A Man Isn't A Plan

Hannah Haller & Janne Robinson
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A man can be a part of your plan, just don’t make him all of it. Velveteen rabbit style real and raw conversations about being a woman on dharma and on purpose. Hannah Haller lives on her four-acre off-grid homestead in Hawai'i she bought in cash and built from raw land. Between teaching live-streaming yoga classes, leading retreats, writing a bestselling Substack, and actively building a regenerative farm, she shares with her pup, Pete. Over the past 15 years, Hannah has turned an unconventional life into a multi six-figure business and cult-like following – without ever chasing one. Janne Robinson wrote her viral poem This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k in 2014 a piece that reached millions and became an anthem for women putting themselves on the menu. She is the author of two poetry books This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k and There’s Cobwebs on Her Vagina and, as a coach, has helped thousands of people create a life of authentic belonging. Janne has led over 200 purpose sessions and has helped more than 120 women start companies from their gifts. Her work is rooted in one core belief — belonging from anything other than who you are isn’t worth it. Authors:Hannah HallerJanne Robinson

  1. 2h ago

    13. Jill of All Trades: Finding Meaning, Following Curiosity & Embracing Every Season of Life | A Man Isn’t a Plan

    What are you living for right now? And has that changed from one chapter of your life to the next? In Episode 7 of A Man Isn’t a Plan, Janne Robinson and Hannah S. Haller explore the things that give life meaning, the passions that keep us curious, and how what we want from life can shift as we move through different seasons. From travel, relationships, and community to surfing, writing, yoga, farming, and learning new skills, they reflect on the experiences that have shaped them and the freedom that comes from allowing yourself to evolve. They also get into the reality of living off the land, becoming more resourceful, and giving yourself permission to explore interests that don't necessarily fit into one box. In this episode, they explore: - Finding meaning and discovering what gives you a reason to get up each day - How our priorities, passions, and sources of fulfillment change through different life chapters - Why curiosity and trying new things can keep us feeling alive and inspired - Moving beyond the pressure to be defined by one identity, career, or passion - Balancing the things that bring us joy with the things that pay the bills - The realities of homesteading and living on the land beyond the romanticized version - Learning practical skills, making mistakes, and becoming more self-sufficient - Finding empowerment through resourcefulness and figuring things out on your own - Giving yourself permission to explore new interests, even when they feel outside your usual path - Making space for creativity, personal growth, and whatever comes next Janne and Hannah also reflect on their own journeys, from traveling and living abroad to building businesses, relationships, communities, and a life connected to the land. They discuss how every curiosity can lead to something unexpected, and why we don't have to stay the same person we were in the last chapter. A question to take with you: What are you currently living for? What gives you energy, excitement, and a sense of meaning? And when you look back over the last seven or fourteen years, what were the things that made each chapter of your life feel meaningful? Maybe life really is about finding something, over and over again, to live for. Remember, a man can absolutely be a part of your plan. Just don't make him all of it. Welcome to A Man Isn’t a Plan. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  2. Oct 30

