Marriage Unmasked

Adam and Cara Nitz
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Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.  We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.Find your next step with our online marriage course, support groups, coaching and so many other helpful marriage resources at our website: https://www.thewayforlove.com/ Want to support our work? https://venmo.com/code?user_id=3045403754758144334

  1. 1d ago

    4 Reasons Your Spouse Gets So Defensive

    It’s crazy-making when you’re trying to have a conversation with your spouse and they instantly put their walls up. You bring up a concern, ask a question, or try to address an issue and you’re met with excuses, blame, anger, or shutdown. Why does that happen? In this episode, we talk through four reasons defensiveness shows up in marriage and what may be happening under the surface. We also discuss how to have conversations that result in understanding and connection instead of escalating into painful arguments.  Need some help? We're here for you: Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Get Cara's free communication master class for wives. Join Cara's Restored membership for wives. Get access to Adam's Master This Moment audio coaching library Join Refined Adam's online men's membership  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in couples or individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    29 min

  2. Jun 16

    20 Lessons We've Learned From 20 Years of Marriage

    Today is our 20th Anniversary! Twenty years of marriage has taught us a lot. In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re sharing 20 of the biggest lessons we’ve learned along the way. Things we wish we had understood earlier. Things that changed the way we communicate, handle conflict, pursue healing, and love each other. Whether you’re struggling right now or simply want to build a stronger marriage, these are lessons written in the real-life experiences of two people who spent years struggling before finding the healing we needed. We hope our story helps you find hope, healing and wisdom for your own marriage. Let us know which one resonated with you the most.  Need some help? We're here for you: Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives. Join Refined Adam's online men's membership  Also free inside Refined or available separately is Adam's Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    31 min

  3. Jun 9

    Our Story Part 2: How We Healed 15 Years of Marriage Pain

    Last week, we shared the first part of our story and the pain and struggles we experienced in our marriage. But that’s not where the story ends. In this episode, we’re sharing what happened next and the inner healing journey God led us through that began changing not just our marriage, but each of us individually. We talk about what helped us move from surviving to reconnecting, rebuilding trust, finding hope again, and creating a marriage that feels very different from the one we once had. Marriages can change, old wounds can heal, it’s possible to experience deeper connection than you have today. We hope our story encourages you and inspires you in your own journey of healing. Need some help? We're here for you: Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives (Until June 12, 2026 Use code 1FREEMO to get the first month free) Join Refined Adam's online men's membership (Until June 12, 2026 Use code 1FREEMO to get the first month free) Also free inside Refined or available separately is Adam's Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    34 min

  4. Jun 2

    Our Story Part 1: 15 Years of Marriage Pain: Disconnection, Resentment, and Survival.

    In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re sharing our own story. Not the polished version or the highlight reel. The real story. For the first 15 years of our marriage, we experienced pain, disconnection, resentment, loneliness, misunderstanding, unhealthy patterns, and moments where we wondered if things would ever truly change. We talk honestly about some of the most painful seasons we faced, the unhealthy dynamics that kept us stuck, and the reality of what life looked like before healing began. Our hope is that as you listen, you’ll realize you’re not alone. Your struggles don’t mean your marriage is beyond hope. Often healing begins when you have the courage to tell the truth about your story and get the help you need. Next week in Part 2, we’ll walk through the healing process that changed everything, the lessons we learned, the work we had to do, and how God began restoring what felt impossible to repair. Need some help? We're here for you: Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives (Until June 12, 2026 Use code 1FREEMO to get the first month free) Join Refined Adam's online men's membership (Until June 12, 2026 Use code 1FREEMO to get the first month free) Also free inside Refined or available separately is Adam's Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    28 min

  5. May 26

    Was Getting Married Young a Mistake?

