Uncoupled & Unfiltered

Ksenia Muench
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Divorce isn’t polite, and this podcast isn’t either. Uncoupled & Unfiltered is where strong, self-sufficient adults come to get real about divorce—before, during, and after the papers are signed. Hosted by Ksenia Muench, MBA, a no-BS divorce strategist who’s been through the fire of high-conflict litigation, this show is for people who aren’t here to play games or drag anyone through the mud—but who are done taking crap and ready to move on. If you’re dealing with a litigated divorce and trying to keep it fair, focused, and drama-free, this podcast is your new go-to. You’ll hear from legal pros, therapists, financial experts, and real people in the thick of it. Ksenia also drops unfiltered solo episodes full of straight talk, hard-earned lessons, and a healthy dose of tough love. Divorce sucks. But you don’t. Let’s get through this with clarity, grit, and a little humor—because thriving after divorce is the real flex.

  1. 3d ago

    Behind Closed Doors: Exposing the Reality of Narcissistic Abuse

    In this episode, I'm sitting down with Meghan Remington—Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, and author of Behind Closed Doors. With a master's degree in clinical counseling, Meghan stepped away from her career to raise her three sons before navigating her own high-conflict divorce. After rebuilding her life on the other side, Meghan now helps women navigate similar experiences through her coaching practice. She brings firsthand insight into the dynamics that can make these relationships so difficult to recognize and leave. We unpack tactics like love bombing, gaslighting, and stonewalling, exploring how they work and what it takes to reclaim your clarity after manipulation. Whether you've experienced narcissistic abuse or simply want to better understand these dynamics, this conversation offers valuable insight. Key Topics Covered: The inspiration behind Behind Closed Doors.Personal journey of recognizing narcissistic manipulation—and how long it actually took to see the red flags.Why the stories of people who experience narcissistic abuse are often strikingly similar, despite different circumstances.We answer the question: how bad was it actually?The single most important prerequisite for healing: creating distance from the abuser. Why true healing can't begin while you're still living in the cycle of abuse.Radical acceptance—what it is, why it's so difficult, and how it becomes a turning point in recovery.The power of language: why naming manipulative behaviors is a critical step toward clarity, validation, and healing.The practical lessons readers can expect from Behind Closed Doors—real-world tools and insights drawn from lived experience, not just theory. “The big foundation piece with narcissism is lack of ability to be accountable and lack of responsibility.” - Meghan Remington “Behind Closed Doors: How I Got Myself Into and Out of a Narcissistic Marriage” by Meghan Remington: https://a.co/d/06FKSPee  Connect with Meghan Remington: Website: thrivingahead.com  Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/ThrivingAhead/?_rdc=1&_rdr#  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriving_ahead/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thriving.ahead.di  About Our Guest: Meghan Remington Meghan Remington is a Certified Divorce Coach® and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ who helps people navigate high-conflict divorces. With degrees in family studies and clinical counseling, she spent years in mental health before becoming a stay-at-home mom to her three sons. After experiencing her own devastating divorce from a narcissistic partner, she founded Thriving Ahead Divorce Coaching to provide the support she wished she had. In Behind Closed Doors, Meghan combines her story with hard-won insight into narcissistic manipulation, helping readers recognize tactics like love bombing, gaslighting, and breadcrumbing so they can identify toxic behavior and make informed decisions. Who This Episode Is For You If: Anyone experiencing or questioning emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or narcissistic abuse.People navigating high-conflict separation or divorce.Friends, family, therapists, and professionals supporting survivors.Survivors rebuilding confidence and self-trust.Anyone wanting to understand narcissistic relationships and healing. Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    Behind Closed Doors: Exposing the Reality of Narcissistic Abuse

  2. 6d ago

    Get a Grip. Literally. Your Divorce Depends On It.

