Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

Bre Wolta
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Are you struggling to move on from the heartbreak of a narcissistic relationship? Is your self-esteem at level zero with your sanity feeling shaky trying to figure out if you're crazy and if any of it was real? Heartbreak to Wholeness is your go-to guide for healing from the chaos and confusion of narcissistic relationships (and narcissistic abuse) so you can become a secure, confident woman who loves herself again. Host Bre Wolta, Relationship Clarity Coach and EFT Practitioner, understands firsthand the nuance and pain of rebuilding herself after a mindf*ck of a toxic relationship. Every Wednesday, grab a cup of tea as she reveals how to…
 * Get through your grief and end your pain * Move past your I’ll-be-alone-forever fears/anxieties * Rebuild your self-worth (so you’ll never get sucked into narcissistic relationships again) You’ll hear from empathetic women who’ve moved from confusion to confidence, showing you the way, and you'll get drops of actionable wisdom from Bre herself, so you can put into motion all the self-help you've been doing. At the end of each episode, we also pull an oracle card which will help you practice trusting your intuition again. First time here? I got you. Check out our fan-favorite episode #47. Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1) https://pod.fo/e/277854

  1. 6D AGO

    117. Scared To Trust Again? How To Feel Safe Dating After Narcissistic Abuse

    How do you start dating again after a narcissistic relationship—without falling for love bombing all over again? If you’ve been out of a narcissistic relationship, dating can feel terrifying. This episode speaks to that fear and the self-doubt underneath it. In this episode, you will: Understand why trauma swings you from overtrusting to building a brick wall around your heart (and how to find the middle ground)Know how to spot early red flags before you’re emotionally investedBegin to rebuild your self-trust so dating can feel fun again Press play to learn how to date again with clarity and confidence, without ignoring your intuition or living in fear. QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional...

    13 min

  2. FEB 4

    116. How To Stop Cycling In Unhealthy Relationship Patterns & Feel Peace in 2026

    If you’ve struggled to speak your needs, felt anxious after conflict, or noticed yourself disappearing to keep the peace, this conversation will help you understand what’s really driving your patterns. We’re exploring how growing up around emotional tension, overwhelm, or big personalities can shape the beliefs that guide who we’re drawn to and how we show up in relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why unhealthy relationship patterns repeat, even when you’re self-aware and trying to change.How early emotional experiences quietly shape what feels safe in adult relationships.What’s missing when you “understand your patterns” but still feel stuck. Hit play to understand what’s been keeping you stuck—and how to begin to break your relationship patterns so you can enter relationships that actually feel safe, balanced, and supportive. RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding

    18 min

  3. JAN 28

    115. Finally Stop Feeling Like You're Failing At Love (Trauma Bond Explained)

    How can you be so confident, capable, and successful—yet feel completely stuck when it comes to him? If you’ve tried to leave, felt relief… and then felt the panic, doubt, and pull to let him back in, this episode explains why that happens and why it’s not a personal failure. In this episode, you’ll gain: Clarity on why you feel high-functioning in life but like a failure in loveLanguage for the shame and self-doubt you’ve been carrying silentlyA grounded shift from short-term relief to long-term peace Press play to understand why you can’t think your way out of this, and learn instead what actually helps you break free for good. QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: Schedule your free Intro Session: https://freeintrosession-pa.youcanbook.me RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://freeintrosession-pa.youcanbook.me ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red...

    18 min

  4. JAN 21

    114. Was Any Of It Real? The True Reason A Narcissist Moves On When You're Still Heartbroken

    Was any of it real? How did he move on so easily and you’re still in pieces? If you’ve watched him detach, replace you, or appear “changed” with someone new while you’re still replaying every moment, questioning your memories, and wondering how love could disappear so fast — this episode is for you. By listening to this episode, you will: Understand how he is capable of moving on so fastLearn why seeing him move on makes you feel destabilized and obsessedBegin rebuilding trust in your own memories, instincts, and emotional truth Press play to finally make sense of why you’re still asking “Was any of it real?” — and take the first grounded step toward letting go of his potential and coming back home to yourself. QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: Free guide: Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors...

