Thriving Kids

The Child Mind Institute
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Parenting can feel overwhelming when kids struggle with anxiety, behavior, school, or big emotions. Thriving Kids is a podcast for parents and caregivers who want clear, honest answers about child and adolescent mental health. Hosted by Dr. Dave Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, each episode focuses on a common parenting challenge — from tantrums to school struggles — with practical strategies grounded in science. You’ll hear direct, expert guidance from clinicians who work with kids and families every day. New episodes every week, with companion newsletters for easy reference.

  1. 20H AGO

    Q&A: Filling Your Cup Without Guilt

    n this Questions & Answers episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson follows up on last week’s conversation with Joanna Kim, PhD about parental self-care and the invisible labor of raising kids. He answers listener questions about guilt, exhaustion, and how to make “filling your cup” realistic in a normal week. In this episode, we answer: “Self-care online looks like spas and vacations. What’s realistic for me?”Start with 1–5 minute options you can repeat.Think small: a mindful coffee/tea moment, a short stretch, a quick walk, a 5–10 minute workout video, or a pause before you switch into “evening shift.”“How do I help friends who feel guilty taking time away from their kids?”Reframe from quantity to quality time.Try a one-week experiment: take a little time back, then notice what changes (energy, patience, connection).“I’m a chronic yes-person. What do I say no to?”Use a quick sort:Non-negotiablesWant-to-dosEnergy drainsPractice saying no for a short window (a few days), then decide what boundaries should stick.“I get homework from my child’s therapist and forget. I feel like I’m failing.”You’re not failing. Your therapist wants honesty.Build a simple system for tracking + prioritizing, then accept that some tasks won’t happen every week.“I have no time. Work, dinner, bedtime, repeat. What can I do?”Start by naming what actually calms you (food/drink, movement, sleep, connection, faith/spiritual practices, quiet).Then look for small pockets to repeat, not a perfect routine.“Any clever tricks to get a break without my kids interrupting?”Tricks can work short term, but the long-term goal is modeling normal boundaries:“I’m taking 20 minutes. I’ll be back at ___.”“It’s not about love. It’s about rest.”“What can you do that feels relaxing while I take my break?” Key takeaways “Self-care” doesn’t need money or big blocks of time.Start with minutes, then build.Your goal isn’t more time with kids. It’s better time with kids.Boundaries often matter as much as adding new habits.If you’re working with a therapist/coach, missed homework is useful info — it helps you set a plan that fits your real week. Mentioned Last week’s episode with Joanna Kim, PhD on parental self-care and invisible laborChild Mind Institute Family Resource Center: childmind.org/resources About Thriving Kids Thriving Kids is a podcast from the Child Mind Institute, a nonprofit dedicated to transforming the lives of children with mental health and learning disorders.

    27 min

  2. FEB 12

    How Can I Take Care of Myself So I Can Be The Best Parent I Can Be?

    Self-care for parents isn’t selfish. It’s fuel. In this episode of the Thriving Kids podcast, Dave Anderson, PhD, talks with Joanna Kim, PhD, about what real self-care looks like for busy parents — especially those who feel guilty even thinking about taking a break. We cover: • Why “self-care” can feel privileged or unrealistic • How to “fill your cup” in 1–5 minutes (no spa day required) • The science of parent engagement and what gets in the way • How sleep, boundaries, and saying no protect your energy • Why modeling rest and balance matters for your kids From tea with a daily quote to pocket Sudoku to sleeping in without guilt — this episode is about small, doable changes that help you show up as the parent you want to be. Follow Joanna Kim’s Engaging Families Lab:Instagram: @engagingfamilieslabWebsite: engagingfamilieslab.org Further ReadingThe Impact of Parental Burnout, American Psychological Association (APA) Mental Health Resources for Parents, Mental Health America (MHA) Why Self-Care Is Essential to Parenting, Child Mind Institute