    You came into this divorce ready to fight, win, and make sure he didn't walk away with anything he didn't deserve. But somewhere between the attorneys, arguments, and back-and-forth, the fighting stopped being a strategy and became the whole divorce. In this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I sit down with Cherie Morris — attorney turned divorce coach and founder of Dear Divorce Coach — to unpack how smart women can become their own worst enemy in divorce. We talk about money, high-conflict splits, co-parenting, what judges actually see, and whether two people who went to war can ever truly be friends on the other side. Raw, real, and zero fluff. Key Topics Covered: How people in divorce get in their own way — and why the most self-destructive moves feel completely justified in the momentWhat actually makes a divorce turn ugly, and how to recognize when you're the one feeding the fireNesting — what it is, why some couples try it, and the real emotional and logistical cost of staying under the same roof while your marriage endsCo-parenting in high-conflict situations — when collaboration isn't realistic and what "trump power" actually looks like and when to use itWhat judges really see when a high-conflict case walks into their courtroom — and how that perception can work for or against youWhether high-conflict couples can actually be friends after divorce — and what that question is really askingThe single most important skill anyone going through a high-conflict divorce needs to developThe difference between a therapist and a divorce coach — and why getting that wrong can cost you more than money “This comes down to the boundaries that we set, and we get to set the boundaries. It's all about what we allow, not what someone else does.” - Cherie Morris Professionals Peer Group: https://betweensessions.circle.so/about-between-sessions  Connect with Cherie Morris: Website:  www.DearDivorceCoach.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@deardivorcecoach  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deardivorcecoach/  Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/DearDivorceCoach/?_rdc=1&_rdr#  About Our Guest: Cherie Morris Cherie Morris is an attorney turned divorce coach and the founder of Dear Divorce Coach. Having sat on every side of the divorce table — as a lawyer, as a coach, and personally — she brings a rare, full-picture perspective to one of life's most disorienting experiences. Cherie works with people who are ready to stop letting the process destroy them and start making decisions that actually serve their future. Her approach is direct, grounded, and built on one core belief: there is a smarter way through this. This Episode Is For You If: You're deep in a high-conflict divorce, and the fight has taken on a life of its own — you're exhausted but don't know how to stopYou're co-parenting with someone who doesn't play fair, and you need to know when to hold the line and howYou're heading into court, and you have no idea how a judge is actually going to read your situationYou've been in therapy for months, and something still feels missing — like you need someone in your corner who understands the strategic side, not just the emotional oneYou want to come out of this with your sanity, your finances, and your future intact — not just a verdict Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    Get a Grip. Literally. Your Divorce Depends On It.

  3. Sep 26

    How To U****k Your Coparenting

    In this episode, I’m joined by Livi North, founder of U****k Your Coparenting, who helps parents navigate high-conflict co-parenting, parallel parenting, post-separation control, and the emotional challenges that follow divorce. We dive into what it takes to co-parent with someone whose anger toward their ex affects their ability to prioritize their children. We explore parallel parenting, how counter-parenting develops in high-conflict dynamics, and how to protect your emotional well-being while staying grounded for your children. We also discuss why the justice system can sometimes seem to protect a$$holes over the victims. Finally, we tackle one of the biggest questions parents ask after a high-conflict separation: Does it ever actually end? Key Topics Covered: Co-parenting with someone whose anger toward their ex affects their children.Understanding counter-parenting and high-conflict dynamics after separation or divorce.Co-parenting vs. parallel parenting, and what parallel parenting looks like in real life.Supporting children who feel caught in the middle or affected by parental alienation.How childhood experiences can shape high-conflict relationships and parenting patterns.Whether children learn and use high-conflict patterns to influence outcomes.Teaching children healthy self-advocacy in challenging parent dynamics.Understanding parental estrangement and preventing long-term relationship breakdowns.Whether high-conflict co-parenting ever truly ends, and how emotional conflict can continue after the legal process. “You can’t co-parent with somebody who hates you more than they love their children.” - Livi North Connect with Livi North: Website:  unfuckyourcoparenting.com  YouTube: www.youtube.com/@UNFUCKYourCoparenting  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unfuckyourcoparenting/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unfuckyourcoparenting  About Our Guest: Livi North Livi North is the founder of U****k Your Coparenting, where she helps parents navigate high-conflict co-parenting, parallel parenting, post-separation control, and the legal and emotional challenges that can follow divorce. Drawing from personal experience and her work supporting parents in difficult co-parenting dynamics, Livi focuses on practical strategies to help people stop reacting, protect their peace, and parent with clarity instead of fear. This Episode Is For You If: You’re co-parenting with someone who turns every interaction into conflict and want to protect your peace while staying present for your children.You’re navigating a high-conflict separation or divorce and want to understand co-parenting, parallel parenting, and unhealthy power struggles.You feel your children are being pulled into adult conflicts and want to support them without escalating the situation.You’re questioning how your childhood experiences and relationship patterns may influence how you handle conflict, boundaries, and parenting today.You’re exhausted from trying to “fix” a high-conflict dynamic and want honest guidance on what you can control, what you can’t, and how to move forward. Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    How To U****k Your Coparenting

