The Gay Relationship Podcast

Tom Bruett
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Hosted by gay sex and relationship therapist and published author Tom Bruett, this show dives deep into what it really means to be in relationship with yourself and others as a gay, queer, or trans person today. Each episode features candid conversations with leading experts in psychology, sex therapy, wellness, culture, and LGBTQIA2S+ lived experience. Together, we explore the complexities of queer love, intimacy, identity, and connection - without shame, without scripts, and without pretending we have it all figured out. If you’re craving smarter, braver, more honest conversations about what it means to build and sustain authentic queer relationships, you’re in the right place.

  1. 3D AGO

    Overcoming Loneliness as a Gay Man - Interview with Cator Sparks

    In this interview, Tom Bruett, sex and relationship therapist, interviews Cator Sparks, a life coach for gay men. They explore topics like loneliness, connection, intergenerational friendships and relationships. About Cator Sparks: Cator Sparks is a life coach for men based in Atlanta, Georgia, and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) through the Co-Active Training Institute. He came out at 18 and has been living openly and proud ever since—though the journey hasn't always been easy. For years, he used drinking, drugs, and sex to fill the holes that bullying and shame had carved out. Working with his own life coach changed everything. He began to heal and discovered the transformative power of this work. Today, Cator runs a private practice, coaches for Boon Health, and founded GBTQ Retreats—a long weekend for queer men to connect more deeply with themselves and their community, free from alcohol, drugs, and the pressure of hookup culture. He also hosts a weekly Zoom call for the GBTQ+ community to go beyond small talk and really connect.Ways to Connect with Cator: His Website: https://www.catorsparkscoaching.com/GBTQ Retreats: https://www.gbtqretreats.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catorsparks/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC_Sntx--6SalbrACo2tguJw

    38 min

  2. 5D AGO

    Money and Queer Relationships - Interview with Nick Wolny

    In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Nick Wolny (he/him), an author and columnist for Out Magazine, about his new book, Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt, and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future. They discuss the unique financial challenges faced by the queer community, the emotional connections to money, and the importance of financial literacy. Nick shares insights from his research and personal experiences, emphasizing the need for a more inclusive approach to personal finance that resonates with queer individuals. The conversation covers topics such as inherited beliefs about money, the impact of debt, budgeting strategies, and the significance of estate planning for queer people. Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards About Nick: Nick Wolny is an author, host, and finance columnist for Out magazine. He writes Financialicious, a personal finance newsletter tailored toward queer readers, and his new book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt, and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future was recently recommended by The New York Times.Connect with Nick: Get his book: https://a.co/d/0eAqJq0C Financialicious newsletter: https://nickwolny.com/newsletterInstagram: @nickwolny Youtube:  ⁨@Nick-Wolny⁩  Connect with Tom:website: www.queerrelationshipinstitute.comInstagram: @queerrelationshipinstituteGet his book: https://a.co/d/0gtUEAC5

    45 min

  3. FEB 9

    Meth and Sex (Chemsex) A Dangerous Combination -Interview with Dallas Bragg

    In this interview with Tom Bruett, LMFT, CST, interviews Dallas Bragg, a Chemsex Recovery Coach. The interview talks about some of the devastating ways that chemsex is ravaging the gay community. More importantly, there are tips for what to do if you or someone you love is struggling with sex and meth addiction. Dallas Bragg is the Founder of Recovery Alchemy, a 1:1 and Group Coaching Chemsex Recovery program focusing on men who have sex with men who are using crystal methamphetamine and want to quit. He is also the creator of The AfterMeth Podcast, dedicated to supporting gay and bisexual men in recovery from crystal meth. With 7+ years in recovery, Dallas offers a unique blend of lived experience, compassionate guidance, and practical strategies for transformation. Beyond just "quitting," Dallas advocates for a holistic approach to recovery that embraces your authentic self and highest potential. His work focuses on identity transformation rather than mere abstinence, helping men rebuild their lives and discover who they truly are beneath the addiction.Connect with Dallas: Learn more: www.drdallasbragg.comYoutube:  @Drdallasbragg ​

    47 min

  4. FEB 6

    Fitness After 40 for Gay Men - Interview with Zach Taylor

    In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) speaks with Zach Taylor (he/him), a fitness coach specializing in helping men over 40. They discuss the changes men experience as they age, the importance of mental health and body image, and the impact of social media on self-perception. Zach shares his journey through various careers, his passion for teaching, and the significance of community in fitness. They also explore the challenges faced by queer men in fitness environments and the importance of addressing mindset and relationship dynamics in coaching. Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards About Zach: Coach Zach helps gay men in mid-life reclaim their potential by building strong, confident, muscular bodies through simple, sustainable training and nutrition. He cuts through the Instagram and AI garbage to teach men how to actually look and feel amazing after 40. Through Zach Taylor Fitness, he’s built a powerful community where guys shed fat, gain strength, and rediscover their confidence, proving that our best bodies aren't behind us - we're just getting started.Contact Zach: Website: https://zachtaylorfitness.com/Instagram: @zachtaylorfitnessContact Tom:website: www.queerrelationshipinstitute.comInstagram: @queerrelationshipinstitute Youtube: @queerrelationshipinstitute

