RIP IT OFF | Purity Culture Healing, Sex in Christian Marriage, Christian Wife Intimacy, Marriage Communication, Biblical Sex

Michelle Castro
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🩹 RIP IT OFF is a Christian marriage podcast helping Christian wives reclaim biblical intimacy, heal sexual shame, and experience sex in marriage the way God designed it. If you grew up in purity culture, were taught to suppress sexual desire, or entered marriage feeling confused about sex, you are not alone. Each week, Michelle Castro delivers bold, biblical teaching on Christian sexuality, sex in Christian marriage, intimacy in marriage, and the theology that shapes how we experience desire, pleasure, and connection as wives. This is not surface-level marriage advice. This is biblical sexual discipleship. Inside each episode, we dismantle purity culture lies, correct bad theology around sex, and rebuild a biblical view of intimacy rooted in Scripture — not shame. You’ll learn: • What the Bible really says about sex in marriage • How purity culture impacted Christian women’s sexual desire • How to rebuild intimacy in Christian marriage • How to start hard conversations about sex with your husband • The difference between lust and healthy sexual desire • How to experience emotional and physical connection without guilt If you want practical guidance on Christian sexuality, healing sexual shame, improving intimacy in marriage, and building a Christ-centered marriage marked by confidence and connection — this podcast is for you. New episodes every Thursday. itsmemichellecastro@gmail.com

  1. 1D AGO

    How Christian Wives Can Speak Up Without Damaging Intimacy // 41

    In Christian marriage, silence often feels safer than honesty—especially when sex in Christian marriage, unmet expectations, or emotional distance are involved. But biblical intimacy is not built on avoidance. It is formed through truth, humility, and courage rooted in biblical sexual theology. Many Christian wives have been shaped by purity culture and subtle teachings that equate conflict with failure, leaving them unsure how to speak without damaging intimacy in marriage. In this episode, Michelle Castro follows the thread from Episode 39 on silence and moves into application: how do you actually start the hard conversation without blowing everything up? This is not communication theory. It is theological recalibration for Christian wives who want to show up with courage, responsibility, and spiritual maturity inside their covenant. EPISODE SUMMARY: Hard conversations in Christian marriage can feel like pulling a thread that might unravel everything. Whether the issue is intimacy in marriage, emotional disconnect, finances, or lingering resentment, many wives stay quiet because they fear escalation. But you are not responsible for controlling the outcome of a conversation. You are responsible for how you show up in it. In this episode, Michelle outlines five biblical anchors to help you initiate difficult conversations with clarity and calm. Drawing from Nehemiah and practical covenant wisdom, she reframes communication through a biblical view of marriage—where prayer precedes words, connection replaces accusation, and vulnerability softens defensiveness. This is a message Michelle teaches when speaking to women’s ministries and churches: silence does not protect Christian marriage. Truth, handled biblically, strengthens it. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: • Why prayer must come before any hard conversation in Christian marriage • The difference between starting with connection versus correction • Why timing matters more than having the perfect wording • How naming your fear can soften defensiveness • Why you do not need to fix your entire marriage in one talk • What to do if your husband feels blindsided • How to respond when defensiveness surfaces • When communication advice changes because safety must come first SCRIPTURE REFERENCES: Nehemiah 1 Nehemiah 2:4 James 1:19–20 Ephesians 4:15 SPEAKING NOTE: Michelle Castro speaks on biblical intimacy, Christian sexuality, and reclaiming God’s design for sex in Christian marriage. She equips Christian wives to dismantle silence shaped by shame and rebuild intimacy in marriage through biblical sexual theology. NEXT STEP: If silence, fear, and confusion around intimacy in marriage have shaped how you show up in Christian marriage, begin the 31-day Naked & Unashamed journey. This structured discipleship path will help you move from silence to clarity without shame and without performance. CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com SUPPORT & RESOURCES: Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro Naked & Unashamed (31-day journey): bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10) FREE RESOURCE – 13 Types of Intimacy: https://itsmemichellecastro.myflodesk.com/13typesofintimacy

    13 min

  2. FEB 12

    The “Anti” Valentine’s Day Episode (In the Best Way): Stop Measuring Love by One Day // 40

