Tomorrow is Not Today

Kingsley Colley
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Talking about business, family, life, purpose and building habits to create the life you want. Deeply personal, emotive and powerful interviews with amazing people who have discovered and are living the REAL meaning of success. People who have the mindset of living a life that is bigger than them, creating a legacy and leaving the world in a better place.

  1. The Boxer Who Survived Addiction, Prison & Himself

    May 24

    The Boxer Who Survived Addiction, Prison & Himself

    In this powerful episode, we sit down with Gavin Topp - former Australian boxing champion, top-12 world-ranked fighter, author, and men's coach. Gavin opens up about a life shaped by a rough upbringing, street fights, addiction, world-level boxing, and a profound spiritual turning point. He shares how all of it led him to his true mission: helping men discover their purpose, step into leadership, and build a life and legacy they're proud of. This one is raw, honest, and packed with wisdom for any man willing to do the real work. Guest Bio Gavin Topp is a former Australian boxing champion who competed at the top 12 in the world. He is the author of A Rite of Passage for the Modern Man and The Man Alive book, and the founder of the Fight Like a Pro boxing program and The Man Alive Experience — an online program helping men level up in their family, business, and faith. Gavin has been married to his wife Michelle since their teenage years. Together they have seven children. In 2023 they relocated to Malta for over two years as part of living a purposeful, adventurous family life. Key Topics Covered The three men inside every man — and which one you actually listen toHow Gavin's chaotic upbringing, loyalty wound, and street-fighting years led him to the boxing gymHis struggles with alcohol and drug addiction as a young fighterTraveling the world at 19 with no plan — Singapore, Thailand, Amsterdam, and beyondThe lowest points: criminality, a casino robbery, almost driving through plate-glass doorsA series of unexplained spiritual encounters that kept showing up throughout his lifeFighting for a Commonwealth title in Edmonton, Canada while completely exhaustedHis faith journey and the Easter church service that changed everythingWhy he built a boxing program for men who had never fought — and what it really taught themThe myth of toxic masculinity — and what actually defines a manThe importance of initiation, validation, and having the right men in your cornerLiving by oaths — alcohol-free for 30+ years, marriage, purpose, and legacyTaking his family to Malta for two years and what that taught him about legacyThe "lone wolf" fantasy and why community is essential for menHis three-step framework: know your purpose, develop for it, deploy into itQuotes from the Episode "There's three sorts of men inside every man. There's the man I tell you I am, there's the man I think I am, and then there's the guy who lives on the inside — and that's the guy you gotta make your friend.""There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Either you've got a masculine man or you've got a toxic man. All that toxic is, is just a man who is undeveloped.""Environment is stronger than willpower — be very careful the environment you put yourself in.""A man is defined by the oaths he lives by.""Legacy is happening right now. Everyone's leaving a legacy, but is it the one you want?""You either know your purpose and you're pursuing it, or by default you end up pursuing somebody else's.""The lone wolf thing — it's a fantasy."Resources Mentioned gavintopp.com — Free resource: The 8 Biggest Mistakes Successful Men Are MakingThe Man Alive Experience — Gavin's online men's program (20-week purpose and mission clarity program)Fight Like a Pro — Gavin's boxing program for men who have never foughtA Rite of Passage for the Modern Man — Gavin's first book (read in 40 minutes; covers the 7 Pillars of Rite of Passage)The Man Alive — Gavin's second bookYouTube: GavinlancetoppInstagram: @gavinlancetopp

    1h 32m
  2. Her Mother's Last Words "I Don't Love You"

    May 17

    Her Mother's Last Words "I Don't Love You"

