You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Billy Garton Jr.
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A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

  1. 4d ago

    #021 - Elliot Bewick - 21 Year Old Atheist: "There is a Rise in Performative Christianity"

    Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus? If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention. Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor. Follow Elliot - https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr CHAPTERS: 0:00 Why He Hid the Bible 1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews 2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore 4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning 8:33 What If There Is No Meaning? 10:29 What Happens When You Kill God 11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing? 13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing 14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian 16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus." 20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real 21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point 22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum 24:31 What Is Love Without God? 24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants 25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is 26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented 29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup 32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft 33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything 34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunction Comes From 36:55 We Live in a Culture of Too Many Labels 41:02 The Day at the White House 42:40 Who the Girl in the DM Actually Is 45:01 What Filled the Last Gap in His Faith 46:52 Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling 51:37 The Information Age Promised You a Recipe 52:55 Just Do 53:39 "I'm Confused as F*ck Right Now" 55:26 Gen Z are the Victims 56:39 The Blame Game Has No Solutions 1:00:52 The Girl Who Sued Meta and Won 1:02:00 Your Problem Isn't Doom Scrolling 1:05:00 Compartmentalise Your Scrolling 1:05:31 The Science of Getting into Flow State 1:08:18 Breaking a Social Media Addiction 1:09:38 What a Monk Taught Him About Impulse 1:10:43 Willpower Is the Wrong Frame 1:12:13 Our Generation's Worst Habit 1:13:17 Put Down a Vice, Don't Pick Up a Virtue 1:19:43 Comfort Creates a Numbness to Life 1:24:21 The Study on Choosing the Wrong Answer 1:25:14 What Does It Mean to Belong? 1:29:46 Loneliness Is Not About Other People 1:31:01 The Global Village Problem 1:33:24 Elliot's Sponsor, Shift Your Phone

  2. Sep 1

    #020 - Adam Jackson - Why Most Men Can't Love One Woman Fully

    If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline. Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming. There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man. Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships. This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence. Enjoy! CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose Wisely Follow Adam - https://www.instagram.com/adam___jackson Sacred Sons - https://www.instagram.com/sacredsons Sacred Sons events - https://sacredsons.com Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr

  3. Aug 25

    #019 - Jules Horn - You Can't Think Your Way to Peace. Here's How to Actually Find It

    If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you. Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him. Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage. He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair. Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin. Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him. We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself. If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
 Chapters:

 0:00 Intro 0:12 The Perfect Breath 2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake 7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only 10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling 13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing 14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Loved 16:17 Chasing One Campaign for a Decade 17:33 Billy: Four Foot Eleven With Cystic Acne 20:50 Modeling: An Industry of Power and Control 23:20 Blackout Drunk Every Single Weekend 26:02 What You Seek Is Already Looking at You 34:01 A Bird in a Golden Cage 35:53 The Day it All Changed 37:17 "You'll Never Work as a Model Again" 43:40 The Truth Behind Aging 45:48 The Energy of Desperation 49:15 How to Release Your Jaw Tension 53:55 What to Ask the Monster Within You 56:11 Rage, Anger and Suppression 1:00:20 Catholic Altar Boy to a Relationship with God 1:04:12 God Spoke to Him in a Psychedelic Ceremony 1:07:01 Most People's Version of Prayer is Begging 1:12:21 Seeing His Dad in His Son 1:17:19 The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

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  4. Aug 18

    #018 - Michael Smoak - 6 Questions You Need to Ask Your Parents Before They're Gone

