The Divorce Allies Podcast

The Divorce Allies
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Welcome to the Divorce Allies Podcast, your go-to resource for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce. In this engaging podcast and video series, we delve deep into the complex world of divorce mediation and litigation alongside a diverse team of experts.Our lineup includes seasoned financial professionals, business valuators, mortgage specialists, as well as seasoned parenting and relationship coaches, as well as a team that can help you kickstart your next chapter in life.Join us as we embark on a comprehensive exploration of every facet of the divorce journey, from the financial intricacies to the emotional well-being of all involved parties.Our episodes tackle common yet complex divorce situations, offering valuable insights and practical advice to empower you through every stage of the process.

  1. APR 1

    Rapid Fire Divorce Q&A: Parenting Plans and Co-Parenting

    Welcome back to the podcast. I’m Anna Graham, and today’s episode is a little different—in the best way. We’re doing a rapid-fire Q&A focused on one of the most important parts of navigating divorce: parenting and co-parenting. Joining me is Cristin Terri, our divorce coach and co-parenting specialist. Cristin works closely with parents who are trying to figure out how to move forward while still keeping their children at the center of every decision. From creating detailed parenting plans to navigating life between two households, she helps families build structure, clarity, and stability during a very emotional transition. In this episode, I step into the role of a parent asking the kinds of questions we hear all the time—from how parenting plans actually work to what co-parenting should look like day to day. Cristin shares insights from both her professional background in child development and her personal experience with divorce, offering practical guidance for parents who want to create healthy, child-focused outcomes. If you’re navigating co-parenting, building a parenting plan, or simply trying to understand what life looks like for your children after divorce, this conversation is packed with quick, practical answers to the questions many parents are afraid to ask. 5 Key Takeaways Parenting plans should be detailed and future-focused.  Strong parenting plans anticipate children’s needs from early childhood through the teenage years and beyond.Child-centered decisions lead to healthier co-parenting.  Keeping children’s emotional and developmental needs at the center helps parents make more balanced decisions.Structure creates stability for children.  Clear schedules, expectations, and communication guidelines reduce confusion for kids living between two households.Co-parenting requires intentional communication.  Healthy boundaries and consistent communication strategies help minimize conflict between parents.Parents can learn new skills during divorce.  Coaching and guidance can help parents navigate conflict, regulate emotions, and create a more supportive environment for their children.5 Q&As from this episode 1. What should be included in a divorce parenting plan? A divorce parenting plan should include custody schedules, holidays, decision-making responsibilities, communication guidelines, and plans for education, healthcare, and extracurricular activities. 2. How do you successfully co-parent after divorce? Successful co-parenting after divorce requires clear communication, consistent routines for children, respectful boundaries, and a shared commitment to prioritizing the child’s well-being. 3. Why is a detailed parenting plan important in divorce? A detailed parenting plan helps prevent future conflict by clearly outlining expectations, schedules, and responsibilities for both parents. 4. How can parents reduce conflict while co-parenting? Parents can reduce conflict by using structured communication tools, focusing conversations on the child’s needs, and maintaining clear boundaries around personal issues. 5. What helps children adjust to living in two households? Children adjust better to two households when parents provide consistent routines, maintain open communication, and avoid placing children in the middle of parental conflict. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    34 min

