Fertile-ish

Fertile-ish

Welcome to Fertile-ish- the unfiltered fertility podcast for anyone navigating baby-making and fertility preservation in the 21st century. Whether you're deep in IVF, freezing-curious, or just spiraling from yet another, "So when are you having kids?" convo, we've got you. Hosted by fertility industry insiders, Brandis Montez and Laura Hendley of CNY Fertility, Fertile-ish breaks down the science, the stigma, and the real-life chaos of reproductive health with humor, heart, and zero sugarcoating. Think less textbook, more group chat at 2am.

  1. 1D AGO

    Embryo Banking: Delayed Gratification, Fertility Edition

    🎧 Embryo Banking: Delayed Gratification, Fertility Edition In this episode of Fertile-ish, Laura and Brandis dive into a topic that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: embryo banking 🧊🧬—what it is, who it’s for, and why thinking long-term can make all the difference when it comes to building the family you’ve always envisioned. While the goal often feels like “just get me pregnant now,” this conversation zooms out to look at fertility as a full family-planning strategy, not just a single cycle or transfer. From age and ovarian reserve to genetics, finances, insurance limitations, and emotional burnout—this episode breaks it all down in a way that’s honest, empowering, and judgment-free. ✨ In this episode, we cover: What embryo banking actually means (and how it’s different from egg freezing) Why banking embryos before transfer can protect future family-building goals How age impacts egg quality—but not the uterus 🕰️ The role of PGT/PGD testing and how it changes success rates Real statistics on live birth rates with and without genetic testing How many embryos are typically recommended per child you hope to have Religious, ethical, and emotional concerns around embryo banking—and the options available What happens if you have embryos left after completing your family Compassionate transfers explained 🤍 How insurance requirements can complicate embryo banking Financing options and how multiple retrievals can still be manageable Why “leaving options open” matters—even if you’re unsure about future children 💭 Big takeaway: Embryo banking isn’t about delaying joy—it’s about protecting future possibilities. Whether you’re early in treatment, mid-journey, or reflecting after transfers, this episode encourages you to ask bigger questions, advocate for yourself, and design a fertility plan that aligns with the life you want—not just the moment you’re in. 🎙️ If you’re navigating IVF, unexplained infertility, or long-term family planning, this one’s for you. 💗 As always, we see you. You’re not alone in the ish of it all. 📌 Helpful reminder: Write your questions down before appointments ✍️Think beyond one cycle 🌱Your journey. Your timeline. Your choices.

    44 min
  2. FEB 10

    Fresh vs Frozen: Let's Break This Down

    🎙️ Fresh vs Frozen: Let’s Break This Down Fresh embryo transfer or frozen embryo transfer… which one is actually better? 🤔 In this episode of Fertile-ish, Laura and Brandis break down one of the most common (and confusing) IVF questions we hear: fresh vs frozen embryo transfers. From success rates and hormone levels to OHSS risk, genetic testing, and cost misconceptions, we’re separating facts from fertility folklore. Whether you’re eager to move fast, trying to minimize risk, or planning ahead for future family building, this episode walks you through how to decide what’s best for you—not your friend, your Facebook group, or someone else’s protocol. ✨ In this episode, we cover: What a fresh embryo transfer actually is What a frozen embryo transfer involves and why clinics now favor it Why “fresh” doesn’t automatically mean “better” How hormone levels impact implantation and pregnancy outcomes When fresh transfers can make sense Why genetic testing requires frozen transfers OHSS risks and the real story behind “McDonald’s fries after transfer” 🍟 Cost myths, transfer pricing, and timing considerations How embryo banking can protect future fertility Why protocols are so individualized—and why that’s a good thing 💡 Key takeaway:There is no one-size-fits-all answer. The best transfer option depends on your age, diagnosis, hormone response, genetic testing plans, and long-term family goals. The most important step? Asking your provider why they recommend a specific approach for you. 🎧 If you’ve ever felt torn between fresh vs frozen—or wondered if you’re missing out by not doing a fresh transfer—this episode is for you. 💌 Have a question you want us to tackle next?Send it to the Fertile-ish inbox or DM us on social. We’re always holding space 🤍 🔗 Listen, rate, and share to help us keep breaking down the science—without the stigma.