  4. Sep 22

    Court vs. Collaboration: The Divorce Decisions That Change Everything

    On today’s episode of *Uncoupled & Unfiltered*, we’re cutting through the noise and getting real about navigating divorce, from considering it to dealing with the aftermath. We’re joined by Cary Jacobson, founder and managing partner of Jacobson Family Law. After nearly a decade handling family law litigation, from custody battles and divorce to child support and post-divorce enforcement, Cary saw firsthand how litigation can tear families apart. She ultimately stepped away from the courtroom to focus on helping families stay out of it. In this episode, we explore what collaborative divorce really means, when mediation can help or backfire, and how to determine which path may make the most sense for your situation. Key Topics Covered: What a seasoned divorce attorney wants you to know about the court system and why avoiding litigation can often lead to better outcomes.When mediation can be a powerful lifeline and when it can become a trap.How to recognize when mediation isn’t the right fit.What collaborative divorce looks like and how it differs from traditional divorce.How collaborative divorce can work even in high-conflict situations.What “good faith” means in mediation versus litigation.Common mistakes in mediation and collaborative divorce and how to avoid them.A real-life case showing why staying out of court can make all the difference. “My rule of thumb is, even if they can agree on one thing- even if it's narrowing the issues- they are having a successful mediation because that in and of itself is going to reduce the emotional strain; it's going to reduce their costs.” - Cary Jacobson About Our Guest: Cary Jacobson Cary Jacobson, Esquire, is the founder and managing partner of Jacobson Family Law. With nearly a decade of experience practicing family law, she has represented clients in matters including separation, divorce, custody, child support, and post-divorce enforcement. Through her litigation experience, Cary saw how family conflict can be damaging to both parents and children, leading her to focus on alternative dispute resolution. As a certified mediator and collaborative divorce attorney, she helps clients navigate mediation, collaborative divorce, and separation agreements to resolve family disputes without court intervention and keep unnecessary drama out of the divorce process. Who This Episode Is For: Anyone thinking about divorce and trying to understand their options before making a moveThose currently in the middle of a divorce who want to avoid unnecessary conflict, cost, and court battlesPeople considering mediation or collaborative divorce—but unsure which path is right for themIndividuals dealing with high-conflict dynamics who still want a resolution outside of courtAnyone post-divorce facing ongoing issues and looking for healthier, more effective ways to move forward Connect with Cary Jacobson: Website:  https://jacobsonfamilylaw.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jacobsonfamilylaw/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryjacobson  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1vZ9kkhd4LPpB1yEqK7U9w  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacobsonfamilylaw/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jacobsonfamilylaw/  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    Court vs. Collaboration: The Divorce Decisions That Change Everything

  5. Sep 19

    What If the Quarterback of Your Divorce Wasn’t Your Attorney?

    On today’s episode of Uncoupled & Unfiltered, we’re talking about the support people in high-conflict divorces actually need. We’re joined by Beth Slate, founder and CEO of Insight Divorce Solutions, a Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator with more than 40 years of business consulting experience and two decades working with law firms. She’s also supported families as a domestic violence advocate, CASA, and guardian ad litem. Having navigated her own high-conflict divorce, Beth brings a unique perspective to the process. We discuss the role of divorce coaches, how to choose the right one, red flags to watch for, and why your attorney shouldn’t have to carry the entire emotional weight of your divorce. Key Topics Covered: The many ways to approach divorce, including newer alternatives that can be far less destructive than litigation, even in high-conflict situations.Why the current divorce industry is fundamentally broken and how that impacts families going through the process.What Insight Divorce Solutions is, and how its approach is challenging and reshaping the traditional divorce model.The proper role of attorneys in divorce and why expecting them to handle emotional, strategic, and communication issues outside their expertise can create even more problems.Why a great divorce coach can act like the “quarterback” of your divorce team and why choosing the right one matters.Major red flags to watch for when hiring a divorce coach, plus how to recognize someone who is truly qualified to support you.The one critical decision you need to make once you’ve decided to file for divorce and how it can shape everything that follows.How your body communicates stress, fear, and truth during divorce and why learning to listen to it instead of overriding it can change the way you navigate the process. “Your body's your truth teller. So when you're looking for somebody to work with, even just in life in general, pay attention to your body.” - Beth Slate About Our Guest: Beth Slate Beth Slate is the founder and CEO of Insight Divorce Solutions and a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Mediator, and Certified Change Management Practitioner. With over 40 years as a business consultant and two decades partnering with hundreds of law firms, she brings a rare combination of strategic expertise and deep human compassion to the divorce process. Beth's approach is shaped by her own experience navigating a high-conflict divorce, as well as years of community service as a domestic violence advocate, CASA for foster children, and guardian ad litem in high-conflict custody cases. This Episode Is For: Anyone navigating a high-conflict divorce and looking for healthier alternatives to courtroom warfarePeople who feel overwhelmed by the divorce process and unsure what kind of support they actually needThose considering working with a divorce coach and wanting to know how to choose the right oneIndividuals relying heavily on their attorney for emotional support and needing clarity on what attorneys can and cannot realistically provideAnyone who wants to approach divorce more strategically, intentionally, and with less damage to themselves and their family Connect with Beth Slate: Website: www.coachingthroughdivorce.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingthroughdivorce/  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    What If the Quarterback of Your Divorce Wasn’t Your Attorney?

