The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

DeborahKat
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Sit down with Tantra teacher and professional Dominatrix Deborah Kat as she interviews experts in sex, intimacy and relationship. These rich and dynamic conversations share each guest's wisdom, caution and encouragement to support you to have the Better Sex you crave!

  1. JAN 8

    Staying Connected When Things Get Messy with Bryan Reeves

    If intimacy feels harder than it should, this conversation offers a different way of looking at it. This episode is about staying connected through real emotions, real differences, and the very human messiness of long-term relationships. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with men's and relationship coach Bryan Reeves. Bryan shares the winding path that led him here—from Air Force captain and corporate executive to relationship coach—after realizing in his late 30s that, despite being successful and well-intentioned, he had never actually learned how to create emotional safety or intimacy. That reckoning, and the heartbreak that came with it, shaped the work he now does with men and couples. From that lived experience, our conversation explores what helps relationships work in real life: why rigid masculine/feminine roles often fall apart in practice how emotional disconnection shows up for men, often without them realizing it a simple way of bringing awareness into the body instead of shutting down We talk about shared leadership in relationships, the difference between tolerating and appreciating one another, and why so many long-term conflicts aren't meant to be resolved—but met with more presence, humor, and care. This episode is an invitation to let go of the idea that good relationships are neat or conflict-free, and to approach intimacy with curiosity, compassion, and a willingness to stay on each other's side—even when it's uncomfortable. Connect with Bryan Reeves Website: www.bryanreeves.com Book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    55 min

  2. 12/18/2025

    Unlock Your Sexual Confidence with Melissa Louise

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pleasure advocate and sex educator Melissa Louise. We explore the connection between sexual confidence, creativity, and self-trust, and how owning your sexual energy can change the way you show up in your relationships and your life. Along the way, Melissa shares her personal journey of growing up in a conservative, patriarchal culture in South Australia and navigating cultural shame, sexual trauma, and rigid gender roles. Together, we unpack how both men and women are constrained by societal expectations, how mistrust between genders is reinforced, and what becomes possible when those narratives begin to loosen. Melissa also offers practical teachings and frameworks for expanding pleasure and confidence, including her grounded approach to helping men "m********e well" as a foundation for sexual mastery and relational presence. This episode offers clear insights and actionable tools to help you reconnect with your desire and show up more fully in your sex life and relationships. Connect with Melissa  Website: https://melissalouise.world Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissa_louise_intimacy/ Substack: https://melissalouise.substack.com/ Man in control: https://melissalouise.world/man-6739?am_id=deborah5221 Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    49 min
  3. The Better Man: Redefining Masculinity and Sex with Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude

    10/30/2025

    The Better Man: Redefining Masculinity and Sex with Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with psychologist and author Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude about what it really means to be "a better man." Together, we explore how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of real education have left so many men confused about sex, masculinity, and intimacy. Eric shares how his Catholic upbringing and family's unusually frank conversations about sex shaped his perspective, and how those early experiences inspired his book, The Better Man. We dive into common myths about porn, testosterone, and what men are "supposed" to want—and how those beliefs often block real connection and pleasure. Along the way, Eric opens up about the importance of platonic touch, the emotional cost of living inside "the man box," and what it takes to build relationships rooted in honesty and consent. We also talk about resentment, boundaries, and the hard truth that being a better lover starts with being a better human. Connect with Eric  Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/ Book: The Better Man https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/ Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    1h 1m
  4. Fierce and Tender Masculinity with Dene Sebastiana

    10/27/2025

    Fierce and Tender Masculinity with Dene Sebastiana

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with elder, teacher, author, and longtime men's work facilitator Dene Maria Sebastiana, author of Fierce & Tender: Healing the Deep Masculine. We explore what really happens inside men's circles—and why emotional maturity, vulnerability, and deep male connection are essential for better sex and healthier relationships. Dene shares his journey from growing up in a hyper-masculine world to leading transformational circles across the U.S. and Mexico. He talks about the power of integrating both the fierce and the tender—the masculine and feminine energies within all of us—and how that integration shapes intimacy, partnership, and personal growth. This conversation is grounded, heart-centered, and full of insight—a reminder that healing the masculine isn't abstract. It's embodied, relational, and deeply human. Connect with Dene Website: https://www.denemariasebastiana.com/ Book Fierce & Tender: Healing The Deep Masculine https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XSSBGXP Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    56 min
  5. How to Re-Spark Your Libido with Dr. Diane Mueller

    10/14/2025

    How to Re-Spark Your Libido with Dr. Diane Mueller

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with board-certified sexologist Dr. Diane Mueller. She holds doctorates in naturopathy and acupuncture, is the founder of MyLibidoDoc.com, and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast. Together we explore how science, spirituality, and sensuality come together to shape desire—what awakens it, and what quietly turns it off. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Diane shares her journey from a strict Catholic upbringing to reclaiming pleasure as a source of healing and power. Along the way, we talk about what's missing in traditional medical training around sexuality, how arousal cycles differ between men and women, and why libido isn't just hormonal—it's a reflection of vitality, safety, and connection to self. Dr. Diane offers deep insight into why passion fades in long-term relationships and how novelty can reawaken erotic energy. She reminds us that pleasure isn't indulgence—it's nourishment. And she shares grounded, practical tools from her upcoming book, Want to Want It, for reconnecting with your body, expanding curiosity, and creating more joy and intimacy in your sexual lif Connect with Diane Website: MyLibidoDoc.com Preorder the Book Want to Want it https://mylibidodoc.com/want-to-want-it/#a_aid=bettersex&a_bid=b520ee83 Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    54 min
  6. Pelvic Health, Pleasure & the Cooch Ball with Jana Danielson

