Trauma, Tea, and Tangents

Hannah Guy
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For when therapy didn’t click...or just straight-up sucked. Trauma, Tea, & Tangents is your weekly dose of unfiltered, unapologetic, and unexpectedly healing conversation. Hosted by Hannah Guy, LCSW—a trauma therapist who knows firsthand that healing isn’t linear, self-growth is messy, and sometimes you just need to laugh at the chaos—this podcast dives into all things trauma, nervous system, and the wild ride of being human. Expect a blend of real talk, solid science, and compassionate hot takes, sprinkled with plenty of tangents (because who actually stays on track when they’re talking about trauma?). So grab your tea, get comfy, and let’s spill, sip, and sort through it all—one tangent at a time.

  1. 1D AGO

    Hyper-independence in Relationships: Why Vulnerability Feels So Hard

    What is hyper-independence in relationships — and why does it make vulnerability feel so uncomfortable? In this episode of Trauma, Tea, and Tangents, Hannah Guy is joined by guest Kelsey Wood, marriage and family therapist and coach, to explore how hyper-independence affects romantic relationships, dating patterns, emotional health, and long-term partnership dynamics. If you’ve ever wondered: Why do I struggle to be vulnerable in relationships? Why do I feel like I can’t rely on my partner? Why do I try to control outcomes in dating? Why do I have such rigid expectations in romantic partnerships? This conversation breaks down how hyper-independence develops, how it shows up in dating and romantic relationships, and why building inner self-trust is essential for healthy emotional intimacy. Hyper-independence often creates a deep need for control, reinforces scarcity mindset in dating, and strengthens rigid expectations that block authentic connection. True intimacy requires releasing control, shifting beliefs about vulnerability, and learning to trust yourself from the inside out. Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Hyper-independence in Relationships 07:00 – The Struggle for Vulnerability 11:38 – Navigating Control and Trust 15:10 – Dating Rules and Expectations 20:22 – The Impact of Mindset on Relationships ✨ Want more of Kelsey Wood? Find her here: https://www.kelseywoodtherapyandcoaching.com/ Instagram: @teatimetherapist Substack: https://substack.com/@teatimetherapist ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    26 min

  2. FEB 27

    Is Hyper Independence a Trauma Response?

    Hyper independence is often a trauma response rooted in childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs. In this episode, Hannah Guy sits down with therapist and coach Kelsey Wood to explore how high-functioning women develop self-reliance as a survival strategy — and why control can feel safer than vulnerability. Together, they unpack how childhood experiences shape attachment styles, emotional regulation, and adult relationships. They discuss feminine energy, intergenerational trauma, over-functioning, anxiety, and the hidden exhaustion that comes from always being “the strong one.” If you struggle with asking for help, fear vulnerability, or feel safer doing everything alone, this conversation will resonate deeply. This episode is for women navigating therapy, mental health, healing, and personal growth. You’ll learn how hyper independence can shift from trauma response to intentional strength — and why learning to receive support is essential for secure attachment and emotional healing. Chapters 00:00 – Introduction to Hyper Independence and Trauma 02:43 – Understanding Hyper Independence as a Trauma Response 05:32 – The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Adult Relationships 08:27 – Navigating Emotional Needs and Trauma 11:18 – The Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy 13:56 – Recognizing the Need for Control 16:53 – The Turning Point: When Hyper Independence Becomes a Burden 19:37 – Reconciling Parental Relationships and Childhood Trauma 22:30 – Intergenerational Trauma and Its Effects 25:24 – Using Hyper Independence as a Strength 27:57 – Conclusion: Embracing Vulnerability ✨ Want more of Kelsey Wood? Find her here: https://www.kelseywoodtherapyandcoaching.com/ Instagram: @teatimetherapist Substack: https://substack.com/@teatimetherapist ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    30 min

  3. FEB 20

    Healing After Trauma in Relationships: Triggers, Codependency & Emotional Safety

    In this episode of Trauma Tea and Tangents, Sex Therapist Esme Vallette returns to explore one of the most powerful — and misunderstood — aspects of trauma recovery: healing within relationships. Can a relationship actually help you heal trauma? What happens when your safest partner becomes your biggest trigger? And how do you balance personal responsibility with healthy support? We dive deep into emotional safety, attachment wounds, codependency, relationship triggers, and the role of individual therapy in trauma healing. Esme breaks down how partners can support each other without becoming each other’s therapist — and why discomfort in a relationship doesn’t automatically mean you’re unsafe. This conversation is essential listening for anyone navigating trauma recovery while in a relationship — or hoping to build one that supports growth instead of repeating old patterns. If you’ve ever wondered: “Why do I get triggered in safe relationships?” “Is my partner responsible for my healing?” “What’s the difference between support and codependency?” “Can love actually help trauma heal?” This episode gives you grounded, therapist-backed clarity. Relationships can be healing — but they shouldn’t be the only place you heal. ⏱ Chapters 00:00 – Introduction to Healing in Relationships 01:09 – The Role of Partners in Healing 04:53 – Understanding Triggers and Trauma Responses 08:45 – Responsibility in Relationships 12:17 – Codependency vs. Healthy Support 15:06 – Finding Safe Relationships 19:26 – What Does “Safety” Really Mean? 23:33 – Why Individual Therapy Matters 25:39 – Final Thoughts & Closing Reflections   Joining us for this raw and real convo is Esme Valette, licensed sex therapist and fierce advocate for trauma-informed sex education. Esme opens up about her experience working with survivors, the practical tactics she uses with clients, and how to reclaim intimacy at your own pace. Expect wisdom, vulnerability, and a few healing tangents along the way. ✨ Want more of Esme? Follow her on IG & TikTok: @therapy_with_esme ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    26 min