  6. Sep 15

    Your Lawyer Is Not Enough. A Three-Decade Litigator Explains Why.

    On today's episode, I am joined by Marlene Shiner — a divorce coach with a PhD in Law from Cornell University and three decades of family law experience. Marlene didn't stumble into coaching because law got hard. She left a career most attorneys spend their whole lives building because she saw what the fight was costing families. That decision — and everything thirty years in a courtroom taught her — is exactly what makes this conversation different. We are getting into what divorce coaches actually do, how they work alongside your attorney, and what they can do for you that your lawyer simply cannot. And we're hearing it straight from someone who spent thirty years on the other side of that table. Key Topics Covered: What divorce coaches actually do that attorneys can't — and why the difference matters more than most people realizeWhy a litigator with thirty years in the courtroom would walk away to become a coach, and what that career taught her about what people actually needWhy the family law system automatically creates conflict the moment you start litigating — and what that means for your caseWhy some attorneys don't want a divorce coach on the team — and what that tells you about themHow judges actually hear cases and make rulings — the reality versus what your attorney is telling youThe coach's role in helping clients make healthier decisions, stop catastrophizing, and show up to negotiations more effectivelyWhy women tend to settle for less than they deserve — and how a divorce coach changes that outcome “It's not the divorce that causes the problem; it's how you divorce.” - Marlene Shiner About Our Guest: Marlene Shiner Marlene Shiner holds a J.D. from Osgoode Hall Law School and a J.S.D. from Cornell Law School.  Dr. Shiner is a zealous advocate in litigation and a calm, dedicated third-party neutral in mediation. She operates a boutique family law firm in Toronto, handling high-conflict, complex divorce cases. Dr. Shiner specializes in all facets of family law, including child custody and visitation, child support and spousal support, same-sex marriage and cohabitation, property division including pensions, inheritances and the matrimonial home, domestic contracts, adoption and grandparents' rights.  Dr. Shiner has been in practice for over thirty years and is proficient in resolving family disputes both in and out of court. Who This Episode Is For: You are in the middle of a divorce, and your attorney is handling the legal side, but nobody is handling youYou are paying litigation costs that are bleeding you dry and wondering if there is another wayYou have never heard of divorce coaching and don't know if it's real or just another thing someone is trying to sell youYou are trying to understand the difference between having a lawyer and having a strategist in your cornerYou want to hear from someone who was inside the legal system for thirty years and chose to walk away from it — and why Connect with Marlene Shiner: Website: www.marleneshinerlaw.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marleneshiner_/  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    Your Lawyer Is Not Enough. A Three-Decade Litigator Explains Why.

  7. Sep 12

    The Divorce Before Divorce

    In this episode, I’m joined by Lyerly Spongberg, a divorce coach and co-parenting specialist who helps people prepare for divorce before entering the legal process. We discuss what to expect—and how to prepare—when being divorced by a terrorist, including protecting yourself emotionally and strategically, navigating co-parenting, and managing the weight of parenting responsibilities. Key Topics Covered: What is likely to happen when a high-conflict person decides to end the relationship.Practical steps to take and what to prepare for if the terrorist is divorcing you.Why preparing for divorce should begin long before a petition is filed.Essential steps to help you prepare for divorce strategically and emotionally.The emotional toll of parenting with someone who isn't carrying their share of the responsibility.How to navigate the pain of feeling sidelined by your children as they try to appease the other parent.Setting healthy boundaries to protect your mental well-being and financial stability while co-parenting with a high-conflict personality.Understanding and processing feelings of resentment toward your children without compromising your ability to be a loving, supportive parent.The single most important tool for staying grounded during divorce—so you don't lose yourself or become someone you'll regret being in the future. “How can you strategically provide them with a quote-unquote win while also benefiting yourself?” - Lyerly Spongberg About Our Guest: Lyerly Spongberg Lyerly Spongberg is a DCA Certified ADR Divorce Coach, Pre-Mediation Divorce Coach, Co-Parenting Specialist, and Trauma-Informed and Coercive Control Coach. Through her national practice, Step Up With Lyerly, she helps individuals navigate divorce with clarity, calm, and confidence, focusing on emotional steadiness, strategic communication, and child-centered outcomes. Drawing from her own high-conflict divorce and experience raising a blended family of eight, Lyerly brings both professional expertise and lived experience to supporting clients through every stage of divorce and post-divorce life. Who This Episode Is For: You're considering divorce or separation from a high-conflict partner and want to prepare before the process begins.Your high-conflict partner has initiated the divorce, and you're trying to understand what to expect and how to protect yourself.You're struggling with the emotional challenges of co-parenting with someone who is unwilling or unable to parent collaboratively.You're feeling overwhelmed by resentment, guilt, or grief and want practical strategies for managing difficult emotions while showing up for your children.You're committed to navigating divorce with clarity, strong boundaries, and integrity so you can protect your future and your relationship with your children. My 10 Steps to Divorce With Clarity and Calm - https://mailchi.mp/stepupwithlyerly.com/10-step-divorce-prep-guide Connect with Lyerly Spongberg: Website:  https://stepupwithlyerly.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stepup_withlyerly/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StepUpWithLyerly  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