    On the Tomorrow Is Not Today Podcast, Kingsley interviews Donna Martin, a Northern Ireland “Derry girl,” mom of three, burnout specialist, mentor, and speaker behind The Good Life Approach.  Donna recounts growing up amid violence during The Troubles and being bullied after her mother left on Christmas Eve when she was four and a half, shaping years of feeling like an outsider, seeking identity through religion, then drink, drugs, and poor choices.  Encouraged by two women, she pursued nursing, then faced severe antisocial harassment and death threats after buying a flat unknowingly near a drug den, leading to breakdown, bankruptcy, and a pivotal moment of spiritual guidance. After depression, a move to Australia, marriage, and further family traumas including a car accident, she refocused her work on burnout and teaches “pause, check, reset” to intentionally define and live one’s version of the good life for individuals and organizations. Chapters: 00:00 Christmas Eve Abandonment 00:47 Choosing the Good Life 01:26 Meet Donna Martin 03:11 Growing Up in Derry 07:17 Mother Leaves Home 12:08 Outsider and Bullying 20:31 Teen Years Searching 25:59 Rock Bottom Inside 27:49 The Secret and Nursing 30:14 Mentors Who Believed 37:14 New Nurse New Nightmare 39:20 Rave Outside Home 41:24 Harassment Escalates 43:23 Community Watch Backlash 44:22 Threats And Escape 45:41 Bankruptcy And Breakdown 47:40 Bondi Park Sign 49:42 Judge Sets Her Free 53:18 From Trauma To Perth 58:07 Coaching Catalyst 59:10 Car Crash Reframes Work 01:01:57 Burnout Signs Explained 01:02:36 Pause Check Reset Method 01:09:29 Programs And Who She Helps 01:11:20 Legacy And Closing Connect with Donna Donna Martin - Burnout Specialist | Mentor | Speaker Https://instagram.com/thegoodlifeapproach  Https://facebook.com/goodlifeapproach Https://linkedin.com/in/thegoodlifeapproach Https://youtube.com/@the-goodlife-approach

    1h 13m
  3. Why Good Girls Choose Abusers

    May 9

    Why Good Girls Choose Abusers

    On the Tomorrow Is Not Today Podcast, Kingsley interviews Caroline Clarke, an ex-police officer and trauma therapist who works with women worldwide who sense something is wrong in their lives or relationships but lack language for it.  Clarke explains how early childhood (0–7) encodes a “blueprint” of people-pleasing and self-abandonment that can attract controlling partners, and shares vivid memories of protecting her mother during alcohol-fueled violence, creating hypervigilance and silence.  She describes how the body stores trauma, recounting a panic response en route to a knife-point hostage call that later connected to a forgotten childhood knife incident, and discusses fight/flight/freeze, breathing, shaking, and asking “How old am I?”  She outlines boundaries, red flags, emotional/coercive control, and rebuilding self-trust, plus her No More Silence foundation, her book Breaking the Good Girl Code, and her Miss Australia Legacy International mission. 00:00 Childhood Terror Memory 01:31 Meet Caroline Clark 02:44 Breaking the Good Girl Code 04:22 Blueprints From Early Years 06:46 Three Year Old Protector 11:03 Narcissistic Control And Survival 14:00 Body Keeps The Score 15:12 Police Panic And Flashback 19:27 Grounding In The Moment 21:30 Fight Flight Freeze Explained 24:25 Anger Triggers In Public 26:41 Deescalation And Trauma Roles 29:50 Bravery And Police Insights 33:06 Freeze Versus Fight Patterns 35:13 Fight or Freeze Patterns 36:01 Gender Roles and Conditioning 36:49 Breaking Relationship Blueprints 39:26 Her Story Emotional Abuse 40:54 Empty Fridge Analogy 43:09 Breadcrumb Cycles and Promises 47:59 Red Flags and Loneliness 50:48 Rebuilding Self Trust 52:44 Boundaries in Dating 56:51 Reparenting the Inner Child 59:05 Parenting Through Trauma 01:02:55 No More Silence Mission 01:05:50 Legacy and Where to Find Her

