BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

bethathealinggirl
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.

  1. 4d ago

    What Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Actually Takes

    You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫 If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you. Because here's the hard truth: The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up. In this episode, we're diving into what it actually takes to break the anxious-avoidant cycle and why the answer isn't communicating better, trying harder, or becoming the "perfect" partner. Inside this episode: 💭 Why you keep finding yourself in the same push-pull dynamic 🫠 The surprising way anxiety creates distance in relationships 📅 Why making all the plans might be the thing keeping you stuck ❤️ What happens when you stop forcing connection and start allowing it 🌪️ How overfunctioning destroys intimacy (even when your intentions are good) 🌱 The difference between being flexible and being a people-pleasing pushover ✨ What secure attachment actually looks like in real life If you're a high-achiever who can run a business, manage a team, crush your goals, and somehow still spend hours wondering why someone hasn't texted back... Welcome. You're in the right place! Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming easier to love. It's about becoming secure enough to stop chasing it. And sometimes the thing you're desperately trying to create is the exact thing you're accidentally preventing. Grab your coffee, put your detective hat down for a minute, and let's talk about it. 🤍 #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment  ✨ Ready to stop chasing and start feeling secure? If you're tired of the push-pull dynamic running your relationship, Clare offers private coaching for women who are ready to break the pattern for good. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    16 min

  2. Jun 2

    What To Do With Yourself When They Feel Distant

    They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong. But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire. In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care. Because the truth is: The moment they pull back, most anxious attachers immediately abandon themselves. And that's where the spiral begins. In this episode: 💭 Why distance feels like an emergency when you have anxious attachment 📱 The urge to text, check, monitor, and keep the conversation alive 🫠 Why "matching their energy" usually creates even more distance ❤️ The difference between trusting your partner and actually feeling safe 🔍 How overthinking turns you into a relationship detective 🌿 What secure attachment really looks like when someone is having an off day ✨ The surprising question that will stop you from centering your entire life around their availability If you're a high-achieving woman who can manage a business, lead a team, crush your goals... but completely unravel when someone's energy changes, this episode is for you. Because healing anxious attachment isn't about getting better at reading signals. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself when someone else feels unavailable. And that's exactly what we're diving into today. 🤍 ✨ Want to stop spiraling every time their energy shifts? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of Secure Love Lab — my step-by-step program for high-achieving women who are tired of overthinking every text, every delay, and every ounce of distance.   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    16 min

  3. May 26

    The Reason You SPIRAL (Even After The BEST Weekend Together)

    If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits? This episode is for you. We’re diving into: ✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens ✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter ✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have ✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it ✨ the difference between a relationship problem and an anxiety problem pretending to be one I’m also sharing: 🤍 a personal story from my own relationship 🤍 a powerful client breakthrough 🤍 why your nervous system keeps trying to “prepare for loss” 🤍 and the exact reason so many high-achieving women stay stuck in this cycle for years This episode is deep, validating, practical, and honestly one of the most important conversations I’ve had on the podcast in a while. Because relationship anxiety isn’t usually about the weekend. It’s about what your safety system learned to do long before this relationship ever existed. 🎧 Listen now if you’re tired of overthinking good things, sabotaging peace, or feeling like your brain is constantly searching for a problem.   ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    20 min

  4. May 19

    Why you Feel Confident in Life But Anxious in Your Relationship

    This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral. And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who are ready to stop obsessing over the relationship and actually experience it. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    25 min

  5. May 12

    How to Stop Feeling Like You're Too Much in Your Relationship

    If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶 Not because your needs are too big. Not because you’re “crazy.” Not because you care too much. But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy. Easy to date. Easy to communicate with. Easy to not disappoint. Easy to never need anything. So now you: 💭 overthink every conversation 💭 rehearse texts before sending them 💭 hold everything in until you explode 💭 feel guilty for having needs 💭 try soooo hard to be “chill” while secretly spiraling inside   In this episode, we’re talking about: ✨ why feeling “too much” is usually rooted in fear of rejection ✨ the exhausting cycle of overexplaining, overfunctioning & people-pleasing ✨ how anxious attachment turns you into a “service provider” instead of a partner ✨ why trying to be low-maintenance actually creates MORE disconnection ✨ the difference between healthy communication vs performing “easy girl” energy ✨ and how to finally feel safe taking up space in love   We also talk about: 🧪 codependency vs anxious attachment 🧪 why reassurance never fully scratches the itch 🧪 how overthinking blocks true partnership 🧪 a client win that will make every anxious girlie exhale   If you’ve ever thought: “I just want to stop being so much.” …this episode might completely change the way you see yourself. ❤️   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    23 min

  6. May 5

    What "If He Wanted To He Would" Is Actually Doing To Your Relationship

    “If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety 🧠 How this mindset turns you into a silent tester instead of a communicator 🔥 The subtle ways it makes you pull back, overanalyze, or keep score 🪞 Why it feels empowering… but actually disconnects you from your partner ❤️ What secure love actually looks like instead (hint: it’s not mind reading) Real talk moment: This belief creates a relationship where: you don’t ask for what you want you expect them to “just know” and you quietly decide what things mean about how much they care And then you end up feeling disappointed… even when nothing is technically wrong. Because you’re measuring love based on unspoken rules. This episode is for you if: ✨ You keep thinking “if they cared, they would just do it” ✨ You struggle to ask for what you want without feeling needy ✨ You find yourself testing instead of communicating ✨ You overanalyze effort, timing, or small actions ✨ You want to feel secure… but keep spiraling instead 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    20 min

  7. Apr 28

    Are You Testing Your Partner Without Realizing It?

    Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered? Yeah. That counts as testing. And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels exhausting, unstable, or emotionally unsafe… even when your partner is actually showing up for you. In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common anxious attachment patterns: testing your partner to prove they care. Because here’s the hard truth: They can’t pass a test they don’t know they’re taking. And the more you test… the less safe the relationship actually feels - for both of you. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why pulling back to “see what they do” creates distance instead of closeness 🧠 The anxious attachment pattern behind relationship testing 🔥 Why testing your partner is actually a form of control — not connection 🪞 The hidden reason testing feels necessary (even when your partner is good) ❤️ Why engineered love never feels as safe as natural love 🌱 How to shift from testing → trusting in your relationship And yes, we talk about the very real moment where you don’t say what you want… just to see if they remember. (Hi, Costco sushi test. Been there 😅) Because constantly watching, analyzing, and waiting to see what they do… is emotionally exhausting. And honestly? No one wants to feel like they’re in a relationship performance review. This episode is for you if: ✨ You pull back to see if they’ll chase you ✨ You test to see if they remember what you want ✨ You feel anxious unless they prove they care ✨ You feel like you’re doing all the emotional work ✨ You struggle to trust even when they show up Because secure relationships don’t grow through testing. They grow through communication. And through trusting that love can show up naturally...without being forced. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    20 min

  8. Apr 21

    What I Changed To Stop Chasing Constant Reassurance

    We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts 🧠 The sneaky way reassurance becomes emotionally addictive 🔥 How constantly checking breaks trust with yourself 🪞 Why asking “Are we okay?” actually creates more pressure ❤️ The difference between performing healing vs practicing healing 🌱 The one thing I changed that helped me stop chasing reassurance And yes, we talk about that very real anxious girl moment where: You know you're strong. You know you're capable. You know you're successful. But inside? You're spiraling over a vibe shift and analyzing tone like it's your full-time job.  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

    18 min
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.

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  • Creator
    bethathealinggirl
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
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