Life Uninhibited - The Enneagram 6 Podcast

Kristin Messegee
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Podcast for Enneagram Sixes

  1. Episode #174 - Discomfort is Part of the Deal

    3d ago

    Episode #174 - Discomfort is Part of the Deal

    What if discomfort isn't a problem?  What if it's just part of being alive? In this episode, I explore one of the biggest traps Sixes fall into: Believing that if we just work harder, do more, know more, prepare more, or get things "right," we'll finally feel safe. But underneath so much of our striving is a quiet belief: "I need to earn safety." "I need to earn approval." "I need to earn enough." And that belief keeps us locked in a cycle of over-functioning, self-pressure, and chronic discomfort. In this episode, we explore: Why Sixes use rigidity to try to feel safe The illusion of "enough" and why it never quite lands How discomfort becomes a signal instead of an enemy Why over-functioning feels so compelling Questions that help bring you back to yourself The difference between certainty and clarity Learning to tolerate discomfort instead of organizing your life around avoiding it A question to take with you: What if I stopped trying to earn what is already mine? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    24 min
  2. Episode #173 - Self Resistance and Sixes

    Jun 17

    Episode #173 - Self Resistance and Sixes

    What if the thing causing the most suffering isn't the anxiety, fear, frustration, or self-doubt? What if it's your resistance to them? In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest obstacles Sixes face: The constant internal battle with ourselves. We resist our feelings. We resist our reactions. We resist our humanity. And then we wonder why we feel stuck. Using stories from a recent family vacation, I explore how real change happens when we stop trying to force ourselves into being different and start becoming curious about what is actually happening. In this episode, we explore: Why resistance creates more suffering than the original feeling The difference between awareness and judgment Why your emotions don't need to be fixed, analyzed, or justified How self-judgment keeps Sixes stuck in old patterns Why curiosity creates change and shame does not The difference between your first reaction and your second response Where your real power and agency actually live This episode is an invitation to stop fighting yourself. Because the moment you stop resisting yourself... you finally have the space to change. A question to take with you: What part of my experience am I fighting right now? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    34 min
  3. Episode #172 - Head Heart Body

    Jun 10

    Episode #172 - Head Heart Body

    What if the thing Sixes are actually looking for isn't certainty? What if it's alignment? In this episode, I share a new framework I've been developing for understanding growth and healing as a Type Six through the lens of the three centers of intelligence: 🧠 Head ❤️ Heart 💪 Body I explore why self-compassion isn't just a nice idea or another thing we "should" do. It's foundational. Because when we learn how to create a different relationship with ourselves, something remarkable begins to happen: Our head, heart, and body start working together instead of against each other. In this episode, we explore: Why self-compassion is heart-centered work How Sixes can use their minds intentionally instead of reactively Why trusting yourself begins with how you treat yourself The connection between self-compassion and self-trust Why Sixes struggle to trust their instincts and inner knowing How alignment between head, heart, and body creates internal authority This episode is really about one thing: Learning how to become someone you trust. A question to take with you: What would change if I treated myself like someone worthy of trust? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    26 min
  4. Episode #171 - What is in the Light?

    Jun 3

    Episode #171 - What is in the Light?

    We've spent the last several episodes talking about the shadow. The parts of ourselves we don't see. The parts we reject. The parts we push away. But what about the opposite? What lives in the light? In this episode, I explore the traits and identities that many Sixes willingly claim as part of who they are: ✨ loyal ✨ responsible ✨ prepared ✨ helpful ✨ truthful ✨ reliable ✨ the questioner ✨ the protector These are real strengths. But they're not the whole story. Because when these qualities become identities instead of abilities, they can become rigid, exhausting, and limiting. In this episode, we explore: Why Sixes often build identity around usefulness and reliability The difference between who you are and what you're good at How loyalty, responsibility, and vigilance can become self-concepts Why "the questioner" isn't the same as inner authority The hidden cost of defining yourself by what you do for others What it means to soften your identity and become more whole This isn't about giving up your strengths. It's about holding them lightly. A question to take with you: Who would I be if I stopped defining myself by what I do for others? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    30 min
  5. Episode #170 - Shadow Work, Part 3

