Plenty of Husbands Podcast

Robin Fisher Roffer
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In the Plenty of Husbands : Success in Midlife Love podcast, Robin Fisher Roffer proves that love isn’t just for the lucky or the young. It’s for women who are older, wiser, and hotter, and anyone willing to dive into the messy, beautiful chaos love throws their way, and still say, “Bring it on, baby!” Each episode features expert guests who share their wisdom on navigating the complexities of finding love later in life—think dating apps, texting etiquette, sex, step kids, and dealing with exes. With humor and candor, Robin reflects on her journey through nine proposals and three marriages, revealing the lessons learned from relationships that fell short and the growth that led her to finding her true love at 55. This is juicy stuff and a true celebration of resilience and self-acceptance, offering hope that love is always within reach, no matter how many husbands it takes.

  1. 2d ago

    From Trauma to Connection: The Zen Approach to Love

    Can a Zen approach help us find love after trauma, loss, or divorce? Host Robin Fisher Roffer talks with Dr. David Zuniga—clinical psychologist, writer, and Zen Buddhist priest—about mindfulness, vulnerability, healing, and dating again in midlife. Dr. Zuniga shares how his personal experiences shaped his approach to love, including a mindful divorce and the losses that followed. Together, Robin and David discuss when to share vulnerable parts of your story, why support matters, and how practices like movement, meditation, and community can help you feel more grounded. In this episode: · How Zen values can shape the way we relate and communicate · When to share personal experiences with someone you’re dating · How to approach healing and dating at your own pace · Why connection and community matter during difficult times · How movement and contemplative practices can support well-being · How parents can try to make divorce less difficult for their children · Why love and meaningful connection can remain possible in midlife and beyond What does a mindful approach to love mean to you? Share in the comments, and subscribe to Plenty of Husbands for more conversations about dating, love, relationships, and starting over in midlife. #PlentyOfHusbands #MidlifeDating #HealthyRelationships #Mindfulness #LoveAfter50 #Zen #LoveAfterDivorce

  2. Oct 21

    Why We Repeat Old Patterns in Love and How to Break Them with Monique Rhodes

    For years, you may have found yourself drawn to relationships that feel familiar—even when they bring anxiety, chaos, or disappointment. What if the patterns you learned early in life are shaping how you show up in love today? And how can you build relationships that feel safer, more supportive, and more like you? In this episode of Plenty of Husbands, host Robin Fisher Roffer sits down with happiness strategist, meditation teacher, and singer-songwriter Monique Rhodes for an honest conversation about childhood patterns, self-worth, boundaries, and creating healthier love. IN THIS EPISODE, WE EXPLORE: • How early family dynamics can influence who we choose as partners  • Why familiar relationships can feel compelling, even when they hurt  • How to recognize attachment patterns and make different choices  • Why over-responsibility can make it harder for a partner to show up  • How sensitivity can be a strength—and what helps when you feel overwhelmed  • Why boundaries matter when someone speaks to you unkindly  • How gratitude can help couples notice and nurture what’s working  • Why building confidence and connection beyond a romantic relationship matters  Monique reminds us that we can become more conscious of the patterns we’ve inherited—and choose how we want to relate from here. Sometimes creating safer love starts with learning to see yourself clearly, honoring what you need, and practicing a different response. LET’S TALK: Have you ever noticed yourself repeating a relationship pattern that felt familiar but wasn’t good for you? What boundary or daily practice has helped you feel more grounded in love? Share your thoughts in the comments. We’d love to hear from you. Subscribe to Plenty of Husbands for honest conversations about dating, love, relationships, sex, and starting over in midlife. #DatingAfter50, #LoveAfter50, #MidlifeRelationships, #RelationshipPatterns, #AttachmentStyles, #HealthyRelationships, #Boundaries, #SelfWorth, #EmotionalSafety, #WomenOver50, #HealingOldWounds, #Mindfulness, #MoniqueRhodes , #PlentyOfHusbands

  3. Oct 14

    Empty Nest, New Identity: Rediscover Yourself & Find Love in Midlife with Dr. Heidi Anderson Sauder

