Find Love With Emily

Emily Bucknell
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  • Relationships
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Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

  1. Oct 3

    Protect Your Peace (While Dating)

    ❤️ Yup, love finally happens here: Attract YOUR Man is where love happens, with clear steps, tools, practices and guidance along the way that has helped 100s of women over 30 find lasting love. $44/MONTH • CANCEL ANYTIME 👉 JOIN AYM HERE ❤️ Come join the conversation about this episode on Threads @findlovewithemily Have you stopped dating? Or seriously thought about it? Because life would feel just feels SO much more peaceful without it? No dating apps. No wondering if he’s going to text. No boring talking stages, disappointing dates or getting excited about someone only for it to go nowhere. Honestly, I get it. But what if you love the peace you’ve found and you still really want love? Because if you want a relationship, the answer can’t be to protect your peace by keeping every man far enough away that he can never disappoint you. But it also can’t be forcing yourself through dating that leaves you anxious, exhausted and wondering why finding love has to feel this bloody hard. There IS another way. In this episode, I’m talking about how to protect your peace while dating, without becoming detached, shutting yourself off from men or giving up on the relationship you still want. You’ll discover: Why protecting your peace and staying open to love are NOT oppositesWhat makes dating disappointment send you straight back into “this always happens to me”How to stop one man or one bad dating experience changing what you believe about loveWhy learning to come back to love changes not only dating, but the relationship you eventually have too Because protecting your peace doesn’t mean protecting yourself from love. You can feel bloody good and date. You can let someone matter to you without losing yourself in what he does or doesn’t do. And you can keep moving towards love even when dating doesn’t go exactly how you hoped. Love follows love. 🎧 EPISODES TO LISTEN TO NEXT: Imagine If Dating Was Fun... The Break From Dating That Doesn't Cost You Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  2. Sep 26

    The Break From Dating That Doesn't Cost You Love

    If you’re thinking about taking a break from dating because you cannot face swiping on another dating app, forcing yourself through another boring talking stage or dealing with the aftermath of another first date that goes nowhere... I get it. You’re tired of getting your hopes up, putting in the effort, and never getting any closer to finding love. Dating can really suck! And so if you want to take a break, take it. Seriously. Step away from the dating apps, men, boring "getting to know you" conversations and just enjoy the relief of not having to think about dating for a while. ...but maybe you've done that before? You felt better, but then those "how will I ever meet anyone if I'm not dating" thoughts take over and you're back dating, putting yourself out there. And somehow it's the same men, the same disappointing experiences, till you get to that same point where you can't take it anymore and need another break. There’s a reason a break from dating can feel so good and still not change what happens when you go back. In this episode, we’re getting into the difference between taking a break and having a real reset, one that changes how you experience dating and finding love from here. You’ll discover: Why forcing yourself to keep dating when you’ve had enough isn’t helping you find loveWhy the relief of a dating break doesn’t always lastWhat you’ve been carrying from years of disappointing dates and dating adviceWhat changes when love becomes the main thing, and dating becomes just one part of finding it. If you’re ready to step away from dating, listen to this before you decide what comes next! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  3. Sep 22

    The Lesson I Wasn't Expecting That'll Help You Find Love

    If you’re exhausted by dating, doing everything you’re told to do and STILL not getting any closer to finding a real relationship, this episode is for you. Because there’s a huge difference between being busy dating and actually creating momentum towards love. Swiping more. Changing dating apps. Rewriting your profile. Trying another dating strategy. Working on your attachment style. Trying to say the “right” thing to men. It can feel like you’re doing something to finally change your love life, but really? NOTHING is changing. And I’ve recently had a very big reminder of this in my own life. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s been happening for me over the last year, the huge change I’ve made recently, and why I’ve realised I’m living the exact process I teach women inside Attract YOUR Man. You’ll hear: Why frustration and exhaustion are signs to stop pushing harderWhat to do when dating feels like something you constantly have to manage and controlWhy following more dating strategies can create noise instead of real momentumHow to get clear on how you actually want dating and finding love to feelWhy you don’t need to know HOW your relationship is going to happenWhat happens when you stop trying to force results and start letting love guide your next stepsWhy the quiet period after you change how you’re dating can feel so uncomfortableHow to recognise the small signs that real momentum towards love is already buildingWhy I’m going back through Attract YOUR Man myself — and inviting you to go through the entire process with me. If you’re tired of feeling like finding love is something you have to constantly work harder at, strategise about and somehow figure out, listen to this episode. Because there is another way to find your man, and I’m living it right alongside you! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  4. Sep 19

