We Chat Divorce Podcast

My Divorce Solution
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Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both. Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power. Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence. The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.

  1. 2H AGO

    192. Financial Blind Spots in Marriage: The Cost of Not Knowing in Divorce

    In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan unpack one of the most common—and costly—realities in divorce: financial blind spots within a marriage. Inspired in part by the broader conversation sparked by the popular book Strangers: a Memoir of Marriage , this discussion moves beyond the emotional narrative and into the financial truth many individuals face when divorce becomes real. Because while the emotional impact often gets the attention, it’s the lack of financial clarity that can have lasting consequences. Through real client experiences, Karen and Catherine reveal how often individuals enter divorce without a clear understanding of their financial picture. Unknown accounts, overlooked debts, and incomplete visibility aren’t signs of irresponsibility—they’re the result of financial roles that “worked” until they didn’t. The problem is, once divorce begins, you’re no longer living within the system—you’re being asked to evaluate, explain, and divide it. This episode reinforces a core principle: being financially supported is not the same as being financially informed. Without clarity, decisions are made under pressure, legal costs increase, and long-term outcomes can suffer. That’s why My Divorce Solution focuses on financial clarity before legal action—organizing, verifying, and analyzing your full financial picture so you can move forward with confidence, not confusion. About My Divorce Solution We Chat Divorce is produced by My Divorce Solution (MDS) — a financial divorce preparation company dedicated to helping individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and a strategic financial plan. Founded by Karen Chellew, Legal Liaison, and Catherine Shanahan, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), MDS was created to solve one of the most common and costly mistakes in divorce: entering the legal process without fully understanding your financial picture. Divorce is not just a legal event — it is a financial transition that can shape your long-term security. Through the MDS Divorce Financial Portrait™, clients receive expert financial analysis, organized financial disclosures, and scenario planning to understand how different settlement decisions impact their future. This financial preparation often reduces legal fees, shortens the divorce process, and helps individuals negotiate from a position of knowledge rather than fear.If you are considering divorce or already in the process, you can begin by taking the Free Divorce Financial Assessment to better understand your options. You can also join the MDS Community for expert guidance, educational resources, and live Q&A events designed to help you move from uncertainty to clarity. At My Divorce Solution, the mission is simple: replace fear with knowledge so you can make informed, confident financial decisions during divorce. DisclaimerThe We Chat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Catherine Shanahan, Karen Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work.WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever. Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD.Unless specifically stated otherwise, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Catherine Shanahan or Karen Chellew.WCD, CATHERINE SHANAHAN, AND KAREN CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL’S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    30 min

  2. APR 15

    191. Divorcing a Narcissist: How to Protect Yourself, Your Finances, and Your Future

    Divorcing a narcissistic or high-conflict partner is one of the most emotionally and strategically complex experiences you can face. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, we’re joined by high-conflict divorce coach, mediator, and author Victoria McCooey, who shares what it really looks like to navigate divorce when manipulation, control, and emotional abuse are part of the dynamic. Victoria brings both professional expertise and lived experience—offering clear, grounded insight into how narcissistic behavior shows up in divorce, why so many people feel stuck or confused, and what it actually takes to protect yourself and move forward. If you’ve ever felt like you’re questioning your reality, being pulled in multiple directions, or struggling to make clear decisions—this conversation will help you understand why—and what to do next. What You’ll Learn: What defines a narcissistic or high-conflict partner in divorce Why many people don’t recognize abuse until they’re deep in it How manipulation and control show up during the divorce process The emotional and psychological impact of gaslighting Why clarity—not reaction—is your greatest asset in high-conflict divorce How to begin reclaiming your voice, confidence, and decision-making power You don’t need to have everything figured out—you need clarity. And clarity starts with understanding what you’re dealing with. At My Divorce Solution, we see this every day—when emotions are high and information is low, decisions become reactive. That’s why financial clarity is critical, especially in high-conflict situations. When you understand your full financial picture, you regain control of your decisions—not just your circumstances. Resources & Next Steps: Take the Free Divorce Financial Assessment Learn about the MDS Financial Portrait™ Join the MDS Community for expert guidance and support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    37 min

