Divorced Dads of America: The Rebuild

Anthony Thompson, Founder of Divorced Dads of America
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You didn't lose your marriage. You lost yourself. This podcast is for the divorced dad who's done surviving and ready to rebuild — his confidence, his cashflow, and his connection with his kids. Every episode delivers one raw truth and one actionable framework grounded in Biblical truth and real strategy. No fluff. No therapy speak. Just the work. New episodes drop weekly. Follow the show so you never miss a rebuild.

  1. 2h ago

    You Were Enough When You Were Married — So What Happened to That Man

    A dad on a coaching call went quiet for almost a minute when I asked him what he was afraid of. Then he said — I felt like I was enough when I was married. And now I don't. That one sentence explained everything — why he keeps trying instead of committing, why he will not go for the promotion, why he will not fully invest in the rebuild. The marriage was not just a relationship. It was an identity system. And when it ended — the confirmation that he was enough went with it. This episode is about building that back. Not from the outside. From the inside out. In this episode: Why the marriage was an identity system — and what collapsed when it endedRoy Baumeister's self-concept crisis research — why divorced dads do not just lose the relationship, they lose the evidence they were worth being in itWhy trying is a symptom not a strategy — and what the belief underneath it is actually sayingThe University of Scranton research on why commitment language produces different results than intention languageBack to school season and what your kids are absorbing from what you believe about yourself right nowThe Belief Rebuild — four steps to install the new belief before the evidence arrivesMichael Merzenich's neuroplasticity research — why behavior changes the belief, not the other way aroundWhy the old belief will come back and the system you need to protect the new oneThe University of Illinois 10-year study on what your belief about yourself is doing to your kids' identity right nowProverbs 23:7 — as a man thinks in his heart so is heThe man who was enough when he was married is still in there — here is how to find himApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  2. 4d ago

    The Divorce Already Humiliated You — So What Exactly Are You Still Afraid Of

    I walked into my kids' event wondering what my ex had already told people about me. Carrying shame about being a church guy who got divorced. Terrified of failing publicly again. And then it hit me — the thing I was most afraid of had already happened. The humiliation was already on record. The loss was already real. And I was still standing. This episode is for every divorced dad who is playing it safe, staying small, and calling it wisdom. The most expensive decision you are making right now is not the one you are afraid of making. It is the one you keep not making. In this episode: Why playing it safe is not protection — it is a guarantee of the outcome you are most afraid ofDr. Brené Brown's decade of research on vulnerability as the single most consistent predictor of human flourishingThe specific fear most divorced dads will never say out loud — and why public humiliation stops men coldMark Leary's Duke University research on why the audience judging you in your head is significantly larger than the real oneThe Already Through It Audit — four steps that expose what fear is actually doing to your decisionsWhy you are consistently underestimating your own recovery capacity — and the Seligman research that proves itWhat you focus on grows — why focusing on loss produces more loss and what to focus on insteadRick Hanson's neuroplasticity research on the negativity bias and how to override it deliberately2 Timothy 1:7 — why fear is not from God and what isThe specific cost of staying small — to your kids, your blueprint, and the men watching you rebuildHow to make the move before the fear leaves — because it will not leave before you moveApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  3. 5d ago

    A Father Buried His Son This Week — And Taught Me What "I Love You" Actually Means

    This week on Sunday Table, the Sunday faith segment from Divorced Dads of America, Anthony Thompson sits with a grieving father in his community whose 16-year-old son was killed in a tragic accident — a father who was already fighting to save his marriage in the middle of an unwanted divorce. From the open-casket memorial to the quiet drive home, Anthony unpacks what losing a child teaches every divorced dad about presence, fatherhood, and what it means to actually love your kids while you still have the chance. This episode explores grief and faith for divorced dads, the myth that most couples divorce after losing a child (the real research says otherwise), and the neuroscience behind why grief feels the way it does — drawing on researcher Mary-Frances O'Connor's work on "the grieving brain." Anthony ties it back to Psalm 90:12 — "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom" — and leaves every dad listening with one question: if tonight was the last night, would your kid's last memory of you be your full attention, or the top of your head while you scrolled? If you're a divorced dad navigating co-parenting, healing after divorce, or rebuilding your relationship with God and your kids, Sunday Table is built for you — one story, one verse, and one idea to carry into your week. This week's idea: Stop waiting for the big moment to be the dad you want to be — the mundane moment is the assignment. Scripture: Psalm 90:12 — "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom." Work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fFollow Divorced Dads of America on Instagram: https://bit.ly/insta_DDAJoin the Divorced Dads of America community on Skool: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97

