Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

Kristina Joy | Affair Recovery Coach, Spiritual Healing, Emotional Healing
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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com 

  1. 12h ago

    161 | The Honest Affair Recovery Timeline: And Why Year 2 Is More Dangerous Than Year 1

    💙 Need to talk through where you actually are? Book a Breakthrough Call! Ever thought, "How long is this supposed to take? Why am I still not okay? Is something wrong with me?" Nobody gives you a timeline. So today I'm giving you an honest one. It's longer than you want to hear, but I give you something at the end that actually helps. I share the full range of women I work with right now: one who ended things last week, and one who ended it twenty years ago. Two completely different timelines but the same healing journey. And I tell you about my own journey, including the part that isn't flattering. We explore: Breaking no contact after the one-year mark, and what it looks like for me now coming up on four years What nobody warns you about year two The mindset shift as time passes: stop surviving what happened, start building a life too good to risk What actually makes recovery shorter and why decisiveness and forward motion are the biggest variables you control Email me and tell me where you are on your own timeline! One week out? Six months? Twenty years? I read every one and I write back personally 💙 Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  2. 5d ago

    160 | God Is Speaking to You, Are You Listening? What I Learned at the Encounter Retreat

    🌱 A one-day gathering is coming this spring! Email me the word SPRING to join the waitlist. I'm home, and I promised I'd tell you what happened last weekend. A group of women walked into a beach house in Florida for the Encounter Retreat and left completely different. Today I'm telling you what God did in that room, what shifted in the women, and the thing He said to me on the beach that I can't stop thinking about. We cover: Nervous systems before content, phones down, feet on the floor How every woman carried a stranger's story all weekend with grace What actually shifted: women cutting contact, a marriage recommitted to, women intentionally walking into singleness with God, and every one of them using her story to encourage someone else My own silent question on the beach and the answer God gave me God is speaking to you. Are you listening? You didn't need to be in that beach house for that to be true. Email me and tell me what stirred! I read every one. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  3. Sep 29

    159 | Why Doesn't Anything I Try Stick? Safety Comes First

    💙 Sometimes safety happens with someone walking you through it. Book a Breakthrough Call now. Why doesn't anything I try stick? I've made the decision a hundred times. I've prayed about it. So why am I still here? I just got home from the Encounter Retreat, and I'm changing what I planned to record today because every single breakthrough in that beach house happened in the same order, and I want to tell you about it. Safety in the body and the room IS the work. We explore: Presence, regulation, and co-regulation before vulnerability Be, Do, Have, and why I tried to cut contact for years with a plan when what I needed was an identity How God does this too. Taking care of your body is part of your design The order: body → identity → decisions → vision. Be honest about which level you're on, and do the thing for that level. Not sure what that is? Let's talk! Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  4. Sep 24

    158 | On My Way to the Beach House: Will You Pray for Us?

    I'm leaving on a jet plane tomorrow. And I have a prayer request. I’m heading towards a beach house in Florida where a group of women are about to meet God, and I want you in it with us. So today I'm sharing exactly what I'm asking Him for, and praying the same things over you. What I'm praying: That every woman there, including me, would have a life-changing encounter with God That the Holy Spirit would be active, and that we'd recognize and engage with Him That spiritual chains would break, darkness would be pushed back, and Christ's Kingdom would come a little more on earth as it is in heaven Ephesians 3:16–21, inner strength through His Spirit, Christ making His home in our hearts, roots growing down into God's love, and the power to experience the love of Christ, not just understand it And the practical: health, safe travel, and real whole-being rest Would you pray this weekend? And if you want to send something specific for me to pray for, email me! I'll also be praying for you this weekend. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  5. Sep 22

    157 | The Affair Is Over but My Marriage Feels Empty: Is This as Good as It Gets?