    For years, you've been someone's mother, partner, wife, or caregiver. You've spent so much time showing up for everyone else that you may have forgotten what makes YOU feel alive. And now, in midlife, everything is shifting. Who are you when the roles that once defined you begin to change? And how do you rediscover love, intimacy, and desire when you barely recognize yourself? In this episode of *Plenty of Husbands*, host Robin Fisher Roffer sits down with clinical psychologist and intimacy expert Dr. Heidi Anderson Sauder for an honest conversation about identity, the empty nest, relationships, and finding your spark again after 50. IN THIS EPISODE, WE EXPLORE: • Why becoming an empty nester can leave you questioning who you are • How to rediscover your identity after years of putting everyone else first • Why finding yourself matters before finding a romantic partner • How married couples can reconnect by getting curious about each other again • Why sex and intimacy don't have to disappear after 50 • How to feel sexy and confident again after divorce, widowhood, illness, or years without intimacy • Why friendship, trust, and emotional safety matter in romantic relationships • How to explore new experiences without judging yourself for wanting something different Dr. Heidi reminds us that intimacy isn't just about sex, and finding love isn't necessarily about finding someone new. Sometimes it's about getting to know yourself again—and discovering what's possible in this next chapter. LET'S TALK: If your children have grown up or your relationship has changed, what's been the hardest part of rediscovering yourself? And if you're over 50, do you believe your best years of love and intimacy are still ahead of you? Share your thoughts in the comments. We'd love to hear from you. Subscribe to Plenty of Husbands for honest conversations about dating, love, relationships, sex, and starting over in midlife. #DatingAfter50, #LoveAfter50, #SexAfter50, #IntimacyAfter50, #EmptyNest, #EmptyNestSyndrome, #MidlifeWomen, #MidlifeRelationships, #FindingYourself, #RelationshipAdvice, #MarriageAfter50, #RediscoverYourself, #WomenOver50, #PlentyOfHusbands, #DrHeidiAndersonSauder,

  4. Oct 7

    How to Know If a Relationship Is Truly Right for You

    Can you recognize the difference between genuine connection and familiar dysfunction?   In this episode of Plenty of Husbands, Robin Fisher Roffer speaks with behavioral specialist, relationship expert, dating coach, and grief counselor Jace Stapley about breaking self-sabotaging dating patterns and creating healthier relationships in midlife.   Jace explains why we often repeat familiar relationship dynamics—even painful ones—and how slowing down can reveal whether someone’s actions truly match their words. They also discuss how to date with intention, avoid rushing into commitment, maintain your identity in a relationship, and grieve the end of a relationship so you can genuinely move forward.   Key Takeaways · Self-sabotage is often a form of emotional protection rooted in fear of the unknown. · Familiar does not always mean healthy—or compatible. · Give new relationships the test of time before making major commitments. · Create your non-negotiables and deal breakers before you begin dating. · Compare perception with facts, and make sure someone’s actions match their words. · Healthy relationships require psychological safety, equal communication, and active listening. · Maintain your independence by staying connected to your values, boundaries, interests, and voice. · Grieving a relationship is an important part of healing and moving forward.   Whether you’re dating after divorce, rebuilding your confidence, or hoping to find lasting love, this conversation offers practical guidance for navigating your next chapter with clarity and courage.   #MidlifeDating #DatingAfterDivorce #FindingLoveAgain #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipAdvice #DatingTips #SelfSabotage #RedFlags #GreenFlags #DealBreakers #NonNegotiables #EmotionalSafety #Boundaries #WomenOver40 #WomenOver50 #MidlifeLove

  5. Sep 30

    Open Your Heart Without Losing Yourself

    Dating again after divorce, loss, or a painful relationship can feel overwhelming. How do you trust your instincts? How do you avoid repeating old patterns? And how do you open your heart without losing yourself? In this episode of Plenty of Husbands, Robin Fisher-Roffer sits down with relationship expert and dating coach Christine Baumgartner to talk about healing, confidence, and finding love again in midlife and beyond. Christine shares how understanding your relationship patterns, releasing outdated baggage, and becoming clear about what you truly want can help you attract healthier, more fulfilling connections. In this episode: • How to rebuild confidence after divorce or loss • Recognizing and changing unhealthy dating patterns • Becoming clear about what you want in a partner • Moving from a victim story to a growth story • Removing the blocks that have kept you single • Meeting people through activities and shared interests • Dating online without losing your authenticity • Why you should look for connection—not instant chemistry • Letting yourself receive love, support, and partnership Whether you’re dating after divorce, grieving the loss of a partner, or simply ready to open your heart again, this conversation offers practical wisdom for finding a relationship that truly fits. Follow Plenty of Husbands for more conversations about dating, relationships, and creating your greatest love story. #DatingAfter40 #LoveAfter40 #MidlifeDating #DatingAfterDivorce #FindingLoveAgain #DatingConfidence #RelationshipAdvice #HealthyRelationships #PlentyOfHusbands

