Beside Every Calling

Jill & Debbie

Beside Every Calling is a podcast for those married to ministry leaders who love deeply, serve faithfully, and sometimes wonder where they fit in the midst of it all. Together, we explore what it means to form identity in Christ, cultivate a hidden space with God, and discover a ministry within the calling we live beside—where identity is formed beside the calling, not lost within it. Through honest conversations, practical wisdom you can actually use, interviews with others living in this same space, and a little grace-filled humor along the way, we talk about faith, boundaries, joy, and the everyday realities of life in ministry. This is a gentle, grace-filled space to reconnect with God, reclaim who you are, and create a life you love while honoring a calling that matters deeply. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stretched thin, or quietly longing for something more faithful and more whole—you belong here. Connect with us: We’d love to meet you. Join us on Facebook and Instagram @BesideEveryCalling

Episodes

  1. 5D AGO

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 09: Finding Real Friendship in Ministry Life

    Send us Fan Mail This is a space for those walking beside a calling—where identity is formed beside it, not lost within it. Why is friendship in ministry life often harder than people expect? In this honest and heartfelt conversation, Debbie and Jill talk about one of the most quietly painful realities of ministry life—the challenge of finding genuine, safe friendship while living in the unique pressures of ministry. From shifting relationships and friendship wounds to healthy boundaries and building intentional community, they share personal stories and practical wisdom from different seasons of ministry life. They also talk honestly about the importance of a small, trusted inner circle and why meaningful friendship takes intentionality, time, and courage—even after disappointment. If you’ve ever felt unsure where you fit, longed for deeper connection, or wondered if anyone truly understands this life, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone—and that meaningful friendship is still possible. Want to connect with us or share your story? Email us at: besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions: 1. What kind of friendship do you need most in this season of your life? 2. Are there any past hurts that may be affecting how you approach friendship today? 3. What boundaries might help you build healthier, more life-giving relationships? 4. Is there one small step you could take this week to pursue meaningful connection? If yes describe it out loud. 5. How can you invite God into your desire for friendship in a more intentional way?

    30 min

  2. MAY 14

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 8: The Loneliness No One Talks About in Ministry Life

    Send us Fan Mail In this deeply personal and honest conversation, Debbie and Jill talk about something many in ministry quietly experience but rarely say out loud—loneliness.  This is a space for those walking beside a calling—where identity is formed beside it, not lost within it. They share from their own current seasons, navigating roles filled with purpose yet often lacking people who fully understand the weight and uniqueness of their lives. From shifting friendships to the absence of everyday connection, this episode brings language to a reality many ministry spouses carry. Through practical ideas for building community, setting healthy boundaries, and strengthening your marriage, Debbie and Jill offer both wisdom and hope. They also remind us that even in seasons where people feel distant, God remains present and near. If you’ve been feeling isolated or unseen, this conversation is a gentle reminder that you are not alone—and that meaningful connection is still possible in this season. Want to connect with us or share your story?  Email us at: besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions:  In what ways have you experienced loneliness in your current season of ministry life?  Are there friendships you may need to intentionally reconnect with or invest in?  What practical steps could help you build meaningful community right now?  How can you and your spouse be more intentional about supporting each other in this season?  What does it look like for you to draw closer to God when you feel isolated or unseen?

    30 min

  3. MAY 7

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 7: From Staff Spouse to Lead Pastor Spouse

    Send us Fan Mail Episode 7: From Staff Spouse to Lead Pastor Spouse In this honest and heartfelt conversation... Debbie and Jill are joined by Dana Hustko and Bethany Jack to talk about one of the most significant transitions in ministry life—moving from being a staff pastor’s spouse to a lead pastor’s spouse.  This is a space for those walking beside a calling—where identity is formed beside it, not lost within it. They share real experiences about increased visibility, shifting relationships, and the unexpected pressures that come with this role. From navigating criticism and comparison to learning how to support your spouse and protect your identity, this episode offers practical wisdom and encouragement for every season. Whether you’re stepping into this role for the first time or have been living it for years, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone—and that your identity is formed beside the calling, not lost within it. Want to connect with us or share your story? Email us at: besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions: 1. What has been the most challenging part of navigating relationships         within the church in your current season? 2. Are there areas where comparison or outside expectations are affecting your joy? 3. How can you more intentionally support your spouse while also caring for your own identity and calling? 4. What rhythms could help you stay grounded and spiritually encouraged in this season?

