Un-holier Than Thou Podcast

Jenny Smith, Surviving Podcast Network

Unholier Than Thou is a podcast for people who are done blindly believing. We challenge religion, question cultural norms, and dismantle the belief systems that shape, and often control, how people think.  This isn't surface-level conversation. This is deconstruction, disruption, and uncomfortable truth. From cult dynamics and religious conditioning to taboo societal issues, we go where most people won't.  If you're ready to think for yourself instead of being told what to think -  Welcome to the conversations you weren't supposed to have. #exvangelical #deconstruction #religioustrauma #SpiritualAbuse  #FaithDeconstruction  #MentalHealthMatters  #CrimeAndConsequences

  1. 1D AGO

    Unholier Podcast: Cocktails & Confessions 🍹✨

    Is it a sin or just a Sunday? Grab a drink and pull up a chair as we deconstruct the "holy" chaos of the Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) movement. This week, we’re joined by fellow escapee Kristin Watson for a much-needed palate cleanser. From the absurdity of "modest" fashion to the absolute terror of a tent meeting, we’re spilling the tea (and the gin) on everything our pastors warned us about. What’s Inside the Episode: The IFB Girl Starter Pack: We’re breaking down the "godly" wardrobe—from the dreaded culottes and empire-waist jumpers to the paradox of chunky platform shoes.Purity Culture Paranoia: Tampon shame, the "toilet seat pregnancy" myth, and the infamous toothpaste analogy. If it was designed to make you feel broken, we’re laughing at it now.Wild Altar Calls: Remember the screaming preachers and the "Holy Ghost" water-throwing? We recount the most unhinged tent meetings and public call-outs we ever witnessed.The "Scandalous" Now: What would our younger selves think of our agnosticism, our voices, and our cleavage? (Spoiler: They’d be terrified; we’re thrilled.)The Deconstruction Drinking Game: We’re sipping our way through the trauma, processing our views on Hell, and reclaiming our self-worth from a system that tried to bury it.Why You Need to Listen: If you’ve ever felt the sting of religious legalism or the weight of a "modesty" lecture, this episode is your permission slip to laugh. We’re moving past the fear and embracing a life of grace, questioning, and genuine freedom. #ReligiousTrauma #IFB #Fundie #Deconstruction #PurityCulture #Exvangelical #CultRecovery #TraumaHealing #ModestyCulture #Fundamentalism #ChurchTrauma #Therapy #SpiritualDeconstruction Support the show

    1 hr
  2. APR 28

    The Truth About "Rapture Practice": Paula Yost on Why You’re Still Stuck in Survival Mode

    **Is Your Nervous System Stuck in Survival Mode? | The Trauma of "Rapture Practice" & Purity Culture** Did you grow up "practicing" for the Rapture? Do you still feel a spike of panic when you can’t find your parents, or feel a deep-seated shame about your body that you just can't shake?  In this powerful episode of the **Un Holier Podcast**, we sit down with mental health professional Paula Yost to deconstruct the hidden scars left by evangelical and charismatic Christian environments. We’re diving deep into the science of **Religious Trauma Syndrome** and why your "anxiety" might actually be a physiological response to years of fear-based teaching. ### **In This Episode, We Discuss:** * **The "Rapture Practice" Phenomenon:** How being told you could be "left behind" at any moment floods a child's brain with cortisol, rewiring the nervous system for chronic anxiety. * **The Dark Side of Purity Culture:** Why tying a person's worth to sexual "purity" destroys autonomy, ruins consent, and creates long-term sexual dysfunction. * **The Cortisol Connection:** Paula breaks down the clinical impact of fear-based theology on the developing brain—leading to lifelong struggles with rumination and depression. * **Church Hypocrisy & Power Abuse:** Identifying the patterns of boundary violations and the systemic harm done to the LGBTQ+ community, including the devastating reality of conversion therapy. * **The Road to Deconstruction:** How to reclaim your identity, set healthy boundaries, and find authentic support after leaving a high-control religious environment. **If you found this video helpful, please Like, Subscribe, and share your story in the comments. You are not alone, and healing is possible.** #religioustrauma  #deconstruction  #purityculture  #rapture  #mentalhealthmatters  #nervoussystemhealing  #UnHolierPodcast #churchtrauma   #Exvangelical Support the show

