BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches
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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

  1. Oct 23

    Should You Leave Your Partner or Work on the Relationship?

    How do you know if you should leave your partner or work on the relationship? When relationship conflict keeps repeating, it can be difficult to tell whether you're with the wrong person or whether childhood trauma, emotional triggers, and unresolved attachment wounds are affecting the way you connect. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew discuss how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, why partners trigger each other, and how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can create a cycle of pursuing, withdrawing, defensiveness, and recurring arguments. They also explore how your parents' relationship patterns can shape your expectations of love, why having children can intensify relationship problems, and how unresolved emotional wounds may influence the way you communicate with your partner. 🚨Important: Working on your own triggers does not mean accepting abuse or unsafe behaviour. Emotional and physical safety matter when deciding what to do next. 00:00 How to Know If You Should Leave Your Partner 03:15 Things That Intensify Relationship Conflict 08:30 Considering Separation: What It Can Reveal 15:30 How Childhood Wounds Affect Who You Choose as a Partner 20:00 How Couples Can Break the Cycle of Relationship Conflict 24:25 How Your Parents' Relationship Shaped Your Expectations 31:10  Questions to Ask Before Deciding to Separate 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  2. Oct 9

    How To Be A More Present Parent: What Your Child Wants You To Know

    What does it really mean to be a present parent? And what does your child actually need from you to feel seen, heard, safe, and connected? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew sit down with their daughter to explore respectful parenting from a child’s perspective. They talk about building a stronger relationship with your child, understanding their individual needs, what helps children feel safe enough to talk to their parents, and why presence and connection often matter more than having the “perfect” parenting strategy. Learn about parental wounds, emotional regulation, repair after parenting mistakes, and why it’s never too late to do your own inner work and become a more present, connected parent. 00:00 Respectful Parenting From a Child's Perspective 01:00 Can Parents Repair After Making Mistakes? 05:00 What Do Children and Teenagers Actually Need? 12:00 How to Understand Your Child's Emotional Needs 17:00 How to Create Emotional Safety for Your Child 26:00 Parenting Isn't One-Size-Fits-All 33:00 Is It Ever Too Late to Become a Better Parent? 36:00 Teaching Children Emotional Intelligence Through Role Modeling 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  3. Aug 21

    How Honest Should You Be in a Relationship? Truth, Trust & Authenticity

    How honest should you be in a relationship? Is honesty always the best policy, or can telling the truth sometimes create conflict, hurt or even threaten the relationship? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore whether you are showing up as the same person in every area of your life, or whether old patterns, fear of rejection and the need for safety have taught you to become someone different depending on who you're with. Should you tell your partner everything about your past? How much should you share about who you were, the things you're ashamed of, and the experiences that shaped you? And when does being honest create deeper trust and connection, versus when do you need to process something for yourself before bringing it into the relationship? 01:45 – Honesty vs. Safety: Should You Always Tell the Truth? 04:25– Should Parents Tell Their Children the Truth? 06:25 – Should Your Children Know About Your Past? 10:50 – How Childhood Trauma Affects Honesty in Relationships 13:25 – How to Build Safety and Trust in a Relationship 20:35 – Becoming Your Authentic Self Can Feel Scary 24:50 – Should You Tell Your Partner Everything About Your Past? 29:25 – Can Telling the Truth Actually Hurt Your Relationship? 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  4. Jul 24

    How Repressed Emotions Affect Your Health & Relationships | Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness

    Many people struggle with anxiety, emotional numbness, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage without realizing the root cause may be repressed emotions carried since childhood. Using Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness as a guide, we unpack why some emotional states keep us feeling stuck while others create greater peace, creativity, resilience, and emotional freedom. You'll learn how childhood trauma, repressed emotions, and core emotional wounds influence your nervous system, mental health, relationships, and even chronic stress. We also share practical ways to begin releasing stored emotions through conscious awareness so you can stop living from old survival patterns and move toward lasting emotional healing. 02:30 – Why Shame and Guilt Are the Most Destructive Emotions 05:25 – How Childhood Trauma Creates Lifelong Shame 08:00 – How to Release Shame and Repressed Emotions 11:15 – Understanding Apathy vs Neutrality 16:00 – Why Anger and Grief Are Necessary for Healing 20:00 – Anxiety, Fear & Childhood Trauma: What's Really Happening? 24:30 – Can Repressed Emotions Cause Physical and Mental Illness? 29:05 – How Your Emotional State Affects Parenting & Relationships 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness: https://www.sgibinc.com/wp-content/smush-webp/2024/06/SGBI-Web-768x728.jpg.webp Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  5. Jun 12

