Tomorrow is Not Today

Kingsley Colley

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Talking about business, family, life, purpose and building habits to create the life you want. Deeply personal, emotive and powerful interviews with amazing people who have discovered and are living the REAL meaning of success. People who have the mindset of living a life that is bigger than them, creating a legacy and leaving the world in a better place.

4d ago

Two Hours Beat Two Years Therapy

She Grew Up In Poverty, Was Abused By Her Father, Abandoned At 15 — And Turned It Into A Life Changing Others | Pamela Millican Pamela Millican survived one of the toughest childhoods you'll ever hear about — extreme poverty, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and being abandoned as a teenager — and turned it into a career helping others heal their identity, rebuild self-worth and reset their mindset. In this raw, unfiltered episode of Tomorrow Is Not Today, host Kingsley sits down with mindset coach, NLP master and trauma recovery specialist Pamela Milliken to unpack how childhood beliefs quietly run your entire adult life, and how to finally break free of them. Pamela opens up about growing up on one of England's roughest council estates, surviving a violent father and an absent mother, being sexually abused by a family member, and coming home from a family holiday at 15 to find her house empty and her family gone. She explains how she turned that trauma into two law and psychology degrees, became a European surfing champion within 12 months of picking up a board for the first time, and now helps clients, including survivors of serious abuse, create breakthrough results in hours, not years. This conversation is a masterclass in identity work, self-worth, people-pleasing, trauma healing, NLP, hypnotherapy and mindset coaching, delivered with total honesty and zero fluff. If you've ever felt stuck being who other people need you to be, this episode will change how you listen to your own story. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: Why your identity, not your circumstances, controls your resultsHow childhood beliefs are formed before age 13 and run your life on autopilotWhy "there's no failure, only feedback" changes everythingHow to know if you're an overachiever driven by trauma, not passionWhy comfort and familiarity keep people trapped in bad relationshipsThe 3 rules Pamela uses to shut down gossip instantlyHow to rebuild trust and safety after abandonment or betrayalWhy retirement is a myth and growth should never stopHow to create a life you want and leave a legacy you're proud of CHAPTERS: 00:00 Growing Up In Poverty And Violence02:00 Welcome To Tomorrow Is Not Today03:00 How Childhood Beliefs Create Your Identity06:00 There's No Failure, Only Feedback08:00 Good Parent Vs Bad Parent Myth13:00 Inside England's Roughest Council Estate17:00 Mother Leaves, Father Gets A New Partner21:00 Betrayed While On Holiday In Europe22:00 Coming Home To An Empty House32:00 Surviving Sexual Abuse As A Child39:00 Healing Trauma In 2 Hours, Not 2 Years41:00 Winning A European Title In 12 Months49:00 Why We Choose Familiar Pain Over Change59:00 Finding A Safe Relationship After Trauma1:11:00 How To Create A Life You're Proud Of ABOUT PAMELA MILLIKEN: Pamela Millican is a mindset coach, Master NLP practitioner, hypnotherapist and identity change specialist based on the Gold Coast, Australia. Trained through Tony Robbins and Cloé Madanes' Core 100 program, Pamela works with everyday clients, high-performing athletes and trauma survivors to help them dismantle limiting beliefs, heal childhood trauma and reset their identity, often in hours rather than years of traditional talk therapy. Connect with Pamela Millican:Website: https://www.pamelamillican.comInstagram: @resetwithpamelaYouTube: Reset with PamelaFacebook: Pamela Milliken / Reset with Pamela ABOUT TOMORROW IS NOT TODAY: Tomorrow Is Not Today is a personal development and real-talk interview podcast hosted by Kingsley, featuring raw, honest conversations with guests who've turned trauma, adversity and hard-won life lessons into purpose. Every episode dives into mindset, identity, mental health, resilience and self-improvement, because who you are today doesn't have to be who you are tomorrow. Listen and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes every week. Keywords: mindset coach, childhood trauma, trauma recovery, identity coach, self worth, overcoming trauma, NLP practitioner, hypnotherapy, domestic violence survivor, healing childhood trauma, personal development podcast, self improvement podcast, mental health podcast, motivational interview
Aug 2

