Our Whole Childhood with Patrick Teahan

Patrick Teahan
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This is "Our Whole Childhood" - hosted by Patrick Teahan - where we discuss everything childhood trauma, from the issues that we experience, to the stuff that comes up in our families, and to the healing work that we're all trying to get done. No clinical jargon—just real, personal stories of growing up with childhood trauma and the journey to healing.Learn more at www.patrickteahantherapy.com/ 

  1. 3D AGO

    Ireland—Where Flashbacks Pass Away

    In this episode, Patrick shares a personal story about what it can look like when long-held trauma responses begin to loosen after years of recovery work and how flashbacks can shift into quieter moments of recognition instead of distress. Rather than focusing on symptoms alone, Patrick connects the body-level experience of trauma anniversaries, shame attacks, and emotional flashbacks to the family system that created them, including emotionally immature parenting, addiction, domestic violence, and poor boundaries. Using a trip through Ireland as the backdrop, Patrick reflects on returning to the Ring of Kerry and Dingle Peninsula decades after a childhood visit with a narcissistic, alcoholic father and noticing a body memory that arrives without the old shame and fear. He contrasts that earlier experience with traveling alongside his son, describing what it means to feel detached from a parent’s legacy and present in your own life. Important Takeaways for the Listener: How trauma anniversaries can show up as subtle body memories, and how they can change after sustained healing workWhy kids often feel like accomplices to adult dysfunction, and how that fuels shame and distorted self-perceptionHow emotionally immature caregivers and chaotic family systems shape attachment, safety, and identityWhat it means to break cycles with or without becoming a parent, and how to separate yourself from a family legacyWhy overwhelm in the current climate can activate old survival states, and how to orient back to the presentHow reflective tools, including a toxic family style assessment he references, can help name what the ACE framework may miss about family dynamicsPatrick also discusses recovery themes like inner child work, repairing distorted perception, reducing shame-based identity, and building a life where you no longer represent your parents’ choices. If you carry a sense of inherited shame, feel easily activated by the world, or are noticing your triggers changing as you heal, this episode offers a grounded example of what progress can feel like over time. Keywords: childhood trauma, emotional flashbacks, body memories, shame attacks, trauma anniversaries, emotionally immature parents, narcissistic parent, addiction in families, intergenerational trauma, breaking cycles, inner child work, recovery Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    30 min

  2. JAN 16

    Was This Your Family? (9 Oddly Specific Family Issues)

    In this episode, Patrick Teahan, MSW, explores nine rarely named but deeply damaging family dynamics that quietly shape childhood trauma and follow people into adulthood. Rather than focusing on symptoms alone, Patrick breaks down the dysfunctional family systems behind them—the unspoken rules, emotional roles, and survival patterns that distort self-worth, boundaries, and relationships. As a follow-up to 11 Oddly Specific Childhood Trauma Issues, this episode examines how growing up in emotionally immature or unsafe families affects perception, identity, and connection. From households where feelings are ignored but secretly run everything, to families that bond through complaining instead of change, Patrick explains how these patterns condition children to self-betray, overfunction, or disappear. Listeners will learn: What happens when children grow up without mutually satisfying parental relationshipsHow scapegoating, gaslighting, and chronic blame damage self-trustWhy some families resist growth and punish successThe emotional cost of always being “the responsible one”How gender roles and hierarchy reinforce dysfunctionWhy survivors are often told to “be the better person” with abusive relativesPatrick also discusses recovery tools, including inner child work, repairing distorted perception, boundary development, and learning to step out of dysfunctional family roles. If you grew up feeling unseen, unsafe, or emotionally responsible for others, this episode offers language, validation, and a clearer path toward healing. Keywords: childhood trauma, toxic family systems, emotionally immature parents, CPTSD, family dysfunction, emotional neglect, scapegoating, parentification, trauma recovery, boundaries, inner child healing Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    34 min

