Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Jill Wise

Jill Wise
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Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Jill Wise is a podcast dedicated to helping survivors understand, heal from, and ultimately overcome the devastating psychological effects of narcissistic abuse. In each episode, Jill explores the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships, including manipulation tactics, trauma bonds, gaslighting, and the long term impact of emotional abuse. Jill Wise is a trauma informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach and a lifelong survivor of narcissistic abuse herself. She was raised by a malignant narcissistic father, and later married a malignant narcissist and had a child with him. Her life was profoundly impacted by years of psychological abuse, including the parental kidnapping and severe parental alienation involving her son, which led to more than a decade of painful family court battles. Through thoughtful discussion, psychological insight, and compassionate guidance, Jill helps listeners make sense of what they experienced, break free from trauma bonds, and begin rebuilding their confidence, identity, and peace of mind. If you have ever questioned your reality, struggled to understand narcissistic behavior, or wondered how to truly heal after abuse, this podcast will offer clarity, validation, and hope. Listen to Podcasts: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083

Episodes

  1. May 20

    Reactive Abuse: When the Narcissist Pushes You Until You Break

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Jill Wise, we are taking a very deep dive into one of the most confusing and psychologically devastating aspects of narcissistic abuse: reactive abuse. If you have ever found yourself wondering, “What if I was the abusive one?” or “Why did I become someone I didn’t even recognize during that relationship?” this episode is for you. We will be exploring how narcissists intentionally provoke emotional reactions through prolonged gaslighting, manipulation, invalidation, emotional withholding, and psychological torment—then use your reaction against you as “proof” that you are unstable, irrational, or abusive. In this episode, we discuss: What reactive abuse actually isWhy healthy people eventually snap under prolonged abuseHow narcissists weaponize your reactionsWhy survivors feel so much shame afterwardThe nervous system and CPTSD effects of narcissistic abuseTrauma bonds and emotional conditioningWhy outsiders often misunderstand abuse dynamicsHow narcissists provoke reactions while appearing calm publiclyIdentity erosion and emotional dysregulationWhy survivors become trapped in guilt and self-doubt long after the relationship endsMost importantly, this episode is about helping survivors understand that their worst reaction inside prolonged abuse does not define their character. Healing begins when you stop viewing yourself only through the lens of your reaction and start understanding the environment that created it. If you are interested in working with me privately, or learning more about my recovery course and private healing community, you can find more information on my website at: https://www.jillwise.com Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    27 min

  2. May 6

    Top 15 Toxic Behaviors of the Female Narcissist

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we’re diving deep into the top toxic behaviors of the female narcissist and the devastating psychological impact these women can have on the people closest to them. From extreme competitiveness and pathological envy, to manipulative punishments, triangulation, emotional unpredictability, and the constant need for control, we’re breaking down the patterns that so many survivors experience but often struggle to explain. Female narcissists can be incredibly covert, relational, and emotionally manipulative, which is why these dynamics are so confusing and damaging over time. Many hide behind carefully crafted images of being nurturing, supportive, selfless, or misunderstood, while privately creating chaos, insecurity, self-doubt, and emotional instability in the lives of others. In this episode, we’ll explore how these behaviors slowly erode your confidence, your boundaries, your sense of reality, and eventually even your identity. Because narcissistic abuse is not just about isolated incidents—it’s about repeated psychological conditioning that changes how you think, feel, and see yourself over time. If you’ve ever felt emotionally exhausted, confused, anxious, or like you were constantly walking on eggshells around someone, this episode will help you better understand the toxic dynamics at play and why these relationships can be so psychologically damaging. And most importantly, it will help you stop blaming yourself for what you experienced. If you are interested in working with me privately, or learning more about my recovery course and private healing community, you can find more information on my website at: www.jillwise.com Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    41 min

  3. Apr 29

    Top 10 Signs Someone has been Mentally Abused

    Send us Fan Mail Most people don’t realize they’ve been mentally abused until long after the damage has been done. It doesn’t always look like yelling, insults, or obvious control. In fact, some of the most harmful abuse is subtle, confusing, and deeply psychological—leaving you questioning your reality, your worth, and even your sanity. In this episode, I walk you through the top 10 signs someone has been mentally abused. These are the patterns, behaviors, and emotional experiences that survivors often overlook or normalize, especially when the abuse was disguised as love, concern, or “just the way they are.” If you’ve ever felt like something was off but couldn’t quite explain it… if you’ve found yourself constantly doubting your perceptions… or if you’re still trying to make sense of a relationship that left you feeling small, anxious, or emotionally drained—this episode is for you. You didn’t imagine it. And you’re not alone. If this resonates with you and you’re ready to begin healing, I work with clients privately and would be honored to support you. You can learn more or book a session at: 👉 https://www.jillwise.com 🧠 About Jill: Jill Wise is a lifelong survivor of narcissistic abuse. Raised by a malignant narcissist and married to one, she has lived through years of parental alienation, manipulation, and complex PTSD. Today, she’s a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach helping survivors all over the world heal and reclaim their lives. Jill Wise is a trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach whose work is rooted not only in professional training, but in a lifetime of lived experience. Raised by a malignant narcissistic father and later married to a malignant narcissist, Jill endured years of coercive control, manipulation, and a devastating parental alienation battle in which her ex-husband kept her in family court for 15 years. Through that painful journey, she fought to heal, rebuild her life, and repair her relationship with her son. Today, Jill works with clients all over the world, helping survivors of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, and Complex PTSD understand what they lived through and find their way back to peace, confidence, and emotional freedom. Her mission is to help others shorten the painful road to healing by sharing the knowledge and tools she gained through both professional study and hard-won personal experience. If you are on a healing journey after narcissistic abuse, you are not alone — and recovery is absolutely possible. — Jill Wise Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    17 min

