taking a different route home, or buying yourself a small treat for no reason other than it makes you smile. We also look inward, reconnecting with old passions and unfinished projects that still have a heartbeat. One cake class can unlock an artist. One playlist can shift a morning. One post‑it can save a day. After a year of medical storms and grit, we make space for grace, release the pressure to be perfect, and set a gentle course into the new year. If you’re craving doable ideas and a kinder plan, this one’s for you. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a quick review to help others find us. What tiny spark are you trying first?

    23 min
  4. NOV 25

    Why Retirement Feels Weird At First And How To Make It Wonderful

    Forget the glossy brochure version of retirement. We get honest about what happens when the calendar opens up, the title falls away, and the to-do list is yours to write. From late drops and real-life health worries to the small rituals that keep a day anchored, we map how freedom and responsibility can live side by side without burning you out. I share the unedited arc: decades of work that look different from the traditional path, the decision to downsize into a one-bedroom in Chicago, and the messy first year that followed. Then we talk about the turn—finding community at the pool, building a loose routine, learning to enjoy guilt-free downtime, and rediscovering creativity. We unpack the true pros of retirement—time, flexibility, travel on your schedule, and the joy of saying no—as well as real cons like chores that don’t retire, days that blend together, and the friction of two people home at once. Money gets the clarity it deserves. We break down why keeping fixed costs lean, paying down housing, and timing big purchases (hello, “last car”) can make everything feel lighter. We also explore how to travel smarter, not harder, and why city living can be a surprising win for safety, access, and daily connection. Most of all, we focus on identity: liking yourself more without a boss, forgiving old mistakes, and building a life that runs on community, movement, and meaning. If you’re retired, almost there, or just retirement-curious, this conversation offers practical steps and a warm nudge to design the next chapter on purpose. If this resonated, share it with someone who’s retired or wishes they were, hit follow, and leave a quick review—what’s your first guilt-free yes after you retire?

    30 min
  5. NOV 17

    Owning Your Space: A Candid Guide To Solo Aging

    A blizzard, a burst of seventy degrees, and a brush with the northern lights set the perfect backdrop for a truth we don’t hear enough: solo doesn’t have to mean sad. I’m unpacking what aging solo actually looks like—across divorce, widowhood, never marrying, and reinvention—and why autonomy can be a superpower when you pair it with planning, community, and a little mischief. We dig into the five most common solo scenarios and the real challenges underneath them: financial resets after a split, the grind of rebuilding social ties, health scares that demand fast decisions, and the risk of isolation when routines shrink. Alongside the hard parts, I highlight bright spots from lived stories—people who center their own needs, design a “friend family,” and keep purpose alive through travel, volunteering, music, and nature. If you’ve ever wondered how to start, I share a straightforward solo aging playbook: audit your budget and emergency fund, set up visible healthcare documents, choose two go-to advocates, and create a distributed support network so help isn’t resting on one person’s shoulders. From water aerobics that doubles as a lifeline to weekly buddy check-ins that keep the blues at bay, this conversation is about action you can take today. You’ll leave with three simple assignments—invite one friend to coffee, update one money or health document, and schedule one small solo adventure—that shift you from “getting by” to “living on your terms.” Solo can be center stage: clear, confident, and full of moments that make you grin when you walk back through your door. If this resonated, hit follow, share it with someone who could use a nudge, and leave a quick review—it helps more solo agers find a plan that fits.

