Conversations from the Heart

Yvette Erasmus
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A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.   Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection.  Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.

  1. 3D AGO

    #131 - When Anger Drives

    What if anger didn’t have to be a threat to love, and vulnerability didn’t mean weakness? This week we begin with a moment many of us recognize: a flash of road rage, a surge of intensity, a body flooded with energy. Beneath moments like these, something deeper is often asking for care and understanding. Colleen joins me to explore her concern for her husband, whose driving behavior has become frightening amid health stress and unspoken emotional strain. Together, we slow the moment down and look beneath the surface. We explore how many men are socialized to equate strength with control, leaving anger as the only emotion that feels permissible, while fear, grief, and vulnerability go underground. Rather than treating anger as something to suppress or control, we reimagine it as a powerful messenger pointing toward values, care, and aliveness. This conversation offers a compassionate redefinition of strength: not as emotional armor, but as the inner resilience that allows us to stay connected in moments of intensity. A thoughtful exploration of anger, vulnerability, and what it takes to build relationships that can hold the full spectrum of our emotional lives. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    39 min

  2. JAN 26

    #130 - Understanding Stigma: How Judgment Replaces Empathy

    We all carry invisible stories about what it means to be a “good person,” a “hard worker,” or someone who has truly earned what they have.  But what happens when we meet someone who doesn’t fit those stories? Someone living on disability income, or needing more support than we think they should? This week, we explore the quiet judgments and discomfort that can arise when we encounter difference. We look at how domination culture trains us to equate worth with productivity, independence with virtue, and need with failure, and how shame and stigma keep us disconnected from our shared humanity. This conversation invites a gentler, more honest inquiry into what judgment is protecting, and how we can stay connected without defensiveness, superiority, or pity. As we widen the lens, we also question the systems themselves: What if the problem isn’t the individual who needs help, but the structures that withhold care? A reflective exploration of judgment, dignity, and interdependence and an invitation to imagine human-centered systems rooted in empathy, cooperation, and the meeting of real human needs. Want to read more? Understanding Stigma: How Judgment Replaces Empathy in Modern Culture For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    1h 1m

  3. JAN 19

    #129 - How to Stay Grounded When Someone’s Coming in Hot

    What happens in you when someone comes at you with intensity? Do you freeze, go blank, lose your words, or start doubting yourself? We explore what it means to stay grounded when another person’s energy feels too hot to handle by talking with Kate, who finds herself going into freeze mode when someone else’s intensity rises and tone sharpens. Together, we explore how to meet our shutdown responses with awareness instead of judgment, seeing them as wisdom, not weakness. Afterwards, Josie brings up a nuanced distinction: What’s the difference between asking for what we need and demanding someone change? Where’s the line between honest self-expression and control? We’ll tease apart how to speak truthfully without blame, how to hold boundaries without closing your heart, and how to stay in integrity even when things get intense. If you’ve ever longed to stay calm, clear, and connected when someone else is coming in hot, this one’s for you. Want to read more?  How to Stay Grounded When Someone's Coming in Hot For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    37 min

  4. JAN 12

    #128 - How to Interrupt When They Talk Too Much

    Ever find yourself trapped in a conversation that feels endless, feeling your energy draining as someone keeps talking and talking?  Today we explore how to stay kind, connected, and honest while trying to interrupt. We unpack the hidden fears that keep us quiet (fear of rejection, fear of being rude) and the old “be a good person” conditioning that often silences our truth.  You’ll learn how to interrupt without guilt, speak from authenticity instead of irritation, and transform draining conversations into moments of genuine connection. Listen to discover: •Why “being nice” can block real honesty •What to say when your attention drifts and you want to re-engage •How to recognize when someone’s over-talking because they’re trying to process pain •Simple phrases that bring both people back into connection Listen in for a gentle, empowering guide if you’ve ever felt stuck between caring for others and caring for yourself.  For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    36 min

  5. JAN 5

    #127 - What to Say When Fear is Reading Rejection (that may not be there)

    Fear loves to make up stories, especially about rejection. In this episode, Jodi and Jen bring us into real moments of reaching out, risking love, and meeting old anxieties with new courage.  We explore how fear distorts reality, how feedback loops restore truth, and how connection deepens when we stop believing every story our mind tells. If you’ve ever hesitated to reach out because you were afraid of being unwanted, this episode will help you pause, soften, and see with clearer eyes. Listen to find out …  How to tell when fear is lying What to say when you’re afraid to reach outWhy nothing has to change for everything to feel different For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    46 min

  6. 12/29/2025

    #126 - Want Someone to Be More Emotionally Available to You?

    If you’ve ever found yourself wishing your partner would just open up, this conversation will speak directly to your heart. In this intimate episode, Nina brings forward a question many of us quietly wrestle with: What do I do when I crave emotional connection and my partner keeps pulling away? Together, we explore the anxious–avoidant cycle:  that painful push-and-pull dynamic where one nervous system reaches for closeness while the other needs distance to feel safe. I will unpack why these patterns aren’t personal failings, but nervous system strategies wired for survival. You’ll learn: Why your longing for connection can trigger another’s need for spaceHow to stop personalizing disconnection and start regulating your own systemThe difference between managing someone and revealing yourselfHow patriarchy teaches men to suppress emotions, and how reclaiming feelings heals us allThis episode offers insight, compassion, and gentle guidance for anyone learning how to love without losing themselves. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    52 min

  7. 12/22/2025

    #125 - When Saying "No" Brings Up Old Fears

    Why does saying no make your heart race? Why can honesty feel like risk? This episode explores what happens when boundaries stir up the old fear of losing love. Paul learns how a simple process check can bring kindness to endings, while Jereme discovers how early lessons about punishment and approval still shape her adult relationships. If self-advocacy makes you anxious, this conversation will help you find truth and tenderness in the same breath. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    26 min

  8. 12/15/2025

    #124 - When You’re Doing All The Emotional Labor

    In this week's conversation, Vanessa brings forward the pain of a friendship that feels increasingly one-sided. Together, we explore the difference between situational limits and structural limits in relationships, how to trust the “data” we receive when others shut down, and the grief that comes with realizing we may be doing too much emotional labor. We explore how to discern when to keep engaging, when to step back, and how to communicate desires for mutuality without blame. We also look at why some people can talk the talk of empathy yet still struggle to walk it in relationships. And, how to honor our own boundaries when reciprocity is missing. Listener Takeaways •Learn how to interpret someone’s emotional shutdowns as information about capacity rather than a reflection on your delivery. •Recognize the signs of over-functioning in friendships and how to stop carrying all the emotional labor. •Practice asking direct but compassionate questions that clarify whether mutuality is truly present. •Understand the developmental stages of NVC practice and why some people can use the tools for their own needs but not yet offer reciprocity. •Embrace grief as a necessary step when relationships aren’t mutual, while keeping your heart open to future possibilities. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection. Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on my free Wednesday live call Follow me on YouTube

    47 min
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A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.   Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection.  Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.

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  • Creator
    Yvette Erasmus
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    133
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Conversations from the Heart
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    Conversations from the Heart

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