  6. Sep 23

    Dating After 40: Stop Overthinking, Calm Dating Anxiety & Find Love

    Dating after 40 can bring up a lot of questions. Am I too picky? Am I reading too much into this? Should I say what I really want? And how do I stop second-guessing myself? In this episode of Plenty of Husbands, Robin Fisher-Roffer sits down with psychologist Dr. Joel Minden to talk about confidence, anxiety, communication, and finding love in midlife. Dr. Minden shares practical ways to recognize anxious thinking, communicate more assertively, and approach dating and relationships with greater self-acceptance. They also explore Sternberg’s model of love and the role passion, intimacy, and commitment play in creating and maintaining relationships. In this episode: • How to feel more confident when dating after 40 • What to do when anxiety and self-doubt take over • How to stop second-guessing yourself • Communicating your needs and boundaries clearly • Passion, intimacy, and commitment in relationships • Accepting yourself without giving up on growth • Navigating love and relationships as you change in midlife Whether you’re dating again, going through a relationship transition, or simply want a healthier relationship, this conversation offers practical ways to approach love with more confidence and less overthinking. Follow Plenty of Husbands for more conversations about dating, relationships, and creating your greatest love story. #DatingAfter40 #LoveAfter40 #MidlifeDating #DatingConfidence #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #HealthyRelationships #PlentyOfHusbands

  7. Sep 16

    The Secret to Lasting Love: Emotional Intelligence

    In this transformative episode of Plenty of Husbands, host Robin Fisher-Roffer welcomes Valerie Hope—a transformational coach and communications expert with an Executive Coaching Certification from UC Berkeley. Valerie shares her inspiring journey from divorce to discovering a deep, meaningful relationship, emphasizing the vital role of self-understanding in forging authentic connections.   With practical insights and stress-reset techniques, Valerie equips listeners with essential tools to enhance emotional intelligence, empowering them to find their voice in relationships. This ability to recognize and articulate emotions is crucial for navigating the complexities of romantic partnerships.   Key takeaways include: Self-Discovery: Understanding ourselves is essential for building healthy romantic relationships.Breaking Patterns: Identifying and dismantling generational patterns fosters deeper connections.Emotional Intelligence: Enhancing our ability to recognize and express emotions transforms romantic interactions.Stress Management: Practical stress-reset techniques promote clarity and calmness in relationships.Embracing Vulnerability: Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable deepens connections and enriches our love lives. Together, Robin and Valerie explore how to cultivate conscious connections, redefine love, and embrace vulnerability. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a committed relationship, this episode is brimming with invaluable wisdom to inspire and empower you on your journey to love.   Follow Robin on Instagram @plenty_of_husbands, TikTok @plentyofhusbands, and on Substack for uplifting content that inspires you to live your greatest love story. You can connect with Valerie Hope at valeriehope.com.

  8. Sep 8

    Find The Match For The Woman You’ve Become

    This week, host Robin Fisher Roffer is joined by identity architect and neurosomatic practitioner Riana Malia, who helps high-achieving women break free from unfulfilling relationship cycles. She generously delivers the tools to clearing past baggage to attract new and nourishing love. If you’re ready to stop managing your love life like a side project and start living the love story you deserve, tune in!   In this episode, you'll discover: The Hidden Patterns: Understand why successful women often find themselves repeating unhealthy relationship dynamics.Subconscious Rewiring: Learn how to clear past baggage and transform your love life by rewriting the narratives that keep you stuck.Emotional Connections: Explore the link between emotional states and relationship outcomes, and how to align your sense of self with the love you truly desire.Practical Steps: Gain actionable insights to empower you to take control of your love life and create meaningful connections. Follow Robin on Instagram @plenty_of_husbands, TikTok @plentyofhusbands, and on Substack for more uplifting content that will inspire you to live your greatest love story. You can connect with Riana Melia at https://rianamalia.com/ and by subscribing to “The Last Piece” on Substack. Get a free gift from Riana at TaketheEli.com.

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In the Plenty of Husbands : Success in Midlife Love podcast, Robin Fisher Roffer proves that love isn’t just for the lucky or the young. It’s for women who are older, wiser, and hotter, and anyone willing to dive into the messy, beautiful chaos love throws their way, and still say, “Bring it on, baby!” Each episode features expert guests who share their wisdom on navigating the complexities of finding love later in life—think dating apps, texting etiquette, sex, step kids, and dealing with exes. With humor and candor, Robin reflects on her journey through nine proposals and three marriages, revealing the lessons learned from relationships that fell short and the growth that led her to finding her true love at 55. This is juicy stuff and a true celebration of resilience and self-acceptance, offering hope that love is always within reach, no matter how many husbands it takes.

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  • Creator
    Robin Fisher Roffer
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Robin Fisher Roffer
  • Show Website
    Plenty of Husbands Podcast