Trapped between victim and abuser - I made a decision

She woke up completely paralyzed from the neck down — and doctors couldn't explain why. In this episode, trauma counselor and bestselling author Dawn Williams shares the story most survivors never tell in public. Dawn opens up about surviving years of domestic violence, the moment she realized she'd become both a victim and an abuser in her own home, and the autoimmune disease that left her body paralyzed after years of unprocessed trauma. Dawn is the bestselling, award-winning author of The Rebuilt Woman and founder of the Rebuilt Movement, which has helped thousands of survivors heal from domestic violence and abuse. In this conversation, she breaks down her four-dimensional healing framework, why it took her seven attempts to finally leave, how she rebuilt her identity while raising four daughters as a single mother, and how forgiveness — not forgetting — set her family free. She also gives an exclusive first look at her upcoming book, The Rebuilt Man, addressing the domestic violence and suicide crisis facing men. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of trauma, abuse, or self-doubt, this episode will show you it's possible to heal, and exactly where to start. This episode discusses domestic violence, abuse, and trauma. If you or someone you know needs support, please reach out to a domestic violence helpline or licensed mental health professional in your area. CHAPTERS:00:00:00 Cold Open: "I Woke Up Paralyzed"00:02:00 Welcome: Meet Dawn Williams00:04:00 Can Everyone Heal From Trauma?00:07:00 Dawn's 7-Year Journey Through Domestic Violence Begins00:09:00 Writing The Rebuilt Woman: The Book That Cracked Her Open00:12:00 The Call That Changed Everything: Times Square, New York00:15:00 Growing Up In Wales: When Violence Was Normal00:17:00 "The Hammer": Losing Her Identity In An Abusive Marriage00:21:00 The Morning She Woke Up Completely Paralyzed00:27:00 Getting Well: Faith, Diet, and Doing the Inner Work00:34:00 Why It Took Seven Attempts to Leave00:36:00 When Everything Cracked Open: Betrayal and Breaking Point00:45:00 Helping Her Four Daughters Heal Together00:56:00 The Hardest Part: Telling Her Kids Their Dad Wasn't Coming Back01:03:00 The Rebuilt Man: Why Men Need Healing Too
Jul 12

Jason King

Description: What do you do when the unthinkable happens? When Jason King lost his 18-year-old daughter Jordan to suicide in March 2023, he made a choice not to grieve in silence, but to turn that pain into purpose. In this raw and deeply moving episode of Tomorrow Is Not Today, Jason shares the full story: discovering he was a father when Jordan was already 20 months old, navigating the family court system, juggling COVID lockdowns, his wife's breast cancer diagnosis, and Jordan's mental health struggles, all at once. And then, the loss that changed everything. Now, from Broken Hill in outback New South Wales, Jason is creating the Jordan Liberty Project, a documentary film and community impact initiative aimed at opening up conversations around youth mental health, particularly in regional and remote Australia. With the Royal Flying Doctor Service as his first impact partner, and a growing coalition of local organisations behind him, Jason is proving that one person's story really can save lives. This episode is honest, practical, and deeply human. Jason talks about self-medication, sobriety, the physical foundations of mental health, and what it truly means to be kind to yourself. He also shares the moment, just three hours after his first public post when a young person messaged him to say the project may have saved their life. Whether you've experienced grief, are supporting someone who is struggling, or simply want to understand mental health in regional communities better, this conversation will stay with you. Support is available. If this episode brings up anything difficult, please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome & Introducing Jason King from Broken Hill 01:00 – The Jordan Liberty Project: A Documentary Born from Loss 03:00 – Acknowledging Jason's Courage to Share 05:00 – The Royal Flying Doctor Service Partnership 06:30 – Approaching Grief from a Place of Love, Not Tragedy 07:00 – Finding Out He Was a Father & Meeting Jordan for the First Time 09:00 – Family Court, Distance Parenting & the Years in Between 10:00 – Jordan Moves to Broken Hill: COVID, Breast Cancer & Crisis 12:00 – Surviving the Toughest Season: Jason's Mental Health Battles 14:00 – Self-Medication, Alcohol & the Turning Point 17:00 – The Week Jordan Died: Multiple Losses at Once 18:00 – Jordan's Journals & Knowing What to Do But Not Doing It 22:00 – The Power of Self-Kindness: Jason's Biggest Lesson 25:00 – Grief Never Leaves, But It Can Change Shape 49:00 – Laying Jordan's Ashes to Rest: The Alice Springs Journey 51:00 – Partnering with Schools, Sporting Clubs & Gravity Films 53:00 – Australia's Youth Suicide Statistics & Why They Matter 56:00 – Mental Health in the Outback: Farmers, Isolation & Remote Communities 58:00 – How to Get Involved with the Jordan Liberty Project 01:00:00 – The First Post That May Have Already Saved a Life 01:03:00 – The Community Labyrinth: A Peaceful Place for Mental Health 01:05:00 – Building a Coalition: Headspace, Lifeline, Mission Australia & More 01:06:00 – How to Create the Life You Want & Leave a Legacy You're Proud Of Connect with Jason & the Jordan Liberty Project: 🌐 jordanliberty.org 📱 Instagram, Facebook & TikTok: @JordanLibertyProject 💛 Tax-deductible donations: Documentary Australia
Jul 5

