Ascent for Men

Jesse Carstairs, Adam Tyler Free
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Most men aren't failing because they're weak. They're failing because nobody told them who they're supposed to be. Ascent for Men is a weekly podcast hosted by Jesse Carstairs and Adam Tyler Free, two faith driven coaches committed to helping men stop coasting and start leading. Every week they sit down for raw, unfiltered conversations about faith, identity, marriage, fatherhood, and what it actually looks like to become the man God made you to be. No fluff. No performance. Just truth. New episodes every week. Subscribe and join the ascent.

  1. 2d ago

    Stop Fighting Your Lust Problem, Fix This One Thing and It Takes Care of Itself

    You've tried to quit. You've white-knuckled it. You've made promises. You've broken them. Jesse and Adam want you to understand something: you've been fighting the wrong battle. In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free answer the question they get more than any other from men in their DMs, how do I overcome lust and be consistent in the Bible? Their answer is going to surprise you: stop focusing on the lust and focus on one thing instead. One will take care of the other. They cover why willpower alone will never beat lust and why white-knuckling it is a losing strategy every single time, Adam's account of how reading the Bible every day caused his desire for pornography to simply disappear, not through discipline, but through displacement, Jesse's story of how lust nearly destroyed his marriage before he gave his life to Christ and what actually changed, why pursuing God's heart makes lust genuinely hard to want, Peter walking on water and what happens the moment you take your eyes off Christ, the protein versus carbohydrates framework for understanding why sermons are good but scripture is non-negotiable, and why God told Adam clearly during prayer: you do your job, I'll do mine. The light of the word will shine on the dark corners you've been hiding. You don't have to drag them out yourself. You just have to open the book. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man who has been trying to quit and can't figure out why it's not working.

  2. Aug 12

    Your Bible Is Clean Because You're Still Having Surface Level Conversations With God (Part 2)

    Jesse and Adam can look at your Bible and tell you everything they need to know about your walk with God. If it's clean, they already know the answer. In Part 2 of this series on reading scripture, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free get practical, the tools, the method, and the habit that turns Bible reading from a religious checklist into a real relationship with God. They cover why your Bible should look like your kids got to it with highlighters and why a clean Bible is a warning sign not a sign of respect, the exact tools Jesse and Adam use, highlighters, pens, pencils and why Adam treats his Bible as an heirloom he is building for his son right now, Joshua 1:9 and what meditating on the word actually means versus skimming it, Matthew 7:13-23 verse by verse, the narrow gate, the bad tree, and the most alarming words Jesus ever spoke: "I never knew you," why the many Jesus warns about are not atheists, they are church-going men who did things in His name but never actually knew Him, and why your marked-up Bible is the difference between a man who knows about God and a man God actually knows. There are only two fires, brothers. One is eternity. One scorches you into refinement. Your choice starts with whether you open this book today. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man whose Bible still looks brand new.

  3. Aug 4

    You're Praying to Someone You've Never Met (Part 1)

    If you skip reading the Bible and go straight to prayer, Jesse says you are talking to someone you have never actually met. That's not an insult. It's a diagnosis. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free break down why reading scripture every single day is not a suggestion, not a spiritual bonus, and not something you do when you feel like it. It is the connective tissue between you and God and without it, everything else you're trying to build is on sand. They cover John 4:14 and why men are dying of thirst while the living water sits on their nightstand unopened, Romans 12:2 and the neuroscience behind why renewing your mind requires daily reps just like a 500 pound squat, why you cannot counter-program a world that is programming you every hour if you are only in the Word on Easter and Christmas, why your sons are disciples of you and whether what you're showing them is worth following, Mark 10:45 and how Adam found his life's purpose in a single verse he never would have read if he hadn't picked the Bible up, and why if you skip this, your wife and your children pay the price. Part 2 is coming and that's where Jesse and Adam show you exactly how to read it, mark it, and study it so it actually changes you. Your life depends on it. So does theirs. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man whose Bible is still in the box.

  4. Jul 28

    Every Area of Your Life Where You Still Have Anxiety Is an Area You Haven't Given to God

    You say you trust God. But on Saturday morning your mind is already at Monday. You're physically in the room with your kids and mentally gone. Your finances are solid on paper and you're still awake at 2am. Jesse and Adam have a name for that: unsubmitted. In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free get into what submitting to Christ actually means, not the churchy version, not the bumper sticker version, but the emptying that has to happen before God has any room to work in your life. They cover why you cannot be full of yourself and full of Christ at the same time and what it looks like to actually make room, why anxiety is not a personality trait, it's a diagnostic that tells you exactly which areas of your life you haven't surrendered, why submission is a process and not a light switch and why that's not an excuse to keep holding on, why your wife won't submit to you if you won't submit to Christ, Jesse's own process of realizing he was trying to control his wife, his finances, and his future and what changed when he let go, and the Lee Strobel story: a Yale-educated atheist who picked up the Bible to disprove it and never came back the same. Every area of your life that still has anxiety is an area that still has you in it. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man who says he trusts God but can't stop white-knuckling his life.