  4. FEB 6

    Conversation with a Sex Therapist: Sex Isn’t the Goal

    Why does pleasure feel unsafe after trauma? Hannah Guy and sex therapist Esme Valette explore how trauma, conditioning, and performance-based intimacy disconnect us from pleasure—and how slowing down, curiosity, and non-goal oriented touch can help rebuild safety, connection, and trust with the body. Takeaways: How cultural and religious backgrounds shape perceptions of pleasure Why sex is often taught as a linear, goal-oriented experience How non-goal oriented touch can reduce pressure in intimacy The importance of slowing down in trauma healing Using curiosity about sensation to support healing Communicating boundaries, needs, and desires with partners Why changing your mind about intimacy is always valid Expanding intimacy beyond penetration The role of self-exploration in understanding pleasure Chapters 00:00 Rebuilding Pleasure: A Journey of Healing 08:52 Non-Goal Oriented Touch: Redefining Intimacy 18:12 The Power of Curiosity in Healing 26:30 Communicating Needs: Slowing Down for Connection   Joining us for this raw and real convo is Esme Valette, licensed sex therapist and fierce advocate for trauma-informed sex education. Esme opens up about her experience working with survivors, the practical tactics she uses with clients, and how to reclaim intimacy at your own pace. Expect wisdom, vulnerability, and a few healing tangents along the way. ✨ Want more of Esme? Follow her on IG & TikTok: @therapy_with_esme   ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    28 min

  5. JAN 16

    Why Trauma Makes Relationships Feel Hard

    What if feeling “broken” after trauma isn’t a sign that something’s wrong with you — but actually proof your nervous system did what it needed to survive? In this episode, therapist Hannah Guy gets real about the messy, confusing feelings that often come after trauma and how they show up in our relationships. Why can love, intimacy, and even close friendships feel triggering? How do we navigate grief, self-doubt, and moments of dysregulation without beating ourselves up? Hannah shares personal insights and professional guidance, reframing the idea of being “broken” and showing what real healing looks like — it’s not about being perfect or “fixed,” it’s about slowly learning to feel safe in your body, with yourself, and with others. If you’ve ever felt stuck, judged your own feelings, or wondered why relationships feel harder than they “should,” this episode is for you. Chapters 00:00 — Introduction to Trauma & Personal Experience 03:03 — Understanding the Feeling of Being “Broken” 07:33 — How Trauma Impacts Relationships 13:58 — Navigating Love & Intimacy After Trauma 17:54 — Healing: What It Really Looks Like 20:59 — Reframing the Belief of Being Broken   ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    24 min

  6. 12/12/2025

    Stop Overthinking Every Choice

    In this episode, therapist Hannah Guy breaks down why decision-making feels overwhelming for people with trauma histories and chronic anxiety. She explains how the nervous system confuses emotional discomfort with danger, why trauma creates pressure to make the “right” choice, and how fight/flight/fawn/freeze show up when we’re faced with everyday decisions. Hannah shares trauma-informed tools to reduce decision paralysis, regulate the body, and approach choices with more clarity and less fear. You’ll learn grounding practices, reflective questions, and a new perspective on uncertainty: decisions are experiments, not life sentences. Topics covered include trauma responses, attachment triggers, emotional regulation, nervous system healing, somatic strategies, and reframing high-stakes thinking in dating, relationships, and major life transitions. If you struggle with overthinking or fear of making the wrong choice, this episode offers practical support and a gentle mindset shift. ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices   ⏱️ Episode Chapters 00:03 — Welcome + Why This Topic Matters Intro to the episode, why “the right decision” comes up so often in therapy and real life. 00:49 — The Pressure to Choose Correctly How perfectionism and fear show up in everyday decision-making. 01:21 — A Personal Look at Decision Anxiety Hannah shares how dating activates her own decision spirals. 03:21 — Trauma Makes Choices Feel Like Survival Why your brain treats emotional danger like physical danger. 04:48 — How Trauma Turns Normal Decisions Into Threats Coffee dates, texts, jobs—why everything feels high stakes. 06:42 — Fight/Flight/Fawn/Freeze in Decision-Making How each trauma response shows up when you’re faced with choices. 09:04 — The Myth of the “Right” Decision Why one perfect path doesn’t exist and how trauma convinces us otherwise. 11:15 — The Fantasy of Certainty How our nervous system chases the illusion of safety through “right choices.” 12:52 — Decisions Are Experiments, Not Life Sentences Reframing choices as learning instead of permanent outcomes. 13:07 — Regulating Before You Choose Why your body—not logic—makes decisions feel impossible. 13:12 — Tools to Return to Regulation Grounding, orienting, breathwork, and naming the scared parts. 15:38 — What Clarity Actually Feels Like How clarity shows up once the nervous system calms down. 17:50 — Building Tolerance for Uncertainty Expanding your window of tolerance around big and small decisions. 18:29 — You’re Not Meant to Be Regulated All the Time Debunking the myth of constant calm. 19:07 — Mastery Is Tolerating Uncertainty A powerful reframe for healing. 19:10 — Final Reflections + Journal Prompts Questions to ask yourself when you feel pressure to choose. 20:57 — Closing + How to Connect with Hannah Therapy offerings, contact details, and gratitude.