A Survivor's Story of Healing, Addiction & Speaking Up

In this episode, Rebecca shares her deeply personal story of surviving sexual assault at 15 years old, growing up under the weight of an angry stepfather's unresolved trauma, and the three decades she spent numbing her pain with alcohol and substances. We talk about what it means to carry trust issues from trauma into adulthood, why so many people replace one coping mechanism with another instead of facing the root cause, and why suffering in silence remains one of the biggest — and most preventable — killers today. Rebecca offers honest, hard-won advice for anyone currently walking through their own trauma: how to know your feelings are valid, why speaking up takes courage, and how she's turned her own healing into a mission to help others with trauma and mental health struggles. This is a conversation about pain, survival, and the slow work of building a life — and a legacy — you're proud of. In this episode: Rebecca's experience of sexual assault at age 15Growing up with an angry stepfather and inherited traumaHow addiction becomes a replacement for unresolved painThirty years of numbing trauma with alcohol and substancesAdvice for anyone currently facing traumaWhy suffering in silence is so dangerousThe courage it takes to speak up and speak outRebecca's mission to help others healCreating a life and legacy you're proud of
Jun 28

ISIS got my money - no regrets

What does it take to pack up your life, your wife, and three children, the youngest just nine weeks old and move to a war zone? For Tim Buxton, it wasn't recklessness. It was calling. Born in the jungles of Papua to missionary parents, Tim was wired from his first breath for a life most people would never dare. In 2014, on the exact day ISIS swept across the border and two million refugees fled into Iraq's Kurdistan region, Tim's family landed at Erbil airport — wide-eyed, oblivious, and exactly where they needed to be. What followed were three and a half years of one of the most raw, costly, and profoundly human experiences you'll ever hear described. Building micro-villages for Yazidi genocide survivors. Sitting with fathers whose daughters had been sold into slavery. Midnight escapes through ISIS-held territory in a car with no air conditioning and a smuggler's stash of contraband. The weight of two million stories pressing down on one man who had no money, no government backing, and no roadmap only purpose. But this episode isn't just about war zones. It's about what happens when you come home. It's about compassion fatigue and PTSD. About depression and driving Uber at 2am. About the moment Tim realised that the refugees he'd served in Iraq had followed him to Toowoomba, Australia — and what he did when they knocked on his doorstep. It's about his organisation You Belong (youbelong.org.au), which has spent a decade turning displaced strangers into neighbours, and volunteers into people who matter. And ultimately, it's about the one question that underpins everything Tim has ever done: Do you believe a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet? This is one of the most moving, perspective-shattering conversations we've ever had on Tomorrow Is Not Today. Stay for the whole thing. You'll leave different. Chapters 00:00 I Find Peace in Chaos 00:02 Introduction 00:03 Born in the Jungle 00:05 The Gold Coast Bubble 00:06 The Day Everything Changed 00:08 The Decision to Stay 00:10 How Iraq First Called to Him 00:14 Backlash from Family and Strangers 00:18 Born for This 00:20 Do It for the One 00:22 Building Micro-Villages 00:23 The Father Whose Daughters Were Taken 00:26 Compassion Fatigue 00:35 Post-Traumatic Growth 00:38 Bitter or Better 00:42 Teaching Kids to Suffer Well 00:47 Midnight Escape 00:53 The Yazidi People 00:58 The 12-Year-Old ISIS Fighter 01:02 Humanising the Other 01:07 The Uber Driver Experiment 01:15 A Stranger is Just a Friend You Haven't Met Yet 01:18 Coming Home 01:19 You Belong 01:24 Waymakers Not Refugees 01:30 Legacy You Belong | youbelong.org.au | @youbelongorg Tim Buxton | tim@youbelong.org.au
Jun 21