    47 min

  4. APR 30

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 06: Staff Spouse Life-What No one Tells You

    Send us Fan Mail Beside Every Calling | Episode 06: Staff Spouse Life — What No One Tells You 📩 Connect With Us: If this episode encouraged you, we’d love to hear from you. Email us at besideeverycalling@gmail.com In this episode, Debbie and Jill sit down with Dana Hutsko and Bethany Jack for an honest conversation about the real experience of ministry spouse life on a church staff. From the early days of feeling unprepared and alone to learning how to build community and stay grounded, this conversation offers both validation and practical wisdom for every season of ministry life. In This Episode:  What they wish someone had told them before ministry life  Navigating loneliness in the early years  Practical ways to find your people and build community  Staying grounded in your identity beyond the role  Encouragement for those just starting out Table Talk Questions:  What has surprised you most about ministry life?  Have you experienced loneliness in this season? What did that look like?  Who are your “safe people,” and how did you find them?  What helps you stay grounded in your identity outside of ministry?  What advice would you give to someone just starting out as a staff spouse? Follow Along: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/besideeverycalling Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/besideeverycalling

    37 min

  5. APR 23

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 5 : Family & Ministry

    Send us Fan Mail Episode 05: Family & Ministry Beside Every Calling with Debbie & Jill In this episode, we talk about the real-life tension of balancing family and ministry—especially in the early parenting years, through busy church seasons, and into the empty nest. We share personal stories, practical rhythms that helped our families, and honest conversations about expectations, boundaries, and protecting your home. Whether you’re raising young kids or navigating adult relationships, this episode is a reminder that your family is your first ministry—and you don’t have to do this alone. In This Episode: Practical rhythms for Sundays and busy ministry seasons Creating a home that feels safe, peaceful, and life-giving Setting boundaries with church expectations Supporting each child’s unique personality and calling When and why to seek counseling for your family Transitioning from parenting to friendship in adult years Key Encouragement: You’re doing better than you think. Your family matters deeply. And you are not alone in this. Table Talk Questions: What rhythms could help our family feel more peaceful during busy seasons? Are there any expectations we need to release or reset? How can we better support each person’s uniqueness in our family? What would it look like to make our home feel even more safe and life-giving? 📩 Connect With Us: If this episode encouraged you, we’d love to hear from you. If you have a topic you’d like us to discuss—or just want to connect—email us at besideeverycalling@gmail.com

    37 min

  6. APR 15

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 4: Supporting a Spouse in Ministry Without Losing Yourself

    Send us Fan Mail In this honest and deeply relatable conversation, Debbie and Jill reflect on the realities of being married to a ministry leader. From the early years of burnout to learning healthy boundaries and discovering their own calling within ministry, they share the lessons they wish someone had told them sooner. Together they explore the central question many ministry spouses quietly wrestle with: How do you support your spouse’s calling without losing your own identity? With vulnerability and wisdom gained through decades of ministry life, Debbie and Jill offer encouragement for anyone navigating the unique tensions of leadership, marriage, calling, and personal identity. In this episode we explore: 🔹 Burnout in the Early Years The “all-in” mentality that many young ministry couples embrace—and how it often leads to exhaustion before healthy rhythms are learned. 🔹 Learning Boundaries (Before Anyone Was Talking About Them) Long before books like Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud became popular, Debbie and Jill were learning the hard way how important it is to say no. 🔹 The Ministry of Presence One of the most powerful callings of a ministry spouse: simply showing up, being with people, and offering a steady presence. 🔹 Finding Your Hidden Ministry How each season of life reveals a different way to serve—and how many spouses discover their own quiet ministry within the larger calling. 🔹 Balancing Real Life Navigating full-time work, raising a family, and carrying unpaid church responsibilities. 🔹 Unspoken Expectations The pressure that often exists for ministry families—and how those expectations can go unspoken but deeply felt. 🔹 Loneliness in Ministry Life Why ministry can feel isolating and why finding peers who truly understand the journey is so important. 🔹 Can You Have Friends in the Church? Debbie and Jill challenge the common advice that pastors’ families shouldn’t form close friendships within the congregation. 🔹 Serving in Undefined Seasons One of the hardest seasons of ministry: when roles are unclear and there is no roadmap for what your contribution should look like. Wisdom from Experience ✓ Protect your personal Sabbath time with God ✓ Learn to set healthy boundaries ✓ Find mentors who model long-term ministry health ✓ Remember who you are first: a beloved child of God—not just a ministry spouse This episode may especially resonate with: • Pastors’ spouses navigating identity and calling • Ministry couples in early or mid-season leadership • Anyone supporting a spouse in a demanding calling • Church leaders seeking to better understand ministry families Thank you for being part of this conversation. If you have a question, story, or topic you'd love us to cover, email us at besideeverycalling@gmail.com Wisdom from Experience ✓ Protect your personal Sabbath time with God ✓ Learn to set healthy boundaries ✓ Find mentors who model long-term ministry health ✓ Remember who you are first: a beloved child of God—not just a ministry spouse This episode may especially resonate with: • Pastors’ spouses navigating identity and calling • Ministry couples in early or mid-season leadership • Anyone supporting a spouse in a demanding calling • Church leaders seeking to better understand ministry families Table Talk Questions 1. What part of Debbie and Jill’s story resonated most with you? 2. How can couples support each other’s calling without losing their own identity? 3. What boundaries might help protect your spiritual and emotional health in this season? 4. Have you discovered a “hidden ministry” within your current role or season of life? 5. How can churches better support ministry families and their