    💖 Is Valentine’s Day quietly becoming a measuring stick for your marriage? With Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s easy to start asking the silent questions: Did he plan something? Did he get flowers? Does he even care? In this episode of the RIP IT OFF Podcast, Michelle invites you to pause before turning February 14th into a verdict on how loved you feel. After sharing a simple but powerful moment — waking up to a clean kitchen and a husband who quietly served without being asked — Michelle unpacks how comparison and cultural expectations can distort how we measure love in marriage. This isn’t about canceling Valentine’s Day. It’s about refusing to let one Hallmark holiday define your relationship. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why Valentine’s Day can quietly become a measuring stick in marriage The difference between steady love and performative love How comparison blinds us to the faithfulness right in front of us What to do when your marriage feels strained or disconnected A simple prayer to help shift your perspective Why gratitude can change the atmosphere of your marriage A Simple Perspective Shift For many men, love looks like: Going to work every single day Carrying responsibility without applause Fixing what’s broken Showing up consistently, even when they’re tired Serving in quiet, unnoticed ways Those things may not come wrapped in roses — but they are deeply loving. Instead of asking, “Why isn’t he more like someone else’s husband?” What if you asked, “How is he already loving me?” Even if your marriage feels hard right now, Michelle invites you to ask the Holy Spirit to help you see just one thing. Here’s the prayer shared in this episode: Holy Spirit, please open my eyes. Help me see one thing about my husband that's a blessing — big, small, anywhere in between. Help me notice the ways he cares for me, for our children, and for our family, even if it looks completely different than everyone else's. Sometimes gratitude doesn’t come naturally. It comes supernaturally. And even one small shift can soften a hardened place. If this conversation stirred something deeper in you, Michelle mentions her 31-day journey, Naked & Unashamed, where these topics are explored more intentionally with truth, grace, and clarity. 👣 Your Next Step Friend, you don’t have to untangle your whole story today. You just have to take the next honest step. If this episode stirred something in you — if you felt seen, exposed, convicted, or even a little uncomfortable — that’s not random. It’s an invitation. Naked & Unashamed is a 31-day journey for women ready to move out of silence and into truth, clarity, and deeper connection with God — and with their husbands. 👉 Start here: https://bit.ly/31dayjourney 💬 Stay in the Conversation If this episode made you nod your head or tear up a little, you’re not dramatic. You’re paying attention. Share it with a friend who needs language for what she’s been carrying. Let’s keep talking: 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10) ⭐ FREE RESOURCE – 13 Types of Intimacy: https://itsmemichellecastro.myflodesk.com/13typesofintimacy

    16 min

  3. FEB 5

    The Real Reason Christian Wives Stop Talking About Intimacy // 39

    Staying silent can feel like love… but what if it’s quietly costing you connection? If you’ve been telling yourself “it’s not that bad,” “this is just a season,” or “I’ll bring it up later,” this episode is your loving wake-up call. ✨ EPISODE SUMMARY In this powerful, bite-sized episode, Michelle unpacks why so many Christian wives stay silent about intimacy—even when it’s creating distance in their marriage. Silence often feels safer than honesty, but safety isn’t the same as connection. You’ll hear why avoiding hard conversations doesn’t freeze your marriage in place—it slowly drifts it. Michelle breaks down the difference between peacekeeping and biblical peacemaking, why honesty doesn’t mean chaos, and how intimacy can’t grow where truth never enters. This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness. And learning how to take one small, honest step out of silence and into connection—with your husband and with God. 📝 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why silence feels loving in the moment—but costs intimacy long term The crucial difference between peacekeeping and peacemaking How avoiding intimacy conversations delays (and prevents) healing Why talking about sex doesn’t mean something is wrong—it means it matters Simple, non-explosive ways to begin honest conversations How to speak from feeling, not accusation Why one conversation isn’t a full renovation—it’s just opening the door Practical prompts to uncover what you’ve been holding back How God meets you in truth, not pretending 🙌 CALL TO ACTION Friend, you don’t have to fix everything today. You just have to take the next honest step. If this episode stirred something in you—if you’re realizing there’s more you’ve been carrying quietly—I created Naked & Unashamed, a 31-day journey for women ready to move out of silence and into truth, clarity, and connection… with God. 👉 Start here: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10) ⭐️ FREE RESOURCE – 13 Types of Intimacy: https://itsmemichellecastro.myflodesk.com/13typesofintimacy ☕️ Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro

    15 min

  4. JAN 29

    When Marriage Feels Like a DIY Project Gone Sideways // 38

    Girl, if your marriage feels more like a chaotic Home Depot run than a cozy rom-com, this one’s for you. Life is messy. Projects spiral. And sometimes your marriage feels like yet another unfinished task. But you're not failing—you're just in the middle. And there's hope right here. 💬 EPISODE SUMMARY: In this raw, real-time episode, Michelle throws out the polished script and pulls you into her heart. Inspired by an unplanned DIY home project, she draws bold, beautiful parallels to what marriage really looks like in the middle of jobs, kids, bills, and overwhelm. If you've ever looked at your relationship and thought, “How did we get here?”, you're not alone. Michelle shares truth that hits deep: God's Word doesn’t give us a step-by-step manual—but it does give us the wisdom, grace, and space to grow through the mess. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about not giving up, inviting the Lord in, and taking the next faithful step—whatever that looks like today. 🎯 WHAT YOU’LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE: Why your marriage might feel “off” and how to name it without shame How unfinished DIY projects mirror the unfinished work in our relationships The truth about purity culture promises—and what God really says How to prioritize your husband when life is loud and love feels distant Encouragement to pray honestly, move imperfectly, and focus on just the next step Why clarity doesn’t come before the mess—but through it 💥 CALL TO ACTION: Sis, if this episode made you nod your head and tear up a little, you’re in good company. Share this with a friend who needs to know she’s not alone in the mess. And don’t forget—you’ve got support, truth, and community right here👇 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10)

    13 min

  5. JAN 22

    You Can’t Fix Bad Theology with Lingerie // 37

    You’ve prayed. You’ve tried. You’ve shown up—maybe in lingerie—and it still doesn’t make sense. Sis, you are not broken. You were just never formed for this. ✨ Episode Summary: In this raw and powerful follow-up to our conversation on exhaustion and intimacy, Michelle Castro takes us deeper into the real reason so many Christian wives feel stuck in the bedroom—and it’s not for lack of effort. From purity culture’s silence post-“I do” to the confusion we carry into marriage, this episode is a bold wake-up call: the problem isn’t you—it’s what you were (and weren’t) taught. Michelle gets real about shame, bad theology, and why surface-level advice like “have more sex” is missing the whole point. With passion and grace, she invites us to slow down, examine what we’ve believed, and step into God’s truth about desire, marriage, and biblical intimacy. 🔍 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why “just try harder” isn’t healing your intimacy issues The damaging oversimplifications of purity culture How performance-based thinking keeps you stuck in shame Why formation > behavior when it comes to biblical intimacy How to start asking the right questions about sex, faith, and marriage Why confusion is not failure—and how truth brings freedom A practical next step to begin healing: the Naked & Unashamed 31-day journey 💡 Michelle Recommends 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10)

    15 min

  6. JAN 15

    Exhaustion vs. Intimacy: What Christian Wives Are Really Struggling With // 36

    You love your husband. You love the Lord. So why does intimacy feel like another thing to survive instead of a place to connect? 😩 If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t feel broken—I feel empty,” this episode is for you. Michelle unpacks the difference between low desire and depleted capacity and shares why exhaustion isn’t a spiritual failure—it’s a signal. This might be the exact truth you didn’t know you needed. 🎧 Episode Summary: In the first official episode of this new series, Michelle tackles a topic Christian wives are living every day—but rarely hear named: exhaustion. Not laziness. Not rebellion. Just the deep, soul-weary tiredness that comes from doing too much, carrying too much, and feeling like you’re still not enough. You’ll hear from real women who’ve said, “I want intimacy… just not when I’m this tired.” And you’ll learn why that doesn't make you a bad wife—it makes you human. Michelle invites you to stop trying harder and instead ask four powerful questions that create space for God to transform your body, mind, and marriage. ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why your body might be shutting down instead of showing up The truth about “low desire” vs. “low capacity” How mental overload kills intimacy (and what to do about it) The cost of saying yes out of guilt instead of calling 4 reflection questions to help you reclaim emotional margin and rest 📣 Call to Action: Being tired doesn’t make you unfaithful. It makes you human. But God doesn’t leave us stuck—He leads us into healing. So let’s stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” And start asking, “What am I carrying that God never asked me to pick up?” 💡 Michelle Recommends 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10)