    You Don't Have To Be Happy Being Single

    If you’re single and desperately want a relationship, being told to “just be happy being single” can feel pretty freaking annoying. Because you might already have an incredible life... Amazing friends and family, a career you love, a cozy home, plenty of things you genuinely enjoy doing. And yet underneath all of that, there’s still this relationship-sized hole in your life with a whole lotta sadness attached. You still want your person. You still want someone to come home to, someone beside you for all the ordinary moments, someone to build a life with. And no amount of taking yourself on dates, finding another hobby or making your single life even more amazing is going to replace that. So what the hell are you supposed to do with that relationship-sized hole while you’re still waiting to find love? Because there IS something you can do with it that's very different from trying to convince yourself you should be perfectly happy without the relationship you really want. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why “just be happy being single and love will happen” gets it so wrongWhy it’s completely okay to admit that something IS missing from your life when you want a relationshipWhat’s really sitting inside that relationship-sized hole after years of dating and disappointmentWhy filling your life with friends, hobbies and fun experiences doesn’t actually change how you feel about finding loveHow years of difficult dating experiences can change what you associate love, men and relationships withWhy finding love can start to feel heavy, hopeless and near impossible even when it didn’t always feel that wayWhat needs to change so you can feel genuinely good about love againA simple practice you can start using now to change how you feel about the relationship you wantWhat to pay attention to when doubts, fear or hopelessness come upWhy this isn’t about being happy being single, it’s about being really gosh dang happy about love! If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who has been dating for years, wants a loving committed relationship and is tired of being told to just enjoy being single, this episode of Find Love With Emily is for you. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  5. Sep 15

    "I Never Get Past A First Date"

    If you’ve been dating for years and love still hasn’t happened, there are ways you could be holding yourself back from love without having any idea you’re doing it. And this is happening all the bloody time. Because there are certain things you say about yourself when it comes to men, dating and love that might seem completely true based on your experience so far. “I never get past a first date.” “Men don’t want someone like me.” “Dating doesn’t work for me.” But what if the way you see yourself is actually helping to keep those same dating experiences playing out again and again? In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m sharing one of the best breakthroughs that happened inside Attract YOUR Man recently, because it shows just how easily you can hold yourself back from the relationship you want without being able to see it. And once you DO see what’s happening, you can start calling BS on yourself, and finally stop being the woman who keeps having the same experience with men and dating. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why the way you describe yourself when it comes to dating and love matters more than you might realiseHow to start noticing the patterns that could be keeping you stuck in datingWhy you might keep having the same experiences with men even when you desperately want something differentWhat might really be happening when you feel like you never get past a first dateWhy you could be unknowingly holding yourself back from finding loveA completely different way to approach first, second and third datesWhy you don’t need to decide whether a man is your future husband on a first dateWhat I mean when I say, “When you slow down, love speeds up”How to stay open to love instead of ruling men out too quicklyHow changing what you do can begin to change what you believe is possible for you If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who is exhausted by dating, struggling to get second dates, wondering why dating never seems to go anywhere, or scared you’ll never find the relationship you want, this episode will give you a completely different perspective on what might actually be happening. EPISODE TO LISTEN TO NEXT: 🎧 He's Nice... But There's No Physical Attraction 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  6. Sep 12

    "I'm So Tired Of Being Told To Give Up On Love"

