The Estranged Heart

The Estranged Heart
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Support and community for navigating the emotional storms of parent and adult child estrangement and repairing and transforming relationships with one another in healthy and productive ways.

  1. FEB 25

    EP240: Dignity, Distance & the Myth of the Perfect Return

    In this conversation on The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complex dynamics of estrangement and reconciliation between parents and their adult children. She emphasizes the importance of self-respect and emotional growth for parents who often find themselves in a cycle of chasing their estranged children. The discussion highlights the need for parents to stop pursuing their children out of desperation and instead focus on their own lives, allowing space for healing and potential reconnection. Kreed also distinguishes between reunion and reconciliation, stressing that true healing involves more than just physical proximity; it requires emotional safety and the courage to engage in difficult conversations. Takeaways Many parents chase their adult children out of love and fear. Healing cannot be tethered to the hope of reunion. Reunion is about proximity; reconciliation is about emotional safety. Love involves being open to difficult conversations, not just waiting.  Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    18 min

  2. FEB 22

    EP239: Obedience As Safety

    In this Sacred Sunday reflection of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores how many of us learned early that obedience meant safety. Kreed gently examines the difference between obedience and integrity, and how the nervous system can equate assertion with danger. If you struggle to identify your own preferences, over-explain, apologize prematurely, or say yes while feeling resentment later, this conversation will likely resonate. This is not an episode about dismantling obedience. It is about examining its cost. Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    7 min

  3. FEB 18

    EP238: Oprah, Estrangement, and the Questions No One Asked

    When Oprah Winfrey released her podcast episode “When Families Cut Ties” on Thanksgiving, it ignited intense reactions across estranged parents, estranged adult children, therapists, and social media communities. Some felt validated. Others felt blamed, minimized, or misunderstood. In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, estrangement coach and relational mediator Kreed Revere takes a thoughtful, trauma-informed, middle-ground approach - neither defending nor attacking the episode, but asking the deeper questions that largely went unasked. Rather than choosing sides, Kreed examines: why estrangement conversations collapse into defensiveness and moral certainty how culture, trauma, nervous systems, and power dynamics shape family cut-offs why behavior is often misinterpreted as fixed personality or intent and how the absence of curiosity keeps families stuck in cycles of pain This episode is for estranged parents, estranged adult children, therapists, and anyone seeking healing over echo chambers. Estrangement is not a trend. It’s a relational signal Validation without resourcing keeps people stuck Trauma-informed work requires curiosity, not certainty Healing demands accountability without shame Kreed Revere is a relational midwife who specializes in parent and adult child estrangement, reconciliation and mediation support. She is also the host of The Estranged Heart Podcast. Having lived estrangement as both an adult child and a parent - and facilitated over 65 reconciliations - Kreed’s work centers on capacity-building, trauma literacy, and moving families beyond blame toward meaningful repair. Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    29 min

  4. FEB 15

    EP237: When Certainty Stops Working

    In this Sacred Sunday conversation of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the subtle yet profound experience of disorientation that arises when previously held beliefs and certainties begin to feel inadequate. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing this transition as a natural part of growth, rather than a collapse. Kreed encourages listeners to witness their feelings of unease and to understand that it is okay to feel disoriented during times of change. She advocates for a gentle approach to self-awareness, allowing oneself to sit with discomfort and recognize the evolution of personal beliefs. Takeaways Certainty is a powerful shelter for many of us. Witnessing your beliefs is a tender process, not an aggressive dismantling. Feeling disoriented is a natural part of transition. Allow yourself to feel the wobble without labeling it as failure. Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    8 min

  5. FEB 11

    EP236: I Did Nothing Wrong

    In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores one of the most common and most misunderstood narratives in parent–adult child estrangement: blaming an in-law. When a parent says, “My child was always close to me until they married,” it often reflects not denial or malice, but a nervous system trying to survive unbearable loss. Kreed gently unpacks why certainty feels safer than curiosity in estrangement, how innocence claims can function as self-protection, and why scapegoating a spouse quietly removes the adult child’s agency making repair impossible. This episode invites estranged parents to move beyond blame without collapsing into shame, and to explore how grief, identity loss, and unexamined closeness shape the stories we tell when relationships fracture. TAKEAWAYS Blaming an in-law often protects parents from overwhelming grief - but it also freezes the story and blocks healing. “I did nothing wrong” is frequently a trauma response, not a refusal to reflect. Repair becomes possible only when adult children are allowed agency in the story, even when their choices are painful. Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    16 min

  6. FEB 4

    EP234: Part II - Estrangement Is Trauma for Parents

    In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed delves into the complex emotional landscape of estrangement, particularly focusing on the trauma experienced by parents, especially mothers. The conversation explores how estrangement can trigger old wounds and feelings of confusion, panic, and helplessness. Kreed emphasizes the importance of understanding these feelings without assigning blame, and the need for support and permission to process these emotions. The episode also addresses the perspective of adult children and the challenges of reconciliation, highlighting that healing is not always linear and may require different approaches at different times. Takeaways - Mothers with significant trauma histories can experience an unraveling due to estrangement. - Healing is not always a linear process. - Estrangement can activate old survival (ie: protective) systems in the body. - Reconciliation can sometimes exacerbate feelings of distress. - Permission to pause and seek support is crucial. Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    26 min

  7. JAN 21

    EP233: Estrangement Is Trauma For Parents

    In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed addresses what the estrangement conversation has been avoiding: the traumatic impact of estrangement on parents at a nervous system level. This isn't about excusing harm or pressuring reconciliation. It's about understanding why telling parents to "just get it" has failed. There's extensive talk about adult children's experiences, boundaries, and emotionally immature parents, but almost no trauma-informed conversation about what estrangement does to parents. When something this big goes unnamed, it shows up sideways in resistance, defensiveness, rigidity, and shutdown. For parents, estrangement isn't just painful - it's traumatic. From their perspective, it arrives suddenly, often without warning, and destabilizes core identity: Who am I if I'm not a parent in relationship with my child? What did my life mean if this is how it turned out? What does the future look like now? Parents are expected to metabolize this identity collapse quietly and quickly while simultaneously becoming more reflective, accountable, and curious. This expectation is neurologically incoherent. "Parents don't change because they are told to 'be accountable.' Parents change when their nervous systems can tolerate reality without collapsing." Resources & Support The Heart Collective Membership Community Twice-monthly live support groups for estranged and reconciled moms Community support and resources Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    32 min

  8. JAN 18

    EP232: When Obedience Felt Like Love

    In this Heart Scripture episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed examines the profound connection between obedience and love, exploring how compliance often served as a survival strategy in childhood and the complex grief that emerges when we begin to question whether love should have required obedience at all. Obedience as Relational Strategy How following rules became a map for preserving closeness and approval The Tender Origins of Compliance Environments where unpredictability lived and belonging felt fragile What Trembles When Obedience Is Questioned Why releasing obedience as an organizing principle feels like risking everything The Grief of Losing Certainty Mourning the illusion that following rules guaranteed care This episode offers compassionate space to acknowledge that obedience once worked. It protected something tender and kept us safe. It invites us to mourn what we're releasing without condemning what once served us, and to sit with the unsettling questions about what love requires when compliance is no longer the answer. Resources & Support The Heart Collective Membership Community Twice-monthly live support groups for estranged and reconciled moms Community support and resources Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

    6 min
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Support and community for navigating the emotional storms of parent and adult child estrangement and repairing and transforming relationships with one another in healthy and productive ways.

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  • Creator
    The Estranged Heart
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    244
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    Explicit
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