    37 min

  5. FEB 3

    Gay Conversion Therapy: A Survivor's Story - Interview with Dr. Luke Wilson

    In this interview we talk with Dr. Luke Wilson about his story surviving conversion therapy and the new book that he has edited which compiles the stories of other survivors out there. Dr. Lucas Wilson is a SSHRC Postdoctoral Fellow at University of Toronto Mississauga and was formerly the Justice, Equity, and Transformation Postdoctoral Fellow at University of Calgary. He is the editor of Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivors’ Stories of Conversion Therapy and the co-editor of Emerging Trends in Third-Generation Holocaust Literature. He is also the author of At Home with the Holocaust: Postmemory, Domestic Space, and Second-Generation Holocaust Literature, which received the Jordan Schnitzer First Book Publication Award. His public-facing writing has appeared in The Advocate, Queerty, LGBTQ Nation, and Religion Dispatches, among other venues. He is currently working on a new edited collection about queer experiences at Christian colleges, universities, and seminaries (under contract with University of Georgia Press). Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivors’ Stories of Conversion Therapy: https://a.co/d/aOVFiU6 Stay connected to Dr. Wilson:TikTok: @lukeslamdunkwilsonInstagram: @lukeslamdunkwilsonBluesky: @lukeslamdunkwilson.bsky.social X: @wilson_fw

    44 min

  6. JAN 30

    Queer Cinema, Community and Connection - Interview with Andy Scahill

    In this conversation with Andy Scahill, we explore the intersection of queer culture, film, and community building. Andy shares his journey of creating Rainbow Cult, a platform for queer film screenings that fosters a sense of belonging and interaction among audiences. They discuss the importance of in-person experiences in an increasingly digital world, the challenges of archiving queer history, and the evolution of queer media representation. The conversation also touches on modern relationships, the Denver arts scene, and Andy's future creative projects, highlighting the significance of art in navigating identity and community.About Andy: Andy Scahill is a queer film professor, author of book on evil kids, and creator of Rainbow Cult, where community, camp, and cinema make out behind the bleachers. A writer-performer and cultural critic, he explores desire, monstrosity, and queer kinship across page, stage, and screen.Connect with Andy: Instagram: @andymightAndy's Website: www.professorandy.orgRainbow Cult: www.rainbowcult.org Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards

    35 min

  7. JAN 29

    Beyond Monogamy in Gay Relationships - Interview with Brian G. Murphy

    Get a free set of 48 discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards Tom Bruett, LMFT, sex and relationship expert for gay men interviews Brian G. Murphy about his new book, Love Beyond Monogamy. This interview explores the intersection between love, polyamory, spirituality and the gay community. Brian G. Murphy  @thisisbgm  is an author and certified relationship coach who helps you clarify your values and then build right-fit relationships and exciting sex lives in line with those values through Relationshift, his private coaching practice.Brian is also the co-founder of QueerTheology.com, a resource hub, online community, and the longest-running LGBTQ spirituality podcast, which supports queer people in healing from religious harm, rebuilding community, and reigniting fulfilling spiritual lives.He is author of Love Beyond Monogamy, which was published this fall, and co-author of Reading The Bible Through Queer Eyes, which will be published in fall 2026 by HarperOne. His work has been featured in Vice, BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post, The Advocate, Upworthy, and NBC News. Brian is based in New York City.Get a copy of Love Beyond Monogamy here: thisisbgm.com/bookLearn more about Brian's relationship coaching work here: relationshift.us

    38 min

  8. JAN 27

    Community, Heated Rivalry and Holistic Growth for Gay Men - Interview with Keegan Hirst

    In this conversation, Keegan Hirst (he/him) shares his journey from being a professional rugby player to becoming a coach for gay men. He discusses the importance of community, the impact of representation in media, and the unique challenges faced by gay men in personal development. Keegan emphasizes the need for a holistic approach to coaching, focusing on mental, emotional, and physical well-being. He also highlights the significance of personal accountability and the importance of feedback in growth. The conversation concludes with insights into the future of gay men's coaching and the ongoing evolution of the community.About Keegan: Founder of Gay Man's Coaching the world's premier personal development service for gay, bi and trans men, former professional Rugby League Player. Connect with Keegan:Instagram: @keeganhirst @gaymanscoaching Youtube:  @gaymanscoaching  Website: https://www.instagram.com/keeganhirst/?hl=en, https://www.instagram.com/gaymanscoaching/?hl=enTiktok: @keeganhirst Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards

    45 min
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Hosted by gay sex and relationship therapist and published author Tom Bruett, this show dives deep into what it really means to be in relationship with yourself and others as a gay, queer, or trans person today. Each episode features candid conversations with leading experts in psychology, sex therapy, wellness, culture, and LGBTQIA2S+ lived experience. Together, we explore the complexities of queer love, intimacy, identity, and connection - without shame, without scripts, and without pretending we have it all figured out. If you’re craving smarter, braver, more honest conversations about what it means to build and sustain authentic queer relationships, you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Tom Bruett
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Tom Bruett