  4. Apr 22

    Inside the Delusional Mind of a Narcissist

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most disturbing and misunderstood aspects of narcissistic abuse—the delusional mindset that drives it. Narcissists don’t just behave in harmful ways… they operate from a completely distorted version of reality, and over time, they will try to pull you into that reality with them. We’re going to break down the most common delusions narcissists believe, from expecting you to read their mind, to believing they are entitled to control, loyalty, and even the right to mistreat you without consequence. And more importantly, we’re going to talk about how these beliefs slowly condition you to question yourself, override your instincts, and accept things you never would have accepted before. Because this is how the abuse works. It’s not just what they do—it’s what they convince you to believe. If you’ve ever found yourself apologizing for things you didn’t do, taking responsibility for their behavior, or feeling like you’ve lost your sense of reality in the relationship, this episode is going to bring clarity to what you experienced. And once you see it clearly, you can’t unsee it. This episode will help you understand the psychological trap, break free from the confusion, and begin reconnecting with your own reality, your own instincts, and your own truth. Podcast Links: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083 💬 Work With Jill: ✅ Private Coaching (Zoom or phone): https://www.jillwise.com ✅ Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course:  https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/larku ✅ Private Skool Community + Group Sessions: https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/fzxqj 📘 Ebook: The Traits Narcissists Look For In a Target https://www.jillwise.com Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    15 min

  5. Apr 16

    Narcissists Get Worse, Not Better, With Age

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Jill Wise, Jill explores a painful reality many survivors eventually come to recognize: narcissists often do not get better with age—they get worse. While healthy people typically gain wisdom, humility, and emotional maturity over time, narcissists often become more bitter, rigid, controlling, and hostile as they age. In this episode, Jill breaks down the psychological reasons behind that decline, including the loss of narcissistic supply, the collapse of the false self, escalating bitterness, and why aging threatens the narcissist’s fragile identity in profound ways. If you have spent years hoping the narcissist in your life would eventually soften, mature, or gain self-awareness, this episode may help you understand why that hope so often goes unfulfilled—and why accepting reality is a crucial part of healing. Work With Jill / Explore Resources: https://www.jillwise.com Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    14 min

  6. Apr 12

    Why Narcissists Punish You For Loving Them

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jill breaks down one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships: why the more deeply you love a narcissist, the more cruelly they often treat you. What should create intimacy in a healthy relationship—love, loyalty, vulnerability, devotion—often becomes ammunition in the hands of a narcissist. But why? Why does genuine love seem to trigger resentment, contempt, and punishment rather than gratitude? Jill explains the psychology behind why narcissists devalue those who care for them most, how vulnerability activates their shame and defenses, and why your love often exposes the very wounds they spend their lives trying to hide. If you’ve ever wondered why loving them harder only made things worse… this episode will give you the answer. For coaching, courses, and recovery resources: https://www.jillwise.com Podcast Links: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083 Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    12 min

  7. Apr 5

    The Moment The Narcissist Realizes They Have Lost Control of You

    Send us Fan Mail Listen on your favorite platform: 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 🛒 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise 🔎 Podcast Index: https://podcastindex.org/podcast/ Podcast Description: There’s a moment in every narcissistic dynamic that changes everything—and it’s not when you leave. It’s when they realize they’ve lost control of you. In this episode, we’re diving into the exact psychological shift that happens when a narcissist can no longer manipulate, intimidate, guilt, or pull you back into the cycle. This is the moment your detachment becomes undeniable… and for them, it’s deeply destabilizing. Because control was never just a tactic—it was the foundation of the entire relationship. We’ll unpack what they actually feel in that moment, why their behavior often escalates or shifts dramatically, and the subtle signs that you’ve truly broken free—even if you’re still physically present. From rage to hoovering, from silent treatment to smear campaigns, you’ll begin to see these reactions for what they really are: a desperate attempt to regain access to something they can feel slipping away. But more importantly, we’ll talk about you—what it means to reach this point, the strength it takes, and why this moment marks the beginning of real freedom, clarity, and self-trust. Because once a narcissist realizes they’ve lost control of you… the dynamic is never the same again. Work with Jill: One on One Coaching with Jill:  https://www.jillwise.com Recovery Course:  https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/larku Recovery Circle Private Community: https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/fzxqj Follow Jill on her Social Media Platforms: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jillwisecoaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jillwisenarcissisticabuserecoverycoaching/? Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jill_wise_coaching TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdaJwcFx/ Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    8 min