  3. JAN 5

    5 Types of Lost Childhood Personalities

    This episode explores how childhood trauma and emotionally unsafe parenting can cause us to lose touch with our original personality, the self we were born with before survival, compliance, and shame took over. Through personal stories and clinical insight, Patrick explains how emotionally immature or abusive parents distort a child’s sense of self by mislabeling innate traits as problems. Poor emotional mirroring, lack of goodness of fit, and pressure to comply can force a child’s spark underground, leading trauma responses to be mistaken for personality well into adulthood. Learn how many survivors grow up feeling disconnected from who they really are, surprised by positive feedback, or unsure whether their behaviors reflect their true self or trauma adaptations, and how to begin reclaiming what was lost. Topics include: How childhood trauma suppresses innate personalityThe impact of emotional abuse, misattunement, and forced complianceWhy trauma responses often replace a true sense of selfThe five core childhood personality types and how they’re shaped by family dynamicsHow to begin reconnecting with your authentic identity through trauma healingIf you grew up feeling like the difficult child, the odd duck, or the misunderstood one, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path back to yourself. Keywords: childhood trauma, lost sense of self, emotionally immature parents, trauma recovery, inner child healing, emotional abuse, identity development, CPTSD, family of origin trauma Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    28 min

  4. 11/17/2025

    Why Are Victims Expected to Do All the Work?

    This episode tells the story of Thomas, a survivor who went no contact with his abusive father after a public meltdown at his wedding, and how the world around him quietly blames him for the relationship he didn’t break.  From well-meaning coworkers saying “all families have stuff,” to relatives insisting “you’ll have to let it go,” Patrick explores why the burden to forgive and reconnect so often falls on the person who was hurt, not the person who caused the harm. Learn how survivors like Thomas are pressured to “be the bigger person,” while abusers avoid accountability, and how to stop carrying that emotional labor yourself. Topics include: Why abusive parents are rarely held accountableHow relatives and in-laws minimize harm to “keep the peace”The shame, guilt, and invisibility survivors feel when going no contactThe hidden motives behind advice like “just forgive”How to flip the script and protect your peaceIf you’ve ever been told to reconcile with someone who never took responsibility for the pain they caused, this episode offers validation, and a new way forward. Keywords: family estrangement, toxic parents, no contact healing, emotional abuse recovery, accountability, narcissistic parent, trauma recovery, boundaries, forgiveness pressure, inner child healing Nearly 16M kids have lost grocery benefits. Help them get the meals they need! Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    24 min

  5. 10/24/2025

    Toxic Mothers and the Impact on Daughters

    This episode explores how growing up with a toxic or emotionally unavailable mother can shape a daughter’s sense of worth, identity, and boundaries, and how to finally break free. Rather than focusing on blame, Patrick unpacks the lasting emotional damage that daughters carry into adulthood and the path toward self-trust and emotional independence. Learn why patterns like people-pleasing, guilt, and over-responsibility aren’t flaws, they’re survival strategies that once kept you safe. Through stories, insights, and tools, Patrick guides you toward seeing your story with compassion and clarity. Topics include: How toxic maternal behavior damages self-perceptionThe “good daughter” role and its emotional consequencesGuilt, shame, and the confusion between love and obligationReparenting yourself and building healthy emotional boundariesReclaiming confidence and connection without losing yourselfYou’ll leave this episode with practical tools to stop carrying emotional responsibility for others, repair your self-image, and begin building the safety your mother couldn’t provide. Keywords: toxic mother, mother-daughter trauma, emotional abuse, inner child healing, childhood trauma recovery, boundaries, reparenting, self-worth repair, codependency, healing tools, family roles, emotional neglect  Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    46 min

