The Loving Truth

Sharon Pope
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

  1. 4d ago

    Episode 214: When Your Faith and Your Marriage Pull You in Opposite Directions

    Your faith tells you marriage is forever. But your marriage is hurting you. So…now what? In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast, we’re stepping into some tricky territory: faith, marriage, abuse and divorce. One of my members recently told her husband that she intends to separate and move toward divorce after 12 years of verbal, mental and emotional abuse. Then she went to church and heard her pastor preach that God hates divorce, even when abuse is present. Because, he said, the abuser could always change. And just like that, she was questioning herself again. Have I done enough? Have I tried everything? What if he really could change? Here’s the thing… I’m not here to tell you what to believe about God. What I believe is simply what I choose to believe. It’s right for me. That doesn’t mean it needs to be right for you. But if you’re wrestling with this question, I think that matters. Because there’s a difference between what you’ve been taught to believe and what you actually believe. There’s also a difference between what someone could become and who they have consistently shown themselves to be. At some point, we have to be willing to look at both. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to separate what you were taught to believe from what you actually believe. Why questioning doesn’t necessarily mean you’re losing your faith. Why the possibility that someone could change can keep you holding on for years. How fear of judgment can make an already difficult decision feel almost impossible. How to honor what you believe without abandoning yourself in the process. I also share some of my own journey with faith and why I struggle with any teaching that asks a woman to become stronger at enduring abuse rather than asking the person abusing her to stop. Because maybe the question isn’t whether someone else thinks you’ve tried hard enough. Maybe it’s: After everything you’ve tried, what has your experience shown you? Reflective Question: What would I need to know, see or experience to trust that I’ve done all I can do?

    Episode 214: When Your Faith and Your Marriage Pull You in Opposite Directions

  2. Aug 9

    Episode 213: Why More People are Staying in Unhappy Marriages

    The world feels uncertain right now. And when the world feels uncertain, we tend to hold tighter to what feels familiar. Even when what’s familiar doesn’t feel particularly good. Sharon is seeing more women choosing to stay in unhappy, disconnected marriages right now. Not because their marriages have gotten better, but because everything outside the marriage feels less certain. The marriage you were once seriously considering leaving can suddenly feel safer than the unknown of divorce. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve changed your mind about the marriage. It means something else may matter more right now. In this episode, Sharon explores what happens when the question, “Should I stay or go?” gets quieter and you find yourself choosing to stay in a marriage you’re not sure you would choose under different circumstances. Through the story of Evelyn, who is married to a man who can feel like two entirely different people depending on whether he’s sober or high, we’ll look at what it means to make peace with a marriage that isn’t what you want it to be. Because acceptance isn’t helplessness. Acceptance is getting honest about what is true, what you can control, and what you’re choosing from here. We’ll also talk about something that has to be part of any honest conversation about divorce in midlife: money. Not to scare you into staying. But to help you make a decision with your eyes wide open. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why uncertainty can make an unhappy marriage feel safer than divorce. How our need for safety can take priority over connection and intimacy. The difference between feeling stuck and consciously choosing to stay. What acceptance looks like when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be. Why the financial realities of divorce in midlife deserve a seat at the table. How to create more peace with the choice you’re making right now. You may not love every choice available to you. But there is a big difference between “I have no choice” and “This is the choice I’m making right now.” Reflection Question What would need to shift within me for me to genuinely feel at peace with the life and marriage I’m choosing?

    Episode 213: Why More People are Staying in Unhappy Marriages

  3. Aug 2

    Episode 212: The Hard Truth About Why He Hasn’t Changed

    You've been trying to get him to see it. To hear you. To understand you. To finally change. You've explained it. You've cried. You've been patient. You've gotten angry. And yet...here you are. Still waiting. Because somewhere inside, you're holding onto the belief that if you could just say it the right way, something would finally click. But what if he already understands? What if he's simply making a different choice? In this episode, Sharon explores one of the hardest truths about struggling marriages: Your partner has been making choices all along. Every day. Every conversation. Every opportunity to show up differently. And those choices tell you far more than the promises ever will. Because every adult gets to choose. They get to choose how they show up. They get to choose what kind of partner they want to be. And they also get to live with the outcome of those choices. So do you. The question isn't whether your partner could change. The question is whether they're choosing to. In this episode, you'll learn: Why trying to change your partner keeps you stuck. Why patterns matter more than promises. How to tell the difference between someone's potential and their reality. Why acceptance creates clarity, even when it's painful. How to stop abandoning yourself while waiting for someone else to choose differently. Reflection Question: What truths about your relationship have you been resisting because accepting them would require you to make difficult choices?