  3. APR 8

    190. The Hidden Cost of Not Knowing Your Numbers in Divorce

    Divorce isn’t just emotional—it’s deeply financial. And when you don’t have a clear understanding of your numbers, your mind fills in the gaps with fear, worst-case scenarios, and assumptions that often aren’t true. In this episode, we break down why financial clarity is the foundation of every smart divorce decision—and what happens when you try to move forward without it. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, uncertain, or stuck trying to decide what to do next, this conversation will help you understand why clarity—not urgency—is your most powerful first step. This conversation defines what true financial clarity actually means, why it’s not a feeling, and what must be in place before signing anything. If you’re feeling pressure to “just get it done,” this episode will help you pause, refocus, and make decisions that hold up not just today—but years from now. At My Divorce Solution, this is exactly why we focus on financial clarity before decisions are made—so strategy replaces reaction. The Divorce Financial Clarity Checklist Get clear on your numbers before making decisions. Start with a Free Divorce Financial Assessment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    29 min

  4. APR 1

    189. The Most Expensive Divorce Mistake Isn’t Legal: What Financial Clarity Really Means

    Most people assume the biggest divorce mistakes happen in the courtroom. They don’t. In this episode of Divorce Explored, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan break down the real—and often overlooked—risk: making decisions before you truly understand your financial picture. Because when you move toward agreement without verified numbers, you’re not negotiating from facts—you’re negotiating from assumptions. This conversation defines what true financial clarity actually means, why it’s not a feeling, and what must be in place before signing anything. If you’re feeling pressure to “just get it done,” this episode will help you pause, refocus, and make decisions that hold up not just today—but years from now. At My Divorce Solution, this is exactly why we focus on financial clarity before decisions are made—so strategy replaces reaction. Get clear on your numbers before making decisions. Start with a Free Divorce Financial Assessment: https://myfinancialportrait.com/get-started Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    28 min

  5. MAR 25

    188. The Hidden Divorce: Why You Feel Stuck—and How Financial Clarity Sets You Free

    There’s a quiet kind of divorce that doesn’t start with papers being filed. It starts years earlier—when the relationship has already ended emotionally, but nothing changes on the outside. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan are joined by returning guest Karen Covy—divorce coach, attorney, mediator, and author—to unpack what it really means to feel “stuck” in a marriage. If you’ve been living in that in-between space—where fear, uncertainty, and obligation keep you from moving forward—this conversation will help you understand why. More importantly, it will show you what’s actually missing: clarity. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What a “hidden divorce” really is—and why so many people are living in one The real reasons people stay stuck (it’s not just fear of divorce) Why not knowing your financial picture keeps you in indecision How misinformation from spouses, friends, Google, and AI can lead to costly mistakes Why divorce is not a binary decision—and the options most people never consider The role of financial independence and confidence, especially in long-term marriages How to make decisions using head, heart, and gut—not just fear Why clarity before action can dramatically reduce conflict, cost, and regret Resources Mentioned My Divorce Solution MDS Financial Portrait™ MDS Community (free support + live Q&A) Visit https://karencovy.com/ to find Karen’s resources When Happily Ever After Ends (book) Divorce Roadmap 3.0 Off the Fence Podcast If you’re questioning your marriage—or quietly feeling stuck—you don’t need to rush into a decision. Start with clarity. At My Divorce Solution, we help you understand your full financial picture before you take your next step—so your decisions are grounded in knowledge, not fear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    42 min
  6. 187. Financial Discovery in Divorce: What Most People Miss Before Settlement