  5. Jul 21

    Your Kids Are Watching You Not Do What You Tell Them to Do

    You tell your son to be disciplined. He watches you skip the gym. You tell your kids not to lie. They watch you make excuses. You tell your family to eat clean. You're feeding them Jolly Ranchers and Cheez-Its at church. Your audio and your video don't match. And every person in your home knows it. In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Tyler Free are done being polite about it. The dad getting out of the minivan, lighting a cigarette while his kids pile out. The father yelling at his son at baseball practice about discipline while he can barely breathe sitting in his chair. The overweight pastor handing out junk food and calling it a leadership tool. Jesse and Adam have seen enough and they're naming it. They get into why your kids will follow what you do and ignore everything you say, why being physically out of shape is a theological problem, not just a health one, why the church has a fork and knife problem nobody will say out loud, Matthew 7:5 and why you don't get to tell your son to be disciplined until you are, why your business isn't working, your marriage is struggling, and your kids don't respect you and why the answer to all three is the same man, and why Jesse and Adam are not going to apologize for saying any of it. If your feelings are hurt by this episode, that's your sign. Go stand in front of a mirror long enough to be disgusted by what you see, then call us. Your life starts at that moment. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man whose audio and video don't match.

  6. Jul 15

    Porn Is Not a Small Sin, It's an Open Door You Don't Know You Left Unlocked

    You post about Epstein on Instagram. Then you open Pornhub on the same phone. Jesse and Adam are done pretending that's not happening. This is Pillar Four of the Five Pillars of Biblical Manhood and there is no soft way to say it: pornography has to stop. Not because it's embarrassing. Because it is spiritually, neurologically, and maritally destroying you and you have invited something into your home that your wife and your daughters will pay the price for. In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Tyler Free get into the neuroscience of what pornography does to the male brain and why the dopamine crash after is your body telling you the truth, why the sex in your marriage feels dead and what pornography has to do with it, why men who rage about human trafficking and watch pornography on the same phone are not the righteous men they think they are, Adam's account of the moment he felt demonic presence in his home and what he knows now that he didn't know then, why November 2022 was the last time Adam watched pornography and what changed, Jesse's 75-day challenge for any man ready to find out what he's actually made of, and why the day you quit is a date worth writing down. Your daughter is growing up in the home you are building right now. Build accordingly. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man who thinks it's not that big of a deal.

  7. Jul 7

    She Already Knows You're Lying, She Just Stopped Caring Enough to Say It

    You bought the gun anyway. You bought the shoes anyway. You told yourself she didn't notice. She noticed. She just stopped telling you. In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free get into the lie most men are living, not the big dramatic betrayals, but the small daily promises broken so often that your wife has quietly decided it doesn't matter what you say anymore. And that silence isn't forgiveness. It's surrender. They cover why a woman's silence on your broken word is the worst place you can be in a marriage, why lying about small purchases is the same as lying about big decisions and she knows it, why medieval knights considered breaking their word an act of treason and what that means for the man you're supposed to be, why deflecting and omitting are feminine communication patterns and what masculine honesty actually looks like, and how Adam went from hiding shoe purchases from his wife to walking into her office like a kid asking permission and why that's not weakness, that's winning. You want her respect. She wants your honesty. It turns out those are the same thing. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man who thinks he's been getting away with it.

  8. Jun 30

    You'd Burn Tom Brady's Jersey for Doing What You Do to Your Wife Every Day

    You would burn Tom Brady's jersey if he stood at the podium after a bad game and blamed his offensive line, his receivers, and his coaching staff. You'd call him a bad leader. You'd be done with him. So why do you walk through your front door every night and do exactly that? In this episode, Jesse Carstairs and Adam Free get into what King David actually looked like as a man, not because he was perfect, but because of what he did when everything went sideways. No excuses. No deflection. No yeah-buts. They cover why David is the clearest biblical picture of manhood outside of Jesus, what it means to have your identity in God when the army is literally at the gate, why men who build their confidence on ego get their legs cut out the moment life hits them, the fat coach who tells his players to go the extra mile and why that's you with your kids, why "happy wife, happy life" is one of the most emasculating phrases in the English language, and why you praise accountability in athletes and punish it in yourself. You are the quarterback of your home. Right now, your team is telling you how the game is going. New episode every Tuesday. Send this to a man who blames everybody but himself.

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Most men aren't failing because they're weak. They're failing because nobody told them who they're supposed to be. Ascent for Men is a weekly podcast hosted by Jesse Carstairs and Adam Tyler Free, two faith driven coaches committed to helping men stop coasting and start leading. Every week they sit down for raw, unfiltered conversations about faith, identity, marriage, fatherhood, and what it actually looks like to become the man God made you to be. No fluff. No performance. Just truth. New episodes every week. Subscribe and join the ascent.

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  • Creator
    Jesse Carstairs, Adam Tyler Free
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jesse Carstairs, Adam Tyler Free
  • Show Website
    Ascent for Men

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