    If your parents are still alive, watch this for a time sensitive message. If they aren't, watch this for your own current or future children. If neither of those are true, watch this to touch that beautiful place inside of you that is connected to everything. There are questions I've held about my father, about his first marriage, about who he was before he was my dad, that I have not had the courage to ask. Not because I don't want to know, but because there has always been more time. This conversation woke me up. Michael Smoak didn't have more time. He had 7 months to both ask and deliver everything to his father before it was over. Today, we went to the places most people spend an entire life avoiding. The exact questions to ask your parents before it's too late, the two moments that made God undeniable to him, why your father was once a little boy full of fears and dreams and what changes in you the second you remember that, the reason he never missed a single post while his dad was dying, the six things he believes a man must have in place before he is ready for a wife, what he still wants to know from his mother, why the death of a father is the only coming of age ritual men in this culture are given, how to feel grief all the way through instead of letting it quietly run the rest of your life, and what he would say to anyone still telling themselves they'll have that conversation next year. I have had conversations on this show that moved me. This one changed the way I look at my own father, and it changed what I'm going to do about it.   If your parents are still here, this episode is a phone call you have been putting off. Please make it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. Follow Michael - https://www.instagram.com/higherupwellness Get Tickets to 'The Purpose Progression Tour' - https://laylo.com/laylo-higheruptour/m/wpPOi3 Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr Chapters 02:58 What Alex & Leila Hormozi Are Really Like 08:31 Self-Development vs Self-Actualisation 11:09 The Moment God Became Undeniable 14:05 Something Was Wrong With His Dad 17:39 Grief Is an Ocean 24:06 The Prayer That Changed Everything 26:03 Why Surrender Is So Hard for Men 27:54 How to Actually Find Your Purpose 28:21 What to Ask Your Parents Before They Die 38:42 The Sunset Lesson He'll Never Forget 44:59 The Obituary Is Full of People Who Had Plans 50:15 A Prisoner in His Own Body 51:02 What Ifs vs Oh Wells 52:26 Don't Learn This the Hard Way 53:16 The One Question He'd Still Ask His Dad 57:36 Why Men Have No Coming of Age Ritual 59:52 The Lion King & the Death of the Father 1:03:00 Why He Never Missed a Single Post 1:03:59 Building Systems That Survive Anything 1:09:58 The Sermon He Was Never Supposed to Find 1:11:59 Blowing Up Online While His Dad Was Dying 1:14:28 Mend It While They're Still Here 1:15:17 What He Still Wants to Know From His Mom 1:21:38 Is Michael Dating? 1:22:43 The Cost of a Public Relationship 1:25:59 Most Men Have the EQ of a 14-Year-Old 1:26:50 The Danger of "Just Good Enough" 1:29:46 Six Things a Man Needs Before Finding His Woman 1:32:35 Billy's Story: Learning to Date Himself 1:41:09 The Healing Only a Relationship Can Do 1:44:18 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Dating 1:45:35 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Porn Addiction 1:48:40 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Self Love 1:52:10 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Public Speaking 1:57:43 What Makes a Man 1:58:31 The Most Important Thing a Parent Can Give 1:59:40 Three Days Before His Dad Died 2:03:11 What Men and Women Actually Need 2:05:12 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Religion 2:09:03 How to Survive Losing a Parent 2:12:09 What Actually Matters at the End

  5. Aug 11

    #017 - Peter Crone: Dissolving 20 Years of Fear in 97 Minutes

    I’ve never been this vulnerable publicly… 3 years ago I sat in my local library feeling deeply lost. My life seemed to be crumbling before my eyes and I felt confined to a world I was no longer choosing. I made a declaration that day that there was one person I would be coached by, and I’d find a way to get myself in the room with him. Well, 3 years on, having consumed virtually all of his content, invested in his life altering mastermind and shared his work and words with everyone in my life, it is an absolute honor to share this conversation I had with Peter Crone. Widely known as ‘The Mind Architect’, Peter is globally recognized for his ability to help someone reveal the deep, subconscious constraints that have laced their life, and support them in freeing themselves from the mental prisons with which they’ve been confined, so they can lead a life of freedom, love, abundance and possibility.  Today, we revealed the primary prisons I’ve been living inside of, how the world is not set up to see us succeed, how to break free from what he calls the “1.0 world” and step into his world of 2.0, how to upgrade your human operating system, the toxic male influences laced throughout culture, the difference between care and worry, where true energy is derived, and the one message Peter would leave behind for generations to come that would serve as a catalyst for both personal and universal change.  I would bet, being that you watch this show, that you’re committed to your spiritual evolution. Let me tell you, nothing touched my life more than Peter’s Mastermind. I have invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into coaches, mentors, retreats, books and programs, and the greatest catalyst for inspiration, energy, and true transformation was the 3 months I spent sitting at the feet of this man and soaking up everything he has to offer. The link to learn more about it is below. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.  I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.  Chapters: 2:12 What True Freedom Actually Means 6:21 The Qualities You Were Born With 7:08 The Ten Prisons of the Human Mind 8:21 The Quote That Has Saved Lives 10:13 How Losing Both Parents Shaped Peter 13:17 Turning Grief Into Direction 15:19 Why Divinity Follows the Free 19:28 Stop Seeking, Start Removing Barriers 21:16 The Shame That Won't Let Go 23:53 When Love Comes With Conditions 25:19 Panic Attacks No One Explained 29:02 The Ego Is a Boa Constrictor 30:07 The First Lie You Tell Yourself 32:47 You've Never Done Anything Wrong 36:22 What "Wrong" Actually Means 39:19 Why Risk Doesn't Exist 42:50 Escaping the 1.0 Operating System 44:15 Why You Project Your Parents Onto Everyone 48:08 Guilt Disguised as Accountability 50:49 The Power of Your Words 52:57 Welcome to the 2.0 World 54:50 The Lie That It's Not Safe to Be You 57:34 The Worst Prison a Human Can Live In 1:01:44 Watch the Breakthrough Happen 1:03:36 You Can't Get Enough of What Almost Works 1:06:19 The Difference Between Care and Worry 1:08:31 For Men Afraid of Caring Too Much 1:09:41 Why Love Must Include You 1:12:42 The Truth About Toxic Male Influences 1:15:32 Nothing to Hide, Nothing to Prove 1:17:10 Build a New Model, Don't Fight the Old 1:19:12 Why Longevity Seduces the Ego 1:20:45 Integrating the Two Lies 1:24:36 Instructions for Visiting Earth 1:27:04 Peter's Message for the Planet 1:29:51 The Real Role of the Ego 1:32:41 Advice for Anyone Chasing a Calling 1:36:08 What's Next for Peter Crone Peter's Mastermind: https://www.petercrone.com/mastermind Follow Peter: https://www.instagram.com/petercrone/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  6. Aug 4