    23 min
  6. NOV 7

    How To Not Be The Creepy Aunt Or Grandpa This Season

    Holiday lights are on, travel is messy, and family dynamics are about to get real. We’re choosing connection over perfection and sharing the exact moves that turn “creepy elder energy” into warm, genuine bonds with the kids and teens who make these gatherings worth it. No guilt, no lectures—just practical ways to show up as the grown‑up they actually want to sit next to. We break down how to meet younger family members where they are: recognizing the names and trends that matter to them, asking better questions that spark conversation, and bringing low‑stakes, high‑fun activities like simple Lego builds to the table. You’ll hear why compliments work better than critiques, how to use humor when a child points out your “crunchy” hands or a mole, and why respecting boundaries—especially around hugs—builds lasting trust. We also share our “Guestzilla” commandments for holiday etiquette: arrive with something thoughtful, offer help without taking over, skip politics, and say thank you twice. Underneath it all is a mindset shift: you earn attention by giving it first. Following a niece’s team on Instagram, texting encouragement during finals, or asking a teen to DJ a few songs lays groundwork all year so the holiday feels easy. When plans slip, laugh. When conversations stall, pivot to gratitude. The recipe is equal parts curiosity, kindness, and letting go of control, and it turns chaos into connection fast. If you’re ready to swap awkward small talk for real moments of joy, pull up a chair—we’ve saved you a seat. If this resonated, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a holiday reset, and leave a quick review telling us the tip you’ll try first. Your notes help more families find a warmer way to gather.

    17 min
  7. OCT 31

    Aging Boldly Means Outsmarting Your Smartphone

    Imagine paying top dollar for a tool that could save you time, money, and stress—and then using it like a coffee warmer. That’s how many of us treat our iPhones. Fresh off a trip to Ireland, I’m sharing the simple, real-world features that turn a $2,000 device into a trusted daily companion instead of a fancy texting machine. We start with the camera’s hidden talents: identify plants from a photo, decode laundry labels so you stop guessing at symbols, translate menus instantly, and copy text straight from an image into Notes or email. Then we level up your everyday flow with Notes as your all-purpose hub—scan documents to PDF, store lists, and keep key info handy. I walk through text replacements for faster typing, the Magnifier for small print, and Back Tap to trigger screenshots or other shortcuts with a double tap on the phone’s back. Security and payments get a practical refresh too. I explain why Apple Pay is the safest way to pay on the go, how I traveled across Ireland with just my phone, and the simple steps to pick the right card at checkout. We also cover smart settings that make life easier: set Location Services to “While Using,” silence unknown callers to cut spam, and set up your Medical ID so first responders can access important details fast. For anyone who says they’re “not techy,” I offer a weekly mini-challenge to build confidence one feature at a time—and point to Apple Store classes and quick YouTube tutorials to keep learning. This episode is a friendly push to explore, press buttons, and turn curiosity into capability. From saving money with store apps and stacked rewards to finding your parked car and customizing quick actions, you’ll walk away with practical wins you can use today. If this helped you unlock even one new trick, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a review with the iPhone feature you’re trying next. Your future self will thank you.

    19 min
  8. OCT 24

    Best of Episode: From Wi-Fi To Ukuleles: Your Library’s Secret Perks

    Enjoy this best-of episode while I'm touring Ireland. Ever thought of your local library as a life-hack headquarters? We start with a raw, moving reflection on the gift of aging—how wrinkles mark joy, gray hair signals wisdom, and time itself is the rarest present—then swing into a lively tour of how libraries have reinvented themselves to meet real needs. From staying connected with grandkids to rediscovering joy in museums and music, we map out easy wins that cost nothing and add a lot. You’ll hear how to tap library tech like Wi‑Fi, tablets, and hotspot lending to keep budgets sane without losing touch. We walk through cultural access programs that unlock free museum and park passes, plus a smart reminder to check credit card perks and city resident free days. We also spotlight memory cafes—gentle, welcoming spaces that support people living with dementia and their caregivers—and the unexpected magic of “human libraries,” where borrowing a story means borrowing perspective. For entertainment and learning, we unpack free streaming via Hoopla and Kanopy so you can watch films, documentaries, and concerts without subscription creep. And for hands-on living, we explore the Library of Things: tools for weekend projects, slide scanners to digitize old memories, yard games for family gatherings, and even instruments if you’ve always wanted to try a ukulele. Downsizers save space, curious minds try more, and families get simple ways to play and connect. If you’re ready to age boldly while spending less, this guide will have you marching into your library with a smile and a plan. Subscribe, share with a friend who loves a good freebie, and leave a quick review to help more listeners find us. What will you check out first?

    19 min
4.3
out of 5
9 Ratings

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Aging isn't easy. My name is Marcy Backhus and I am your host! Make sure your complete well-being is handled with a community and information that can make it easier and FUN. Aging needs humor, which you can find in the "Aging ain't for Sissies" Podcast, along with informational guests that give us the information we need. 

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