    42 min
  3. FEB 3

    Dear Fertile-ish: The Inbox Episode

    🎙️ Dear Fertile-ish: The Inbox Episode Welcome back to Fertile-ish—and this one is special. In this episode, Laura and Brandis open the inbox and respond directly to your most honest, vulnerable, and deeply relatable questions. From grief and burnout to communication struggles, intimacy, age-related anxiety, and learning how to advocate for yourself, this episode is a reminder that if you’re feeling it… you’re not alone. This “Dear Fertile-ish” episode is raw, validating, and packed with compassionate, real-life perspective from two people who live and breathe this work and this journey . 💌 What We’re Talking About:In this inbox-style episode, we dive into questions like: Mourning the person you were before infertility When infertility feels heavier for one partner than the other Living in survival mode and constantly bracing for bad news Feeling burned out versus knowing it’s time for a break Making sense of fertility statistics after 40 Advocating for yourself without feeling “difficult” When sex becomes scheduled, pressured, or transactional Letting go of control when your life revolves around cycles and appointments Understanding the why behind treatment plans and protocols Separating what you truly want from what you feel obligated to continue 🧠 Key Takeaways: Grief and gratitude can coexist—and that doesn’t make you ungrateful or weak Partners often cope differently, and that doesn’t mean they care less You are never wrong for asking questions about your care Statistics inform expectations, not destiny Taking a break is not giving up—it can be an act of self-preservation Intimacy deserves space outside of ovulation windows and calendars You do not owe anyone justification for your family-building decisions 🤍 A Gentle Reminder:Infertility is traumatic. Burnout is real. And being “strong” all the time is exhausting. This episode isn’t about fixing anything—it’s about naming what so many people feel but rarely say out loud. 📩 Want to Be Part of a Future Inbox Episode?Submit your questions, stories, or topic ideas—anonymously or not—through our listener form at: 👉 cnyfertility.com/fertileish You can also request to be a guest on the show through the same link. 🎧 Listen & Support:If this episode resonated with you: Follow Fertile-ish on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts Leave us a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review—it helps more people find this community Share this episode with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone We’re so glad you’re here. We’ll see you next week 💕

    49 min
  4. JAN 27

    Surviving the Crash After a Failed FET

    🎙️ Surviving the Crash After a Failed FET The days after a failed frozen embryo transfer can feel like an emotional and physical free-fall — and it’s not “all in your head.” In this episode, Laura and Brandis talk openly about the very real hormonal crash that happens when estrogen and progesterone levels suddenly drop, especially after stopping meds, and how that biological shift collides with the heartbreak of an unsuccessful cycle. We break down: What’s actually happening hormonally after an FET and why the “luteal phase crash” can feel so intense How IVF amplifies normal PMS/PMDD symptoms and emotional vulnerability Why grief after a failed transfer is real, valid, and layered (even when you “knew it might not work”) Managing expectations without toxic positivity Coping tools for the spiral: self-care, support systems, therapy, journaling, movement, rest, and reconnecting with your partner Why you’re not weak, broken, or overreacting — your body and brain are responding to a massive hormonal shift plus loss Whether you’re in the thick of a post-beta crash, recovering from a chemical pregnancy, or bracing for what might come after a transfer, this conversation is here to remind you: you are not alone, you are not crazy, and this season will pass. 💗 Need support?You can reach out to us anytime through our Fertile-ish support page at:cnyfertility.com/fertileish 🎧 Love the show?Please follow Fertile-ish on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts, and leave us a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5-star review. It helps more than you know and allows us to keep bringing real, honest fertility conversations to this community. If this episode resonated, share it with someone who might be in their own post-transfer crash. You don’t have to carry this alone.

