Thriving Kids

The Child Mind Institute
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Parenting can feel overwhelming when kids struggle with anxiety, behavior, school, or big emotions. Thriving Kids is a podcast for parents and caregivers who want clear, honest answers about child and adolescent mental health. Hosted by Dr. Dave Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, each episode focuses on a common parenting challenge — from tantrums to school struggles — with practical strategies grounded in science. You’ll hear direct, expert guidance from clinicians who work with kids and families every day. New episodes every week, with companion newsletters for easy reference.

  1. 2d ago ·  Video

    Q&A: How to Handle Attention & Focus Issues

    Attention problems can be frustrating for kids and parents — especially when it’s hard to tell whether a child can’t focus on a task or simply doesn’t want to. In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers nine parent questions about attention and focus, including when difficulties may point to ADHD. Dr. Dave explains why ADHD can make boring or repetitive tasks especially difficult and shares practical strategies for strengthening study, organization, and attention skills. He also discusses ADHD in girls, medication use as kids grow, phones and social media, and why an ability to intensely focus on some activities doesn’t rule out ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Dave covers: • How to distinguish attention problems from lack of motivation • Strategies for kids with attention difficulties, even with or without an ADHD diagnosis • How phones, gaming, and social media may affect attention • Why ADHD can look different in girls and boys • Helping kids start homework, stay focused, and study independently • When to seek a professional ADHD evaluation Key takeaways • ADHD is not simply a lack of effort. Kids may struggle most with tasks that feel boring or unrewarding. • Attention problems don’t always mean ADHD. Anxiety, depression, trauma, learning disorders and other factors can also affect focus. • ADHD strategies can help even without a diagnosis. Routines, reinforcement and organization systems can make tasks easier. • Planners, calendars, distraction-free workspaces, and check-ins can help kids develop independence. • Consider whether technology is affecting sleep, schoolwork, or relationships. Further reading How to Get an ADHD Diagnosis How to Tell if Your Daughter Has ADHD How Girls With ADHD Are Different How to Help Yourself Get Organized Side Effects of ADHD Medication Not All Attention Problems Are ADHD Books mentioned in the episode All About ADHD: The Complete Practical Guide for Classroom Teachers — Linda J. Pfiffner Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents — Russell A. Barkley Managing ADHD in School — Russell A. Barkley The Everyday Parenting Toolkit — Dr. Alan E. Kazdin Organizational Skills Training for Children with ADHD: An Empirically Supported Treatment — Richard Gallagher, Howard B. Abikoff, and Elana G. Spira Additional Resources ADDitude CHADD

  2. Sep 24 ·  Video

    What to Know About Teen Substance Use

    Experimenting with alcohol, marijuana, tobacco, and other substances isn’t uncommon during adolescence — but that doesn’t mean that parents don’t, or shouldn’t, have concerns about it. On this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by two experts from Partnerships to End Addiction, clinical psychologist Dr. Aaron Hogue and licensed clinical social worker Molly Bobek, for a practical conversation about preventing teen substance use, recognizing the warning signs of substance use problem, and helping young people make safer decisions. They explain why the relationship parents build with their kids may be one of their most powerful prevention tools. And they discuss how to talk about drugs and alcohol without exaggerating the risks or losing credibility, what parents should know about the connection between substance use and mental health, and how to respond when a teenager comes home after drinking or doing drugs. They also offer guidance on when to seek treatment, what effective treatment should look like, and why it’s important for families to be involved in the recovery process. In this episode, they cover: • How to distinguish typical experimentation from more concerning patterns of substance use • Why mental health challenges can make teens more vulnerable to misusing substances • How parents can balance family values, consequences, safety, and open communication Key takeaways • Relationships are a powerful prevention tool. Staying calm, curious, and connected — Dr. Hogue’s “three C’s” — can offer teens somewhere to turn when they encounter substances or difficult situations. • Don’t feel like you have to exaggerate the risks of substances to be heard. Scare tactics can backfire, undermining parents’ credibility. Accurate, age-appropriate information can help teens understand real risks while preserving trust. • Think in terms of many small conversations, as opposed to one “big talk” about drinking and drugs. You can create an ongoing dialogue about peer pressure, family values, mental health, and safety. • Prioritize safety when something happens. If your teen has used a substance, beginning with curiosity about what happened and whether they’re safe preserves an open line of communication that can help them make better decisions in the future. • If a teen does need treatment, it should be framed as a form of support, not a punishment. Parents can approach counseling as something the family can work on together rather than evidence that the teen has failed or needs to be “fixed.” • Effective treatment should address the whole child. For adolescents, that often means addressing co-occurring mental health challenges and meaningfully involving parents and families in care. Further reading How to Talk to Your Teen About Substance Use  – Child Mind InstituteComplete Guide to Substance Use + Mental Health – Child Mind Institute

