Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Becky Kolb, Estrangement and Relationship Coach
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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help Christian women navigating 💔estranged relationships with adult children and next generation family members.  You never thought you would be experiencing estrangement with a loved one and you are looking for support from someone who's been there. That's me. Estrangement brings grief, guilt, shame, confusion and isolation. Women say they feel pressure to forgive or reconcile before they full understand what that means. And sometimes you may not be in a place mentally or spiritually to do that. I understand and felt similarly.My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.Not every relationship will reconcile or heal, but you can find peace even amid estrangement. And this podcast will offer help to reconnect with God, reclaim your identity in Him and live in freedom with peace and purpose.I learned that you can't force reconciliation. Any attempt to change another person is fruitless. The only control you and I have is ourselves and my podcast and coaching focus is on WHOLENESS - creating space to feel grief, discover clarity around responsibility, establish healthy boundaries and gain a renewed sense of self and purpose so that you can live grounded. I offer free no pressure, no obligation discovery calls to see if coaching is right for you. It's not a sales pitch. If that's something of interest, navigate to www.beckykolb.com/work-with-becky and let's have a conversation.CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.comDOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

  1. 57: Grit and Grace - 2 Steps to Conquer Estrangement

    2D AGO

    57: Grit and Grace - 2 Steps to Conquer Estrangement

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Grit and Grace are two key components when you find yourself navigating an estranged relationship. Often these two attributes come later in the estrangement when you’ve suffered through many negative emotions. What if you could learn the biblical principles of grit and grace early on and shorten the cycle of emotional pain? Would you be willing to sit with God and allow him to change your perspective?   Grit is the constant irritation that creates friction in the relationship. Grace comes along side and softens the painful open wound that begins the process of healing.  Join me today as I talk about the grit and grace of estranged relationships.   Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/57. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    13 min
  2. 56: Healing Brokenness

    FEB 19

    56: Healing Brokenness

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Healing brokenness in an estranged relationship is a lengthy process. Today I’ll talk about three-steps that center around these attributes. Reconcile. Restore. Rebuild.   You already know that reconciliation requires two parties and not everyone arrives at this decision simultaneously. Consequently, many women give up far too early.   While one may not be ready right now, it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to pray and begin to work on your part. Brokenness brings many emotions to the forefront and working toward reconciliation takes time, commitment, and effort. Even if you are the only one working on it at the time.  Whether you are in the midst of this process or just thinking about it, listen in today for concrete steps to heal your brokenness.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/56. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    14 min
  3. 55: Transformation and Estrangement

    FEB 19

    55: Transformation and Estrangement

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Transformation is a beautiful word. Changing something so that its appearance is completely different and noticeable. You may wonder what this has to be with estranged relationships but stay with me. It’s a foundational principle you won’t want to miss.  We’ve recently relocated and the gardening beds were unsightly. Grass had grown up into the river rock; shoots were sprouting where they weren’t supposed to and it was evident that neglect had taken its toll.  The gardener explained the process required to restore and transform the beds into a beautiful garden that we would enjoy. Painstaking was the word I used to describe this to my husband. But it made sense and it paralyses into the work that you and I grapple with to prepare our hearts for eventual reconciliation and restoration.  Ready to do some gardening today? Listen in as I offer pivotal tips on loosening the soil in your heart.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/55. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    11 min
  4. 54: Hope When Your Child Walks Away

    FEB 17

    54: Hope When Your Child Walks Away

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement It’s hard to have hope when your child walks away, but that is exactly where your strength lies. Without hope you’re lost. Thoughts go awry and that leads to a slippery slope you want to avoid.  But it’s hard, right? When phone calls and text messages go unanswered. And they believe you are the enemy when your heart is breaking into with love for them.  For me, estrangement lasted several years and more than once I lost hope. Furthermore, it seemed impossible that restoration would come. Everything was going against me. Until I realized something that turned it all around.  Settle in with me today as I share that truth with you. Let’s get rolling with today’s episode.   Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/54. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    10 min
  5. 53: A Valentine's Message for the Estranged Heart

    FEB 13

    53: A Valentine's Message for the Estranged Heart

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Today I have a Valentine’s Message for the Estranged Heart. If you’re listening, then it’s for you. Love is worth celebrating. And for those with an estranged relationship, it may be feelings of sadness as you reflect on love lost.  Well, cheer up my friend, I have a love message for you today.  No matter what you are feeling today, there is one that loves you deeply. Who has promised to never leave you. A rock that where you can find shelter, refuge, and peace. Settle in and listen to a message about this great love for you.    Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/53. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    10 min
  6. 51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God

    FEB 4

    51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Good morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child.  My experience certainly included an adult child, but it was more than that and I'm finding that many of you struggle with it too. Next generation relationships such as daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, grandkids, great grandkids and other complex family members. And, the realization that I could replay those hurtful conversations all day long and feel justified in my resentment but it didn't move the needle toward peace one iota! The only thing that I could change was me and I wanted to reconnect with God and start the process of working on my growth. My peace. And that's where you'll find a newly tweaked website at www.beckykolb.com.  I hope you'll check it out and send me some feedback on what you want to hear and how you want to move this peace in your life to full throttle! Connect at www.beckykolb.com/contact. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    5 min
  7. 50: Discover Peace in Estrangement

    JAN 6

    50: Discover Peace in Estrangement

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement I’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement with a loved one.  I’m betting that you, like many others, are elated the holidays are behind you and the emotional pain goes dormant until the next trigger such as a birthday.  My friend, are you tired of living like that? Do you long to find peace? Lasting peace to fill your heart so that there isn’t room for the pain? I have a solution for you so settle in and let’s explore this together.   Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/50. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

    10 min
  8. 49: How God Works for you in Estrangement

    11/03/2025

    49: How God Works for you in Estrangement

    Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding.  And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well.  Today let’s consider what God is saying to you in these intense emotional days and months. I’ll share a story that I think you’ll relate to about being in the crucible and the amazing work that God is doing in you right now.  Ask God to open your spiritual ears and eyes and let’s dive in.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/49.   Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help Christian women navigating 💔estranged relationships with adult children and next generation family members.  You never thought you would be experiencing estrangement with a loved one and you are looking for support from someone who's been there. That's me. Estrangement brings grief, guilt, shame, confusion and isolation. Women say they feel pressure to forgive or reconcile before they full understand what that means. And sometimes you may not be in a place mentally or spiritually to do that. I understand and felt similarly.My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his 💖love and mercy and forgiveness.The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.Not every relationship will reconcile or heal, but you can find peace even amid estrangement. And this podcast will offer help to reconnect with God, reclaim your identity in Him and live in freedom with peace and purpose.I learned that you can't force reconciliation. Any attempt to change another person is fruitless. The only control you and I have is ourselves and my podcast and coaching focus is on WHOLENESS - creating space to feel grief, discover clarity around responsibility, establish healthy boundaries and gain a renewed sense of self and purpose so that you can live grounded. I offer free no pressure, no obligation discovery calls to see if coaching is right for you. It's not a sales pitch. If that's something of interest, navigate to www.beckykolb.com/work-with-becky and let's have a conversation.CONNECT with me at www.beckykolb.comDOWNLOAD my FREE workbook to work through estrangement to find peace at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide

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  • Creator
    Becky Kolb, Estrangement and Relationship Coach
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    58
  • Rating
    Explicit
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