The Divorce Planner

Alex Beattie | The Divorce Planner
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The Divorce Planner Podcast is your essential guide to divorce preparation and navigating one of life's hardest transitions with clarity and confidence. Built around the four pillars of divorce preparation—emotional, financial, administrative, and practical—each episode gives you actionable strategies for gathering documents, understanding your finances, negotiating well, and reframing this transition as an opportunity to create your best next chapter. Host and divorce prep coach Alex Beattie talks with top attorneys, mediators, financial experts, therapists, and coaches, and shares her own coaching frameworks along the way. Whether you're thinking about divorce or already in the process, this podcast helps you become your own best advocate. Divorce is hard. Preparing for one doesn't have to be.

  1. 5d ago

    Should You Keep The House After Divorce? What You Need to know before you decide.

    Keeping the house after divorce can feel non-negotiable. It can represent stability, roots, or proof that your entire life didn't fall apart. But fighting for an asset you can't actually afford on one income is one of the most expensive mistakes I see people make. And most of them don't realize it until it's too late to change course. In this episode I'm walking you through what you actually need to know before you decide, starting with a question most people never think to ask: is your mortgage assumable? If you bought your home when rates were low and current rates are significantly higher, the answer to that one question could save you hundreds of dollars a month and tens of thousands over the life of the loan. We also cover how to calculate what a buyout actually costs you, the red flags that signal you can't afford the house even if you think you can, two deed and mortgage scenarios that catch people completely off guard and cost them tens of thousands of dollars, and when keeping the house actually makes sense. For a deeper dive, check out my guide: Can You Afford to Keep Your House After Divorce? The Complete Cost Breakdown Resources Mentioned: Divorce Monthly Budget Calculator: Financial Clarity With Just One ClickThe 5-5-5 Rule: Your Divorce Decision-Making Framework24 Questions to ask A Divorce Attorney PDFWant more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Should You Keep The House After Divorce? What You Need to know before you decide.

  2. Oct 28

    Navigating Divorce with ADHD with CDFA Whitney Light

    Divorce is one of the most administratively demanding processes you'll ever navigate — deadlines, documents, financial disclosures, follow-up tasks. For someone with ADHD, it can feel completely paralyzing. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Whitney Light, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has worked with ADHD clients navigating divorce, and who navigated the divorce process herself with ADHD.   Whitney and I talk about why the divorce process is particularly brutal for the ADHD brain, what "the freeze" actually looks like and how to break through it, and how ADHD shows up in the financial patterns of a marriage — and then resurfaces during negotiations. She also shares what her own experience taught her about what people with ADHD actually need that the traditional legal and financial system doesn't provide. If you have ADHD and you're navigating divorce — or you've been feeling frozen, overwhelmed, and behind before you've even started — this conversation is for you. Resources mentioned: The 5-5-5 Rule: Your Divorce Decision Making Framework - Listen to an episode about it or read a blog post I write about it.  Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Navigating Divorce with ADHD with CDFA Whitney Light

  3. Oct 21

    When Your Child Refuses to See a Parent After Divorce, with Amy Armstrong

    One of the most painful and confusing things that can happen after divorce is a child suddenly refusing to see one of their parents. It leaves the rejected parent feeling powerless and heartbroken, and it leaves the other parent unsure whether they're protecting their child or somehow making things worse. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Amy Armstrong, conflict resolution expert and founder of the Center for Family Resolution, for an honest conversation about what's really going on when a child resists or refuses contact—and what parents on both sides can actually do about it.Amy works at the intersection of coaching, psychology, and the family court system, and she trains judges on what's known as "resist-refuse dynamics." We talk about why kids refuse contact, what parental alienation actually looks like, the mistakes that make the situation worse, and what a rejected parent can do to protect the relationship without escalating the conflict. Whether you're the parent being refused or the parent navigating your child's resistance, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface — and how to respond in a way that protects your child and your relationship with them. Resources Mentioned: podcast.thecenterforfamilyresolution.com/planner Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    When Your Child Refuses to See a Parent After Divorce, with Amy Armstrong

  4. Oct 14

    Business Valuation in Divorce: What to Know When Your Spouse Owns a Business with Matt Springer

    If your spouse owns a business, or holds complex assets like stock options, how to value and divide these assets is one of the most important and most challenging parts of divorce. Figuring out what those assets are actually worth can be tricky, and getting it wrong can cost you significantly. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Matt Springer, a business valuation expert with nearly two decades of experience in valuation and litigation support, to break down what really happens when a business or complex asset gets valued in a divorce—and what you need to understand to protect yourself. What we cover: What actually happens when you're dividing assets and a spouse owns a business, professional practice, or other illiquid assetHow compensation arrangements, equity awards, stock options, notes, and pensions get evaluatedWhat to look for, and what to question, when you're handed a valuation reportThe red flags that mean you may need a second opinionWhen valuation numbers get challenged, and what that means for youIf you're staring down a divorce with a business owner, or are a business owner new to this process, this conversation will help you understand what you're dealing with so you can ask the right questions and advocate for yourself. Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Business Valuation in Divorce: What to Know When Your Spouse Owns a Business with Matt Springer

  5. Oct 7

    Financial Red Flags in Marriage That Become Landmines in Divorce with Jackie Combs