    #016 - Laird Hamilton - The King of the Ocean Opens Up on What it Takes to Live an Extraordinary Life

    Everyone is trying to hack, optimize and comfort their way to a better life. Laird Hamilton says the opposite is true: that comfort is the trap, that fear is intelligence, and that the closer you get to death, the more alive you become.Laird Hamilton is widely regarded as the greatest big-wave surfer of all time, the pioneer of tow-in surfing and hydrofoil boarding who redefined what's possible in the ocean. He is the co-founder of Laird Superfood, husband of volleyball legend Gabby Reece for 28 years, and father to three daughters.He explains:◼ Why the closer you are to death, the more alive you feel◼ How a lifetime in the ocean convinced him that God exists◼ The one thing he believes is worse than dying◼ Why fear is intelligence, and how to harness it instead of avoiding it◼ Why parenting is like building a samurai sword, and why it's for you, not your kids◼ He opens up about growing up poor, fatherless and an outsider, and how that pain fueled everything he builtThe views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.Chapters00:00 Why You Shouldn't Live For Your Kids04:05 What Really Fueled Laird's Success08:23 How Laird Turned Pain Into Power09:45 The Ocean Gave Laird Everything10:54 The Ocean Taught Laird the Existence of God22:19 How to Never Lose Your Curiosity28:11 Why Nature Always Wins32:01 Why Fear Is Actually Intelligence34:38 Why Laird Is Addicted to Fear37:00 Why Nothing Matters Without Consequence40:16 The Closer to Death, the More Alive44:30 The Simple Code Laird Lives By50:08 Are You Living or Just Surviving?51:22 Why Laird Would Rather Lose His Life55:16 Live Every Day Like Your Last58:23 The Life-Changing Power of Telling the Truth1:05:08 What Three Daughters Taught Laird1:08:01 The Samurai Sword Theory of Fatherhood1:12:19 What Living With Four Women Taught Laird1:17:14 The Secret to a 28-Year Marriage1:24:05 Why Laird Refuses to Use AI1:30:47 Why Laird & Gabby Schedule Sex1:34:58 Why Laird Threw Away His Wearables1:39:22 The Hawaiian Test of Character1:48:04 Never Use Your Kids as an Excuse1:54:09 The #1 Thing Holding You Back1:58:34 Why Most Men Are Harmless, Not Peaceful2:03:38 The Sayings That Shaped Laird's Life2:11:22 We're All in the Same Boat2:13:06 What's Next for Laird

  7. Jul 28

    #015 - Jeremy Jackson - Former Baywatch Star Opens Up on Fame, Meth, Prison and the Pursuit of Self Love