    What to Know About Teen Substance Use

  3. Sep 17 ·  Video

    Q&A: Anger, ADHD, Lying, OCD, and Big Feelings

    In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers eight parent questions about some of the most common — and challenging — behaviors families face. From aggression and ADHD to lying, motivation, OCD, and big emotions, Dr. Dave explains what may drive these behaviors and offers practical, evidence-based strategies parents can use to respond. In this episode, Dr. Dave covers: • Why is my three-year-old so angry and aggressive? • How can I help a child with ADHD without medication? • My child is out of control. Where can I send him? • How do I motivate a “lazy” child? • How do I explain OCD to a child? • Why does my child lie about everything? • Why won’t my child listen unless I yell? • Why is my child so sensitive? Key takeaways • Anger and aggression in young children can stem from temperament, development, family stress, and other factors. Behavioral parent training can help parents combine warmth with clear expectations and consistent consequences. • Medication is not the only evidence-based ADHD treatment. Parent training, classroom support, organizational skills, and help with peer relationships can all be effective but require consistent adult involvement. • Even when behavior feels out of control, behavioral and family interventions can help. Families may also consider school-based services, therapeutic programs, residential treatment, or hospitalization when safety is a concern. • What looks like “laziness” may reflect depression, ADHD, learning challenges, or other difficulties. Parents can build motivation through meaningful rewards and opportunities for success. • OCD involves intrusive thoughts and/or repetitive behaviors a person feels driven to perform. Treatment, including exposure and response prevention (ERP), can help kids tolerate anxiety without compulsions. • Lying is common in childhood. Parents can emphasize honesty, reinforce truth-telling — especially when it’s difficult — and use calm, proportionate consequences when needed. • If kids only listen after a parent yells, the family may be in a coercive cycle. Calm directions and predictable consequences can break the pattern and show that yelling isn’t what makes a direction matter. • Some children experience emotions more intensely. Parents can help them identify feelings, build coping skills, and learn to move forward after difficult moments.   Further Reading Angry Kids: Dealing With Explosive Behavior Behavioral Treatments for Kids With ADHD Behavioral Parent Training School Success Kit for Kids With ADHD Complete Guide to ADHD Why Kids Lie and What Parents Can Do About It How to Give Kids Effective Instructions Healthy Minds, Thriving Kids