    1h 9m
  4. She lost her daugher to s**cide. Here's how she survived

    May 3

    She lost her daugher to s**cide. Here's how she survived

    This episode of Tomorrows Not Today podcast, Eslana Lower, a Gold Coast nurse, midwife, mother, business owner, and author, shares the story of losing her 15-year-old daughter Riley to suicide on Nov 17, 2022, after Riley jumped from their 33rd-floor balcony while Eslana and Riley’s sisters were home.  Eslana found her and describes the aftermath, including trauma, anger, and learning to “say yes” to grief and life.  She explains how childhood abuse and neglect shaped her, how parenting taught her, and why vulnerability is strength, emphasising conscious communication to avoid shame.  Eslana discusses resilience “born of gratitude,” the danger of self-isolation, and the need for connection and specialised support. She describes factors behind Riley’s death, including Snapchat-based bullying and alleged grooming by an older supervisor, and shares how her surviving daughters are thriving, finding community through youth group and church.  She promotes her book, “Resilience After Great Loss: Learning to Live and Grieve Simultaneously,” and offers copies to those who can’t afford it. 00:00 Riley Lost 01:11 Podcast Welcome 02:14 Vulnerability Strength 03:32 Childhood Trauma 06:18 Raising Open Kids 09:05 Parenting Lessons 12:05 Midwife Mindset Work 14:58 Purpose After Loss 17:12 The Day She Died 19:25 Saying Yes to Grief 20:58 Not a Victim 26:10 Resilience and Gratitude 31:13 Choices in Darkness 37:51 Connection Over Isolation 41:47 Help Through Technology 43:02 Conscious Parenting Shift 46:12 Fear Fight Or Flight 49:21 Bullying Grooming Story 56:04 Grief Kindness Lessons 01:00:10 Thriving After Loss 01:10:32 Girls Find Community 01:17:03 Book Legacy Closing

    1h 25m
  5. Success Was Killing Her Slowly

    Apr 26

    Success Was Killing Her Slowly

    What happens when success leaves you empty, angry, and barely holding your marriage together? In this episode of Tomorrow's Not Today, host Kingsley Colley sits down with Mariana Lennert — Brazilian-born feminine leadership mentor, entrepreneur, and founder of Empower Her — now based in Australia after a life-changing move 19 years ago. Mariana opens up about leaving a law career that no longer aligned with her soul, navigating motherhood as a single mum in a foreign country, building multiple businesses — and still hitting rock bottom with depression, panic attacks, an eating disorder, and a marriage on the brink of collapse. This is a raw, honest conversation about what it really takes to heal, lead, and live with purpose. In this episode you'll discover: Why high-achieving women often mask deep pain behind outward successHow childhood safety patterns fuel control, resentment, and relationship breakdownThe LSD experience in Brazil that convinced Mariana she was "here for something"Why small, courageous actions — not giant leaps — create lasting transformationHow to follow signs, build intentional legacy, and lead from authentic powerListen now if you're ready to stop surviving and start leading. Timestamps: 00:00 Breakup and New Start 01:08 Meet Mariana Lennert 03:02 From Brazil to Australia 04:25 Law Career Wake Up 06:56 Learning English Fast 08:05 Motherhood and New Marriage 10:30 Success but Depressed 13:51 Control and Resentment 17:07 Childhood Roots of Control 21:43 Healing and Asking Help 25:26 Turning Pain into Purpose 28:20 Helping Women Change 31:16 Courage Over Fear 32:59 Start Small Actions 35:10 Brazil Family Breakdown 36:55 Highway Wake Up Call 40:29 Purpose After Survival 44:21 Small Kindness Big Impact 48:36 Saying Yes To Signs 51:05 Service Over Self Doubt 53:58 Legacy And Leadership 55:44 Connect And Next Steps 56:26 Final Thanks And Wrap

    57 min
  6. She Shouldn’t Be Here… But She Is

    Apr 19

    She Shouldn’t Be Here… But She Is

    On the Tomorrow’s Not Today podcast, Kingsley interviews Sally Jones about her lived experience of child abuse, complex PTSD, addiction risks, and the ongoing work of healing, and how she turned that trauma into a child protection education program after 20 years as a teacher.  She describes gaps in school-based prevention, lack of repetition, unsustainable one-off visits, and outdated “stranger danger” messaging and argues kids need skills for real-life encounters with perpetrators, who may be family, peers, or anyone.  Grounded in attachment theory, her online, interactive program teaches grooming behaviours, boundaries, and self-trust by noticing body signals, and includes “champions” (trusted adults) plus an in-program “switch” that alerts a designated school contact to support mandatory reporting. The conversation also addresses adult recognition of abuse, trauma’s effects on relationships and emotional regulation, imposter syndrome, and seeking professional help and trusted support. 00:00 Trigger Warning and Reality 01:29 Podcast Welcome and Purpose 03:04 Why Schools Need Better Protection 04:57 Attachment Theory and Safety 06:21 Her Story Childhood Trauma 08:15 Nursing Forensics and PTSD 11:26 Choosing Change Drugs and Alcohol 15:12 Moving to Australia and Healing 16:55 Program Teaches Grooming and Boundaries 19:35 Champions and The Safety Switch 23:23 Trauma Informed Schools and Policy 24:37 Adults Healing and Recognition 28:03 Living With Trauma Daily 29:00 Trauma Never Leaves 30:55 Choosing Your Next Step 31:25 One Small Action Daily 32:05 Legacy And Overwhelm 33:26 Beating Imposter Syndrome 36:07 Trauma Informed Practice 37:40 Tenacity And Setbacks 39:25 Retraumatization And Memories 40:26 Reach Out For Help 44:20 Masking And Fear 49:13 Understanding And Body Memory 51:54 Create Life And Legacy

