Untempered

Naila
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  • Self-Improvement
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Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful  sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive  change in all of us.

  1. 2d ago

    Why We're Struggling in Relationships Now More Than Ever (with Lewis Huckstep)

    In this raw, honest conversation, I sit down with relationship coach Lewis Huckstep to unpack why even the most successful, driven people struggle most in their relationships covering vulnerability, triggers, self-sabotage, attachment styles, neurodivergence in relationships, and why so much therapy treats symptoms instead of root causes. If you've got it together everywhere except your relationships, this one's for you. 0:00 Introduction: why overachievers struggle in relationships0:19 Why relationships are the closest mirrors to your unhealed parts2:06 Why vulnerability is harder in relationships than in business2:49 What healthy vulnerability actually looks like5:07 Past hurt creates future fear5:43 The ARRI framework for working through triggers10:06 Can people perform vulnerability?15:34 Self-sabotage vs. self-protection16:38 The 3-part framework for a healthy relationship18:50 Discerning triggers from true misalignment23:57 Signs someone needs deeper shadow work30:42 Neurodivergence, excuses, and real struggles in relationships40:04 Handling shutdown phases without feeling abandoned48:31 Attachment styles and how long healing really takes49:09 Why most therapy treats symptoms, not root causes53:31 Closing thoughts Message from the host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. -#RelationshipAdvice #Vulnerability #ShadowWork #AttachmentStyles #SelfSabotage #Healing #PersonalGrowth #Neurodivergent #MentalHealth #RelationshipCoach #TraumaHealing #Podcast

  2. Aug 25

    #53- Why Covert Narcissists Are More Dangerous | Richard Grannon

    In this episode, Richard Grannon returns for a third time to explore the people surrounding narcissists — the enablers, the golden children, the black sheep, and everyone caught in the narcissist's orbit. We dive deep into the differences between grandiose and covert narcissism, how each type operates in the real world, and the devastating impact covert narcissistic parenting has on children. From manufactured moral outrage and emotional incest to the long-term effects on adult relationships, this conversation covers the full spectrum of narcissistic abuse dynamics. We also discuss whether social media is manufacturing more narcissists, the loneliness epidemic, and practical dating advice for spotting manipulation before it's too late.Do me a favour and click the subscribe button so you don't miss this season's line up of amazing guests like Richard! -Find Richard here : https://www.richardgrannon.com 0:00 - Intro & Subscribe0:24 - Welcome Back Richard (Third Time)0:42 - The Cast Around the Narcissist1:39 - Grandiose vs. Covert Narcissism5:20 - Schrödinger's Narcissist7:26 - Covert Narcissism & Domestic Violence8:07 - Narcissistic Parents: Covert vs. Grandiose9:11 - Emotional Incest & Parentification10:41 - Neuroticism & the Covert Narcissist15:25 - Manufactured Moral Outrage17:29 - The Highs: Charm & Love Bombing19:20 - How Covert Narcissist Parents Affect Adult Relationships20:24 - Why Richard Hates How Attachment Styles Are Used24:10 - The Golden Child vs. The Black Sheep29:37 - Psychopath vs. Narcissist Parents32:33 - Dating Advice: Red Flags & Boundaries37:40 - Is Social Media Creating More Narcissists?45:49 - Loneliness, Technology & the Human Condition

  3. Aug 18

    #52- What's Killing Relationships Right Now

    Relationship coach, men's work expert, and emotional maturity advocate Max Trombly joins me for one of the most honest conversations about modern dating, avoidant attachment, and why men check out of relationships.If you've ever over-invested in a relationship, attracted emotionally unavailable men, or wondered why a defensive man keeps showing up in your life, this episode is for you. Max has spent years coaching men and women on healthy relationships, emotional intelligence, and masculine development. In this episode, he opens up about his own first marriage, his healing journey, and what he teaches men about repair, vulnerability, and commitment. We cover: Why over-giving attracts avoidants and how to break the pattern The #1 green flag to look for before entering a relationship. Why therapy fails most men — and what actually works. #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalMaturity #MensWork #HealthyRelationships #ModernDating #AttachmentStyles #MensMentalHealth #Vulnerability #Defensiveness #HealingJourney #SelfAwareness #PersonalDevelopment #Untamed #UntamedPodcast #PodcastForWomen

  4. Aug 11

    #51- Happiness isn't What You Think It Is!