    If you’re a single woman dating in your 30s, 40s or 50s, you’ve probably noticed just how much negativity there is around dating, men and finding love. Dating apps are awful. Men only want sex. Romance is dead. Finding a good man after 30 is impossible. It's EVERYWHERE. And if you want to find love, you need to start noticing how much of it you’re letting into your world. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m talking about the negativity that surrounds single women who want a relationship, from being made to feel like you shouldn’t want a man at all, to the endless stream of stories telling you how terrible modern dating has become. It's not that you have to pretend every dating experience is wonderful or ignore the disappointment when something doesn’t work out. But there’s a HUGE difference between feeling it, moving through it and getting back to love… and making all that negativity your home and therefore the story you keep living. I’ll show you how to start getting out of the “dating is shit and men suck” story, get clear on what you actually want to experience with men and dating, and surround yourself with more of THAT instead. Because love follows love. And where you put your energy, attention and focus matters. In this episode you'll discover: Why wanting a relationship doesn’t make you any less smart, successful or independentHow other people’s opinions can make you question your desire for loveWhy negativity about men and dating can keep you stuck in experiences you don’t wantHow social media can quietly reinforce the belief that dating is awfulWhat to focus on instead if you want to meet kind, genuine and emotionally mature menWhy women inside AYM often find themselves naturally stepping away from negative conversations about datingHow to move through a disappointing dating experience without letting it drag you back into “I’m never going to find love” If you’re exhausted by dating and surrounded by messages telling you that finding a good man is impossible, this episode will help you see just how much that noise is affecting you, and what needs to change if you want to move towards love instead. Hit play and listen now! 🎧 Episode to listen to next: There's Nothing Embarrassing About Wanting Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  7. Sep 8

    Why It's Always A Fight For Love & Attention

    Finding love can feel like one, exhausting long fight you never win. It can feel so unfair when you think about how much love you have to give. And that you're not asking for anything ridiculous, or what other people don't have. You just want a loving, committed relationship with a man who actually shows up for you. A relationship where you can just relax. But for some reason, who you are and what you do, it never seems to be enough. It feels like you're always having to try harder, put more effort in, rethink what you're doing to find love, unsure of what else you can possibly do to finally make love happen. But what if the answer was never to try harder or put more effort in?!?! What if it was doing the opposite?! Because there’s something much deeper that's kept you fighting for love and attention... and never actually getting it. And once you understand this, you'll see how coming at finding love in a way that actually feels better, might be all that you've need to do all along. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why finding love can feel so much harder for you than it seems to be for everyone elseWhat’s actually driving the constant need to try harder when dating feels uncertainHow the fight for love and attention keeps repeating itself in your dating lifeWhy it feels near impossible to hard to relax and focus on your lifeWhat begins to change when you finally stop fighting and come back to loveHow to find love without the fight. If you’re exhausted from trying to make dating work and wondering why finding a loving relationship has been so damn hard, hit play and listen to the full episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

  8. Sep 5

    Imagine If Dating Was Fun...

    If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to find love, there’s a good chance you’ve also consumed a LOT of dating advice. Which dating app should you use? Should you message first? How do you get past the talking stage? How do you get a man to actually ask you out? Should you be more in your feminine energy, less anxiously attached, play it cool, stop trying so hard? How do you "put yourself out there" more than you are already?? And yet despite doing all the “right” things, finding the relationship you want still feels ridiculously hard. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, you'll see exactly why typical dating advice is isn't what you want to be listening to AT ALL, if you genuinely want real, lasting love. It's actually what's been keeping you single. The recent experience of one of the women inside Attract YOUR Man illustrates this perfectly... Five weeks ago, she was utterly disheartened by dating, struggling to get past the talking stage and on a real date and it felt like it was just problem after problem she needed to somehow solve on her own. Now... She's talking to 5 men, has 2 dates planned and in her own words dating is "SO MUCH FUN!!" This wasn't because her luck changed, she found some new manipulative dating strategy, or rewrote her dating profile for the 75th time. Something much more fundamental changed and dating got easier. If you’re tired of dating advice, dating apps, situationships and constantly wondering what you’re doing wrong, hit play and listen to this episode now. You'll see: Why more of the usual dating advice isn't the answerWhat happens when you stop trying to “get dating right”Why finding love and being good at dating are not the same thingHow to take the pressure out of datingWhat makes dating (legit) fun!What to focus on when what you actually want isn’t to be good at dating, it's love. 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here's What's Been Missing Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

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Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find. If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why. Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you. This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes. Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

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  • Creator
    Emily Bucknell
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
  • Show Website
    Find Love With Emily

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