Fiftysomething Love | Everything Dating, Sex, Love, Men, Health & Marriage for Women Over 50

Diane Brandon Moody
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A fun romp through dating in the golden years with tips & tricks for dating, discussions about female sexuality after age 50, relationship goals, living with loss of the love of your life, health tips, guest experts, and me, Diane Brandon Moody.

  1. 3d ago

    What Receiving a Compliment Reveals About You Ep 87

    Send us Fan Mail Can You Receive a Compliment? This episode is all about receiving, because it's in a woman's nature to receive, and I wanted to break it down in the simplest possible terms. Someone gives you a genuine compliment. What do you do? What you do next probably tells you more about why you struggle with receiving, whether that's compliments, money, raises, or attention. Most of us deflect. We say "oh, this old thing," or explain away why the compliment isn't even true. It isn't vanity, and it isn't modesty. Most of us were trained young that a woman who takes up space is too much, so we learned to shrink a little to stay likeable. That deflection costs something too. It's a small refusal, and the person offering the compliment feels it, even if they can't name it. Your practice this week When someone compliments you, say thank you. Then stop talking. No qualifier, no return compliment, no explanation. Just thank you, and silence. Watch the urge to fill it. That urge is the whole thing you're working with. Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    What Receiving a Compliment Reveals About You Ep 87

  2. Sep 21

    What If You Never Find Love? Ep 86

    Send us Fan Mail I run this podcast for women over 50 who are still dating, or dating again after a relationship has ended. And today I want to talk about a question that quietly runs under so many of our beliefs, whether we've named it or not. What if I never find love again? That fear can be scary for reasons you haven't even put your finger on yet. In this episode, I break it down into three kinds of fear I see most often: financial, physical, and the simple, plain fear of being alone. All three are legitimate. None of them make you weak. Why does this fear matter if we don't name it? Because unexamined fear drives your decisions without asking you first. It's why some of us stay months past the point we knew something wasn't working. It's why we settle for "available" instead of "right." It's why we walk into a first date auditioning instead of observing. I walk you through the exercise I did myself: writing out 25 things I'd do if I never found love again. Not five. Twenty-five. It sounds strange, maybe even a little morbid, but here's what happens when you actually do it. A vague fear feels enormous. A specific plan feels manageable. This isn't giving up. It's a Plan B. And making peace with that Plan B is one of the most effective things you can do to get the life you actually want. Because desperation is the single least attractive thing any of us can carry into a room. When the fear drains out, so does the desperation, and that's when you get to go find the one you actually want. This might be one of the most controversial episodes I've done in three years of podcasting. I'd love to hear what you think. Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    What If You Never Find Love? Ep 86

  3. Sep 13

    Ghosting Is the Answer Ep 85

    Send us Fan Mail I dated for 41 years before I finally got it right. So believe me when I say I've been ghosted more times than I can count, and it took me way too long to figure out that ghosting just is the answer. Whether it's a rude answer or a fair one doesn't matter. It's still an answer. In this episode I'm reframing ghosting completely, because the story you're telling yourself about why he disappeared is costing you way more than he ever did. Why do we spend so much energy on "why"? Because we want closure. We want a period at the end of the sentence. But here's the truth, a lot of men treat ending the conversation as the end, full stop, and waiting around for a definitive answer that's never coming is only hurting you. What's the new rule? A yes is a yes. Everything else is a no. A waffle is a no. Dot dot dot on your text is a no. Vague plans are a no. I learned this the hard way after an eight month relationship disappeared the same week my dad died, and it took me years to get over what I thought was a betrayal. It wasn't a betrayal. It was an answer I didn't want to hear. So what do you do with the silence? You stop waiting for closure from a man who already gave you his answer. You take it, call it a no, and give yourself your Tuesday back. You walk away like the queen you are, not like a woman with a temper tantrum, because somewhere out there is a man who knows exactly how to close a conversation and open a relationship. Take my free Love Readiness quiz at quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com and find out what beliefs you might be dragging around without realizing it. If you've got a girlfriend who's still stuck on why he ghosted her, send her this episode. I'd appreciate it. Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    Ghosting Is the Answer Ep 85

  4. Sep 8

    Stop Doing the Math on Your Age. Gloria Steinem Didn't Ep 84

    Send us Fan Mail Did you know the most famous feminist in the world didn't get married until she was 66? In this episode I'm paying tribute to Gloria Steinem and everything she did for American women, whether you realize it or not. Yes, that "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" line. Yes, Ms. Magazine. And yes, the fact that women in this country couldn't even get credit in their own name until 1974. Why does this matter to you today? Because a lot of us are still carrying around old programming about what our worth is tied to. I'm talking about de-centering men, a concept from Cherise Taylor's book Decentering Men. It's not about giving up on love. It's about no longer obsessing over him, auditioning for him, or building your whole life around whether or not you find him. Can you want a relationship and still have a full life? Absolutely. I talk about what it actually looks like to want love without centering your entire existence around it, and why that's the version of you that men are actually drawn to. If Gloria Steinem can get married for the first time at 66, stop doing the math on your own age. I'm proof it can happen too. In this episode: The real story behind the "fish needs a bicycle" quote What de-centering men actually means (and what it doesn't) Why women's legal history until the 1970s still shapes how we think about relationships today How to want love without losing yourself in the search for it Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    Stop Doing the Math on Your Age. Gloria Steinem Didn't Ep 84