  4. Aug 14

    You Want to Get Stronger — But You Won't Touch the Weight That Would Actually Do It

    Two clients. One drowning in more business than he can handle — still working out of fear. One who could see the path to 3x revenue — still paralyzed by limiting beliefs. Both have the weight loaded on the bar. Neither will touch it. This episode is about why divorced dads stay small when the bigger life is right in front of them — and the exact process that builds the strength to pick up the weight that actually changes everything. In this episode: Why abundance and scarcity can exist at the same time — and why the fear program runs even when the reality has changedThe difference between working out of fear and working out of a system — and what it costs you to confuse the twoDr. Carol Dweck's research on why divorced dads avoid the heavy weight — and what they are actually protectingThe Spotter System — three steps that build the strength to make the move before you feel readyWhy you have to feel the weight before you can own the lift — and what a spotter actually doesAlbert Bandura's self-efficacy research — why mastery experience is the only thing that actually builds beliefWhy your client made the move in fear and how the weight got lighter every single time he picked it upTali Sharot's neuroscience research on why a specific vivid vision reduces fear-based avoidanceHow to write your 2x number today and put the actual weight on the bar so you can see itPhilippians 4:13 and Matthew 9:29 — what the weight room promise actually means in practiceApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  5. Aug 10

    Why Divorced Dads Stay Overwhelmed — The Time Audit That Puts You Back on Offense

    Show me your calendar and I'll tell you what you actually value. Not what you say you value. What your time is actually going toward. For most divorced dads the calendar has work and maybe the gym — and everything else is whatever is left over after the day takes what it wants. That is called playing defense. And it is why so many capable, disciplined divorced dads stay stuck. This episode is the Time Audit — what it is, how to run it, and how to build the Offensive Calendar that changes how you operate starting this week. In this episode: Why discipline is the engine but structure is the road — and most divorced dads are missing the roadThe University of Toronto research on why the highest performers minimize the need for willpower through design not through grindingShow me your calendar — the one audit that tells you everything about what you actually valueThe three-step Time Audit: inventory, honest look, and the rebuildThe Offensive Calendar — what it actually looks like across every category of your lifeCal Newport's Deep Work research on why time-blocking produces significantly more output in fewer hoursThe 23-minute focus recovery tax — what every interruption is actually costing your best workHow to block kids time, faith time, thinking time, and deep work before the week steals it allThe weekly review system — what was on track, what was not, what to refineHow to destroy energy vampires and protect energy givers starting this weekEphesians 5:15-16 and what making the most of every opportunity actually requires in practiceThe Harvard Business Review study on time-blocking and the 20% productivity increase it producesApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  6. Aug 9

    Sunday Table: I Didn't Get The Job — I Got A Blueprint Instead

    I prepped for weeks for a job I thought was the answer. High-paying, aligned, exactly what I needed. Then I didn't get it — and I was crushed. What I didn't see in that parking lot was that every hour of prep I'd just done was about to become the blueprint for the best business month I'd had up to that point. This week on Sunday Table — Peter getting out of the boat before the storm calmed down, the muscle of belief, and why some closed doors are actually blueprints in disguise. In this episode: The job I didn't get — and the blueprint I didn't know I was holdingMatthew 14 — why Peter got out of the boat while the storm was still going, not afterThe tension every believer lives in — spirit willing, flesh weak — and what to do about itWhy belief is a muscle, not a feeling, and how to start building itThe question I want every dad to sit with this week: what can you see yourself becoming — and do you have peace about it?Gideon's fleece — when to test the idea small, and when it's time to jumpA prayer for the dad staring at a closed door and calling it the end Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  7. Aug 7