Falsely Accused in Maximum Security to Amazon Prime

From Wrongful Conviction to Filmmaker: Mack Lindon's Unstoppable Rise Mack Lindon was a registered nurse with a calling for the creative arts — until a false rape accusation at 26 shattered everything. In this raw and deeply moving conversation, Mack shares how a wrongful conviction, 19 months in maximum security prison, a retrial, and a corrupt justice system couldn't stop him from becoming a filmmaker, streaming platform founder, and storyteller fighting for truth in entertainment. From launching Rise and Rise of the Underdog (now heading to Amazon Prime) to creating Miami X — a family-friendly crime drama filmed right on the Gold Coast — and building his own streaming service MovieSense, Mack is pioneering a new way of doing things on his own terms. He opens up about his faith, his marriage, childhood trauma, his battle with drugs and alcohol, and what it really takes to pursue your calling when the whole system is working against you. Chapters 00:00 Welcome to Tomorrow's Not Today — introducing Gold Coast legend Mack Lindon 01:00 Miami X: Creating a family-friendly crime drama on the Gold Coast 02:00 Rise of the Underdog heading to MovieSense and Amazon Prime 03:30 The entertainment industry is "cowboy country" — keeping your soul intact 05:00 The story behind Rise: a registered nurse with a creative calling 06:30 Running away at 18, Africa, and a spiritual awakening 08:30 The false accusation — one night that changed everything 10:00 Guilty until proven innocent: the broken Australian justice system 11:30 Losing his nursing career before even going to trial 13:00 The trial, the corrupted jury, and a drunk judge 15:30 Sentenced to six years — then the judge dies 16:30 Nine months in maximum security, the appeal, and exoneration 18:00 The retrial, corrupt cops, and a no-case submission 19:30 Praying with his lawyer before the verdict 20:00 The moment he was finally freed — and what it meant 22:00 Jimmy Cove: the prison mentor who changed Mack's life 24:00 How Mack's faith helped a fellow inmate walk free 25:00 Meeting Em — telling her everything on the first night 26:30 Em's story: post-abortion grief and her own front line 28:00 Marriage, the retrial, and four years of separation 29:30 Drugs, alcohol, and the pain beneath the surface 31:00 Fear of your own potential — why people don't go deeper 33:00 The obstacle is the way: breaking through self-sabotage 34:00 Why Mack made Rise — life after prison is possible 35:30 Hollywood's role in breaking the family unit 37:00 Making Rise of the Underdog and the fight to get it screened 39:00 Gatekeepers, theatre chains, and the fixed game of distribution 40:00 Em's support and their separate but parallel front lines 42:00 The first step: unsubscribing and buying back your time 44:00 The culture war on young girls and fighting back through content 46:00 Taking action vs just talking about it 48:00 Making Miami X on $20K an episode — David vs Goliath 51:00 Every human is creative — pioneering a new way 53:00 The 2am warfare hour and finding courage in the dark 55:00 Faith in action: raising four kids and building a streaming platform 56:00 MovieSense: building a family-safe streaming alternative 58:00 Miami X season one, episode drops, and connecting the Gold Coast 59:30 Bluey put Brisbane on the map — Miami X can do the same 01:01:00 Starting small and trusting the road ahead 01:02:00 How to get involved — extras, locations, and business features 01:03:00 Legacy: trust your intuition and be present with people
Jun 14