    💙 Need to talk this through with someone? Book a Breakthrough Call. Affairs and marriage conversations don't happen on a timeline, so I won't make you wait either. The affair is over. We did the work. So why does my marriage feel like nothing? Was all of that for nothing? No. Something is starting, and today I want to show you what it is. What you're feeling is normal, and almost nobody talks about it. The story we get handed goes: crisis, confession, hard work, restoration. But there's a stretch in between that nobody warned you about, where the emergency lifts and you look up and think I don't know what I'm doing here anymore. I know this kind of flat because I've lived in it too. We explore: Why flatness after affair recovery is the emergency ending, not a verdict on your marriage The question worth sitting with: are you trying to fit back into a shape you outgrew? Why you have to grieve the gap between your expectations and your reality before you can build anything new The identity shift underneath it all: who am I now, and who do I want to show up as? Be, Do, Have Framework and why most of us live it backwards, waiting on an outcome to tell us who we are I’d love to hear more about who you want to be in your marriage! Send me an email so I can encourage you along the way! Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  6. Sep 17

    156 | What The Wife’s Betrayal Did to Her Husband's Body with GUEST Mike Moulton

    ⚠️ Content note: Mike shares that in the hours after discovering the affair, he thought about ending his life. He's years past that now, but we want you to know before you press play. What is my husband actually going through? What does he need that he isn't saying? And what is all of this doing to his body? Today's guest works on the other side of our story, and I asked him here on purpose. Mike Moulton coaches men through betrayal and the decisions that follow. In February 2020 he found out his wife was having an affair. Four weeks later the pandemic cost him the job he'd just started. He stayed in his marriage for eighteen months. And seven months after the divorce finalized, he had a near-fatal heart attack. We explore: What eighteen months of high cortisol did to him, 25 pounds lost, cigarettes that "became my friends," and a son who said "Dad, I just want you back" Why sex became about proving his manhood instead of intimacy How his journey uncovered that his relationship with his father (not the affair) was the core trauma underneath everything What his heart actually needed during that time- and how it’s the exact answer the women in my community give too Connect with Mike: 🌐 brilliantlifecollective.com 🎙 The Brilliant Life Podcast on YouTube Email me and tell me what surprised you. And if you think Mike might be a resource for your husband, reach out! I'm happy to make that connection. If you're struggling with thoughts of suicide, call or text 988 in the US. Please don't carry that alone. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  7. Sep 15

    155 | Am I Too Far Into This or Too Far Past It? Who the Encounter Retreat Is Actually For

    🌊 A few seats left. Email me RETREAT and let's chat! (PS- You get 6 months in the Rooted Community for free! 🤭) Ten days from now, a group of women will walk into a beach house in Florida, and today I'm telling you who's coming, what we're doing there, and the one thing every woman who said yes has in common. We cover: Who’s coming: women weeks out from ending an affair and women years removed, women rebuilding their marriages, women separated, women divorced, women hearing from God clearly and women sitting in silence What we're doing: carving out real time to hear from God, seeking Him with our whole being, and learning to hold grief and joy at the same time The Encounter Retreat is September 25–27 in Panama City Beach, Florida. A few seats left. Email me the word RETREAT and let's talk. And even if it's a no, email me and tell me what your next step is in this season! I’d love to cheer you on! Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  8. Sep 10

    154 | He Cheated for 15 Years: GUEST Lora Cheadle on What Accountability Looks Like & How She Rebuilt Life And Marriage

    🌊 Curious about the Encounter Retreat? Only a few seats left. Email me RETREAT and let's chat! (PS- You get 6 months in the Rooted Community for free! 🤭) What does real accountability actually look like? What did he do that made staying possible? And how long does rebuilding trust really take? Twenty-three years into her marriage, Lora Cheadle found out her husband had been unfaithful for fifteen years with five different women. Everything she believed about her life turned out not to be true, and she had to rebuild her identity from the ground up. She stayed. They did the work. And today she's telling you what actually made that possible, from her side of the story. Lora is an attorney, TEDx speaker, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and somatic attachment therapist. She's the author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, and she hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal. We explore: "Betrayal uncovers the truth, not just about what somebody else did, but about all the ways you betrayed yourself" Why vulnerability starts the whole cascade of trust What he did in the early weeks that mattered most Trust vs. trustworthy: why "do you trust him?" is the wrong question An honest conversation about physical intimacy Revealing yourself vs. being exposed Connect with Lora: 🎙 Podcast: FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal 🌐 loracheadle.com 📖 Free Betrayal Recovery Guide: betrayalrecoveryguide.com   Email me and tell me what landed! I read every single one and I write back. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com 

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