    09/23/2025

    Pelvic Health, Pleasure & the Cooch Ball with Jana Danielson

    Pelvic Health, Pleasure & the Cooch Ball with Jana Danielson In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pelvic health expert and creator of the Cooch Ball, Jana Danielson. We explore the connection between pelvic floor health and sexual well-being, and how caring for this overlooked part of the body can unlock more intimacy, pleasure, and vitality. Along the way, Jana shares her journey of pain, incontinence, and dismissal by the medical system—and how discovering Pilates led to her healing and ultimately the creation of the Cooch Ball. We talk about the emotional impact of pelvic floor dysfunction, the difference between hypo- and hypertonic muscles, and surprising links between the jaw, feet, and pelvis. Jana reframes pleasure as a birthright and guides us through a simple breathing practice to release tension and reconnect with the body. You'll walk away from this conversation with inspiration, practical tools, and a fresh perspective on how small daily practices can transform not only pelvic health but also the quality of connection and pleasure in relationships. Connect with Jana Website: https://bloombetter.life/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thecoochball Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@Jana.Danielson Free Gift: Healthy Pelvic Floor eBook https://info.bloombetter.life/healthy-pelvic-floor-ebook585347 Connect with Deborah 
Questions and Answers  Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Resources & Links: Join us at Coochella Women's Wellness events: Santa Cruz – Sept 25 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1608715715009?aff=oddtdtcreator Emeryville – Sept 27 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1636824980579?aff=oddtdtcreator

    1h 5m
  7. Relational Leadership: Transforming Love Without Your Partner with Dr. Jeni Wahlig

    09/04/2025

    Relational Leadership: Transforming Love Without Your Partner with Dr. Jeni Wahlig

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex and relationship coach, Dr. Jeni Wahlig, co-founder of Powerful Love Relationships and creator of the Powerful Love Method. Together we explore how to create "next level love" through radical self-leadership—even when your partner isn't ready or willing to do the work. In this conversation, we dive into Jeni's Awareness → Choice → Power framework and how it helps you stop repeating old patterns, renegotiate agreements with freedom and repair, and reframe conflict as an opportunity for deeper trust. Along the way, Jeni shares her powerful personal story: a seven-year, on-again off-again journey with her partner Cal that spanned other marriages, included the heartbreak of separation, and ultimately led to their reconnection. She describes how shifting from blame to personal leadership not only transformed their relationship but also became the foundation of the Powerful Love Method she now teaches. From there, we open into a candid look at polyamory—not as a lifestyle of multiple partners, but as an identity and a practice of love as something expansive. Jeni explains why this perspective reshapes what it means to have a soulmate, and how embracing fluidity and ongoing repair can create resilience in any relationship, monogamous or not. This episode is your invitation to step into relational leadership—so you can claim your power, create safety for intimacy to grow, and experience the extraordinary love you deserve. Connect with Dr Jeni  Website: https://powerfulove.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/powerfulove Facebook   https://www.facebook.com/jeni.wahlig Youtube YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A Free Gift https://powerfulove.com/freegift  Connect with Deborah 
Questions and Answers  Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    56 min

  8. 08/11/2025

    Non-Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy, and the Search for Meaningful Connection with Mel Cassidy

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Mel Cassidy, a queer, multidisciplinary somatic practitioner and relationship coach who specializes in supporting queer and questioning folks navigating non-monogamy. Together, we explore the liberating possibilities of honest, consensual non-monogamy—how it works, why it can be both exhilarating and challenging, and what it means to approach relationships with openness and authenticity. Mel's personal journey—from crafting imaginative, non-monogamous love stories as a child to courageously embracing relationship anarchy and becoming their own primary partner—sets the stage for a conversation that is both vulnerable and deeply empowering. As we dive in, Mel shares how colonialism and the nuclear family model have shaped our ideas of love and commitment, why chosen and extended kinship networks are essential, and how perfectionism and societal norms can quietly limit our relational freedom. Along the way, we unpack Mel's unique framework for mapping relational landscapes, explore the nervous system's role in building meaningful connection, and discover how to create space for both autonomy and intimacy. If you're ready to break free from outdated scripts, expand your understanding of love, and build relationships that reflect your truest self, this episode offers both the insight and the tools to begin. Connect with Mel Website: http://radicalrelating.ca Insta: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating Free Gift mini-ebook Connection in Disconnected https://radical-relating.kit.com/74882e7ee9 Connect with Deborah 
Questions and Answers  Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com  Book a breakthrough session with Deborah 
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    55 min
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Sit down with Tantra teacher and professional Dominatrix Deborah Kat as she interviews experts in sex, intimacy and relationship. These rich and dynamic conversations share each guest's wisdom, caution and encouragement to support you to have the Better Sex you crave!

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