    Episode 212: The Hard Truth About Why He Hasn’t Changed

  4. Jul 26

    Episode 211: Why You’re Doing Everything in Your Marriage (And Secretly Resenting It)

    You’re exhausted. You carry the mental load. You solve the problems. You keep everything moving. And you're wondering why your partner doesn't seem to step up. But what if, without realizing it, you've helped create that dynamic? In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most common patterns she sees in struggling marriages: overfunctioning. It's the habit of doing too much, taking on too much, and believing it's simply what a good partner does. Until one day, you're overwhelmed, resentful...and wondering why you're carrying the relationship alone. You'll discover why overfunctioning isn't really about being helpful. It's often driven by anxiety, control, or the belief that your worth comes from what you do for everyone else. And while those intentions may come from a good place, they often produce the exact opposite result. Because every time you rush in to fix, rescue, or take over, you leave no room for your partner to show up. Just because you can do everything doesn't mean you should. If you're tired of carrying the weight of your marriage, this episode will challenge you to stop creating the very dynamic you resent and start making space for something different. In this episode, you'll learn: What overfunctioning really is, and why it leads to exhaustion and resentment. Why so many women tie their value to being needed, helpful, or productive. How rescuing and fixing can unintentionally teach your partner to do less. Why overfunctioners and underfunctioners are attracted to each other, and why that dynamic eventually breaks down. The surprising connection between overfunctioning and masculine energy. How to step back without abandoning your marriage or creating more resentment. What it takes to build a relationship where two adults share the emotional weight. Reflection Question: Where in your relationship are you over-functioning… and then quietly resenting your partner for allowing you to?

    Episode 211: Why You’re Doing Everything in Your Marriage (And Secretly Resenting It)

  5. Jul 19

    Episode 210: Menopause Isn’t Ruining Your Marriage. It’s Revealing It.

    Menopause isn't ruining your marriage. It's revealing what stopped working a long time ago. If you've been blaming your hormones for the distance in your relationship, or your husband has been blaming your hormones for why things feel different, this episode will challenge that story. Because menopause didn't create the cracks. It simply made them impossible to ignore. For years, life was full. Kids. Careers. Responsibilities. There wasn't much room to stop and ask whether your marriage was actually working. Then midlife changed the pace. The kids became more independent. Life got quieter. And suddenly you were left with the truth of your relationship. Not because menopause changed your marriage. Because it changed what you're willing to tolerate. In this episode, Sharon explores why menopause isn't the problem. The unresolved patterns in your marriage are. The conversations that never went anywhere. The resentment that never got repaired. The loneliness that slowly became normal. Because every healthy marriage has to evolve. In this episode, you'll learn: Why menopause doesn't create marriage problems. It exposes them. Why women in midlife stop tolerating what they've tolerated for years. How to renegotiate your marriage instead of living by old rules. How desire changes during midlife and what that means for your relationship. Why gray divorce is increasing and what's driving it. The difference between choosing your marriage and simply settling for it. Reflection Question: Has your marriage actually stopped working… or have you simply stopped tolerating what never truly worked for you?

    Episode 210: Menopause Isn’t Ruining Your Marriage. It’s Revealing It.

  6. Jul 12

    Episode 209: The In-Between: Why So Many Women Feel Stuck in Their Marriage

    The most dangerous place in a struggling marriage isn't constant conflict. It's the place where nothing changes. You stop arguing because you've stopped expecting anything different. You go through the motions. You raise the kids. You pay the bills. From the outside, everything looks fine. But inside, you keep asking yourself: Is this all there is? In this episode, Sharon explores what she calls the In-Between. That place where you're no longer fulfilled in your marriage, but you're not ready to leave either. It's where many women spend years. Sometimes decades. Not repairing the marriage. Not ending it. Just waiting... hoping clarity will somehow arrive on its own. Through the story of Julie, a woman who spent nearly ten years questioning her marriage, Sharon unpacks why we stay stuck, why "comfortable discomfort" can quietly steal years of our lives, and why the clarity you're searching for isn't found by thinking harder. It's found by having the conversations you've been avoiding. Because courage doesn't come after confidence. It comes before it. If you've been asking yourself whether to stay or go, this episode will challenge you to stop waiting for certainty and start taking the small, courageous steps that lead to the truth. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the most dangerous marriages aren't always the ones filled with conflict. What "the In-Between" is and why so many women get stuck there. Why waiting for clarity often keeps you from ever finding it. How fear disguises itself as confusion. Why courage always comes before confidence. The conversations that create clarity, whether your marriage ultimately survives or not. Reflection Question: What courageous conversation or action have you been avoiding that might finally give you the clarity you say you want?