    35 min
  3. How Parents Shape Their Child’s Stress - and What Actually Helps

    FEB 5

    How Parents Shape Their Child’s Stress - and What Actually Helps

    In this Thriving Kids Q&A episode, Dave Anderson, PhD, answers parent questions about child stress, anxiety, avoidance, burnout, and emotional coping. Building on a recent conversation with Dylan Gee, PhD, professor of psychology at Yale University, this episode focuses on how kids learn to respond to stress — and how parent behavior can either ease anxiety or reinforce it over time. Dr. Dave addresses common situations parents face, including school anxiety, physical symptoms of stress, overscheduling, achievement pressure, and burnout. He explains why avoidance often makes anxiety worse and how parents can support kids without pushing too hard or accommodating in ways that keep stress stuck. In this episode, you’ll learn: How kids model parental stress — and how to change your own venting habitsWhy avoidance increases anxiety over timeWhy anxiety often shows up as stomachaches or headachesHow to help kids face stress without overwhelming themWhen reassurance backfires — and what to do insteadHow accommodation can unintentionally reinforce anxietyHow to support overscheduled teens under college pressureWhat teen burnout looks like after prolonged stressSimple tools to reset a child’s nervous system before tests, games, or performancesThis episode draws on evidence-based approaches from cognitive behavioral therapy, child development research, and clinical practice. It’s designed for parents of elementary-, middle-, and high-school-aged kids navigating anxiety, perfectionism, stress, and emotional overload. Thriving Kids is a parenting podcast from the Child Mind Institute, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting children with mental health, behavior, and learning challenges. Resources mentioned: How do I help my child cope with stress? https://childmind.org/positiveparenting/coping-with-stressAnxiety resources for teens and parents https://childmind.org/topics/anxietyThe art and science of mindfulness https://childmind.org/article/the-art-and-science-of-mindfulness For more expert guidance and free family resources, visit: https://childmind.org/resources

    22 min
  4. How To Help Your Child Cope with Stress, with Dr. Dylan Gee

    JAN 29

    How To Help Your Child Cope with Stress, with Dr. Dylan Gee

    Is your child struggling with stress — or is it something more? In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Dylan Gee, a professor of psychology at Yale University, to explore the vital difference between managing stress and simply trying to avoid it. While it’s natural to want to "pave the road" and remove obstacles for our children, learning to tolerate discomfort is one of the most important emotional skills a child can build. We discuss the "avoidance trap," where stepping in to solve every problem can actually make a child's stress worse over time. Dr. Gee explains how kids can learn to recover from hard moments and why your own emotional state as a caregiver is the most powerful tool for helping a stressed child feel safe and supported. In this episode, we discuss: The Avoidance Trap: Why helping kids avoid stress can undermine their ability to build long-term resilience.The Power of Parental Regulation: How staying calm and regulated helps your child cope when things feel overwhelming.Validation and Labeling: Why identifying big emotions like "frustrated" or "scared" is the first step toward managing them.Challenging Extreme Thinking: How to guide kids away from "all-or-nothing" thoughts and toward more balanced perspectives.Filling the Coping Toolbox: Practical strategies like deep breathing, mindfulness, and creative expression to help kids bounce back.

    34 min
  5. Should You Let Your Kid Fail? A Parent Q&A on Pressure, Resilience, and Emotions

    JAN 22

    Should You Let Your Kid Fail? A Parent Q&A on Pressure, Resilience, and Emotions

    In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids Podcast, Dave Anderson answers listener questions following last week’s conversation with Jennifer Wallace on achievement culture and helping kids feel like they matter. Parents asked practical, hard questions about failure, pressure, motivation, and emotional regulation. This episode focuses on finding balance—between support and independence, structure and flexibility, validation and limits. Questions covered: Natural consequences vs. stepping in Did you rob your child of a lesson by rescuing a forgotten school project?How to decide based on context and stakes.Kids who cheat because they hate losing What’s developmentally normal at younger ages.When rule-following matters for peer relationships.How to address cheating without turning games into power struggles. Paying kids for good grades Does it increase pressure?The role of external reinforcement.How to use rewards thoughtfully and fade them over time.When your child says, “I suck at this” How to respond to negative self-talk.Helping kids move from global self-blame to problem-solving.The brutal car ride home after a loss Why “I loved watching you play” can backfire.How to ask what support your teen actually wants.Coaching emotional regulation without forcing a conversation. When schools make failure feel high-stakes What to say when mistakes lead to remedial groups or lost electives.Supporting your child when systems increase pressure.How parents can act as “counterprogramming” to achievement culture. Key takeaways There is rarely one “right” parenting move.Kids need both scaffolding and space to struggle.Pressure affects children differently.Validation doesn’t mean fixing feelings.Effort matters more than perfection. This episode is especially helpful if you’re parenting a child who is sensitive to failure, perfectionistic, or feeling overwhelmed by expectations at school or in sports.