    15 min

  5. JAN 14

    113. Why You Need To Heal Your Nervous System To Recover From Narcissistic Abuse With Brooke Deanne

    What if you can’t “think your way” out of missing him, obsessing, or feeling anxious… because your nervous system is still stuck in survival mode? If you’ve left (or are trying to leave) a narcissistic relationship and you still feel on-edge, numb, exhausted, or trapped in rumination, this episode will give you what you need to move forward. In this episde you will learn: Why it still feels like you’re stuck after all the healing work you’ve doneHow to tell if you’re stuck in survival mode without realizing itThe way to stop dissociating, stop over-functioning, and finally feel real freedom instead of just “holding it together.” QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: Ep 40: Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping https://pod.fo/e/27408eBrooke’s website: lifecoachinggoddess.comBrooke’s book: Shattered, Broken and Beatutiful About Brooke Deanne: Meet Brooke Deanne — a phoenix in heels and a force of healing fire. Rising from the ashes of trauma, religious oppression, and narcissistic abuse, she’s turned pain into purpose, helping others reclaim their power through nervous system work, Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), and raw, soul-led truth. With one foot in science and the other in the sacred, she’s dismantling old stories and leading a revolution of authenticity, embodiment, and fierce feminine freedom. RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipspan...

    40 min

  6. JAN 7

    112. How to ACTUALLY Release A Trauma Bond & Let Him Go in 2026

    You already know it’s a trauma bond… so why does letting go still feel impossible when you try to walk away? If you’ve labeled the pattern, understood the psychology, and even left before — but still find yourself pulled back, spiraling in silence, and questioning your own strength — this episode is for you. In this episode, you’ll gain: Relief from the shame of, “Why do I keep going back?” by understanding the biology behind the cycleLanguage to describe what you’ve been experiencing so you stop blaming yourself for itInsight into letting go for good — and why willpower alone isn’t enough Press play now to finally understand what’s been hijacking your ability to let go and discover a path toward freedom in this new year that doesn’t require shaming, forcing, or abandoning yourself. QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: Schedule an Intro Session: https://freeintrosession-pa.youcanbook.me RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute...

    17 min

  7. 12/31/2025

    111. I Saw the Red Flags…Why Didn’t I Leave? Trauma Bond Science Explained

    If you knew something was off from the beginning, why did your body still pull you closer instead of letting you walk away? If you’ve felt frustrated with yourself for ignoring red flags, this episode reveals why your reactions have nothing to do with intelligence, strength, or willpower. By listening to this episode, you’ll learn: Why you saw the red flags but your brain still explained them awayThe neuroscience behind trauma bonds and why your body clings to the person causing the painThe emotional and physical toll of repeatedly overriding your intuition If you’re trying to rebuild trust with yourself, understand your patterns, or feel safer dating again, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. LINKS FROM THE SHOW: Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpodGet the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of...

    24 min

  8. 12/24/2025

    110. A Moment To Stop Holding It All Together & Regulate Your Nervous System With This Mini Meditation

    Are you craving a moment of calm in a season that keeps demanding you show up, smile, and stay strong? This episode gives you a soft place to land, offering a guided grounding meditation designed to help you reconnect with yourself and feel supported rather than stretched thin this holiday season. In this episode, you’ll receive: A grounding meditation that helps regulate a tapped out nervous systemA gentle perspective shift that supports healing from the exhaustion of people-pleasing and holding everything together Press play now to give yourself a few minutes of rest and nervous-system relief you’ve been needing (and truly deserve). RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes 🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you 🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others first https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off) In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.

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Are you struggling to move on from the heartbreak of a narcissistic relationship? Is your self-esteem at level zero with your sanity feeling shaky trying to figure out if you're crazy and if any of it was real? Heartbreak to Wholeness is your go-to guide for healing from the chaos and confusion of narcissistic relationships (and narcissistic abuse) so you can become a secure, confident woman who loves herself again. Host Bre Wolta, Relationship Clarity Coach and EFT Practitioner, understands firsthand the nuance and pain of rebuilding herself after a mindf*ck of a toxic relationship. Every Wednesday, grab a cup of tea as she reveals how to…
 * Get through your grief and end your pain * Move past your I’ll-be-alone-forever fears/anxieties * Rebuild your self-worth (so you’ll never get sucked into narcissistic relationships again) You’ll hear from empathetic women who’ve moved from confusion to confidence, showing you the way, and you'll get drops of actionable wisdom from Bre herself, so you can put into motion all the self-help you've been doing. At the end of each episode, we also pull an oracle card which will help you practice trusting your intuition again. First time here? I got you. Check out our fan-favorite episode #47. Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1) https://pod.fo/e/277854

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