  5. Sep 1

    What You're Signaling (And Why It's Killing Your Dating Life) Ep 83

    Send us Fan Mail Signaling  I want to tell you about something men do every single day without realizing it, and it's costing them. You know the type. Angry on threads. Furious that nothing's working. Convinced women want a man who's six feet tall, has a six-pack, and pulls six figures. Blaming everyone but the signal he's actually sending. He's not unlucky. He's broadcasting. In this episode I get into: Why every male in the animal kingdom has been signaling since the beginning of time, and why men are no different The story men tell themselves about what women want, and why it's wrong What you're actually broadcasting when you're angry online instead of building something The real order of what matters: kindness first, not last The "who pays" debate, and what it reveals about both of you I dated for forty-one years before I got any of this right myself, so believe me, I've seen every version of this signal, sent and missed. Want to know what you're actually signaling right now? I built the Love Readiness Quiz. Ten questions, about ninety seconds, free. ⬇️ Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and there is no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    What You're Signaling (And Why It's Killing Your Dating Life) Ep 83

  6. Aug 24

    Love on Purpose with Sharon Jenkins - join us in October!, Ep 82

    Send us Fan Mail Sharon Jenkins found me through ChatGPT of all things, reached out cold, and has been one of my favorite people ever since. She's back on the show today, and she's bringing an invitation. She's turning 70 this year, and she'll tell you so without flinching. She'll also tell you exactly why that's the point. Sharon has built a singles conference called Love On Purpose, October 9th and 10th in Houston, and I'm one of the speakers. What she's after isn't a room full of people hoping to bump into someone. It's something she calls being properly postured, and if you've ever bristled at the word "pursuit," her distinction is worth hearing. In this conversation we get into: Why so many of us give up on love without ever deciding to, and what Sharon means when she says make hope alive again The difference between pursuing and positioning, which lets you off a hook you may not have known you were on What I'll be teaching in Houston, and why my Dating Safely program looks different this year The two objections I hear more than any others from women over 50, and the question I'd like you to ask about both of them What actually happens over the weekend, including the exercise where somebody who loves you stands up and tells a room why you're a catch And Sharon's guarantee, which is bolder than most people would dare to make Also a conversation about what it costs to invest in love, and the number nobody adds up: what it costs to do nothing at all. Love On Purpose is October 9th and 10th, 2026, in Houston, Texas. Find everything at loveonpurpose.fun Wondering how ready you actually are? Take my free Love Readiness Quiz at quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com Reach me anytime at info@dianebrandonmoody.com Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    Love on Purpose with Sharon Jenkins - join us in October!, Ep 82

  7. Aug 18

    Girl, Take the Man Goggles Off!, Ep 81

    Send us Fan Mail The Man Goggles I want to tell you about a pair of glasses you might be wearing without realizing it. You know the scan. Walking into any room and running the assessment. Checking his left hand before you've checked his face. Deciding whether the hardware store was a good idea after all. You're conducting surveillance.  In this episode I get into: Why you started doing this in the first place, and why it isn't your fault The difference between being open and being on duty, which is a much bigger difference than it sounds What it does to your energy when you never get to clock out. I dated for forty-one years before I married for the first time at fifty-eight, so believe me, I wore those glasses. Want to know where you actually are right now? I built the Love Readiness Quiz. Ten questions, about ninety seconds, free. ⬇️ Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    Girl, Take the Man Goggles Off!, Ep 81

  8. Aug 3

    Whatever idiot told you dating is a numbers game should be fired immediately, Ep 80

    Send us Fan Mail This week I get a little aggressive with well-meaning but very wrong people advising you that dating (and love) is just a dating game. That couldn't be more wrong.  If you date badly once, you are likely dating badly all the time.  You don't mean to! I'm not blaming you. It's the current dating culture that has everything wrong and no one told you what the problem could be.  Listen to this episode and share it with a friend who is just as confused and single as you are.  Here's the new quiz, it's fun and funny and will let you know how ready you are for love  - quiz.dianebrandonmoody.com. Sign up here for the Simply Irresistible Priority List! It's free and no obligation. https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

    Whatever idiot told you dating is a numbers game should be fired immediately, Ep 80
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