    15 min

  7. JAN 15

    Why We’re Talking About Sex, Intimacy & Silence in Christian Marriage // 35

    You love God. You want to honor your husband. So why does intimacy still feel confusing, heavy, or even painful to talk about? 😔 You're not broken—you’ve just been living with questions no one ever gave you permission to ask. In this powerful kickoff to a new series, Michelle shares why now is the time to talk honestly, biblically, and boldly about intimacy, shame, and the silence that's cost Christian wives far too much. 🎧 Episode Summary: In this vulnerable, truth-telling opener, Michelle reveals the heart behind her brand-new series focused on intimacy, desire, emotional safety, and shame in Christian marriage. Based on countless messages from real women asking real questions—this conversation exposes the discipleship gap around sex and intimacy that the Church often avoids. If you've ever felt isolated, confused, or ashamed, this episode reminds you: you are not the only one—and you are not the problem. This isn’t a how-to guide or a list of tips. It's a doorway into deeper healing, greater freedom, and the truth of how God sees your body, your desire, and your marriage. ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why silence around sex and intimacy is wounding Christian wives What the Church often misses when preparing women for marriage How shame, confusion, and exhaustion are not signs of failure Why questions are not rebellion—they’re invitations to healing What this new series will explore in the weeks ahead 📣 Call to Action: You don’t need another checklist. You need clarity. Truth. Healing. And you need to know you’re not alone in this. 💡 Michelle Recommends 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10)

    14 min

  8. JAN 12

    The Hidden Way Christian Women Quench the Holy Spirit // 34

    You love Jesus. You're doing "all the right things." But something feels... off. 😔 Could it be that in all the busyness, you’ve unintentionally quieted the very voice that’s meant to guide you? In this quiet-time-inspired episode, Michelle shares a Holy-Spirit conviction straight from 1 Thessalonians 5:19 that stopped her in her tracks: “Do not quench the Spirit.” Friend, it’s not rebellion—it’s distraction. It’s noise. It’s excess. And it might be blocking your intimacy with God and your husband.💔🔥 🎧 Episode Summary: In this special bonus episode straight from her quiet time, Michelle unpacks one powerful verse—1 Thessalonians 5:19—and how many of us are unknowingly quenching the Holy Spirit in the name of obedience, productivity, and good intentions. Through a relatable kitchen analogy, an honest confession about Instagram overload, and her ongoing journey to remove spiritual noise, Michelle invites us to stop “doing” and start listening. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or emotionally numb—this episode is a tender nudge back to presence, sensitivity, and hearing God again. It’s not about adding something new. It’s about removing what’s crowding out His voice. ✨ What You’ll Learn: What it really means to “quench” or “stifle” the Holy Spirit 🔥 Why your spiritual disconnection isn’t rebellion—but noise A real-life picture of how busyness blocks sensitivity to God Why intimacy with your husband is worship, too 💗 A bold question to ask God in this season of quieting the excess 📣 Call to Action: This week, don’t add something new. Ask God what He wants you to let go of. Then listen—and don’t rush past what He shows you. 🙏 💡 Michelle Recommends 💖 Instagram: @itsmemichellecastro 📬 Email: ripitoffpodcast@gmail.com ☕ Support the Show: buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro 💸 Budget Besties: budgetbesties.com/michelle (Save 10%!) 💗 Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney (Use code SAVE10)

    12 min
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🩹 RIP IT OFF is a Christian marriage podcast helping Christian wives reclaim biblical intimacy, heal sexual shame, and experience sex in marriage the way God designed it. If you grew up in purity culture, were taught to suppress sexual desire, or entered marriage feeling confused about sex, you are not alone. Each week, Michelle Castro delivers bold, biblical teaching on Christian sexuality, sex in Christian marriage, intimacy in marriage, and the theology that shapes how we experience desire, pleasure, and connection as wives. This is not surface-level marriage advice. This is biblical sexual discipleship. Inside each episode, we dismantle purity culture lies, correct bad theology around sex, and rebuild a biblical view of intimacy rooted in Scripture — not shame. You’ll learn: • What the Bible really says about sex in marriage • How purity culture impacted Christian women’s sexual desire • How to rebuild intimacy in Christian marriage • How to start hard conversations about sex with your husband • The difference between lust and healthy sexual desire • How to experience emotional and physical connection without guilt If you want practical guidance on Christian sexuality, healing sexual shame, improving intimacy in marriage, and building a Christ-centered marriage marked by confidence and connection — this podcast is for you. New episodes every Thursday. itsmemichellecastro@gmail.com

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