Plenty of Husbands Podcast

Robin Fisher Roffer

In the Plenty of Husbands : Success in Midlife Love podcast, Robin Fisher Roffer proves that love isn’t just for the lucky or the young. It’s for women who are older, wiser, and hotter, and anyone willing to dive into the messy, beautiful chaos love throws their way, and still say, “Bring it on, baby!” Each episode features expert guests who share their wisdom on navigating the complexities of finding love later in life—think dating apps, texting etiquette, sex, step kids, and dealing with exes. With humor and candor, Robin reflects on her journey through nine proposals and three marriages, revealing the lessons learned from relationships that fell short and the growth that led her to finding her true love at 55. This is juicy stuff and a true celebration of resilience and self-acceptance, offering hope that love is always within reach, no matter how many husbands it takes.

  1. Aug 26

    Breaking the Cycle: From Toxic Relationships to True Love

    Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of unhealthy relationships? Do you find yourself drawn to the same type of partner, only to be left feeling empty or manipulated? If so, you’re not alone. Join host Robin Fisher Roffer as she welcomes clinical psychologist Dr. Kerry McAvoy, a survivor of predatory relationships, who offers invaluable insights into recognizing and escaping toxic dynamics. Together, they explore how discernment can become your greatest survival skill in the dating landscape. Key Takeaways: • Understanding Stealth Predators: Learn how some individuals use charm and emotional manipulation as subtle forms of aggression, making them hard to spot. • The Power of Discernment: Discover how to trust your instincts and recognize red flags, including the signs of covert aggression that many women overlook. • Healing and Empowerment: Gain tools and strategies to break free from toxic patterns, rebuild your self-esteem, and prepare for healthier relationships moving forward. • Real Stories, Real Lessons: Robin and Kerry share personal experiences that highlight the importance of self-awareness and the value of supportive friendships in navigating the dating world. • Finding Hope: Understand that even after challenging experiences, love is still possible. You can cultivate meaningful connections by embracing the present moment and trusting yourself. Follow Robin on Instagram @plenty_of_husbands, TikTok @plentyofhusbands, and on Substack for more uplifting content that will inspire you to live your greatest love story. You can connect with Kerry McAvoy PhD at Narcissistic Abuse Help from Kerry McAvoy, PhD.

  2. Aug 19

    Red Flags and Green Lights: Recognizing Dating Patterns

    In this episode of the Plenty of Husbands podcast, host Robin Fisher-Roffer welcomes Eleni Boosalis, a clinical psychologist with over 20 years of expertise in love and relationships. They explore the transformative power of self-love, the importance of recognizing patterns in dating, and how our inner world reflects in our relationships. Eleni emphasizes that we attract partners who mirror our unhealed wounds and discusses practical steps to foster self-awareness, encouraging listeners to understand their beliefs about love and worthiness. Key Takeaways: • Self-Reflection is Key: Understanding your internal dialogue and how it shapes your reality is crucial. Negative self-talk can hinder your ability to attract healthy relationships. • Relationships are Mirrors: The partners we attract often reflect our own unresolved issues. Recognizing this pattern can help you make better choices in dating. • Trust the Process: Love should feel easy and not like a battlefield. Healthy relationships require effective communication but don't need to be dramatic. • Red Flags and Green Lights: Watch for how potential partners treat others and their mindset. Look for kindness, patience, and genuine interest as positive signs. • Importance of Inner Work: Engaging in therapy, meditation, and self-care practices can foster self-love, making you more open to attracting the right partner. Follow Robin on @plenty_of_husbands, TikTok @plentyofhusbands and Substack for more insights, inspiration, and updates on future episodes. Join the conversation and connect with a community of women who are older, wiser and hotter. You can learn more about Eleni Boosalis, PsyD at delraypsych.com. Her podcast is Shrinks on Tap.

  3. Aug 12

    Sexual Healing: Learning To Trust Again

    Are you wondering how to reignite the spark in your love life and embrace your desires?  In this episode of "Plenty of Husbands," host Robin Fisher Roffer sits down with renowned sex therapist and intimacy expert, Braxton Dutson. Together, they engage in a candid conversation designed to empower women in midlife to ask for what they want and get it. Listeners can expect to hear about the six essential principles of sexual health, including consent, honesty, non-exploitation, mutual pleasure, and more. Braxton addresses the often-taboo topics surrounding sexual health, including the challenges women face with past relationships, societal expectations, and the impact of pornography on self-esteem. This episode aims to dispel shame and stigma, encouraging women to ask for what they truly want in relationships while fostering open communication with their partners. Key Takeaways: • Empowerment Through Knowledge: Understanding the principles of sexual health can pave the way for healthier relationships. • Open Communication: Cultivating honesty and consent in relationships is crucial, especially for those with past trust issues. • Recognizing Shame: Women often feel shame surrounding their desires; it's essential to identify and challenge these feelings. • Mutual Pleasure: Relationships thrive when both partners express their needs and desires, moving beyond traditional gender roles. • Healing from Past Trauma: Acknowledging the impact of previous relationships can help in rebuilding trust and intimacy in new ones. • Therapy as a Tool: Seeking professional help can facilitate personal growth and healing from past hurts. This episode promises to be an eye-opening and fun exploration of love, intimacy, and the journey to self-acceptance. Tune in to gain insights that can transform your approach to relationships and your own self-worth. Follow Robin on Instagram @plenty_of_husbands and TikTok @plentyofhusbands. You can also sign up and become a free or paid member on Substack @robinfisherroffer for more uplifting content that will guide you to live your greatest love story. If you want to get in touch with Braxton and learn more about his practice, click here: https://www.thehealinggroup.com/therapists/braxton-dutson.