    53 min
  7. She Survived the Unspeakable

    Apr 11

    She Survived the Unspeakable

    On the Tomorrow’s Not Today podcast, Kingsley interviews Kerrie Atherton—wife, mother, grandmother, jazz musician, mental health advocate, addiction counsellor, author, podcaster, board director with Mentoring Men Australia, and ambassador for Fearless PTSD—about how childhood trauma and addiction shaped her purpose. Kerrie describes growing up with alcoholism, bipolar disorder in her mother, early traumatic events, bullying by a teacher, sexual assault by a pedophile, later rape, substance misuse, suicidality, and a near-fatal overdose. At 18, after planning to end her life and hearing a voice telling her not to, she returned to Alcoholics Anonymous and has been sober for 44 years. She discusses acceptance, delusion/denial in addiction, “54” negative consequences across love, livelihood, liver, and law, and the need for families to detach without enabling. She founded Stories of Hope events, published three books featuring nearly 50 speakers, hosts Inspirational Humans, and offers coaching for burned-out leaders. 00:00 Abuse and Fear 01:12 Meet Kerry Atherton 02:31 Many Hats and Mission 04:49 Family Addiction Roots 08:02 Childhood Trauma Begins 10:05 Assault and No Justice 11:48 Bullying and Breakdown 12:50 Alcohol as Escape 17:10 Spiral Toward Rock Bottom 22:20 Turning Point to AA 25:25 Recovery and New Purpose 30:26 Acceptance and Practical Steps 32:07 Pain Drives Change 33:57 Rock Bottom Varies 34:22 The 54 Consequences 36:09 Four Ls Warning Signs 39:00 Delusion And Denial 40:21 High Functioning Secrets 43:13 Helping Loved Ones 44:27 Detach With Love 48:19 Tough Love Boundaries 52:17 Stories Of Hope Mission 56:40 Leaders Under Pressure 01:02:17 Programs And Resources 01:04:15 Redefining Success

    1h 7m
  8. You're not broken, you're being built

    Feb 23

    You're not broken, you're being built

    This spoken word metaphor of a seed becoming a flower to argue that what feels like an ending may be the beginning. It describes being buried in darkness and loneliness, then breaking through to light and encountering cycles of storms, heat, and wind that strengthen roots and growth.  The pain of change, including “pruning” and shedding old protection, is framed as preparation rather than punishment, creating space for new buds and a greater purpose.  The message emphasises trusting the process of life’s seasons, enduring hardship, and recognising that suffering can shape strength and beauty that impacts others—sometimes immediately, sometimes years later. It concludes that even the end of a season returns to the ground not in defeat but as nourishment for future generations, forming a lasting legacy. 00:00 Buried or Planted? Reframing the “End” 00:26 Life as a Seed: Alone in the Dark Soil 01:11 The First Shoot: Pain, Shedding, and Breaking Through 02:46 New World, New Tests: Storms After the Sunshine 03:33 Heat, Wind, and Growing Stronger Through Pressure 04:20 The Bud Opens: Realizing Everything Shaped You 04:59 Trust the Seasons: Pruning as Preparation 05:49 Your Beauty & Impact: The Legacy You Leave Behind

    7 min
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Talking about business, family, life, purpose and building habits to create the life you want. Deeply personal, emotive and powerful interviews with amazing people who have discovered and are living the REAL meaning of success. People who have the mindset of living a life that is bigger than them, creating a legacy and leaving the world in a better place.

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  • Creator
    Kingsley Colley
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Tomorrow is Not Today
  • Show Website
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