    35 min
  5. JAN 20

    Semen Analysis Decoded: From Cup to Clinic

    🎧 Semen Analysis Decoded: From Cup to Clinic In this episode, Laura and Brandis break down everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and maybe didn’t want to know 😅) about semen analysis—what it measures, why it matters, and how it can save time, money, and heartache on your fertility journey. From abstinence timing and collection options to lifestyle factors that impact sperm health, this is your no-shame, no-stigma guide to the male side of fertility. 🧬 What We Cover: Why Semen Analysis Is So Important Male factor infertility is the sole cause ~20% of the time and a contributing factor in up to 30–50% of cases. Even if someone has children already, sperm quality can change over time. It’s one of the least expensive and most informative fertility tests—and can prevent costly surprises later. Before the Test: How to Prepare Abstain from ejaculation for 2–3 days (longer is not better). Avoid heat exposure (hot tubs, saunas, tight cycling gear) in the months leading up. Remember: sperm you see today were made ~90 days ago, so lifestyle from three months prior matters. Collection Options In-clinic collection rooms 🪑💻 At-home collection with sterile cup (must arrive within 1 hour) Mail-in kits (like Fellow or Legacy) Tips on what not to do (no non-sterile containers, no contamination). 🔍 What a Semen Analysis Looks At: Volume Normal: ≥ 1.5 mL Low volume may suggest retrograde ejaculation or incomplete collection. Concentration (Count) Lower limit of normal: ≥ 15 million/mL Average: ~73 million/mL Pregnancy rates plateau around 40–50 million—after that it’s mostly ego. 😏 Motility (Movement) Normal: ≥ 40% motile Affected by heat, illness, infection, varicocele, prolonged abstinence, and lifestyle. Morphology (Shape) Normal (Kruger strict): ≥ 4% Influenced by genetics, THC, oxidative stress, environmental toxins, and possibly microplastics. pH Normal: ≥ 7.2 (semen is alkaline to protect sperm in the acidic vagina). Round Cells May indicate infection, inflammation, or immature sperm; often prompts urology referral and repeat testing.⚠️ Things a Standard Semen Analysis Does Not Test:DNA Fragmentation Can be affected by THC, smoking, heat, chemotherapy, oxidative stress. Often treated with ICSI or testicular sperm extraction rather than lifestyle alone. 🚫 Big Myths Busted“We only need one sperm.” → You need millions to get that one to the egg. Testosterone helps sperm.” → External testosterone can shut sperm production down completely. “He has kids already.” → Sperm health changes with age, illness, hormones, and lifestyle. 🛠 Modifiable Factors That Can Improve Sperm Health: Alcohol: ≤ 4–5 drinks/week Avoid THC (all forms) Stop smoking/vaping Limit heat exposure (hot tubs, saunas, laptops on laps) Reduce endocrine disruptors (plastics, fragrances, BPA) Consider antioxidants:Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Zinc, Selenium, CoQ10, L-Carnitine, L-Arginine (under medical guidance) 💬 Key Takeaway:Sperm is one of the most changeable parts of fertility. With a ~90-day production cycle and millions made daily, lifestyle and medical interventions can often make a real difference. A simple semen analysis can guide smarter, faster, and more effective treatment decisions. 📣 Connect With Us:Have questions about semen analysis, male factor fertility, or future episode ideas?DM us on Instagram, submit through our form on cnyfertility.com/fertileish, and don’t forget to: ⭐ Follow⭐ Rate (5 stars, please!)⭐ Share with someone in the “ish” of trying to conceive Because fertility is a team sport. 💕

    48 min
  6. JAN 13

    When the Village Isn't Villaging

    🎙️When the Village Isn’t Villaging In this deeply honest and emotional episode, Laura and Brandis talk about one of the most painful — and least discussed — parts of the fertility journey: when the people you expect to show up… don’t. 💔 After sharing a personal experience with pregnancy loss during the holidays, Laura opens up about how infertility, miscarriage, and prolonged uncertainty can strain relationships with friends, family, in-laws, and even lifelong best friends. The conversation explores what it feels like when your “village” goes quiet, says the wrong things, avoids the topic, or simply can’t meet you where you are. Together, they discuss:✨ How grief and fertility struggles can reshape friendships and family dynamics✨ Why well-intended people sometimes disappear or mishandle hard conversations✨ The emotional toll of unmet expectations and feeling unsupported✨ Setting boundaries to protect your mental health and heart✨ How new, unexpected relationships can become your chosen village✨ The power of community found in shared experience — even with people you never expected to meet This episode is for anyone who has ever felt isolated during infertility, miscarriage, or loss — and for those learning that sometimes your village changes, but you are never truly alone. 🤍 💬 If this episode resonates, we’d love to hear from you. Share your story, your support tips, or how you’ve rebuilt your village. 📍 Follow, rate, and review Fertile-ish on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, and wherever you listen.📩 Submit listener stories and questions at: cnyfertility.com/fertileish Because even when the village isn’t villaging… you still deserve love, understanding, and support. 🌱