  2. MAR 25

    More Than a Title: Redefining Who You Are After Divorce

    Welcome back to the podcast. I’m Anna Graham, and today we’re diving into a conversation that many people face during and after divorce—who you are when the titles fall away. For so long, our identities can become wrapped up in labels: wife, partner, career title, or even the roles others assign to us. But when life shifts—especially through divorce—it often forces us to ask a deeper question: Who am I beyond those titles? I’m joined by Cristin Terri, who brings incredible insight as a divorce coach, meditation teacher, and co-parenting specialist. Together, we explore how identity evolves during major life transitions and why trying to box yourself into a single title can actually limit your growth. In this episode, we talk about rediscovering purpose, embracing the many roles we play, and allowing ourselves to grow beyond traditional definitions. Whether you're navigating divorce, building a new career path, or simply rethinking who you are in this next chapter, this conversation is about giving yourself permission to expand—without labels holding you back. 5 Key Takeaways Identity shifts after divorce are natural and necessary.  Divorce often disrupts familiar roles, creating an opportunity to rediscover who you are outside of traditional titles.You are more than one role.  People often have multiple skills, passions, and experiences that cannot be captured by a single job title.Authenticity builds deeper connection.  Sharing real experiences and personal growth often resonates more than presenting a perfectly curated professional identity.Purpose matters more than labels.  Instead of focusing on titles, focus on the impact you want to create and the people you want to support.Growth requires flexibility.  Allowing your identity to evolve can open new opportunities for personal development, career direction, and emotional healing.5 Q&As from this episode 1. How do you redefine yourself after divorce? You redefine yourself after divorce by exploring your interests, skills, and values beyond past roles like spouse or partner, and focusing on personal growth and new opportunities. 2. Why is identity loss common after divorce? Identity loss after divorce is common because many people associate their sense of self with marital roles, shared routines, and family structures that change after separation. 3. How can I rebuild confidence after divorce? You can rebuild confidence after divorce by setting personal goals, reconnecting with your strengths, and gradually creating a new identity that reflects your current values and future vision. 4. Do I need a career title to define my professional identity? No, a career title does not fully define your professional identity. Many people have diverse skills and passions that contribute to their purpose and impact beyond a single label. 5. What mindset helps people rebuild their lives after divorce? A growth mindset helps people rebuild their lives after divorce by focusing on progress, self-compassion, and the belief that new opportunities and identities can emerge from change. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    25 min

  3. MAR 18

    Gratitude to Yourself: Rebuilding Life After Divorce

    Welcome back to the podcast. I’m Anna Graham, and today’s conversation is deeply personal and incredibly empowering. We’re talking about something that often gets overlooked in divorce recovery—gratitude toward yourself and the intentional creation of new traditions after divorce. Divorce can feel like the loss of identity, rhythm, and the rituals that once defined your life. But what if this season is also an opportunity? What if it’s a chance to consciously rebuild, to create traditions that reflect who you are now—not who you had to be before? I’m joined by Melissa Gragg, Cristin Terri, and Emile Flowers, and together we explore what it means to honor your resilience, redefine celebration, and step into a new chapter with intention. We talk about shifting from survival mode to self-recognition, releasing comparison, and giving yourself permission to create meaningful experiences that feel aligned and authentic. This episode is about ownership. It’s about recognizing your growth. And it’s about understanding that new traditions aren’t replacements—they’re declarations of who you’re becoming. 5 Key Takeaways Gratitude toward yourself is foundational to healing.  Acknowledging your resilience and progress builds confidence and emotional stability.New traditions create emotional safety.  Intentional rituals help establish a sense of control and comfort after major life transitions.Letting go of “how it used to be” is necessary for growth.  Comparison to the past can prevent you from fully stepping into your new chapter.Healing is both internal and behavioral.  Mindset shifts must be supported by intentional actions and new patterns.Rebuilding identity is an active process.  Divorce is not just an ending—it is an opportunity to redefine values, boundaries, and experiences.5 Q&As from this episode 1. How do I create new traditions after divorce? You create new traditions after divorce by identifying what feels meaningful to you now, intentionally planning new rituals, and focusing on experiences that reflect your current values and goals. 2. Why is gratitude important in divorce recovery? Gratitude is important in divorce recovery because it shifts focus from loss to growth and reinforces personal resilience during emotional rebuilding. 3. How can I emotionally heal after divorce? You can emotionally heal after divorce by acknowledging your progress, setting new boundaries, building supportive routines, and creating positive experiences that reinforce your independence. 4. What are healthy ways to start over after divorce? Healthy ways to start over after divorce include developing new traditions, strengthening self-awareness, practicing emotional regulation, and making intentional lifestyle choices aligned with your future vision. 5. How do I stop comparing my new life to my old marriage? You stop comparing your new life to your old marriage by focusing on personal growth, accepting change as part of healing, and intentionally building new experiences rather than trying to recreate the past. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 33m