    May 27

    Episode #170 - Shadow Work, Part 3

    In this final episode of the shadow work series, we get very specific about what may actually live in the shadow of Type Six. And yes… some of it may sting. Because shadow work is not about finding “bad” things about yourself. It’s about discovering the parts of yourself you pushed away in order to feel safe, accepted, supported, or secure. In this episode, we explore: Why Sixes struggle so deeply with uncertainty The hidden relationship many Sixes have with aggression and anger Why personal authority and self-trust often live in the shadow The discomfort around power, control, neediness, and vulnerability How self-prioritization can feel “dangerous” to Sixes Why certainty-seeking creates unconscious behavior patterns And how curiosity + self-acceptance create real integration This work isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about becoming more whole. Because the parts of ourselves we refuse to see… often end up running the show. A question to take with you: What part of myself still feels too dangerous to fully own? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    28 min
  6. Episode #169 - Shadow Work, Part 2

    May 20

    Episode #169 - Shadow Work, Part 2

    Sixes often believe: “If there’s something wrong with me… I need to fix it immediately.” But what if that approach is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I continue our conversation around shadow work and why this kind of inner work can feel especially threatening for Sixes. Because for Sixes, seeing parts of ourselves we haven’t acknowledged can feel dangerous. Not just uncomfortable. Dangerous. We explore: why Sixes resist seeing what’s unconscious the fear of “not seeing everything” how we turn ourselves into threats to manage why self-fixing becomes a survival strategy and the transformative shift from self-rejection → self-acceptance This episode is ultimately about learning how to create an internal environment where: - your whole self is allowed to exist - fear can be acknowledged without shame - and you stop living in battle with yourself Because healing isn’t: “becoming perfect.” It’s becoming more whole. A question to take with you: What part of myself do I still believe makes me unsafe to love? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    20 min
  7. Episode #168 - Shadow Work, Part 1

    May 13

    Episode #168 - Shadow Work, Part 1

    In this episode, we explore shadow work through the lens of the Enneagram — specifically what it means for Sixes. I talk about: what the “shadow” actually is why we disown certain qualities, emotions, and reactions how fear and anger often get split apart in Sixes projection, defensiveness, and unconscious patterns and how the Enneagram helps reveal the parts of ourselves we don’t want to see But this episode is not about “fixing” yourself. It’s about learning how to: notice your patterns bring unconscious reactions into awareness and hold yourself with enough tenderness to actually integrate what you find Because the things we push away don’t disappear. They just operate from the shadows. In this episode, we explore: The difference between conscious vs unconscious fear and anger in Sixes Why the qualities we judge in others often point back to ourselves How projection works in real time The danger of making shadow work another way to attack yourself Why tenderness and curiosity are essential to real transformation A question to take with you: What part of myself feels too dangerous to fully acknowledge? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    31 min
  8. Episode #167 - Confronting Mistakes

    May 6

    Episode #167 - Confronting Mistakes

    This episode is a behind-the-scenes look at season one of Inside Story what I actually learned from that experience. It might not be what you think.  The huge fear so many Sixes carry: if people think ___ about me, then ___. I walk through how to actually finish that sentence, ask resourcing questions, and stop leaving yourself hanging in the worst-case story. The difference between insight (seeing yourself from a distance, which feels kind of good) and self-awareness (catching yourself in real time and going huh). Why the second one is what this work is actually about. The courage required of a Six: not more vigilance, but the willingness to look inside and trust that you have more than you think you do, that you're more supported than you realize, and that you don't have to know everything you think you're supposed to know.  Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence or Self Loyalty email series! You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

    26 min
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