  4. Aug 5

    Getting Unstuck: Letting Go and Moving On

    Welcome to this inspiring episode of Plenty of Husbands! Join host Robin Fisher Roffer as she welcomes Dr. Christine Fernandez, clinical psychologist and life coach, to explore the transformative journey of finding love after 40. Together, they dive into all the complexities of midlife love, focusing on how women can embrace self-discovery and authenticity to find love after divorce or the end of a relationship. In this episode, you’ll discover: • The Power of Authenticity: Learn how removing the masks we wear can lead to deeper connections and genuine love. • Self-Discovery: Christine shares practical strategies to rebuild your self-esteem and foster self-acceptance after loss or divorce, helping you embrace your true self. • Curiosity in Dating: Understand the importance of being open to new experiences and people, enriching your midlife love story. • Real-Life Success Stories: Christine recounts inspiring tales of clients who embraced change and found lasting love through second chance love affairs. Don’t forget to follow Robin on Instagram, TikTok, and Substack for more insights, inspiration, and updates on future episodes. Join the conversation and connect with a community of women who are older, wiser and hotter. Let’s cheer each other on as we reframe, reinvent and reignite our love stories. You can learn more about Christine Fernandaz, Ph.D., who holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University at PeacefulWayPsychology.com

  5. Jul 29

    Stop Auditioning and Waiting to Be Chosen

    In this transformative episode of Plenty of Husbands, host Robin Fisher Roffer and clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie Byrd challenge women to stop auditioning for love and waiting to be chosen. They emphasize that love is not just about being selected by a partner but about understanding oneself and recognizing personal worth. By shifting the focus from seeking validation to evaluating compatibility, women can embrace their midlife journeys with confidence, fostering genuine connections that prioritize emotional availability and self-love. Key Takeaways: • Redefining Love: Love is not just about being chosen; it’s about understanding oneself and what truly matters in relationships. • Dating as Evaluation: Shift from auditioning for love to evaluating compatibility. Focus on connection rather than chemistry. • Emotional Healing: Doing the inner work is crucial. Unresolved wounds can lead to unhealthy relationship patterns. • Chemistry vs. Connection: Recognize the difference between genuine attraction and familiar emotional triggers. Pay attention to body signals. • Boundaries and Self-Love: Establish healthy boundaries and prioritize self-love to cultivate deeper relationships. • Reciprocity in Relationships: Look for mutual communication and emotional availability in partners to gauge relationship potential. • Slow Down: In this fast-paced dating culture, take the time to build meaningful connections rather than rushing into relationships Tune in to redefine true love and what it means to take charge of your dating experience. Follow Robin on Instagram @plenty_of_husbands and TikTok @plentyofhusbands for more uplifting content that will help you live your greatest love story.

  6. Jul 15

    Rediscovering Love: Julie's Incredible Second Chance

    Have you ever wondered what happened to your high school or college sweetheart? Or that guy at work you couldn’t date at the time, but secretly wished you could? As we journey through life, our perceptions of love and relationships evolve, and it’s never too late to rewrite your story. In this inspiring episode of Plenty of Husbands, Robin Fisher Roffer welcomes Julie Ferman, a renowned matchmaker and dating coach. Julie shares her remarkable love story, recounting how a simple card led her to reconnect with a college friend and ultimately find true love. Together, Robin and Julie explore how one of the world’s best matchmakers finally met her match, as well as the complexities of dating in midlife, the importance of self-love, and the courage it takes to pursue happiness. Tune in for this heartfelt narrative, practical advice, and essential keys to overcoming emotional barriers as you navigate the world of love and relationships. Key Takeaways: • It’s Never Too Late: Love can blossom at any age, even after years of feeling unfulfilled. • Self-Love is Essential: Prioritizing your own emotional well-being is crucial for attracting the right partner. • Reconnecting Matters: Revisiting old connections can lead to unexpected opportunities for love. • Courage to Change: Leaving unfulfilling relationships opens the door to new possibilities. • Clear Criteria: Identifying your top relationship criteria can help avoid settling in future partnerships. • Sending Out Ships: Be proactive in your love life by reaching out to potential connections and nurturing relationships. • Embrace Transformation: Growth and self-discovery often lead to deeper, more meaningful connections. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating love in midlife, providing hope, inspiration, and actionable advice for anyone who is looking for love, especially if they want to reconnect with an old flame.

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In the Plenty of Husbands : Success in Midlife Love podcast, Robin Fisher Roffer proves that love isn’t just for the lucky or the young. It’s for women who are older, wiser, and hotter, and anyone willing to dive into the messy, beautiful chaos love throws their way, and still say, “Bring it on, baby!” Each episode features expert guests who share their wisdom on navigating the complexities of finding love later in life—think dating apps, texting etiquette, sex, step kids, and dealing with exes. With humor and candor, Robin reflects on her journey through nine proposals and three marriages, revealing the lessons learned from relationships that fell short and the growth that led her to finding her true love at 55. This is juicy stuff and a true celebration of resilience and self-acceptance, offering hope that love is always within reach, no matter how many husbands it takes.

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