Fiftysomething Love | Everything Dating, Sex, Love, Men, Health & Marriage for Women Over 50

Diane Brandon Moody
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A fun romp through dating in the golden years with tips & tricks for dating, discussions about female sexuality after age 50, relationship goals, living with loss of the love of your life, health tips, guest experts, and me, Diane Brandon Moody.

  1. The Lies We Tell Ourselves Ep 78

    14h ago

    The Lies We Tell Ourselves Ep 78

    Send us Fan Mail The final episode of the marathon, and I'm not pulling punches. I'm naming the stories we tell ourselves about why love hasn't happened, and gently taking every one of them apart. You know the lies, because you've probably told yourself a few: The men are all bad. Too old, ship sailed. All the good ones are taken, married, gay, or gone. There are just no good ones in my town. Diane has an answer for each, including some Dallas-Fort Worth math that  demolishes the "no good men where I live" excuse. But the real moment in this episode is the question I asks near the end: why are you so committed to being right about this? Because here's the thing I've discovered after dating from 16 to 58: your brain is an order-taker. Keep telling it the good ones don't exist, and it will happily go find you more proof. There's a better thing to be right about, and that's where the gold is. This is the last of the twelve. If any of them shifted something for you, I would love to hear it. Enrollment for the founding cohort of Simply Irresistible closes Monday, July 13 at midnight, and the cohort begins Tuesday. Ready to stop clinging to the story and start finding the love? Join here: dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit. And if you're reading this after the doors have closed, get on the waitlist for the next cohort at the same link. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    11 min
  2. What is a Love Audit and why do you need one? Ep 77

    1d ago

    What is a Love Audit and why do you need one? Ep 77

    Send us Fan Mail I've been inviting you to book a Love Audit all week, so today I'm telling you exactly what one is, and what it isn't. A Love Audit is a conversation between you and me to see whether you're a good fit for Simply Irresistible, and whether it's a good fit for you. And let me be honest about my heart here: I would love to have you in. But I won't put you in a program that isn't right for you, because three months of deep work you secretly hate helps no one. So we talk first. Here's what a Love Audit is not. It isn't a session to vent about men, and it isn't free coaching on everything else going on in your life. It's a genuine, warm conversation about fit, because the work inside Simply Irresistible is real, sometimes deep, and occasionally a little tender, and I want us both walking in clear-eyed. In this episode I also get into: The difference between the small-t trauma I work with, the old beliefs you may not even realize you're still carrying from childhood, and the big-T trauma that belongs with a trauma-informed therapist first. I know exactly where my lane is. The two things we actually do inside the program: settle your nervous system, and teach you real tactics, like reading green flags and red flags and handling the moments that used to trip you up. Why I call myself a dating transformation coach, and why you won't just be hanging out in here. We start Tuesday, and enrollment closes Monday, July 13 at midnight. If you want in, let's talk first. Book your Love Audit at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit. Already sure? Email me and I'll send you the link to join. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    6 min
  3. What is Simply Irresistible exactly? And a date clarification, Ep 76

    2d ago

    What is Simply Irresistible exactly? And a date clarification, Ep 76

    Send us Fan Mail If you've heard me mention Simply Irresistible all week and wondered what it actually is, this is the episode that lays it out. I built it, first, for myself. For the woman I was before 2018, the one who wanted love so badly, who was tired of being asked "why are you still single," who kept opening my heart and kept watching it not work out. What changed everything wasn't another dating tip. It was learning to metabolize the anger and grief she'd been carrying, and becoming magnetic on the other side of it. She built this so no other woman has to figure that out alone. In this episode, I'm honest about who it's for and who it isn't: If you're genuinely happy on your own, free, content, not aching for a partner, I'll tell you straight: this may not be for you, and that's okay. But if you're quietly scared you'll leave this life without a partner to laugh with in the dark, without someone to lean on when you're sick or scared, this is for you. I also walks through what changed since last year's beta: the program is now a full year for one price, twelve weeks of lessons plus nine more months of weekly coaching and community, real nervous system work alongside practical dating tactics, a Slack channel where I actually answers you, and a goal that might surprise you, teaching you to think for yourself so you don't need her forever. One honest note I make clear: I am not a trauma therapist, and I'll tell you kindly where her lane begins and ends. Enrollment for the founding cohort closes Monday, July 13 at midnight, and the cohort begins Tuesday. If this is you, join here: dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit.  Please note that in the recording I said it closes on Tuesday, but it really closes Monday.  The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    13 min
  4. Time is on Your Side - Ep 75

    3d ago

    Time is on Your Side - Ep 75

    Send us Fan Mail You meet him Thursday. By Sunday you've spent three days straight together and you're sure this is the one. Then, right after things get physical, he gets a strange look, mumbles something about not being able to handle a relationship, and disappears. If you've lived some version of that, this episode is for you, because the pattern is more predictable than you'd ever believe. I make the case for the one thing that reveals who a man actually is, and it's the very thing a whirlwind skips right over. Why the fast, intoxicating start is so often the setup for the vanishing act, and when that disappearance almost always happens. What time quietly exposes that a few dazzling dates can completely hide. The green flag worth waiting for, the one that tells you you've found a genuinely good one. And my clear, no-shame stance on all of it, because this was never about rules, it's about information. Let it marinate. Give it time.  The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    9 min
  5. The cost of doing nothing, Ep. 74