    12. Luke Bateman on Masculinity, Male Silence, Addiction & the Courage to Change

    What does it mean to be a man in a world that has taught men to hide their emotions, stay silent, and measure their worth by outdated ideas of strength, leadership, and masculinity? In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Janne Robinson and Hannah Haller welcome Luke Bateman, former professional rugby league player, writer, and cultural commentator, to explore how masculinity, shame, and patriarchy shape the way men see themselves, relate to others, and move through the world. Drawing from his own experiences growing up in conservative rural Australia and navigating addiction, depression, and a suicide crisis, Luke shares how his journey toward understanding himself became a broader exploration of the systems and beliefs that influence us all. From the pressure men face to suppress vulnerability to the silence that allows harmful behaviors to continue, this conversation invites us to question what we have been taught about being a man, recognize the cost of emotional repression, and understand why meaningful change begins with awareness, honesty, and accountability. Together, they explore: - How traditional ideas of masculinity teach boys to hide their emotions and fear appearing weak - Why male silence helps sustain patriarchy and allows harmful behaviors to go unchallenged - How shame shapes men's identities, relationships, and willingness to speak honestly - The cultural expectations that associate leadership, strength, and authority with men - Why men may resist questioning systems that benefit them, even when those systems harm others - How addiction, depression, and a personal crisis led Luke to begin questioning his own beliefs - Why the journey toward understanding social inequality can begin with the desire to understand ourselves - How men can learn to speak up against misogyny, sexism, and harmful behavior among their peers - Why systems cannot change unless the people within them change their behaviors - The importance of emotional vulnerability, self-reflection, and being willing to have difficult conversations - How inherited cultural narratives can shape our understanding of gender, power, and human worth - Why leadership and confidence are human qualities rather than exclusively masculine traits - What we can learn from Indigenous and Aboriginal cultures about community, connection, and healthier societies - How personal accountability can become part of a deeper process of growth and change - Why creating more equitable relationships requires both awareness and action Luke also shares how his journey began with a deeply personal struggle to save his own life. What started as an attempt to understand his own experiences eventually led him to question the cultural narratives surrounding masculinity, privilege, and power. His story offers a reminder that personal growth is not separate from the world around us: the beliefs we challenge within ourselves can influence how we show up in our relationships, communities, and society. This isn't just a conversation about men or masculinity. It's about the invisible rules we inherit, the silence that allows harmful patterns to continue, and the courage it takes to question what we have been taught. It's an invitation for men to move beyond shame and silence, take responsibility for their actions, and help create a world where vulnerability is not weakness and equality is everyone's responsibility. Because real change begins when we stop staying silent, become willing to look honestly at ourselves, and choose to do things differently. *Connect with Luke Bateman* Luke Bateman is a former professional rugby league player who played 71 games for the Canberra Raiders before retiring in 2020. He is now a writer, podcaster, and cultural commentator whose work explores masculinity, identity, emotional vulnerability, and social change. Through his personal experiences and public conversations, Luke encourages people to question harmful cultural narratives and build a more honest understanding of themselves and others. 🌐 *Website / Publisher Profile:* https://www.simonandschuster.com.au/authors/Luke-Bateman/243997583 📸 *Instagram:* https://www.instagram.com/lukebateman_/ 🎵 *TikTok — Luke’s Reads:* https://www.tiktok.com/@lukesreads 🎙️ *Podcast — In the Good Books with Luke Bateman:* https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-the-good-books-with-luke-bateman/id1846478227 📚 *Luke Bateman’s Book Club on Fable:* https://fable.co/ Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