  6. 10/15/2025

    Breaking Free From a Narcissistic Parent

    This episode explores how growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent can distort your perception of yourself, others, and your worth, and how to reclaim it. Instead of fixating on the parent, we look at the damage that lingers and the path to undo it. Learn why triggers around work, relationships, and self-doubt aren’t personality flaws—they're leftover survival responses from childhood. Patrick shares vulnerable personal stories about being cast as “the dumb one” and how those old narratives showed up in adulthood, even during success. Topics include: How narcissistic parents damage a child’s perceptionThe impact on self-worth, identity, and intimacyHypervigilance, projection, and feeling “in trouble” for existingThree powerful recovery tools:Protecting your inner childWriting a truth statementGiving back what was never yours to carryYou’ll walk away with practical exercises to shift perception, stop living in fear, and reclaim a sense of self that was always yours. ----------------------------- Workbook Chapters 1 — How to Get Your Inner Adult in Place … 12 2 — The Built-In Forgetter (Codependency) … 27 3 — Honoring Our Trauma Responses & Coping Strategies … 38 4 — Overcoming Magical Thinking … 51 5 — The Feeling of Being "In Trouble"… 63 6 — How to Stop Anticipating Criticism … 74 7 — Childhood Trauma & Physical Energy Issues … 84 8 — Depression Related to Childhood Trauma … 97 9 — Processing Childhood Emotional Neglect        (The Things That Didn’t Happen)… 107 10 - Processing Childhood Enmeshment with an        Emotionally Immature Parent …118 11 - Processing Childhood Trauma-Related Grief … 131 12 - Processing Guilt: Recognizing the Family History       Before Low or No Contact … 143 13 - How to Recover from a Narcissistic Parent … 153 Journal Prompts Journal Prompt #1: How did self-worth get twisted? How did your narcissistic parent create damage around your self-worth and how you perceive yourself? Write a list of ten experiences about lost self-worth due to that parent. Examples That Christmas when my mother made me stand up in front of the entire extended family while she berated me about why I didn’t get any gifts. My father would take any achievement I had and one-up me. I gave up on having self-worth because he was the focus. Journal Prompt #2: Who did they say you are? Write several paragraphs about your struggle with a healthy sense of self and how the narcissistic parent contributed to a poor sense of self. Who did your parents say you were, either through protection, neglect, or supply? Example I’ve always guessed at what I like or who I am. My mother had these twisted ideas, or fantasies, that I was going to become an entrepreneur and live a fabulous life in support of her. Did I want that? What even is that? What I know now is if she had a child who was a rich genius, she could have supply and validation—she could tell her friends she raised an entrepreneur. Of course I don’t know who I am. Access the workbook here Patrickteahan.com/workbook Keywords: narcissistic parent recovery, childhood trauma, perception wounds, inner child healing, self-worth repair, intimacy triggers, emotional abuse healing, trauma recovery tools Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    29 min

  7. 09/22/2025

    4 Tools to Fix Triggers

    This episode dives into the ways childhood trauma shows up in daily triggers—and how to break free from them faster. Learn how your past shapes present reactions and discover practical tools to release the emotional charge that keeps you stuck. Topics include: Understanding how triggers connect past and presentFour actionable tools for regulating emotional triggersHealing practices for body and mindReclaiming your time, energy, and creativity from traumaJoin us for an empowering conversation on building resilience, calming your nervous system, and supporting your inner child. Keywords: Childhood trauma, emotional triggers, healing tools, inner child work, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    26 min

  8. 09/15/2025

    Answering Your Questions! - Social Challenges

    This episode explores the ways childhood trauma survivors often feel left out in friendships and social situations, and how those early family patterns show up in adult connections. Topics include: Struggling to “jump in” during conversationsStarting friendships but pulling away quicklyFeeling “too much” or too intense for othersHow family modeling shapes social shameInner child work and dialoguing prompts for healingJoin us for an honest, compassionate conversation on finding belonging and becoming more comfortable in your own skin. Keywords: childhood trauma, social anxiety, inner child healing, friendships, boundaries, CPTSD, feeling excluded, self-worth. Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

    15 min
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This is "Our Whole Childhood" - hosted by Patrick Teahan - where we discuss everything childhood trauma, from the issues that we experience, to the stuff that comes up in our families, and to the healing work that we're all trying to get done. No clinical jargon—just real, personal stories of growing up with childhood trauma and the journey to healing.Learn more at www.patrickteahantherapy.com/ 

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