    Episode 209: The In-Between: Why So Many Women Feel Stuck in Their Marriage

  7. Jul 5

    Episode 208: Avoidance is Killing More Marriages Than Conflict

    Every time you try to have an honest conversation about your marriage, something happens. He gets defensive. He changes the subject. He tells you you're overreacting. He starts arguing about something else. Or he shuts down altogether. After a while, you stop bringing things up because it feels easier than hitting the same brick wall over and over again. But here's the problem. What goes unspoken doesn't disappear. It simply grows into distance. In this episode, Sharon explores why so many people avoid difficult conversations, what's really happening underneath defensiveness and shutdown, and why avoidance slowly erodes even the strongest relationships. Because avoidance isn't usually about not caring. It's about not knowing how to stay present when something feels painful, threatening, or like failure. You'll learn why defensiveness, blame, angry outbursts, and stonewalling are all different ways we protect ourselves from discomfort, and why those protective strategies come at such a high cost to our marriages. Sharon also shares practical ways to change the conversation, including how to talk about how you communicate, the language that invites greater engagement, and how to stop chasing someone who isn't willing to meet you halfway. If you've spent years wondering how to get your partner to open up, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface while also helping you decide what healthy participation in a marriage really looks like. Because intimacy doesn't require perfection. It requires two people who are willing to stay in the conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why avoidance is often more damaging than conflict in a marriage • What's really happening when your partner gets defensive, shuts down, or walks away • Why many men experience feedback as failure and how that shapes difficult conversations • The fear underneath avoidance and how past experiences influence our reactions today • How to have a conversation about how the two of you communicate • Why pursuing a withdrawing partner often creates even more distance • What to say when your spouse refuses to engage or continually avoids difficult conversations • How to balance compassion with accountability without abandoning yourself • The conversation every couple needs before deciding whether it's time to stay or go Reflective Question What conversations have been avoided in your marriage for so long that the silence itself is now damaging the relationship?

    Episode 208: Avoidance is Killing More Marriages Than Conflict

  8. Jun 28

    Episode 207: When She Finally Left… Everything Fell Apart

    Audrey was married for 23 years. For most of those years, there was always another woman. Sometimes it was someone from high school. Sometimes it was a coworker. Sometimes it was inappropriate messages, emotional affairs, or naked photos exchanged online. Every time Audrey discovered something, the same cycle played out. She confronted him. He apologized. She hoped. And then it happened again. She stayed because she loved him. She stayed because they had four children together. She stayed because she believed this time would be different. Until one day, she realized it wouldn't. In this episode, Sharon explores the moment Audrey finally stopped asking whether her husband would change and started asking herself a different question: At what point does staying become self-abandonment? Together, you'll unpack why so many of us stay loyal to relationships that have stopped being loyal to us, why hope can quietly become the thing that keeps us stuck, and why patterns don't end simply because we recognize them. They end when we stop participating in them. If you've ever found yourself waiting for someone to become the person you know they're capable of being... if you've left before only to come back... if you've wondered whether you're staying because of love or because of fear... this conversation is for you. Because there comes a moment when the question isn't whether they'll change. It's whether you're finally ready to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why repeated betrayal slowly becomes self-abandonment. • The difference between hope and denial, and why confusing the two keeps you stuck. • Why leaving isn't usually one decision, but hundreds of small ones that lead to one final moment. • How waiting for someone else to change keeps you from changing your own life. • Why breaking a pattern requires more than awareness. It requires different choices. Reflective Question: Are you staying out of love… or out of fear of what happens if you leave?

    Episode 207: When She Finally Left… Everything Fell Apart
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As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret. On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness. If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

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  • Creator
    Sharon Pope
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    208
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2025 The Loving Truth
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    The Loving Truth

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