    12. Luke Bateman on Masculinity, Male Silence, Addiction & the Courage to Change

  3. Oct 23

    11. Breaking Free from Patriarchy: Katie Hendricks on Women, Power & Authenticity

    What does it mean for a woman to truly own her power, take up space, and live as her full, authentic self in a world that has spent generations telling her who she should be? In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Janne Robinson and Hannah Haller welcome Katie Hendricks, PhD, pioneering expert in body intelligence, conscious loving, and transformational learning, to explore the ways patriarchy shapes women's lives, relationships, bodies, and sense of self. Drawing from more than six decades of observing gender inequality, Katie shares personal stories of growing up in the 1950s, challenging traditional gender roles, and learning to stop making herself smaller to accommodate others. From the hidden rules women are taught about their bodies to the subtle ways sexism shows up in relationships, workplaces, and even modern coaching culture, this conversation invites us to question the beliefs we've inherited and recognize the power we already possess. Together, they explore: - What it was like growing up as a girl in the 1950s and 1960s - How secrecy and shame around women's bodies shaped generations of women - Why women have historically been expected to serve men and make themselves smaller - The ways patriarchy and sexism continue to show up in modern relationships and workplaces - How women can reclaim their voices, boundaries, and physical presence - Why women are often interrupted, dismissed, or denied recognition for their ideas - How to respond when someone speaks over you, diminishes you, or treats you with contempt - The difference between “power over” and “power with,” and why collaboration matters - Why women don't have to sacrifice warmth, kindness, or femininity to be powerful - How women can support one another by amplifying each other's voices and contributions - The importance of men speaking up when they witness sexism and disrespect - How fear and contempt can undermine creativity, connection, and equality - Why humor and play can be powerful tools for challenging the patriarchy - How to recognize the moments when you're making yourself smaller to be accepted - What it means to occupy your full power while embracing your unique gifts and individuality Katie also shares deeply personal stories about becoming a single mother, returning to college, building her own entrepreneurial path, and learning to claim space in her relationship and professional life. Her message is a reminder that our uniqueness isn't a liability to overcome. It's something to celebrate, develop, and bring fully into the world. This isn't just a conversation about feminism. It's about recognizing the invisible rules that shape us, challenging the systems that diminish us, and creating a world where everyone can contribute without having to shrink themselves to belong. Because equality isn't about becoming someone you're not. It's about having the freedom to become more fully who you are. And as Katie reminds us, uniqueness triumphs. Connect with Katie Hendricks Katie Hendricks, PhD, is a pioneer in body intelligence, conscious loving, and experiential learning. Since the 1970s, she has developed transformational practices that integrate movement, emotional awareness, and embodied learning to expand people's presence, freedom, and choices. She has co-authored 12 books with her husband, Gay Hendricks, and served as Director of Training for the Hendricks Institute. Her work focuses on the play imperative, the medicine of attention, unlocking the fear code, and cultivating new stories for humanity. 🌐 Website: https://www.hendricks.com 💛 Foundation for Conscious Living: https://www.foundationforconsciousliving.org 📘 Books by Gay Hendricks, including works co-authored with Katie: https://www.amazon.com/Gay-Hendricks/e/B000APFFK0 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendrickscommunity/ 📘 Facebook — Relationship Advice: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice 💛 Facebook — Foundation for Conscious Living: https://www.facebook.com/fclconnect/ 💼 Katie Hendricks on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathlyn-katie-hendricks-9395361/ 💼 The Hendricks Institute on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-hendricks-institute-inc./ 🎥 YouTube — The Hendricks Institute: https://www.youtube.com/@hendricksinstitute Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

    11. Breaking Free from Patriarchy: Katie Hendricks on Women, Power & Authenticity

  4. Oct 16

    10. Gay Hendricks on Radical Feminism, Fear & Conscious Relationships | No Free Men Until Women Are Free.

    What does it take to become a man who truly understands, respects, and listens to women? In this powerful conversation, Janne Robinson and Hannah Haller welcome Gay Hendricks, renowned author, relationship expert, and self-described radical feminist, to explore how fear shapes the way we love, communicate, and relate to one another. Drawing from his life, decades of therapeutic work, and 47 years with his wife, Katie, Gay shares why gender equality isn't just a women's issue. It's part of becoming a more conscious, emotionally honest human being. From the experiences that first awakened his sense of injustice to the hidden fears behind control and discrimination, this conversation challenges us to look inward, listen more deeply, and question the patterns we've been taught to accept. Together, they explore: * Why Gay Hendricks identifies as a radical feminist * The childhood experiences that shaped his belief in equality * How fear can fuel control, discrimination, and disrespect * Why listening to women is an essential life skill for men * How to honor fear instead of suppressing or judging it * Gay's simple 10-second practice for working with fear * The four common responses to fear: fight, flight, freeze, and faint * How old conditioning can influence our romantic relationships * The relationship "choice point" that determines whether we repeat old patterns or try something new * What it means for men to embrace their emotions, compassion, and vulnerability * Why conscious relationships begin with the willingness to look inward * How we can hold compassion for others while still honoring our boundaries This isn't just a conversation about feminism. It's about the freedom that becomes possible when we stop letting fear dictate how we treat one another, and start taking responsibility for the kind of people we choose to become. Because, as Gay reminds us, there can be no free men until there are free women. Connect with Gay Hendricks Gay Hendricks is the bestselling author of more than 40 books, including The Big Leap and Conscious Loving, co-written with his wife, Katie Hendricks. Together they founded The Hendricks Institute and the Foundation for Conscious Living. 🌐 Website: https://www.hendricks.com 📚 Gay's books: https://www.amazon.com/Gay-Hendricks/e/B000APFFK0 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialgayhendricks/ 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hendricksinstitute 💛 Foundation for Conscious Living: https://www.foundationforconsciousliving.org More from the Hendricks community: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendrickscommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gay-hendricks-195a90/ Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  5. Oct 15