    28 min

  6. JAN 15

    Helping Kids Feel Like They Matter Not Just What They Achieve, with Jennifer Wallace

    In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson speaks with Jennifer Wallace, award-winning journalist and author, about her books 'Never Enough' and 'Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose.' They discuss the trajectory of her work, the culture of toxic achievement, and how fostering a sense of mattering can serve as an antidote. Wallace shares research findings on mattering, practical strategies for parents, workplaces, and third spaces, and emphasizes the importance of making others feel valued in everyday interactions. They also explore the impact of parental self-care on creating a healthy environment for children. Further Reading: How to Help Kids Learn to FailRaising Resilient Kids Who Are Prepared for the FutureHow to Model Healthy Coping Skills

    38 min
  7. Q&A with Dr. Dave | When Teenagers Pull Away - How to Stay Connected Without Power Struggles

    JAN 8

    Q&A with Dr. Dave | When Teenagers Pull Away - How to Stay Connected Without Power Struggles

    Parenting teens can feel confusing, hurtful, and exhausting — especially when connection starts to slip. In this Thriving Kids Q&A episode from the Child Mind Institute, Dr. Dave Anderson answers real questions from parents about staying connected to teenagers during adolescence. He covers: Why teens can be warm and talkative with other adults but distant at homeHow memes, TikToks, and inside jokes still count as real connectionHow to prepare teens for college and independence without constant conflictWhat to do when defiance and power struggles escalateHow to respond when teens self-diagnose ADHD or other mental health conditions online This episode focuses on relationship-first parenting, clear boundaries, and helping teens feel understood — so they’re more likely to come to you when it really matters. Further reading  Help! My Teen Stopped Talking to MeTips for Communicating With Your TeenParenting a Defiant Teen: Expert Tips

    26 min
  8. How to Build a Better Relationship With Your Teen with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart

    JAN 1

    How to Build a Better Relationship With Your Teen with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart

    Parenting a teen can feel like walking on eggshells. Conversations turn into conflict. Teens pull away. Parents are left wondering how to stay connected without giving up boundaries. In this episode of the Thriving Kids Podcast, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by pediatric psychologist Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart to talk about what actually helps build a stronger, healthier relationship with your teen — even during tough moments. They discuss: • Why teens push back and pull away during adolescence • What real connection with teens looks like (and what it doesn’t) • How to set limits without damaging trust • Common parenting mistakes that increase power struggles • How to stay grounded when emotions run high • Practical ways to rebuild connection after conflict This conversation focuses on realistic, evidence-based strategies parents can use to improve communication, reduce tension, and strengthen trust — without trying to control or fix their teen. Hosted by clinicians from the Child Mind Institute, the Thriving Kids Podcast offers expert guidance for parents raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids and teens. For more parenting tools and mental health resources, visit childmind.org. ⸻ Related Child Mind Institute Articles Tips for Communicating With Your Teenhttps://childmind.org/article/tips-communicating-with-teen Help! My Teen Stopped Talking to Mehttps://childmind.org/article/help-my-teen-stopped-talking-to-me/ How to Help Kids Have Healthy Romantic Relationshipshttps://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-kids-have-good-romantic-relationships/ How to Help Your Teen Through a Breakuphttps://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-your-teen-through-a-breakup/ 10 Tips for Parenting Your Pre-Teenhttps://childmind.org/article/10-tips-for-parenting-your-pre-teen/ Tweens, Teens, and Young Adults Resourceshttps://childmind.org/topics/teens-young-adults/

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Parenting can feel overwhelming when kids struggle with anxiety, behavior, school, or big emotions. Thriving Kids is a podcast for parents and caregivers who want clear, honest answers about child and adolescent mental health. Hosted by Dr. Dave Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, each episode focuses on a common parenting challenge — from tantrums to school struggles — with practical strategies grounded in science. You’ll hear direct, expert guidance from clinicians who work with kids and families every day. New episodes every week, with companion newsletters for easy reference.

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  • Creator
    The Child Mind Institute
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Child Mind Institute
  • Show Website
    Thriving Kids

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