    Strap in for this one folks!At nine years old, Jeremy Jackson beat Leonardo DiCaprio for the role of Hobie Buchanan on Baywatch — the most watched television show on the planet. A billion people knew his face before he could drive. What followed was two decades most people don't come back from: addiction, meth, arrests, facing up to 35 years in prison, and a public collapse narrated by everyone except him. Today, Jeremy is sober, a recovery coach, breathwork facilitator, and spiritual mentor who walks into the rehabs and jails he once occupied — carrying the message to the people still lost in the places he came back from.One line that stuck with me: "If you want God to write the love story of your life, stop taking the pen out of his hand."This conversation goes somewhere neither of us expected. Jeremy speaks for the first time at length about the marriage that gutted him deeper than anything in his life — deeper than the abuse, the kidnapping, the arrests — and the moment he chose to see the person who hurt him most as a suffering addict instead of an enemy. We talk about why fame at fourteen cost him the very authenticity he was chasing, why authenticity is a higher frequency than joy, and why the men who have been broken by life make the most glorious men. He shares the golden keys he lives by, the three words tattooed on his arm that carried him through hell, and what it means to stop being so full of yourself that God can't hand you anything.Enjoy :-)Oh, and if you do, like, subscribe, comment. It really supports in our ability to bring you the best conversations. Chapters1:24 From Baywatch to prison3:24 When the mask drops4:58 The masks he still wears6:39 Owning the loser narrative7:34 The message in the mess10:32 A poem from rehab13:07 Becoming childlike again14:21 Fame at fourteen18:41 Defining authenticity19:53 The highest frequency21:15 More haters than fans22:40 Breaking his silence27:58 A public marriage28:29 Ignoring the warning signs31:57 Seeing her on the street33:57 Softening his heart34:59 The intervention attempt38:35 When helping falls apart40:45 The deepest heartbreak43:01 Jails, institutions, or death43:44 Why addicts refuse help44:45 Why he said yes46:39 Singleness of purpose48:52 Giving God the pen51:04 The rock we're chained to53:17 The golden keys54:27 What are you feeding59:41 How God speaks1:00:42 Full expression of life1:03:28 The fear of being seen1:09:17 The best men are broken1:14:57 The code of self-acceptance1:16:14 The hollow bone1:23:23 Trauma is past tense1:28:42 Everything happens through you1:31:49 Why he came backFollow Jeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyjackson/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  8. Jul 22

    #014 - Timmy the Dreamer - Charlie Rocket's Former Manager: Porn, Ayahuasca, and Why I Left LA

    Have you ever been honest enough to rate yourself as a man?Timmy Bishop — known to the world as Timmy the Dreamer — spent three years living what looked like the dream: managing one of the biggest philanthropic movements on the internet, working alongside Mr. Beast and Oprah, living in a Hollywood Hills content mansion. Then, in December 2023, he got in a boat and rode two hours down the Amazon River to a ceremony that dismantled his entire life. He has never told this story publicly. Until now.A few lines that stuck with me:"If everything I did in private could be seen by everybody in public, would I still be who I say I am? The answer was no.""Not even the medicine could make me release. That's how disconnected I was from being able to feel.""In order to be ready for a queen to walk into your life, you must first make yourself into a king."In this conversation, Timmy shares — for the first time — the ayahuasca ceremony that told him to leave his dream life in LA and move back in with his parents in Minnesota at 27. We talk about the night he rated himself a four out of ten as a man and what he did about it, the addiction to porn that 95% of the men he knows quietly carry, quitting every vice cold turkey and crying every day for a month, redefining authenticity as truthfulness rather than consistency, telling his Christian family he'd left the faith, and the five initiations he believes turn a boy into a man. Three years after the jungle, he rates himself an eight — and he'll tell you exactly what happened in between.Chapters:0:00 The two lives of Timmy Bishop3:31 Why living the dream is a state of mind7:41 The case against shaming your past self11:32 How you can be lonely with hundreds of friends14:51 The day the dream job felt empty17:29 Why your darkness needs to be seen18:48 The gift hidden inside sensitivity21:51 The real definition of authenticity27:47 Telling his Christian parents he left the faith32:48 What happens when the highs stop working34:53 The story he swore he'd never tell35:18 The boat ride into the Amazon38:15 The cleanse his body refused41:45 Inside the ayahuasca ceremony45:19 The visions that made him vomit up LA47:08 The battle between his inner child and warrior49:00 How the shaman knew before he spoke50:46 Trading Hollywood for his childhood bedroom53:04 The month he cried every single day54:52 Quitting porn, weed, and caffeine cold turkey55:23 Why porn is the vice no man admits58:19 The one question that breaks the addiction59:29 What his friends said when he relapsed1:03:03 Proof you can feel deeply and still perform1:05:00 The question every single man should ask1:08:17 The poem about the man in the glass1:10:14 The night he rated himself a 4/10 man1:12:49 Why you must become a king before finding a queen1:14:44 The moment he finally became a man1:17:33 The orange tree theory of growth1:20:12 The five steps from boy to man1:24:00 The power of four months of saying no1:26:24 The three circles every man needs1:28:16 Why a real man serves1:32:14 The closing poem for anyone feeling lostFollow Timmy: https://www.instagram.com/timmy.the.dreamer/Book Timmy to speak: https://dreamerstate.com/dreamologytourFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

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A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

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