  4. MAR 11

    Financial Clarity and Emotional Stability in Divorce

    Welcome back to the podcast. I’m Melissa Gragg, and today we’re talking about something that sounds simple—but can be incredibly difficult during divorce: staying the course. When emotions are high and financial decisions feel overwhelming, it’s easy to get pulled off center. Fear, urgency, frustration, and even outside opinions can push you into reactive choices that don’t serve your long-term stability. In this episode, we focus on how to remain financially and emotionally grounded—even when everything around you feels uncertain. I’m joined by Anna Graham, and together we unpack what it really means to stay steady during divorce. We talk about resisting panic-driven decisions, protecting your financial future, and maintaining emotional discipline when negotiations get tense. This conversation is about clarity, strategy, and self-control—because the strongest position you can take during divorce is a grounded one. If you’re navigating uncertainty and trying to make smart, forward-focused decisions, this episode will help you anchor yourself and move with intention instead of reaction. 5 Key Takeaways Emotional regulation protects financial outcomes.  Staying grounded prevents impulsive decisions that can have long-term financial consequences.Short-term reactions can create long-term setbacks.  Acting out of fear or anger often undermines strategic positioning.Clarity requires slowing down.  Thoughtful decision-making during divorce comes from pausing rather than rushing.Financial discipline is emotional discipline.  Managing stress and anxiety directly impacts negotiation strength.Stability is a strategy.  Remaining consistent and steady often leads to stronger settlement outcomes.5 Q&As from this episode 1. How do I stay emotionally grounded during divorce? You stay emotionally grounded during divorce by pausing before major decisions, focusing on long-term goals, and separating emotional reactions from financial strategy. 2. Why is emotional regulation important in divorce negotiations? Emotional regulation is important in divorce negotiations because reactive decisions can weaken your financial position and limit strategic leverage. 3. How can I avoid making impulsive financial decisions during divorce? You can avoid impulsive financial decisions during divorce by working with trusted advisors, reviewing long-term projections, and resisting pressure to act out of fear. 4. What does it mean to stay the course in divorce? Staying the course in divorce means remaining focused on your overall strategy, maintaining emotional stability, and making decisions aligned with your future goals rather than short-term emotions. 5. How do emotions impact divorce settlements? Emotions impact divorce settlements by influencing negotiation behavior, financial choices, and communication patterns, which can either strengthen or weaken final outcomes. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 43m

  5. MAR 4

    Rewriting Relationships After Divorce

    Welcome back to the podcast. I’m Anna Graham, and today we’re talking about something that many people don’t expect to face during or after divorce—rewriting relationships. Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage. It reshapes how we relate to our former spouse, our children, extended family, and even ourselves. The dynamics shift. Communication changes. Boundaries become essential. And sometimes, the hardest part isn’t the legal process—it’s learning how to move forward in a completely different relational landscape. I’m joined by two incredible members of the Divorce Allies team, Melissa Gragg and Cristine Terri. Together, we unpack what it truly means to redefine connection after divorce—how to establish healthy boundaries, how to communicate effectively in high-conflict situations, and how to stop repeating old patterns in new forms. This conversation is about intentional change. It’s about shifting from reactive habits to thoughtful choices. And most importantly, it’s about creating relationships—whether co-parenting or otherwise—that support stability, respect, and long-term emotional health. If you’re navigating life after divorce and wondering how to rebuild relationally without losing yourself in the process, this episode is for you. 5 Key Takeaways Divorce requires relational restructuring, not just legal separation.  Ending a marriage means redefining communication, expectations, and roles.Healthy boundaries are foundational to post-divorce stability.  Clear emotional and logistical boundaries prevent recurring conflict.Communication patterns must evolve.  Old marital dynamics cannot continue in co-parenting or post-divorce interactions.Emotional awareness improves long-term outcomes.  Recognizing triggers and responding intentionally reduces escalation.Rewriting relationships begins internally.  Personal growth and self-regulation create healthier external dynamics.5 Q&As from this episode 1. How do you redefine a relationship after divorce? You redefine a relationship after divorce by establishing clear boundaries, adjusting communication styles, and focusing on structured, respectful interactions rather than emotional reactions. 2. Why are boundaries important after divorce? Boundaries are important after divorce because they reduce conflict, clarify expectations, and create emotional safety for both parties and children. 3. How can I communicate effectively with my ex after divorce? You can communicate effectively with your ex after divorce by keeping conversations focused on logistics, using neutral language, and avoiding revisiting past marital issues. 4. What does healthy co-parenting look like after divorce? Healthy co-parenting after divorce involves consistent communication, mutual respect, predictable routines for children, and minimizing exposure to parental conflict. 5. How do I stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns after divorce? You stop repeating unhealthy patterns by identifying emotional triggers, practicing self-awareness, setting boundaries early, and seeking professional guidance when needed. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 36m