    Are You Raising an Entitled Child? | How Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Parenting

    Are you raising an entitled child, or are deeper emotional wounds being triggered beneath the surface? In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew explore how childhood trauma shapes parenting and why many of our strongest reactions to our children's behavior have less to do with them and more to do with our own unresolved experiences. If you've ever felt triggered by your child's behavior, struggled with emotional regulation as a parent, or wondered how to break unhealthy family patterns, this conversation offers a compassionate and practical perspective on raising emotionally healthy children while healing yourself in the process. 01:15 – Authoritarian vs Permissive Parenting 02:10 – What Emotional Safety Really Means for Children 03:30 – Why Parents Struggle to Accept Certain Behaviors 08:20 – Childhood Trauma, Emotional Baggage & Parenting 20:00 – Why Criticism Damages Self-Worth 22:00 – Authentic Behavior vs "Bad" Behavior 26:00 – Attuned Leadership: A New Parenting Model 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  6. May 15

    Why Men Avoid Therapy & Emotional Healing in Relationships

    Many men don’t seek therapy or emotional support until their relationship is breaking down, their stress becomes unbearable, or they reach a personal crisis point. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered Podcast, Lavinia and Andrew explore why men avoid therapy, suppress emotions, and struggle to ask for help, the role women often take in relationships when they become emotionally aware first, and how this impacts relationships, marriage, parenting, mental health, and emotional connection. 01:10 – Why Men Wait Until Crisis to Ask for Help 06:00 – Childhood Trauma & Emotional Repression in Men 09:30 – Men Look for External Solutions Instead of Healing 11:50 – Traditional Therapy Doesn’t Work for Many Men 14:47 – How Men & Women Process Emotions Differently 19:00 – Conflict in Relationships Can Trigger Healing 22:00 – How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Boys 24:00 – Men Need Better Emotional Tools 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  7. Feb 13

    Have Our Leaders Been Hijacked by Their Wounded Inner Child?

    Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated? Why does the news trigger anxiety? Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds. We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how lacking true emotional safety in childhood can lead to self-worth being tied to achievement, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and external validation. You’ll also walk away with practical tools to manage fear, build safety in your body and relationships, and regulate your nervous system—so you don’t carry external chaos into your home and inner world.  This conversation is especially relevant if you’re struggling with anxiety, powerlessness, or just want to understand the emotional climate of our times. 00:30 – Are Leaders Acting from Childhood Trauma? 04:00 – Conditional vs Unconditional Love Explained 09:50 – How Lack of Self-Love Impacts Empathy: Trauma Patterns 12:30 – Reacting vs Responding (Emotional Regulation) 16:00 – Why the News Triggers Anxiety 20:15 – How to Heal Your Inner Child to Stay Regulated 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

  8. Jan 16

    How to Raise Authentic Kids (Not Mini Versions of You) | Parenting Tips

    In a world where “success” is often defined by grades, achievements, and fitting into a predefined path, many children grow up disconnected from who they truly are. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore how to raise authentic kids, children who feel safe being themselves rather than becoming mini versions of their parents or living out inherited expectations. Support your child’s individuality, build emotional safety, and guide them without controlling who they become. 01:05 – When Parents Project Their Own Dreams Onto Their Children 03:40 – Academic Pressure, Grades & Identity in Children 05:00 – Why Anxiety Shows Up When Kids Aren’t Being Themselves 10:20 – School Systems, Pressure & the Rise of Childhood Anxiety 13:00 – How Parents Can Guide Without Controlling 14:20 – Simple Daily Practices to Model Emotional Self-Care 19:10 – Healing the Wounded Inner Child to Raise Authentic Kids 21:30 – The “Magical Child” & Natural Joy in Kids 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

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    Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
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