    His Greenhouse Was Dying — So Was He

    Steve Super runs a horticulture business in California. He knows how to grow things. He knows what dying looks like. And when his daughter was diagnosed with leukemia in the middle of his divorce — he watched his greenhouse wither at the exact same rate he did. The plants stopped thriving. The business fell into disarray. The man who knew how to make things grow could not keep himself alive. This episode is one of the most honest conversations about carrying everything at once that this podcast has ever had. Divorce. A daughter fighting leukemia. A son leaving for college. A house to sell. And a man who drove four hours to the hospital every week, walked into the chapel to fall apart, and walked back out to be strong for his daughter. Steve is not on the other side of this. He is in it. And he is still showing up. In this episode: What it actually looks like to carry divorce, a child's cancer diagnosis, an empty nest, and a house sale in the same yearWhy Steve's greenhouse started dying the same week his daughter got sick — and what that mirror taught him about his own internal worldRunning on adrenaline when there is nothing left — what that looks like from the insideWalking into the hospital chapel to completely fall apart — then walking back into his daughter's room like nothing happenedThe reticular activating system — why your external environment is always reflecting your internal world and what to do about itThe tape measure text from his ex — and the fifty six year pattern it exposed in sixty secondsWhy people-pleasing is not kindness — it is passive aggressive resentment waiting to explodeWhat happens to a man's social life when the marriage ends and he realizes his wife was running all of itThe greenhouse cleanup — how fixing the physical environment started shifting the internal oneWhy silence is not the enemy of a divorced dad — it is where the epiphanies liveThe Cal Newport Deep Work research — why every task switch costs you 23 minutes and what that is doing to your emotional reserves by nightfallWhat Steve would tell the dad who feels like he cannot breathe right nowHow one small epiphany — catching a pattern you have carried for decades — becomes the proof that you are going to make itConnect with Steve Super: Website: stevesupergardens.comInstagram and live selling: Palm StreetConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

  8. Aug 3

    What Dying People Talk About — And Why It Should Change Everything About How You Live Today

    My grandmother is in her upper 90s. She doesn't ask about my business or what I'm building. She tells me about soup. About a kid playing football in the street. She asks about my kids. And sitting with her I realized what most men spend their entire lives running from — at the end it is not the vacations or the status or the things you accumulated. It is the people. The moments. The ordinary days you were actually present for. This episode is for the divorced dad who is so focused on building his future that he is missing the only moment he actually has. In this episode: What Bronnie Ware's palliative care research found about the top regrets of dying men — and why none of them are about work or achievementDr. Karl Pillemer's Cornell Legacy Project — what 1,500 Americans aged 70-100 said actually mattered at the endThe Harvard mind-wandering study — why 47% of your waking hours are spent somewhere other than the present and what it is costing youWhy high-performing divorced dads are especially vulnerable to missing the present — and the specific trap that keeps them chasing instead of livingDepression focuses on the past. Anxiety focuses on the future. Where peace actually lives.The Inner Peace Architecture — three daily decisions that create peace from the inside rather than chasing it from the outsideSonja Lyubomirsky's happiness research — why only 10% of your happiness is determined by circumstances and 40% is yours to build right nowWhy if something outside you can give you peace it can be taken away — and how to create peace that nobody can takeRick Hanson's neuroplasticity research on gratitude as a neurological intervention not a soft conceptTerror Management Theory — why consciously sitting with mortality produces presence not despairPhilippians 4:11 — what contentment actually means and where Paul was when he wrote itThe bowl of soup. The football game in the street. What your grandmother is actually telling you about how to live today.Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

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You didn't lose your marriage. You lost yourself. This podcast is for the divorced dad who's done surviving and ready to rebuild — his confidence, his cashflow, and his connection with his kids. Every episode delivers one raw truth and one actionable framework grounded in Biblical truth and real strategy. No fluff. No therapy speak. Just the work. New episodes drop weekly. Follow the show so you never miss a rebuild.

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  • Creator
    Anthony Thompson, Founder of Divorced Dads of America
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    137
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Anthony Thompson, Founder of Divorced Dads of America
  • Show Website
    Divorced Dads of America: The Rebuild

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