Own Your Pleasure

Whitni Miller
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Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations. ​ Each episode features candid conversations that explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy. Whitni engages with guests to discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in contexts like aging, healthcare, and diverse relationship dynamics. ​ Listeners can expect a blend of expert insights and personal stories that challenge societal norms and encourage embracing one's desires. The podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other major platforms.​

  1. 3d ago

    Emotional Outsourcing Part I

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Béa discuss the concept of emotional outsourcing, where individuals seek their sense of safety, belonging, and worth from external sources rather than within themselves. They explore the implications of enmeshment and codependency, the importance of somatic practices in fostering self-awareness, and the necessity of authentic communication in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for curiosity, consent, and the establishment of safe spaces for meaningful dialogue, ultimately guiding listeners towards building healthier connections and understanding their own needs. Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the bestselling "End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcoming Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (Hachette Balance, 2025) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade Elizabeth. Learn More about Béa:https://beatrizalbina.com/   Follow Béa:IG- @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina Podcast - Feminist Wellness https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    Emotional Outsourcing Part I

  2. Sep 15

    Bed Death Myth Part II

    Whitni and Erin continue their conversation getting into the complexities of lesbian relationships, while discussing the dynamics of libido and sexual compatibility. They explore societal expectations, personal experiences, and the importance of communication in fostering intimacy and desire. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by individuals in navigating their sexual identities and relationships, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and understanding. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    Bed Death Myth Part II

  3. Sep 1

    Bed Death Myth Part I

    This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They delve into the concept of 'lesbian bed death,' exploring its origins, implications, and the societal narratives surrounding sexual desire in lesbian relationships. They discuss the historical context of feminist sex wars, the impact of shame on women's sexual autonomy, and the importance of curiosity in understanding one's desires. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about sexual expression and the complexities of intimacy in relationships. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    Bed Death Myth Part I

  4. Jun 15

    Reclaiming Connection Part II

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller discusses with Meagan and Sofia Black the importance of investing in relationships, understanding emotional permeability, and the value of proactive communication. They explore how scheduling intimacy can enhance connection and reduce conflict, while also emphasizing the significance of emotional vulnerability in fostering deeper intimacy. The conversation highlights practical tools like transition rituals and the benefits of prioritizing pleasure in relationships. Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years.  They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience! Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065  Follow Meagan & Sophia at:IG - @trianglehomesalesYouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    Reclaiming Connection Part II

  5. Jun 1

    Reclaiming Connection Part I

    Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages with Meagan and Sofia Black, two graduates of her intimacy coaching program. They discuss their journey of self-discovery, communication, and the importance of pleasure in their relationship. The conversation explores how they navigated their intimacy challenges, broke down shame, and learned to prioritize their own pleasure, ultimately leading to a deeper connection with each other. Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience! Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065  Follow Meagan & Sophia at:IG - @trianglehomesalesYouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    Reclaiming Connection Part I

  6. May 15

    Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part II

    In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle continue to delve into the intricacies of their Dominant-Submissive (DS) dynamic, addressing more questions from YOU, their community. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, the nuances of establishing a DS relationship, and the significance of communication and presence in kink. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, confidence, and the playful aspects of maintaining a healthy dynamic. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for navigating the complexities of pleasure and intimacy within queer relationships. Resources Referenced in this episode are: The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham The Loving Dominant by John Warren The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor FetLife BDSM Community Kink Workshops and Dungeons Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part II

  7. May 1

    Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part I

    In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle delve into their dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic, discussing how it enhances their relationship. While answering YOUR questions they explore the importance of consent, communication, and vulnerability in navigating their unique connection. The conversation highlights the empowering aspects of their dynamic, the significance of aftercare, and how their relationship fosters intimacy and trust. Resources Referenced in this episode are: The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham The Loving Dominant by John Warren The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor FetLife BDSM Community Kink Workshops and Dungeons Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

    Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part I

  8. Apr 15

    The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part II

    In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss building satisfaction in relationships through psychological interventions, focusing on mindset crafting, understanding different couple archetypes, and practical strategies for enhancing intimacy and desire. Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond. Learn More From Craig Cassey Jr.:https://www.coaching-naked.com Follow Craig Cassey Jr:TikTok - @akacoachcraigIG - @craigcasseyjr Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

    The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part II
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About

Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations. ​ Each episode features candid conversations that explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy. Whitni engages with guests to discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in contexts like aging, healthcare, and diverse relationship dynamics. ​ Listeners can expect a blend of expert insights and personal stories that challenge societal norms and encourage embracing one's desires. The podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other major platforms.​

Information

  • Creator
    Whitni Miller
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    49
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 2024, 2025
  • Show Website
    Own Your Pleasure

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