    9. Rape Culture, Bystander Apathy & Our Own Stories | Cornell Part 2

    🚨 Emergency Yap, Part 2 Why are women still being taught how to avoid being raped? Why is the responsibility to stop sexual violence so often placed on victims of sexual assault instead of the people who commit it? In this continuation of their conversation on the Cornell case, Hannah and Janne speak candidly about their own experiences with sexual assault, the shame survivors are made to carry, and the cultural attitudes that allow perpetrators to escape accountability. In 1964, Kitty Genovese was raped and murdered outside her apartment building in Queens, New York, as neighbors heard her screams and failed to help. Her death became the story that defined bystander apathy, and more than sixty years later, the same silence still protects perpetrators, from fraternity group chats to the institutions meant to keep women safe. They explore what it means to grow up in a world where girls are taught to be careful, protect themselves, and question their own choices, while conversations about consent, responsibility, and intervention are too often missing. From the harm of victim-blaming to the importance of listening to our intuition, this episode is an honest call for a different way forward. Together, they discuss: * Why survivors so often blame themselves for what happened to them * How Hannah's experience as a teenager shaped her understanding of shame and sexual assault * The personal experiences Janne and Hannah have carried for years * Why being intoxicated or incapacitated is not consent * How society has normalized placing responsibility on women to prevent sexual violence * The importance of teaching boys and girls about consent, boundaries, and accountability from an early age * The story of Kitty Genovese and what bystander apathy is * Why people sometimes fail to intervene when someone is in danger * How parents can create safe spaces for children to speak up without fear of being blamed * Why we need accountability at both individual and institutional levels * How women sharing their stories can help others feel less alone * Why listening to your intuition and honoring your boundaries matters in relationships * How women can support one another by sharing information and speaking honestly about unsafe behavior * What it will take to challenge rape culture and create meaningful change This conversation isn't about asking women to live in fear. It's about creating a culture where consent is understood, survivors are believed and supported, people intervene when they witness harm, and perpetrators are held accountable. Change begins with honest conversations, but it cannot end there. Trigger warning: This episode includes personal accounts and discussions of sexual assault, sexual violence, murder, childhood experiences, and trauma. Please take care of yourself and skip this episode if these topics aren't right for you right now. If this episode brings something up for you, you're not alone. In the U.S., you can reach RAINN 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 or rainn.org. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  6. Oct 10

    8. From Fear to Love: Rethinking Activism, Motherhood & Our Connection to the Ocean

    We dive into a deeper conversation about living with intention, reconnecting with what matters, and creating meaningful change from a place of love rather than fear. Through honest stories and personal experiences, we explore how our relationships, choices, values, and sense of purpose can evolve as we grow. This conversation invites us to look beyond urgency and external expectations and consider what it really means to live consciously, stay connected to ourselves, and contribute to a more beautiful world. In this episode, we explore: Living intentionally and making choices that feel aligned Moving from fear and urgency toward love and presence Finding purpose through personal experiences and challenges The impact of motherhood on identity, values, and perspective Environmental activism and creating meaningful change Rethinking how we approach sustainability and environmental action Building community around shared values Reconnecting with nature and the ocean Creating positive solutions rather than focusing only on problems Choosing action that comes from love, connection, and hope What it means to create a life that reflects what you truly care about Finding deeper meaning in the way we live, love, and contribute Meet Kathryn Nelson 🐚 Kathryn Nelson is an environmental activist, author, content creator, and the founder of Plastic Free Mermaid. She has lived plastic-free for more than 12 years, working across campaigns, policy, education, and media while building a community of more than 100,000 people around plastic-free living and ocean conservation. She is also a mother to a gorgeous four-year-old, which has become a catalyst for greater presence and sincerity in her activism. Kathryn shares how her approach has shifted from one driven by fear and urgency to one rooted in love. Through mermaid retreats, ocean adventures, and her new podcast Beautiful World, Kathryn inspires people to reconnect with the sea, discover positive solutions, and take meaningful action toward a healthier planet. Connect with Kathryn here 🐚 📸 Instagram: Plastic Free Mermaid 🎙️ Podcast – Beautiful World: Beautiful World on Spotify ▶️ YouTube: Confessions of a Mermaid Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  7. Oct 1