    MAR 18

    187. Financial Discovery in Divorce: What Most People Miss Before Settlement

    Most people enter divorce focused on legal steps. But divorce is ultimately a financial process—and the biggest mistakes happen before negotiations even begin. In this episode of Divorce Explored, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan break down financial discovery in divorce—what it is, why it matters, and what happens when it’s skipped. If you don’t fully understand your financial picture, you’re negotiating without the full story. They walk through real client scenarios, including undisclosed retirement accounts, missing financial documents, and investment portfolios with hidden tax consequences. These are the kinds of details that can completely change the outcome of a settlement—and they’re often missed. This conversation explains the difference between collecting documents and actually verifying them, why incomplete or outdated information leads to costly decisions, and how financial clarity creates confidence during negotiation. You’ll also learn where attorneys, financial planners, and other professionals fit into the process—and why financial preparation must come first. The bottom line: financial discovery is not a technical step. It is the foundation of every financial decision in divorce. If you’re considering divorce, in the middle of the process, or preparing for negotiation, this episode will help you understand what needs to happen before any agreements are made. Start with clarity before making decisions that impact your financial future. Learn more or begin with a free Divorce Financial Assessment:https://mydivorcesolution.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    31 min
  7. 186. Co-Parenting Without Chaos: Tools That Protect Children After Divorce

    MAR 11

    186. Co-Parenting Without Chaos: Tools That Protect Children After Divorce

    Children don’t experience divorce through court documents or financial agreements. They experience it through tone, tension, and the daily communication between their parents. And when that communication stays reactive, unclear, or emotionally charged, children carry that instability with them. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan sit down with family law attorneys Elle Barr and Rebecca Perra from OurFamilyWizard to discuss one of the most important — and often overlooked — factors affecting children after divorce: parental conflict. Drawing on decades of family law experience and research like the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study, this conversation explores why unmanaged conflict between parents can have lasting emotional and health consequences for children. But there is good news: conflict can be reduced when parents use the right systems, tools, and communication structures. You’ll learn how co-parenting platforms like OurFamilyWizard help parents: Reduce emotional conflict in communication Create accountability in co-parenting decisions Track shared child expenses clearly Eliminate misunderstandings about schedules and reimbursements Protect children from adult financial stress You’ll also hear why financial clarity — understanding expenses, support, and shared responsibilities — is critical to building a sustainable co-parenting plan. This episode is essential listening for parents navigating divorce, co-parenting challenges, or ongoing communication struggles with a former spouse. Because divorce doesn’t have to damage children. Conflict does — and conflict can be reduced. Links: https://mydivorcesolution.com/kids-travel-expenses/ ELLE BARR https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/author/elle-barr REBECCA PERRA https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/author/rebecca-perra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    31 min
  8. 185. Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks - Part 2 of 2

    MAR 4

    185. Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks - Part 2 of 2

    Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks Hosts: Karen Chellew, Legal Liaison & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution Catherine Shanahan, CDFA & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution In Part 2 of this conversation on real estate and divorce, Karen and Catherine focus on what happens when real decisions are made—buying property, selling the marital home, or dividing proceeds. While these steps may feel like progress during a difficult time, they can create unexpected financial risks if the details aren’t fully understood. Through real client scenarios, they explain why clauses written into real estate contracts may not actually protect you in divorce and why agreements like indemnification don’t always provide the security people expect. Risks of buying property before your divorce is finalized Why realtor clauses may not protect you in a divorce Key considerations when selling the marital home Why splitting proceeds too early can create problems The limits of indemnification in divorce agreements Real estate decisions during divorce aren’t just legal or emotional—they’re financial risk decisions. Before buying, selling, or signing anything, it’s important to understand ownership, liability, and how the transaction could impact your final settlement. If you want verified numbers and a clear strategy before negotiating property division, learn more about the MDS Divorce Financial Portrait™ at:MyDivorceSolution.com Part 1 of this episode covers the foundational concepts behind real estate in divorce, including the difference between the deed, mortgage, and promissory note, and why understanding those documents matters before making any decisions. Episode OverviewWhat You’ll LearnKey TakeawayResourcesListen to Part 1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    26 min
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Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both. Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power. Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence. The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.

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  • Creator
    My Divorce Solution
  • Years Active
    2017 - 2026
  • Episodes
    204
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