Live Life Peacefully: A Mother's Impossible Choice

At 10 years old, Karina lost her dad in a sudden accident with no support and no roadmap. Decades later, she would face something unimaginably worse — the loss of her daughter Sophie to a drowning accident, complicated by epilepsy and a seizure that came without warning on a Sunday afternoon while Karina was at the supermarket. What followed is one of the most extraordinary stories of grief, purpose, and deliberate resilience you will ever hear. Within hours of Sophie being declared brain dead, Karina chose to donate Sophie's organs — a decision made in 30 seconds that went on to save at least 10 lives. She then channelled every ounce of that loss into building something that would outlast her pain: The Sophie Effect, a children's grief program; a mentoring network for bereaved parents; speaking engagements from the Sunshine Coast Lightning netball team to 800-person forums; and eventually, a solo trek to Everest Base Camp carrying Sophie's ashes — nearly dying on the mountain before scattering them at the summit. This episode is raw, deeply honest, and filled with real strategies for surviving the unsurvivable. Karina doesn't just talk about grief — she shows you what it looks like to choose your way through it, one controlled decision at a time. 00:00 Accident Aftermath Tease 03:03 Podcast Welcome Intro 03:55 Karina Background Legacy 08:19 Epilepsy Early Seizures 12:07 Pool Day Turns Tragic 16:29 Hospital ICU Reality 22:28 Brain Death Decision 23:38 Organ Donation Choice 31:13 Celebrating Sophies Life 33:21 Living Life Peacefully 38:37 Pushing Limits Everest 40:31 Dangerous Roads Alone 46:54 Bridges Panic Breakthrough 50:52 Mindful Trek Beginnings 51:22 Sacred Waters Lesson 52:34 Unprocessed Grief Opens 53:47 Monastery Tears Shift 55:04 Altitude Sickness Fight 57:30 Base Camp Farewell Ritual 58:39 Donate Life Awareness 01:01:37 Hospital Scare Aftermath 01:04:34 Mentoring Through Grief 01:06:38 Practical Dark Day Tools 01:08:47 Letting Go Of Blame 01:12:55 Senses And Control 01:18:53 The Sophie Effect Mission 01:21:25 Programs Awards Legacy 01:26:05 Work Speaking New Projects 01:29:12 Choice Legacy Closing
Jun 7

Eating Disorders Stole My Daughters. Here's What I Did

What if everything you thought you knew about eating disorders was wrong? In this powerful episode, Kingsley Colley sits down with Mark Forbes — co-founder of NDeD (Australia's first integrated eating disorder residential, day program, and accommodation village) — to unpack one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions affecting millions of people worldwide. Mark shares his deeply personal journey raising two daughters with eating disorders, the genetic science behind why it happens, and how a father's heartbreak became a world-first model of care. From the role of the MTHFR gene to groundbreaking research with North Carolina University, this episode will completely reshape the way you think about eating disorders — and the families fighting through them. Whether you're a parent feeling lost and guilty, someone personally navigating an eating disorder, or simply someone who wants to understand better, this episode is essential listening. Topics covered: eating disorder recovery, genetic predisposition to eating disorders, residential treatment Australia, NDeD charity, family impact of eating disorders, mental health support, lived experience, eating disorder awareness Chapters: 00:00 Welcome & introducing Mark Forbes and Ended 00:57 Building Australia's first eating disorder residential — a world-first model 03:00 Mark's personal story — two daughters, one mission 05:09 The genetics behind eating disorders — the MTHFR gene explained 07:30 Global research — mapping the full genome of eating disorders 08:30 How trauma pulls the trigger on a dormant genetic predisposition 09:46 "Genetics loads the gun, environment pulls the trigger" 11:45 The guilt and shame parents carry — and why it's misplaced 12:37 The emotional reality of the first diagnosis and a very lonely journey 15:42 What it actually feels like to have an eating disorder — the spider room analogy 17:06 How NDeD got its name — and the "Ed" story that started it all 20:00 A father's helplessness watching his child suffer 22:00 Why "just eat" is the worst thing you can say 26:00 The divide and conquer nature of eating disorders on families 32:00 Building a treatment team with lived experience at its core 40:00 What recovery actually looks like — and why it's never linear 50:00 Stage one — creating Australia's first eating disorder residential 58:00 Stage two — the step up/step down day program centre 01:03:00 Stage three — the short-term accommodation village opens April 1st 01:07:17 Community produce gardens, disadvantaged youth and 2.8 tonnes of donated food 01:09:36 The beautiful irony of people with eating disorders growing food for others 01:10:54 Baby steps, no pressure — how lived experience shapes the program 01:12:02 Finding privilege in a painful journey 01:15:58 Mark's life philosophy — letting the universe do the heavy lifting 01:17:24 How to contact Mark and Ended — website, phone & socials

Talking about business, family, life, purpose and building habits to create the life you want. Deeply personal, emotive and powerful interviews with amazing people who have discovered and are living the REAL meaning of success. People who have the mindset of living a life that is bigger than them, creating a legacy and leaving the world in a better place.

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Kingsley Colley
Years Active

2023 - 2026
Episodes

45
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Explicit
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