    7. The Cornell 7: What Happened, What We Know & Why Accountability Matters

    In this episode of A Man Isn’t a Plan, Hannah S. Haller and Janne Robinson have a difficult but necessary conversation about the allegations surrounding the so-called “Cornell 7” — and the much bigger questions the case raises about consent, sexual violence, accountability, victim-blaming, institutional responsibility, and the culture that allows people to look away. The conversation begins by separating what has been publicly reported from what remains alleged, including the civil lawsuit, the earlier report to Cornell University Police, the university’s disciplinary response, and the renewed criminal investigation. From there, Hannah and Janne explore: * Why consent cannot be assumed when someone is intoxicated or incapacitated * Why victims may delay reporting sexual violence * The devastating impact of victim-blaming and shame * The responsibility of bystanders who witness or become aware of abuse * How institutions should respond when allegations of sexual violence are brought forward * Why accountability matters for changing cultural behavior * The importance of men becoming allies and intervening when someone is being harmed * How women are often taught to minimize, dismiss, or question their own experiences * What it means to create a culture where people are valued, protected, and treated with dignity This is a raw and emotional conversation about something neither of us believes should ever be normalized. Content warning: This episode discusses sexual assault, drugging, trauma, rape, victim-blaming, and other potentially triggering topics. Please remember that allegations discussed in this episode are allegations, and the legal process is ongoing. A Man Isn’t a Plan is a podcast about relationships, culture, gender, boundaries, personal responsibility, and the complicated conversations we don't always know how to have. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

  8. Sep 18

    6. Is He “Shopping” While Sitting Beside the Woman He Chose?

    We dive into the nuances of attraction, attention, and commitment, looking at how the things we notice, engage with, and normalize can shape the experience of being in a relationship. Through personal stories and honest conversation, we explore trust, boundaries, conditioning, and what it means to consciously choose the kind of relationship we want to create. Attraction and the role of attention in relationships The impact of repeated glances and where we draw the line How trust and emotional safety shape our reactions Attachment wounds and patterns carried into relationships Boundaries around social media, porn, and sexualized content Cultural conditioning and the normalization of objectification Communicating needs without turning them into control Creating a relationship where both people feel chosen and prioritized Reclaiming personal autonomy and building a life beyond partnership Choosing consciously rather than operating from conditioning or old patterns Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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A man can be a part of your plan, just don’t make him all of it. Velveteen rabbit style real and raw conversations about being a woman on dharma and on purpose. Hannah Haller lives on her four-acre off-grid homestead in Hawai'i she bought in cash and built from raw land. Between teaching live-streaming yoga classes, leading retreats, writing a bestselling Substack, and actively building a regenerative farm, she shares with her pup, Pete. Over the past 15 years, Hannah has turned an unconventional life into a multi six-figure business and cult-like following – without ever chasing one. Janne Robinson wrote her viral poem This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k in 2014 a piece that reached millions and became an anthem for women putting themselves on the menu. She is the author of two poetry books This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a F**k and There’s Cobwebs on Her Vagina and, as a coach, has helped thousands of people create a life of authentic belonging. Janne has led over 200 purpose sessions and has helped more than 120 women start companies from their gifts. Her work is rooted in one core belief — belonging from anything other than who you are isn’t worth it. Authors:Hannah HallerJanne Robinson

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  • Creator
    Hannah Haller & Janne Robinson
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    13
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    Explicit
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    © 2026 A Man Isn't A Plan
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