    In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about getting married young, emotional maturity, expectations, pressure, identity, and the ways two people can deeply love each other and still struggle because they simply didn’t know themselves yet.  We also explore the tension so many couples feel years later when they look back wondering, “Did we make a mistake?” This is also for you if you’ve ever wrestled with resentment, grief over lost years, unmet expectations, or the feeling that you and your spouse grew into different people over time. Our hope is that this episode helps you approach your story with more honesty, compassion and healing. Need some help? We're here for you: Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives Join Refined Adam's online men's membership or find out more about his Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    29 min

  6. May 19

    What Does "Your Body Belongs to Each Other" Even Mean?

    What does it really mean when the Bible says your body does not belong to you alone, but also to your spouse? For a lot of couples, this passage has either been misunderstood, weaponized, or reduced down to obligation and duty. God’s heart for marriage was never about control, pressure, or one person using the other to meet their needs.  It’s about learning to really see each other, pursue each other, honor one another, and create a relationship where both husband and wife feel desired, valued, safe, and deeply connected. Here are some questions that help you reconnect over this instead of living in self-protection and disconnection: What is intimacy like for you emotionally? What helps you feel more safe, connected and desired? What shuts you down or closes you off, causing you to feel unsafe in this area? What wounds or fears might be affecting our connection in this? How can we move toward each other instead of putting up walls and going to self-protection? What would emotional and physical intimacy look like when it is loving and connecting? Need some help? We're here for you: $67 Couple's Coaching Session Special for first-time clients. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives Join Refined Adam's online men's membership or find out more about his Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    22 min

  7. May 12

    Is Your Spouse a Bully?

    It's so painful. "He keeps saying things that really cut me to the heart!"  "Her harsh criticism regularly shuts me down." When one spouse’s reactions, criticism, anger, or emotional intensity seems to dominate the relationship, the other spouse can begin to lose their confidence, peace, and even their sense of self. Beneath these painful dynamics are often deeper wounds, fears, and patterns that need compassion and healing. In this episode we discuss why some spouses become controlling or domineering, and how both people can begin healing without shame, blame, or minimizing the pain.  Need some help? We're here for you: $67 Couple's Coaching Session Special for first-time clients. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives Join Refined Adam's online men's membership or find out more about his Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

    24 min

  8. May 5

    Is It Time for a Separation?

    Marriage can seem exhausting when there is constant tension, repeated hurt, and painful disconnection. It can leave you asking, is it time for a separation?  In this episode, we step into that space with you, without shame or pressure, and begin to unpack the deeper questions that need to be asked before making that kind of decision.  We also redefine what a healthy, purposeful separation can actually look like. It’s not punishment, or escape or a slow fade into disconnection. A separation can be healthy and helpful when it’s an intentional space for healing and deepening your relationship with God. Here are some helpful questions to ask if you are considering a separation: Am I trying to escape or am I trying to heal?It may seem like “We’ve tried it all” right now, but have we done the inner work that leads to transformation?Are we each willing to look at and work on ourselves individually instead of blaming the other?Have we invited wise counsel in? Have we received help from several different trusted sources outside the marriage?Is there emotional and physical safety in the relationship right now or not?Am I expecting my spouse to heal something in me that only God can truly heal?Are we making this decision out of a desire for peace or are we making it out of pain?What is God trying to heal right now? What is He trying to heal inside me? What is He trying to heal inside our relationship? And are we willing to let Him do it?Need some help? We're here for you: $67 Couple's Coaching Session Special for first-time clients. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join Cara's Restored membership for wives Join Refined Adam's online men's membership or find out more about his Master This Moment private podcast. Real-time strength for men navigating hard moments in marriage.  Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week. Interested in individual coaching? Click here. Connect with us on Instagram: @cara.nitz @faith.full.masculinity Send us Fan Mail

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Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.  We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.Find your next step with our online marriage course, support groups, coaching and so many other helpful marriage resources at our website: https://www.thewayforlove.com/ Want to support our work? https://venmo.com/code?user_id=3045403754758144334

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  • Creator
    Adam and Cara Nitz
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    81
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Marriage Unmasked
  • Show Website
    Marriage Unmasked

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