    The Divorce Before Divorce

  8. Sep 8

    What No One Tells You Before You File for Divorce

    Divorce doesn't just end a marriage — it reshapes your finances, your family, and your future. In this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, the host sits down with Karen Covy — divorce coach, attorney, mediator, and author — who has spent decades guiding people through one of life's most complex transitions. With her rare dual perspective as both a courtroom attorney and a certified divorce coach, Karen breaks down what most people don't learn until it's too late. Whether you're just starting to consider divorce or already in the middle of it, this conversation is packed with practical, actionable guidance to help you make smarter decisions, avoid costly mistakes, and come out the other side with your life — and finances — intact. Key Topics Covered: Divorce attorney vs. divorce coach: What's the difference, and why you may need bothTypes of divorce explained: Mediation, collaborative divorce, arbitration (private judge), and litigation — which is right for your situationHow to choose the right divorce attorney — and the red flags that signal it's time to switchThe biggest mistakes people make entering divorce (and how to avoid them)Being the CEO of your own divorce: What it means to take ownership of the processBuilding your divorce team: Why the right professionals actually reduce your overall costsTiming the conversation: Is there a "right" moment to tell your spouse you want a divorce?Talking to your kids about divorce: How the approach differs in amicable vs. high-conflict situationsPractical steps to take now to protect your interests and achieve the outcome you want “The only person that you can control is yourself, so the question becomes ‘what skills can you learn to protect yourself and keep that relationship at least a functional level for as long as you need it for the kids?‘” - Karen Covy About Our Guest: Karen Covy Karen Covy is a Chicago-based divorce attorney turned divorce coach, mediator, and author. She founded her coaching practice after witnessing firsthand how the legal system often leaves people emotionally and financially devastated — and set out to change that. Karen helps clients make informed, intentional decisions so they can move forward with clarity and confidence. She is also the host of The Good Divorce Show™, where she shares real stories and expert insights aimed at changing the cultural narrative around divorce and showing families that a healthier, more collaborative path forward is possible. Who This Episode Is For: You're considering divorce but feel overwhelmed and don't know where to startYou're worried about making costly legal or financial mistakes that could haunt you for yearsYou want to understand your options — mediation, collaboration, litigation — before you commit to a pathYou have kids and aren't sure how or when to have the divorce conversation with themYou're ready to stop feeling like a passenger in your own divorce and start making empowered, informed decisions Connect with Karen Covy: Website:  https://karencovy.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karencovy/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KarenCovy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karencovylawyer/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/KarenCovy  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@karen.covy  Connect with Ksenia Muench: Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/  Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/  Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc  Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com  🎧 Listen, Subscribe & Share Follow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show. Want to work with Ksenia? The next cohort is forming now- https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/

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Divorce isn’t polite, and this podcast isn’t either. Uncoupled & Unfiltered is where strong, self-sufficient adults come to get real about divorce—before, during, and after the papers are signed. Hosted by Ksenia Muench, MBA, a no-BS divorce strategist who’s been through the fire of high-conflict litigation, this show is for people who aren’t here to play games or drag anyone through the mud—but who are done taking crap and ready to move on. If you’re dealing with a litigated divorce and trying to keep it fair, focused, and drama-free, this podcast is your new go-to. You’ll hear from legal pros, therapists, financial experts, and real people in the thick of it. Ksenia also drops unfiltered solo episodes full of straight talk, hard-earned lessons, and a healthy dose of tough love. Divorce sucks. But you don’t. Let’s get through this with clarity, grit, and a little humor—because thriving after divorce is the real flex.

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