    24 min

  7. APR 9

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 1: What is Beside Every Calling

    Send us Fan Mail In this first episode of Beside Every Calling, we introduce ourselves and share a little of our story walking beside our husbands in ministry.  We talk about how long we've been in ministry, what life beside the calling has looked like for us, and our hope for this space. Beside Every Calling is meant to be a place of encouragement for spouses walking beside the call- a safe place to talk honestly about faith, ministry life, and how to create a life you love beside the call without loosing yourself in the call. If something in this conversation resonated with you, we would love to hear your story.  Email us anytime at besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions - Episode 1 1. When you think about your life beside your spouses call, what parts of your identity have been strengthened - and what parts may have gotten lost along the way? 2. What has helped you stay grounded in who you are, not just in the role you serve beside someone else's calling?  3. Is there a woman or man walking beside a calling whose story or friendship has encouraged you in this season?

    23 min

  8. APR 9

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 2: Discipleship Never Ends

    Send us Fan Mail In Episode 2 of Beside Every Calling , we talk about discipleship across every season of life.  Early in our faith we often have someone pouring into us.  But as years pass and leadership grows, many quietly lose the voices who once discipled them.  In this conversation we explore what it means to always be "in the middle" being shaped by someone ahead of us while encouraging someone coming behind us.  Discipleship doesn't end when leadership begins. It's how we stay grounded beside the call without losing ourselves within it. If something in this conversation resonated with you, we would love to hear your story.  Email us anytime at besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions: 1. Who is someone one season ahead of you who still shapes your faith today? 2. Who might God be inviting you to encourage or disciple right now?

    25 min

  9. APR 9

    Beside Every Calling | Episode 3: A Conversation with Male Ministry Spouses

    Send us Fan Mail Episode 3: Male Spouses in Ministry In this meaningful conversation, Debbie and Jill sit down with Chuck Sunburg and David Nicola—two men who share the unique experience of supporting their wives’ call to ministry. As more women step into pastoral leadership, their husbands are navigating a role that few people talk about. Chuck and David share honestly about identity, sacrifice, faith, and what it looks like to faithfully walk beside a spouse’s calling without losing your own. In this episode we explore: 🔹 Supporting a Called Spouse Chuck shares how his wife Carla transitioned from nursing to becoming an ordained elder and now serving as a General Superintendent in the Church of the Nazarene, while David reflects on Gina’s journey from therapist to ordained pastor and community center leader. 🔹 Identity & Sacrifice Both men talk openly about the decision to “decrease so she could increase,” stepping back from their own ministry paths in order to support their wives’ calling without resentment or ego. 🔹 Finding Your Place David emphasizes the importance of male spouses discovering their own role in ministry—whether through worship, service, leadership, or support—rather than simply standing in the background. 🔹 Guarding What Matters The conversation also explores the protective instinct that comes with watching your spouse face criticism, people walking out during sermons, and navigating assumptions about women in ministry leadership. 🔹 Keeping Your Eyes on Jesus Chuck reminds us that the foundation of any ministry marriage is first being faithful followers of Christ—both individually and together. This episode offers rare and honest insight into a growing reality in the church: supporting female pastoral leadership requires humility, intentionality, and a Kingdom-first perspective that goes beyond cultural expectations. This episode may especially resonate with: • Male spouses of ministry leaders • Female pastors and their families • Couples discerning a shared calling in ministry • Anyone interested in the evolving role of women in church leadership Thank you for being part of this conversation. If you have a question, story, or topic you'd love us to cover, email us at besideeverycalling@gmail.com Table Talk Questions 1. What part of Chuck and David’s story resonated most with you? 2. How can couples better support one another’s calling without losing their  own identity? 3. What challenges do ministry spouses uniquely face that people outside ministry may not see? 4. What does it look like to “decrease so another can increase” in a healthy way? 5. How can churches better support both women in ministry and their families?

    40 min
  • 9 Episodes

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
8 Ratings

About

Beside Every Calling is a podcast for those married to ministry leaders who love deeply, serve faithfully, and sometimes wonder where they fit in the midst of it all. Together, we explore what it means to form identity in Christ, cultivate a hidden space with God, and discover a ministry within the calling we live beside—where identity is formed beside the calling, not lost within it. Through honest conversations, practical wisdom you can actually use, interviews with others living in this same space, and a little grace-filled humor along the way, we talk about faith, boundaries, joy, and the everyday realities of life in ministry. This is a gentle, grace-filled space to reconnect with God, reclaim who you are, and create a life you love while honoring a calling that matters deeply. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stretched thin, or quietly longing for something more faithful and more whole—you belong here. Connect with us: We’d love to meet you. Join us on Facebook and Instagram @BesideEveryCalling

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  • Creator
    Jill & Debbie
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Beside Every Calling
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    Beside Every Calling

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