    59 min
  3. APR 21

    Breaking the Cycle: From IFB Fundamentalism to Healing & Deconstruction: Jenny Smith Pt 3

    🚨 SHE’S FINALLY SPEAKING OUT. The system is broken, and Jenny has the receipts to prove it. In the explosive conclusion to our 3-part series, we’re pulling back the curtain on the family court nightmare that almost cost a mother everything. Think the courts always favor the mom? Think again. Jenny, David, and Ryan sit down for their most raw conversation yet, exposing what happens when an abusive narcissist turns a child into a weapon. From chilling coached voicemails to the terrifying reality of unsubstantiated CPS reports involving child pornography and weapons—this episode is a masterclass in survival against a master manipulator. ⚠️ WHAT WE’RE UNCOVERING: The "Weaponized" Toddler: The heartbreaking moment Jenny received a voicemail of her baby girl saying, "I hate you."The CPS Failure: How serious allegations against her ex fell through the cracks of a broken system.The Church’s Judgment: Why the pews felt colder as the legal battle heated up.The Step-Dad’s Role: How Ryan stepped into the line of fire to protect his family.20 Years Later: Where is her daughter now? The shocking realization that changed everything.This isn’t just a story about divorce; it’s about the financial ruin, psychological warfare, and the ultimate fight for a daughter’s soul. "They call it 'the best interest of the child,' but in practice, it felt like a ransom negotiation." #UnholierPodcast #FamilyCourt #NarcissisticAbuse #CoParentingHighConflict #CPSFailures #LegalAbuse #NarcissisticParent #Storytime #SystemicFailure #SurvivorStory #ParentalAlienation #TruthTold Support the show

    1h 16m
  4. APR 14

    Breaking the Cycle: From IFB Fundamentalism to Healing & Deconstruction: Jenny Smith Pt 2

    In this moving in-person episode of the Unholier Podcast, guest host David Keck continues the conversation with Jenny Smith. In Part 2, Jenny explores the complex intersection of family life and the Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) church, reflecting on how the rigid expectations of the ministry influenced her father’s approach to parenting. Jenny shares deeply personal memories, including the painful moments where church doctrine took precedence over protection. From being held accountable for things beyond her control to discovering how her father managed her early relationships behind the scenes, she illustrates the intense pressure fundamentalism places on the family unit. In this episode, we cover: Faith & Fatherhood: How church culture and IFB doctrine influenced her upbringing.Control and Misogyny: The impact of labels like "Jezebel" and the weight of purity culture.The Cycle of Abuse: Connecting a fear-based upbringing to the realities of her first marriage.Choosing Freedom: The harrowing journey of leaving with her baby and navigating the aftermath of domestic violence.Healing & Parenting: How deconstruction has allowed Jenny to break generational cycles and find a new perspective on God.Jenny’s story is a powerful look at the struggle to reclaim one's identity while navigating the shadows of a high-control religious environment. Subscribe to the Unholier Podcast for more stories of resilience, deconstruction, and finding hope after trauma. #UNHolierPodcast #ReligiousTrauma #IFB #Fundie #Deconstruction #SpiritualAbuse #DomesticViolence #NarcissisticAbuse #Exvangelical #PurityCulture #ArrangedMarriage #ChurchHurt #TraumaRecovery #SurvivingISH #JennySmith Support the show

    1h 45m
  5. APR 7

    Retired Navy Chief’s HONEST Truth: PTSD, Church Trauma, & The Ayahuasca Trip That Saved Him