    19 min

  7. 11/14/2025

    How Ketamine-Assisted Therapy Can Transform Your Trauma Recovery

    In this episode of Trauma, Tea, and Tangents, licensed therapist Hannah Guy explores the world of Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP)—a groundbreaking approach to mental health and trauma healing. Hannah breaks down what KAP is, how it works, and what clients can expect from preparation to integration. She also shares insights from her own professional and personal experiences with psychedelic therapy, offering an authentic perspective on what makes this process both safe and transformative. Whether you’re curious about psychedelic-assisted therapy, mental health innovation, or the mind-body connection, this conversation will leave you with a deeper understanding of how Ketamine Therapy can open new doors to healing. Chapters / Episode Takeaways: 00:00 – Introduction to Ketamine Assisted Therapy 01:51 – Personal Journey with Psychedelic Therapy 04:45 – Understanding Ketamine and Its Effects 08:31 – What to Expect from Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy 15:34 – Benefits and Safety of KAP 19:01 – Integration and Long-term Effects of KAP 🔎 Keywords: Ketamine-Assisted Therapy, KAP, trauma healing, psychedelic therapy, mental health, somatic healing, trauma recovery, Revive Therapy Services ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    21 min

  8. 10/31/2025

    Outgrowing Survival Mode: The Real Work of Trauma Recovery

    Hannah Guy sits down with Meg Kub, LPC of Wellness with Meg to chat about what healing really looks like. From outgrowing your survival self to learning to trust yourself again, they talk about the twists and turns of trauma recovery. Healing isn’t neat or linear — it’s layered, sometimes slow, but always worth it. ⏱️ Episode Chapters: 00:00 — Introduction to Trauma and Healing 01:44 — Outgrowing the Survival Self 05:19 — The Journey from Crisis to Stability 08:56 — Understanding Safety vs. Stuckness 15:35 — The Nuances of Healing and Self-Trust 20:45 — Lifelong Healing and Acceptance 25:37 — The Therapeutic Power of Conversation 27:04 — Navigating Trauma Responses 29:21 — Post-Traumatic Growth and Joy 31:19 — The Role of the Therapist in Healing 33:41 — Signs of Moving Beyond Survival Mode 40:14 — Building a Relationship with Self 44:09 — Curiosity in Healing and Self-Discovery About the Guest: Meg Kub is an integrated and somatic therapist specializing in post-traumatic growth and reclaiming your story after complex trauma. With a whole-person approach, she helps individuals move beyond survival mode and symptom management into deeper, lasting healing. Her work emphasizes nervous system regulation, rebuilding trust in self and others, and uncovering the authentic self beneath trauma’s protective layers. If you are interested in getting scheduled with Meg, you can find her on her website Wellness with Meg. You can also find her on TikTok: @wellnesswithmeg ✨ Want to work with Hannah and the trauma therapy team at Revive Therapy Services? You’ve gotta be a PA resident—check us out at revivetherapyservices.com And don’t forget to follow along on TikTok & IG: @revivetherapyservices

    46 min
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For when therapy didn’t click...or just straight-up sucked. Trauma, Tea, & Tangents is your weekly dose of unfiltered, unapologetic, and unexpectedly healing conversation. Hosted by Hannah Guy, LCSW—a trauma therapist who knows firsthand that healing isn’t linear, self-growth is messy, and sometimes you just need to laugh at the chaos—this podcast dives into all things trauma, nervous system, and the wild ride of being human. Expect a blend of real talk, solid science, and compassionate hot takes, sprinkled with plenty of tangents (because who actually stays on track when they’re talking about trauma?). So grab your tea, get comfy, and let’s spill, sip, and sort through it all—one tangent at a time.

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  • Creator
    Hannah Guy
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2025 All rights reserved.
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