    51 min
  7. JAN 6

    Embryo Testing Without the Doom Spiral

    🎙️ Embryo Testing Without the Doom Spiral 🧠🧬 If the words PGT, PGD, carrier screening, or genetic testing immediately send your brain into overdrive… this episode is for you. 💭😵‍💫 In this rerun of Season 1, Episode 13, Laura and Brandis break down embryo testing and genetic screening in a way that’s informative, balanced, and—most importantly—free of fear-mongering. Because knowledge is power… not a panic attack. ✨ 💡 What We Cover (Without the Doom Spiral):🧬 The difference between carrier screening, karyotype testing, NIPT, and embryo testing🧪 What PGT-A, PGT-M, and PGT-SR actually mean (and who they’re for)📊 What test results like euploid, mosaic, aneuploid, and “no result” really tell you🤍 Why embryo testing is a tool—not a requirement⚖️ How personal values, past loss, finances, and emotional readiness all factor into decisions👶 Family balancing, embryo prioritization, and informed consent🧘‍♀️ Why more data doesn’t always mean more peace—and how to decide what’s right for you 🌈 Key Takeaway:There is no universally “right” choice when it comes to embryo testing—only the choice that aligns with your body, your history, and your comfort level. Some people want every data point possible.Some people want fewer variables.Some people want to transfer every embryo they have. ✨ All of those paths are valid. ⚠️ Gentle Note:This episode discusses pregnancy loss, genetic conditions, and fertility testing. Please listen with care and take breaks as needed. 🤍 📬 We’d Love to Hear From You:Have you done embryo testing—or chosen not to?Did results bring clarity… or more questions? You can reach out anonymously or share your story at:🌐 cnyfertility.com/fertile-ish📱 Or DM us on Instagram or TikTok 🎧 Listen, Breathe, Repeat:If embryo testing has ever sent you spiraling, this episode is your reminder that information is meant to support you—not scare you. You’re doing your best.You’re allowed to ask questions.And you’re not alone in the ish. 💕 ✨ See you next week, Fertile-ish fam.

    41 min
  8. 12/30/2025

    Love Them Loudly: How to Support Friends & Family Through Infertility

    🌸 Love Them Loudly: How to Support Friends & Family Through InfertilityFertile-ish – Season 2, Episode 12 (Season 1 Rerun) ✨ Sometimes the most meaningful support isn’t saying the perfect thing — it’s simply showing up. In this special rerun episode, Laura and Brandis revisit one of the most shared and impactful conversations from Season 1: how to truly support someone navigating infertility, pregnancy loss, or fertility treatment. This episode is intentionally designed to be sent directly to friends, family members, partners, or loved ones who want to help — but aren’t always sure how. 💌 Whether you’re in the thick of infertility or loving someone who is, this episode offers compassion, clarity, and real-life guidance on what support actually looks like. 💛 In This Episode, We Talk About: ⭐ Why well-intentioned comments like “just relax” or “why don’t you adopt?” can be deeply hurtful⭐ The emotional, physical, and hormonal toll of fertility treatment⭐ Why asking “Did it work?” after a transfer can be painful⭐ The difference between toxic positivity and real support⭐ How to ask “How can I support you?” — and truly mean it⭐ Small, thoughtful gestures that often matter more than big words⭐ Navigating pregnancy announcements when someone you love is struggling⭐ How partners can better support each other through treatment 🌈 Listener Insight Shared in This Episode: A fellow fertility warrior and CNY patient shares powerful advice for loved ones: Be present consistently — not just once in a while Ask thoughtful, educational questions if invited Give space after losses or failed transfers Avoid pressuring timelines or future-focused questions Extend grace — hormones are real ⚠️ Trigger Awareness This episode includes discussion of: Infertility IVF & fertility treatments Pregnancy loss and failed transfers Emotional responses including grief and jealousy Listener discretion is encouraged. Pausing, skipping, or coming back later is always okay 🤍 💌 Why We’re Re-Sharing This EpisodeWe continue to hear from listeners who say: “I sent this to my mom.”“I shared this with my best friend.”“This finally helped my partner understand.” Because infertility doesn’t just affect one person — it affects entire relationships — this message deserves to be heard again. 🎧 Listen, Share, & Love LoudlyIf someone in your life wants to support you but doesn’t know how, this episode is for them. 🎙️ Fertile-ish📲 Available wherever you listen to podcasts 💗 If this episode resonates, please subscribe, rate, and share.💬 Want to tell us what support helped you — or hurt you? DM us anytime.✨ You’re not alone — and you never have to explain your pain perfectly to deserve compassion.

    46 min

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About

Welcome to Fertile-ish- the unfiltered fertility podcast for anyone navigating baby-making and fertility preservation in the 21st century. Whether you're deep in IVF, freezing-curious, or just spiraling from yet another, "So when are you having kids?" convo, we've got you. Hosted by fertility industry insiders, Brandis Montez and Laura Hendley of CNY Fertility, Fertile-ish breaks down the science, the stigma, and the real-life chaos of reproductive health with humor, heart, and zero sugarcoating. Think less textbook, more group chat at 2am.

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