  6. FEB 25

    Attachment to the Outcome: The Hidden Risk in Divorce Mediation

    Welcome back to The Divorce Allies Podcast.. I’m Anna Graham, and today we’re diving into something that can quietly derail even the most well-intentioned divorce process—attachment to the outcome. In mediation, we often walk in believing we know exactly what we want, what’s fair, and how things should unfold. But when we become rigidly attached to a specific result, it can block resolution, increase conflict, and ultimately cost us more emotionally and financially. I’m joined by the incredible Divorce Allies team—Melissa Gragg, Emile Flowers, and Cristine Terri—and together we’re unpacking what it really means to prepare for mediation without gripping so tightly to a single vision of “winning.” We’re talking about emotional regulation, strategic flexibility, mindset shifts, and how letting go of rigid expectations can actually lead to stronger outcomes. This episode is about empowerment—not through control, but through clarity. If you’re navigating mediation or preparing for settlement conversations, this is one you’ll want to hear. 5 Key Takeaways Attachment to a specific outcome can block productive mediation.  Rigidity increases conflict and reduces creative problem-solving.Preparation is about clarity, not control.  Knowing your priorities allows flexibility in how you reach resolution.Emotional regulation is a negotiation advantage.  Staying grounded prevents reactive decisions that can harm long-term goals.Mediation is about resolution, not victory.  Shifting from “winning” to “solving” creates space for sustainable agreements.Letting go strategically is not weakness.  Releasing rigid expectations can open better financial and relational outcomes.5 Q&As from this episode 1. What does attachment to the outcome mean in divorce mediation? Attachment to the outcome in divorce mediation means becoming emotionally or strategically fixated on one specific result, which can limit flexibility and hinder resolution. 2. How can I prepare for mediation without being too rigid? You can prepare for mediation by identifying your core priorities, understanding your financial reality, and remaining open to multiple paths that achieve your main objectives. 3. Does being flexible in mediation mean giving up? No, flexibility in mediation does not mean giving up; it means adapting strategically to reach a fair and sustainable agreement. 4. Why do emotions affect divorce settlement negotiations? Emotions affect divorce settlement negotiations because unresolved anger, fear, or resentment can influence decision-making and create resistance to compromise. 5. How can I stay calm during divorce mediation? You can stay calm during divorce mediation by clarifying your goals in advance, focusing on long-term stability, and separating emotional reactions from financial strategy. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 36m

  7. FEB 18

    The House, The Mortgage, and Divorce: What You Need to Know

    Welcome back to The Divorce Allies Podcast. I’m Anna Graham, and in this episode, we’re having a conversation that so many people avoid—but absolutely shouldn’t—money and the house. When you’re going through divorce, decisions about the marital home and your financial future can feel overwhelming, emotional, and deeply personal. It’s not just about property. It’s about stability, identity, security, and sometimes fear of the unknown. I’m joined by Melissa Gragg and Emile Flowers, and together we’re breaking down what you really need to consider when making decisions about keeping, selling, refinancing, or letting go of the home. We’re talking about financial clarity, long-term sustainability, and why emotional attachment can sometimes cloud practical judgment. This episode is about empowerment through information. It’s about understanding your options so you can make decisions from a place of strategy—not panic. If you’re navigating questions about the house, affordability, equity, or what your financial life looks like after divorce, this conversation is for you. 5 Key Takeaways The marital home is both an emotional and financial asset  Decisions about the house should consider long-term affordability, not just emotional attachment.Keeping the house does not automatically mean financial security  Mortgage payments, maintenance, taxes, and refinancing terms must all be evaluated realistically.Refinancing during or after divorce requires strategic planning  Credit, income qualification, and timing can significantly impact loan approval and terms.Equity division impacts long-term financial stability  Understanding how home equity is calculated and distributed is essential for fair negotiation.Clarity reduces fear  When you understand your true financial position, you can make confident decisions rather than reactive ones.5 Q&As from this episode 1. Should I keep the house in a divorce? You should keep the house in a divorce only if you can afford the mortgage, maintenance, taxes, and refinancing long-term without financial strain. 2. How is home equity divided in a divorce? Home equity in a divorce is typically calculated by subtracting the remaining mortgage from the home’s market value and then dividing the net equity according to settlement terms. 3. Can I refinance the mortgage during a divorce? Yes, you can refinance during or after divorce, but approval depends on income, credit score, debt-to-income ratio, and finalized settlement agreements. 4. What happens to the mortgage after divorce? After divorce, the mortgage remains legally binding unless it is refinanced, assumed, or paid off through sale of the home. 5. Is it better to sell the house during divorce? Selling the house during divorce can provide liquidity and a clean financial break, but the right decision depends on affordability, market conditions, and long-term goals. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 35m