    In this deeply personal conversation, bestselling author and former Google X Chief Business Officer Mo Gawdat sits down to talk about happiness as a practiced skill, the stories we tell ourselves about our childhoods, and why suffering is often a choice rather than something life imposes on us.We dig into:🌟Why happiness (and fitness) is a muscle you have to keep training, not a switch you flip🌟Reframing painful childhood memories through the "vantage point" lens🌟The difference between pain/challenges and self-created suffering🌟The "Eraser Experiment" — why we wouldn't actually erase our worst moments🌟What love really is, and why it's separate from partnership, passion, romance, companionship, friendship, tenderness, and support (the "PPRFCTS")🌟Why slow-burn relationships beat instant chemistry🌟The dating app supply-and-demand problem — and how Emma, an AI-powered relationship app, is trying to fix it by matching people on depth instead of photos🌟A candid, wide-ranging talk about rewriting your inner narrative, redefining love, and reimagining how people find real connection.🔗 Try Emma: app.emma.love🔗 Join the waitlist: emma.love-Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. 🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-TIMESTAMPS0:00 Introduction2:02 Happiness as a Skill4:19 Childhood Conditioning & the Inner Voice9:42 Reframing Your Story27:18 Suffering vs. Pain31:14 The Eraser Experiment34:54 Understanding Love39:46 The PPRFCTS of Relationships47:46 Romance, Slow Burn & Dating-#Podcast #SelfHelp #MentalHealth #Dating #Relationship #Psychology #PersonalGrowth #Motivation #InnerPeace #Wellness

  5. 12/30/2025

    Ep 50. Sara Al Madani: Breaking Free From Toxic Relationships, Trauma & How to Manifest True Love in 2026!

    What does real healing actually look like and why do so many people repeat the same relationship patterns even after doing the work?In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Sara Al Madani joins me for a deep dive into healing, hitting rock bottom, and breaking free from toxic relationship dynamics that keep us stuck. We talk honestly about love, power, self authority, and the distorted narratives around men, women, and modern relationships.We also unpack how reality TV culture has normalised chaos, trauma bonding, and emotional dysfunction and why so many people mistake intensity for love.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationships, confused about their role in love, or ready to stop repeating cycles and consciously create a healthier future.If you are calling in true love in 2026, this conversation will challenge you, ground you, and change the way you see relationships forever.In this episode, we explore:• Why toxic relationships feel familiar and addictive• What hitting rock bottom really teaches you• The truth about healing that no one talks about• Men and women, polarity, and modern confusion• How reality TV has distorted our view of love• Manifesting aligned, conscious love in 2026 Make sure you click the follow button so you never miss an episode!

  6. 11/11/2025

    Ep 49: Be Untouchable To Narcissists!

    They didn't choose you by accident. And you didn't attract them by coincidence. There's a reason narcissists, manipulators, and abusers keep showing up in your life—and it has everything to do with you. In this eye-opening conversation with Richard Grannon, we're diving into the uncomfortable truth that most people avoid: why you became a target, what patterns you're unconsciously running, and how to finally become resistant to toxic relationships. This isn't about blaming yourself. It's about empowering yourself. Because once you understand what made you vulnerable, you can close the door for good. In this episode, we explore: Why self-awareness, not narcissist education, is the key to breaking the cycleThe psychological wounds that make you a "narcissist magnet"How trauma bonding keeps you stuck in toxic patternsWhat it really takes to become immune to manipulative relationshipsThe inner work that most abuse survivors skip—and why it matters mostIf you've spent countless hours trying to understand them, it's time to start understanding you. This conversation will challenge you, but it will also set you free. Richard Grannon is one of the leading voices in trauma psychology and narcissistic abuse recovery. His no-nonsense approach cuts through the victim mentality and gets straight to what actually heals. Watch until the end. This one hits different.

  7. 10/27/2025

    Ep 48: These Patterns Are Keeping You in Bad Relationships (How to Break The Cycle)

    Are you stuck in a cycle of attracting the same type of partner over and over?? In this powerful conversation with Caroline Middelsdorf, we dive deep into the hidden trauma patterns that keep us repeating destructive relationship dynamics. Discover why we're drawn to people who aren't good for us, what shadow work really means, and the practical steps you can take to finally break free from these patterns. If you've ever wondered "why does this keep happening to me?"This episode will change how you see yourself and your relationships.-🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH

  8. 10/06/2025

    Ep 47: BC Serna: The Silent Struggles Men Face in Love

    In this powerful and soul-stirring episode of Untempered, I sit down with storyteller, mentor, and heart-led leader and Tedx Speaker BC Serna to unpack masculinity, love, purpose, and the inner wounds that shape us all.We explore:What it means to be a man in today’s world—and the confusion surrounding masculinityWhy so many men fear emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityThe presence of feminine energy in male identityThe real reason so many people are cynical about loveHow pain can become purpose—and why your greatest wound might be your greatest teacherBC’s raw reflections on childhood, love, mentorship, and how he stays connected to truth✨ If you've ever felt lost in the noise, disconnected from yourself, or unsure of how to heal—this episode is for you.-🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH--Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.#dating #love #couples #relationships #mentalhealth #selfdevelopment

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Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful  sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive  change in all of us.

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  • Creator
    Naila
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    57
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Naila
  • Show Website
    Untempered

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