    Financial abuse is more common than you think. Red flags can show up in how you're frozen out from account access, having to ask for spending money on basics like groceries and gas, and being told "you don't have to worry about that" when you ask any financial questions. These are all signs of a financial power imbalance, and they lead to major issues during divorce.  In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jackie Combs, a California family law attorney, advocate for women's financial empowerment, and founder of Love Richer, for a conversation about the toxic money patterns that show up in dating and marriage, and why they almost always resurface as landmines during divorce. What we cover: How women unknowingly surrender financial autonomy, and what that looks like years later in a settlementFinancial infidelity: hidden accounts, undisclosed debt, concealed income, and how it surfaces in discoveryWhat women misunderstand about what they're actually entitled to during divorceThe first three things to do if you're recognizing financial red flags right now, before you make any moveWhat Jackie wants every financially controlled woman to know before she walks into a consultation with an attorneyThe conversation about money and power in relationships that most people are still too afraid to haveIf you're in a relationship where you feel financially shut out, or you're beginning to consider divorce and worried about what you don't know, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a plan. Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Financial Red Flags in Marriage That Become Landmines in Divorce with Jackie Combs

  6. Sep 30

    Why Expecting Your Spouse to Change During Divorce Is Keeping You Stuck, And What to Do Instead

    The most damaging mistake I see people make during divorce isn't a legal or financial one. It's expecting their spouse to suddenly behave differently than they always have. And every time they don't, the shock and fury pulls you back into the same loop — one that can outlast your marriage by decades if you don't address it now. In this episode I'm sharing the concept of radical acceptance, specifically what it actually is, what it isn't, and why it's the only thing that genuinely gets you out of the pattern. We talk about the neuroscience of why these loops feel impossible to break, the riptide analogy that reframes everything, and a specific tool that works better than any filtered, measured response ever will. This isn't about being the bigger person. It's about stopping the drain on your own energy, clarity, and future. If you're exhausted from trying to get your spouse to communicate differently, take accountability, or simply show up the way you need them to,  this episode is for you. Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Why Expecting Your Spouse to Change During Divorce Is Keeping You Stuck, And What to Do Instead

  7. Sep 23

    Divorce Grief and Shame: How to Move Through the Pain with Kim Polinder

    Divorce brings up two of the hardest emotions to talk about: grief and shame. Grief for the life you thought you'd have, the future you planned together, and the identity you're losing. And shame because even though divorce is common, there's still a stigma attached to it that can make you feel like you've failed. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Kim Polinder, associate therapist and author of Why We Fight (HarperOne), for an honest conversation about how to actually process these difficult emotions instead of rushing past them or burying them in a new relationship. What we cover: Why grief is normal even in amicable divorces and how it can surface unexpectedlyThe shame that surrounds divorce and how to recognize patterns that have played out in other areas of your lifeHow to process grief with supportive people rather than in isolationCreating rituals for closure including writing letters or revisiting meaningful placesWhy rushing into new relationships without grieving leads to repeating patternsUnderstanding your deepest triggers and what you're seeking from relationshipsThe importance of introspection before entering your next relationshipHow to prevent second divorces by breaking cycles and clarifying your valuesMoving through pain with self-compassion instead of judgmentWhether you're in the middle of divorce, recently separated, or healing on the other side, this conversation offers compassionate guidance to help you process grief and shame so you can move forward with greater self-awareness and emotional health. Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Divorce Grief and Shame: How to Move Through the Pain with Kim Polinder

  8. Sep 16

    Navigating Divorce as a Mom: Self-Care, Boundaries & Building Your New Life with Leah Marie Mazur

    Divorce brings up a tsunami of emotions, and as a mom, you're not just navigating your own feelings, you're holding space for your children's too. Carving out time for yourself can feel impossible. Or worse, it can feel selfish. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur, an empowerment coach and founder of Mindfully Ready, for a conversation about how moms can prioritize their own well-being without guilt—because you can't pour from an empty cup. What we cover: Why self-care isn't selfish when you're a mom going through divorceHow to create a realistic self-care routine that fits your actual lifeBuilding a support network beyond just family Setting new goals for yourself when everything feels uncertainNavigating mom guilt when you need to put yourself firstEmbracing flexibility and seeing this transition as full of new possibilitiesHow to show up for your kids when you're running on emptySmall, actionable steps you can take today to start rebuildingWhether you're in the middle of divorce or rebuilding on the other side, this episode will remind you that prioritizing your well-being matters, for you and your kids.   Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney.  Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

    Navigating Divorce as a Mom: Self-Care, Boundaries & Building Your New Life with Leah Marie Mazur
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The Divorce Planner Podcast is your essential guide to divorce preparation and navigating one of life's hardest transitions with clarity and confidence. Built around the four pillars of divorce preparation—emotional, financial, administrative, and practical—each episode gives you actionable strategies for gathering documents, understanding your finances, negotiating well, and reframing this transition as an opportunity to create your best next chapter. Host and divorce prep coach Alex Beattie talks with top attorneys, mediators, financial experts, therapists, and coaches, and shares her own coaching frameworks along the way. Whether you're thinking about divorce or already in the process, this podcast helps you become your own best advocate. Divorce is hard. Preparing for one doesn't have to be.

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    Alex Beattie | The Divorce Planner
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
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