    Q&A: Anger, ADHD, Lying, OCD, and Big Feelings

  4. Sep 10 ·  Video

    Dad Brain: Fatherhood, Parenting, and the Brain

    Becoming a father doesn’t just change your life, research suggests it can actually change your brain. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with psychologist and researcher Dr. Darby Saxbe, author of Dad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood and How It Shapes Men’s Lives, to explore the emerging science of what happens to men’s brains, hormones, relationships, and sense of identity when they become fathers. Dr. Saxbe explains why some of the brain changes associated with fatherhood may help dads become more attuned to their children, how testosterone levels can shift as men move into caregiving roles, and why becoming a parent can bring both psychological vulnerability and long-term neurological benefits. They also discuss paternal mental health, loneliness, and social connection among men, the pressures created by online messages about masculinity, and how being an engaged father can offer men a powerful source of connection and purpose. In this episode, they cover: • How men’s brains can change during the transition to fatherhood • Why some brain changes may help fathers become more responsive to their babies • What researchers are learning about paternal postpartum depression and anxiety • Why the popular idea that “higher testosterone is always better” misses what the research actually shows • How relationships and social connection contribute to men’s long-term health • How fatherhood can encourage healthier behaviors in men Key takeaways • Fathers’ brains change, too. Research suggests that becoming a father is associated with changes in brain structure and function, including areas involved in understanding and responding to other people’s thoughts and emotions. • Those changes can bring both opportunity and vulnerability. In Dr. Saxbe’s research, some of the brain changes associated with stronger bonding and greater caregiving involvement were also associated with more symptoms of anxiety, depression, psychological distress, and sleep problems. • Fathers’ mental health deserves attention. Becoming a parent is a major physical, emotional, and social transition for all parents, yet fathers are often overlooked in conversations about postpartum well-being. • Testosterone isn’t simply a “more is better” hormone. Testosterone can naturally change as men transition into caregiving roles, and Dr. Saxbe argues that flexibility — rather than maximizing testosterone — is a more useful way to understand these changes. • Fatherhood can encourage healthier habits. Research suggests fathers may be more likely to engage in protective health behaviors and less likely to engage in some risky behaviors once they become responsible for a child. • Great parents are made, not born. One of Dr. Saxbe’s central messages is that good parenting isn’t innate. Investment, motivation, practice, and experience help parents develop the skills they need. Further reading 10 Tips to Help Dads and Daughters Stay Close – Child Mind Institute https://childmind.org/article/parenting-through-depression/Parenting Through Depression – Child Mind Institute Dad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood and How It Shapes Men’s Lives by Dr. Darby Saxbe

    Dad Brain: Fatherhood, Parenting, and the Brain

  5. Sep 3 ·  Video

    Q&A: Friendship, Neurodiversity, and Staying True to Yourself

    In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Caroline Maguire about friendship, neurodivergence, masking, and building authentic relationships. Dr. Dave discusses how parents can help kids make friends without making them feel like they have to change who they are, how to understand the difference between practicing social skills and masking, and how to support kids who over-apologize, over-explain, or spiral after awkward social moments. He also offer advice on navigating social anxiety, loneliness, and friendship expectations — and talks about how adults can model healthier friendship habits for kids. This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance for helping children build meaningful connections, tolerate the ups and downs of friendship, and find relationships where they feel accepted for who they really are.   In this episode, Dr. Dave covers: How to help kids make friends without pressuring them to change who they areWhy one awkward moment does not mean a friendship is ruinedWhat to do when kids say they “don’t need friends”How to help kids who move too quickly from meeting someone to “best friend”How adults can model boundaries, repair, and healthier friendship habits  Further Reading How to Help Kids Who Are LonelyHelping Young Children Who Are Socially AnxiousHow to Help Kids Who Are Too Hard on ThemselvesCaroline MaguireWhy Will No One Will Play With Me

    Q&A: Friendship, Neurodiversity, and Staying True to Yourself

  6. Aug 27 ·  Video

    Summer Hot Takes: Parenting Advice With Dr. Aliza Pressman

    From gentle parenting to strict rules about screen time, today’s parents are constantly bombarded with advice about the “right” way to raise their kids. But how much of that advice is actually supported by research? In this special Summer Hot Takes episode, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with developmental psychologist, bestselling author, and Raising Good Humans podcast host Dr. Aliza Pressman to explore some of parenting’s most talked-about topics. Together, they discuss why it’s important for any approach to be rooted in science, how authoritative parenting (not to be confused with the harder-to-define gentle parenting) balances warmth with boundaries, and how families can develop healthier relationships with technology. They also talk about the importance of letting kids experience disappointment, navigate failure, and learn from difficult emotions without treating every feeling like an emergency. Throughout the conversation, Dr. Dave and Dr. Pressman remind parents that thoughtful, flexible parenting is the goal, not perfection. In this episode, they cover: What people often mean when they talk about “gentle parenting” and common misunderstandings about the termWhat authoritative parenting is and why it remains one of the most evidence-supported parenting approachesPractical ways to create healthier screen habits for children and teensWhy boredom, waiting, and feeling lonely sometimes can help kids build resilience and independenceHow to help kids tolerate disappointment, failure, and rejection Key takeaways Healthy screen habits focus on balance, connection, and intentional use.Kids benefit from experiencing age-appropriate disappointment and failure.Parents don’t need to solve every emotion immediately to support emotional health.Parenting trends come and go, but warmth combined with clear boundaries remains the most effective approach.    Further reading from the Child Mind Institute ·      Helping Kids With Flexible Thinking ·      Three Common Parenting Traps ·      How to Set Limits on Screen Time More from Dr. Aliza Pressman ·      Raising Good Humans With Dr. Aliza (podcast) ·      The 5 Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans

    Summer Hot Takes: Parenting Advice With Dr. Aliza Pressman

  7. Aug 21 ·  Video

    Q&A: Back-to-School Survival Guide

    Back-to-school season can bring a lot of excitement, but it can also bring anxiety — stressful mornings, friendship worries, homework battles, and questions about how to help kids adjust after summer break. In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson tackles some of the biggest concerns families face as a new school year begins. From how to tell the difference between normal first-day jitters and more serious anxiety to how to reset kids’ sleep routines after summer, Dr. Dave offers compassionate guidance and practical strategies you can put into practice right away. In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:  How to recognize the difference between typical back-to-school nerves and anxiety that may require extra supportPractical ways to reset sleep schedules, screen time, and morning routines after the summer breakHow to help children build friendships and navigate worries about fitting inWhy stomachaches and headaches can sometimes be signs of anxiety — and when to seek a medical evaluationStrategies for supporting students with ADHD, learning disorders, and executive functioning challengesHow to partner effectively with teachers at the beginning of the school year  Key Takeaways Small, gradual routine changes make the back-to-school transition easier for children.Anxiety about going to school is common, but persistent school avoidance can benefit from early support.Strong parent-teacher partnerships help children succeed academically and emotionally.Sleep, consistent routines, and healthy technology habits create a stronger foundation for learning.Family schedules should prioritize wellness, not just productivity.   Further Reading Back-to-School Hub The Child Mind Institute’s comprehensive collection of expert advice for preparing children and families for the new school year. Help for School Refusal Managing Back-to-School Anxiety

    Q&A: Back-to-School Survival Guide

  8. Aug 13 ·  Video

    Helping Neurodivergent Kids Make Friends

    In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by Caroline Maguire, an ADHD and executive function coach and author of Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults. They discuss friendship, social anxiety, and how neurodivergent kids and teens can build more authentic relationships without feeling pressured to hide or “mask” who they are. In this episode, they cover: • What masking is and how it can affect kids’ mental health • Why getting support for social skills doesn’t mean people need to abandon their authentic selves • How black-and-white thinking can make social situations feel more painful • How parents, clinicians, and coaches can help kids build confidence in relationships Key takeaways • Masking — hiding how you really feel — can help people get through social situations, but over time it may lead to anxiety, depression, people-pleasing, and disconnection from the self. • Neuro-affirming social support should help kids and adults connect with others while still honoring their own needs, values, and personalities. • Social mistakes are part of being human, and over-apologizing or repeatedly revisiting them can make anxiety worse. • Black-and-white thinking can turn a mostly positive interaction into something that feels like a failure. • Building authentic friendships often starts with understanding your own patterns, communicating your needs, and finding people who appreciate you as you are. Further reading Kids Who Need a Little Help to Make Friends Helping Girls With ADHD Make Friends What Is Neurodiversity?

    Helping Neurodivergent Kids Make Friends
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Parenting can feel overwhelming when kids struggle with anxiety, behavior, school, or big emotions. Thriving Kids is a podcast for parents and caregivers who want clear, honest answers about child and adolescent mental health. Hosted by Dr. Dave Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, each episode focuses on a common parenting challenge — from tantrums to school struggles — with practical strategies grounded in science. You’ll hear direct, expert guidance from clinicians who work with kids and families every day. New episodes every week, with companion newsletters for easy reference.

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  • Creator
    The Child Mind Institute
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    68
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Child Mind Institute
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