They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

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A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.

  1. 2d ago

    They Mess You Up Recommend: GoLoud Sleep Sounds

    Hi everyone - just dropping in between episodes here with a recommendation to help address a massive psychological issue that can actively wrecking your mental health: your terrible sleep hygiene. Lying awake at 3:00 AM overanalysing your life fuels anxiety, drives stress, and destabilises your mood. If you find it difficult nodding off, or just want to relax and actively down-regulate your nervous system, you need to check out GoLoud’s latest original stream GoLoud Sleep Sounds. This is a pragmatically designed tool featuring a calming collection of immersive, 10-hour soundscapes. Each episode has been carefully tailored for anyone looking for a calmer, healthier bedtime routine. The long-form, entirely uninterrupted audio is designed specifically to create a soothing environment that can be played through the night or used as a cognitive buffer zone during moments of rest and relaxation. There is absolutely no talking, no stories to stimulate your brain, and zero commercial ads to wake you up. Instead, it utilizes the ambient sounds of some of Ireland's most scenic spots to anchor your mind—transporting you to Curracloe Beach in spring, Howth Harbour at sunset, the Midlands on a stormy night, the Wicklow Mountains in winter, or Dublin after dark. This acoustic continuity allows your brain to shift out of high-alert survival mode and transition into deep, restorative sleep. Do something smart for your health tonight. Go to the GoLoud app or wherever you listen to your podcasts, find GoLoud Sleep Sounds, press play, put the phone down, and let it do the rest. Have a listen here: https://open.spotify.com/show/033wsfw3b3SrnBby4xyZhf?si=5307919513424ff3

    1 min

  2. 3d ago

    The Weight of Shame

    From dyslexia and aging to sexuality and trauma, shame can leave people carrying burdens that were never theirs to begin with. Ciara and Richard discuss where shame comes from, how it takes hold, and what it takes to let it go. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday. And now a Bonus Episode 'Messy Bits' on Mondays!

    29 min

  3. Jun 10

    Modern Love: The Listener Survey

    Would you check your partner's phone? Does messaging someone else count as cheating? Ciara and Richard dive into the results of a listener survey on trust, infidelity, dating apps, and modern relationships. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    37 min

  4. Jun 3

    Friendship Breakups

    Friendship breakups can feel just as painful as romantic ones but we rarely talk about them.Ciara and Richard discuss rejection, awkwardness, shared friend groups, and why losing a friend can hit harder than people expect. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    29 min

  5. May 27

    Coming Out Later in Life

    Why do some people hide their sexuality for decades? Ciara and Richard unpack shame, fear, homophobia, and the emotional cost of living a life that doesn’t fully feel like your own. After Tommy Fleming’s interview with Ciara on Newstalk, where he discussed his sexuality and decision to come out at 55, they explore identity, secrecy, family expectations, and why it’s never too late to be honest about who you are. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    34 min

  6. May 20

    F*ck Around & Find Out (Parenting)

    Ciara and Richard discuss “FAFO or F*ck Around and Find Out parenting,” how letting kids make mistakes might be better than stepping in to fix everything. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    31 min

  7. May 13

    Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid

    Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack the emotional reality of blended families and why forcing closeness too quickly can backfire. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    31 min

  8. May 6

    Career Change: Taking the Leap

    Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where you are. Ciara and Richard share their own career changes and how to make realistic moves towards work that feels fulfilling. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

    30 min
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A weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter. They cover topics from affairs, jealousy and people-pleasing to anxiety, parenting and dating after separation, with practical takeaways framed by the hosts’ professional experience. The show is a pragmatic guide to why people hurt each other - and themselves.

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