  8. Mar 25

    The Narcissist's Obsession with Winning at All Costs Podcast #3

    Send us Fan Mail Listen to Podcast: Podcast Links: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083 One of the most confusing and exhausting dynamics survivors face is this: the narcissist isn’t trying to resolve conflict—they’re trying to win it. And not just win… win at all costs. In this episode, we break down the narcissist’s relentless need to come out on top, even if it means lying, rewriting reality, destroying relationships, or sacrificing their own long-term stability. Because for the narcissist, losing isn’t just uncomfortable—it feels like psychological defeat. You’ll learn why they escalate situations that could have been resolved, why accountability feels like an attack to them, and why they will often burn everything to the ground just to avoid being “wrong.” If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction feeling confused, drained, or like nothing made sense… this episode will connect the dots. This isn’t about communication. This is about control, ego survival, and the illusion of superiority. Follow Jill on her other social media platforms: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@theenlightenedtarget Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jillwisenarcissisticabuserecoverycoaching/? Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jill_wise_coaching TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdaJwcFx/ Work with Jill: For one on one recovery coaching sessions:  https://www.jillwise.com Recovery Course:  https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/larku Recovery Circle Private Community: https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/fzxqj Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    10 min

  9. Mar 18

    The Narcissist’s Pathological Envy of Your Character

    Send us Fan Mail Listen to Podcast: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083 There’s something deeply unsettling about the way a narcissist relates to your character… because it’s not admiration — it’s envy. Not surface-level envy. Not harmless comparison. But a pathological, deeply rooted envy of who you are at your core. Your integrity. Your empathy. Your depth. Your ability to love, to reflect, to grow. In this episode, I break down why narcissists are not inspired by these qualities — they are threatened by them. And how that envy quietly fuels their need to devalue, control, and ultimately try to destroy the very traits that make you who you are. If you’ve ever felt like the more authentic you were, the worse they treated you… this will help you understand why. — Work with me: https://www.jillwise.com Recovery Course:  https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/larku Recovery Circle Private Community: https://enlightenedtarget.gumroad.com/l/fzxqj Follow me for more: YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@theenlightenedtarget Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/jill_wise_coaching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/jillwisenarcissisticabuserecoverycoaching/? TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdaJwcFx/ Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    10 min

  10. Mar 8

    Is Narcissism Demonic? What the Bible Really Says

    Send us Fan Mail Listen to Podcast: Podcast Links: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083 In this episode, Jill Wise explores a question many survivors of narcissistic abuse quietly wonder about: Is narcissism demonic? Looking through both psychological insight and biblical perspective, Jill discusses the deeper spiritual dimension of narcissistic behavior, why these individuals often seem devoid of empathy or conscience, and what scripture may reveal about pride, self-exaltation, and destructive personalities. If you've ever questioned whether narcissistic abuse feels spiritual in nature, this episode will give you a deeper framework for understanding what you experienced. Jill Wise is a narcissistic abuse recovery coach helping survivors from all over the world break trauma bonds, heal from Complex PTSD, and rebuild their lives.

    10 min
  • 10 Episodes

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Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Jill Wise is a podcast dedicated to helping survivors understand, heal from, and ultimately overcome the devastating psychological effects of narcissistic abuse. In each episode, Jill explores the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships, including manipulation tactics, trauma bonds, gaslighting, and the long term impact of emotional abuse. Jill Wise is a trauma informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach and a lifelong survivor of narcissistic abuse herself. She was raised by a malignant narcissistic father, and later married a malignant narcissist and had a child with him. Her life was profoundly impacted by years of psychological abuse, including the parental kidnapping and severe parental alienation involving her son, which led to more than a decade of painful family court battles. Through thoughtful discussion, psychological insight, and compassionate guidance, Jill helps listeners make sense of what they experienced, break free from trauma bonds, and begin rebuilding their confidence, identity, and peace of mind. If you have ever questioned your reality, struggled to understand narcissistic behavior, or wondered how to truly heal after abuse, this podcast will offer clarity, validation, and hope. Listen to Podcasts: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise/id1883547048 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5WLHqJpcBlIUoAUBKulPDA?si=b29436546fa04730 Amazon:  https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2bc8e3c9-6328-44b2-b287-628846306687/surviving-narcissistic-abuse-with-jill-wise Podcast Index:  https://podcastindex.org/podcast/7748083

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