    In this incredibly raw and unfiltered episode of the UnHolier Podcast, host Jennifer sits down with retired U.S. Navy Chief Troy Ulshoeffer (Founder of Vines and Valor and Co-Founder of Change Unchained). Troy’s story isn’t just about military service; it’s about the terrifying moment your entire reality—religion, politics, and identity—collapses at once. Troy opens up about the "TikTok rabbit hole" that forced him to confront narcissism within the church, the heartbreaking mental health crisis his son faced, and the devastating loss of his mother to suicide in 2023. After facing his own "dark night of the soul" and a suicidal crisis, Troy turned to a controversial path for healing: Ayahuasca. From the rigid theology of Liberty University to the jungles of spiritual medicine, this is a journey of deconstructing a life built on patriarchy and finding a new mission in anti-trafficking advocacy and veteran healing. If you’ve ever felt lost in your faith, struggled with PTSD, or wondered if there’s a better way to heal, this episode is for you. #ptsd  #deconstruction  #navychief  #ayahuascahealing  #churchtrauma  #VinesAndValor #mentalhealthmatters  #religioustrauma  #veteransupport  #UnHolierPodcast @troyulshoeffer       (IG & TT) @changeunchained (IG&TT) Changeunchained.com @vinesandvalor (IG & TT) Vinesandvalorretreats.com @Symphonyofdeconstruction (IG&TT)  http://www.youtube.com/@UCEh1zzgGsgfVyg4N5jnzH5A Support the show

    1h 45m
  6. MAR 17

    DID PAUL STEAL THE GOSPEL? Is the Christianity you know based on Jesus... or a Roman cover-up?

    DID PAUL STEAL THE GOSPEL? 😱 | The Unholier Podcast Is the Christianity you know based on Jesus... or a Roman cover-up? This week on The Unholier Podcast, Jenny sits down with Paul from RealGoodNews.org for an explosive conversation that dismantles 2,000 years of church tradition. If you’ve ever felt like the "Red Letters" of Jesus don’t match the rest of the Bible, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re diving deep into the historical feud between Paul the Apostle and James (Jesus’ actual brother). Was the early church hijacked? Why does the God of the Old Testament seem so different from the Jesus of the New Testament? From the "genocide" in Numbers 31 to the forged letters in your Bible, we aren’t holding back. 🔍 Inside the Episode: The Great Hijack: Why modern churches prioritize Paul’s letters over Jesus’ direct teachings.The Nazarene Conflict: The hidden battle between Paul and the Jerusalem Church led by James.Bible or Propaganda? A look at Roman councils, human-authored forgeries, and factual contradictions.Blood Atonement vs. Repentance: Why the "pagan" idea of blood sacrifice might be overshadowing Jesus’ true message of love.Christ Consciousness: What it really means when Jesus says, "The Kingdom of Heaven is within you."🌟 About Our Guest: Paul is the founder of RealGoodNews.org, a community dedicated to deconstructing traditional dogma to find the authentic message of the historical Jesus. He offers coaching and resources for those seeking spiritual "oneness" outside the walls of organized religion. 📢 Join the Conversation: Do you think Paul changed the message, or was he just "interpreting" it for the world? Drop a comment below—we’re reading them all! Don't forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the BELL to stay Unholier. 😈 #Christianity #Deconstruction #JesusVsPaul #ChristConsciousness #TheUnholierPodcast #BibleContradictions #ChurchHistory #RealGoodNews #SpiritualAwakening #KingdomWithin Support the show

    1h 39m
5
out of 5
8 Ratings

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Unholier Than Thou is a podcast for people who are done blindly believing. We challenge religion, question cultural norms, and dismantle the belief systems that shape, and often control, how people think.  This isn't surface-level conversation. This is deconstruction, disruption, and uncomfortable truth. From cult dynamics and religious conditioning to taboo societal issues, we go where most people won't.  If you're ready to think for yourself instead of being told what to think -  Welcome to the conversations you weren't supposed to have. #exvangelical #deconstruction #religioustrauma #SpiritualAbuse  #FaithDeconstruction  #MentalHealthMatters  #CrimeAndConsequences

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