    4d ago

    The cost of doing nothing, Ep. 74

    Send us Fan Mail =We talk a lot about what a program costs, what a coach costs, what it costs to finally invest in yourself. We almost never add up the other number: the cost of doing nothing at all. In this short, honest episode, I ask the question most women avoid. What does it actually cost you to keep coming home to an empty house you don't want to be alone in? What does it cost to want love and keep waiting? What does it cost to finally meet someone promising and freeze, terrified of getting it wrong? I've been there, and I name it: Why "doing nothing" is never actually free, even though it feels like the safe choice. The quiet trap of "I can't, I can't, I can't," and how it shuts the door before help can even find you. The reframe that turns staying stuck into finally moving. Short, warm, and a loving nudge to stop counting only one side of the ledger. Ready to stop doing nothing? Start with the free class: Same Man, Different Outfit, this Thursday, July 9 at 7 p.m. Central. Sign up at dianebrandonmoody.com. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    5 min
  6. The Minute You Decide You Want Love, Watch What Shows Up, Ep. 73

    5d ago

    The Minute You Decide You Want Love, Watch What Shows Up, Ep. 73

    Send us Fan Mail The second you truly decide you want lasting love, everything that isn't love comes marching straight at you. The bad dates. The disappointing texts. The clowns. The little voice that says don't bother. That's not the universe telling you to quit. In this episode, I make the case that it's the exact opposite, and that how you handle the mess that shows up is what determines how fast love actually finds you. Inside, I get into: Why the obstacles pile on right after you commit to wanting something, and what that avalanche is really telling you. The gym-in-January truth about your own brain, and why willpower was never going to be enough. The one thing she insists you stop taking personally, because it was never about you in the first place. And the step most women skip, the one that's the difference between wanting love for another decade and actually finding it. It's part pep talk, part loving kick in the pants, pure moi. Then come do the real thing with her, live: Same Man, Different Outfit, a free class this Thursday, July 9 at 7 p.m. Central. If you keep ending up with the same kind of man no matter how hard you try not to, this is the hour that explains why. Sign up at dianebrandonmoody.com. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    9 min
  7. Have you grieved your previous relationships? Ep 72

    6d ago

    Have you grieved your previous relationships? Ep 72

    Send us Fan Mail Here's a truth most people skip right past: a new love can't find its way in until you've properly grieved the last one. Not just the marriages that ended in loss, but the ones that ended in disappointment, betrayal, or worse. In this episode, Diane makes the case for grief you may not even realize you're carrying. Because if the relationship you had wasn't the one you wanted, there's something real to mourn, and the leftover ache of it quietly keeps the next person at arm's length. Inside, she gets into: Why unfinished grief blocks new love from reaching you, even when you think you're ready. The specific reason so many people rush into something new, and why using a new person to distract from old pain isn't fair to anyone. A hard truth about relationships you can't save on your own, drawn from a woman Diane once watched wrestle with a decision she didn't choose. A separate, tender word for the widows, including how long to give yourself, and what "side by side" means when you're ready to love again. This one is gentle, honest, and a little bracing, the way real talk about grief should be. Then join Diane live: Same Guy, Different Outfit, a free class on Thursday, July 9 at 7 p.m. Central. If you keep ending up with the same kind of man no matter how hard you try not to, this class is for you. Sign up at dianebrandonmoody.com. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    12 min
  8. Do You Know What You Want and Is It Reasonable? Ep 71

    Jul 6

    Do You Know What You Want and Is It Reasonable? Ep 71

    Send us Fan Mail You have a list. He needs to be over six feet, make six figures, and check every box you've been adding to since the last disappointment. Every item sounds reasonable on its own. Stack them all together and you haven't described a man, you've described a Disney prince who does not exist on this planet in this lifetime. This episode is about trading the fantasy checklist for the qualities that actually predict a good partnership. Inside: Why the "same man, different outfit" thing happens in the first place. Your father was distant, so you swore you'd never choose distant, and somehow every one of them turned out distant. That's your nervous system reaching for the familiar, because familiar feels safe even when it hurts. The one quality worth more than the spark. Of course you want a spark. Just don't let it run the whole show. Look for reliability instead, a man whose words and actions match over time. If he says he'll call Thursday at seven, does he, or are you already making excuses for him? The green flags that actually matter: consistency, real communication, thoughtfulness, whether he shows up for other people. The reason I fell for my husband was learning that he and his brother spent their vacations rebuilding his mother's hurricane-damaged house before we'd even met in person. The honest talk about the six-foot rule. Men under six feet are sweet, thoughtful, kind, and worth your time. Holding out for tall is often really about feeling smaller yourself, and you have far more freedom over 50 than that rule gives you credit for. This is one of a series of short episodes leading up to Simply Irresistible. Come to the free live class, Same Man, Different Outfit, Thursday July 9 at 7 p.m. Central. Sign up at dianebrandonmoody.com. The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running - And Why Recognizing Yours Changes Everything.

    8 min
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