  8. FEB 11

    Healing After Divorce: A Mind, Body, Soul Approach

    I’m Melissa Gragg, and welcome to The Divorce Allies Podcast. In this episode, we’re talking about something that often gets overlooked in divorce conversations—the need to rewrite the script not just legally or financially, but mentally, physically, and emotionally. I’m joined by the Divorce Allies team: Emile Flowers and Cristine Terri. Together, we explore what it really means to heal after divorce by addressing the whole person—mind, body, and soul. Divorce doesn’t just change your relationship status; it reshapes your identity, your nervous system, your financial reality, and the way you move through the world. This conversation is about awareness and intention. It’s about recognizing patterns that no longer serve you, learning how stress shows up in the body, and understanding why healing isn’t linear—and doesn’t happen on a timeline set by the court. If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, exhausted, or unsure of who you are on the other side of divorce, this episode is designed to help you reconnect and move forward with clarity and compassion. 5 Key Takeaways Divorce impacts the mind, body, and soul—not just your legal status  Emotional stress, financial fear, and physical exhaustion are interconnected and must be addressed together to truly heal.Awareness is the first step toward change  Recognizing emotional triggers, stress responses, and limiting beliefs allows you to interrupt old patterns and make intentional choices.The body holds unresolved stress from divorce  Without proper regulation and care, stress can manifest as fatigue, anxiety, or illness—making physical well-being a critical part of recovery.Financial clarity supports emotional healing  Understanding your financial reality reduces fear, restores confidence, and creates space for forward-looking decisions.Rewriting your story is an active process  Healing after divorce requires conscious effort, support, and patience—not perfection or constant positivity.5 Q&As from this episode 1. How does divorce affect mental and emotional health? Divorce can trigger anxiety, grief, and identity loss by disrupting emotional security, routines, and future expectations. 2. Why is healing after divorce not just emotional? Healing after divorce involves the mind, body, and soul because stress affects physical health, decision-making, and emotional regulation. 3. How can I start over after divorce in a healthy way? Starting over after divorce begins with self-awareness, setting boundaries, seeking support, and creating clarity around finances and goals. 4. What role does stress play during and after divorce? Stress during divorce activates the nervous system, which can impair judgment, increase conflict, and delay emotional recovery if not addressed. 5. How long does it take to heal after divorce? Healing after divorce has no fixed timeline and depends on emotional support, self-care practices, and intentional personal growth. Watch the YouTube video here Melissa's Website here Emile's website here The Divorce Allies website here

    1h 37m
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Welcome to the Divorce Allies Podcast, your go-to resource for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce. In this engaging podcast and video series, we delve deep into the complex world of divorce mediation and litigation alongside a diverse team of experts.Our lineup includes seasoned financial professionals, business valuators, mortgage specialists, as well as seasoned parenting and relationship coaches, as well as a team that can help you kickstart your next chapter in life.Join us as we embark on a comprehensive exploration of every facet of the divorce journey, from the financial intricacies to the emotional well-being of all involved parties.Our episodes tackle common yet complex divorce situations, offering valuable insights and practical advice to empower you through every stage of the process.

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  • Creator
    The Divorce Allies
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    47
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